The General Relationship Thread

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On topic: Take it easy. She's 16. In my case I realized how gigantic maturity/me(n)tality gap there is between me at 16, 18, and now almost 22. As phil says, she's probably confused and not sure how to make do in relationships quite yet.

As a guy in his late 20's on a University campus, maturity after 25 and onward is pretty hilarious when compared to even 22. Can hardly deal with 21/22 year girls on the campus, let alone anyone under that.
 
As a guy in his late 20's on a University campus, maturity after 25 and onward is pretty hilarious when compared to even 22. Can hardly deal with 21/22 year girls on the campus, let alone anyone under that.
Haha, I still think that there's pretty much a generation gap between me from that time and from today :lol:

I haven't finished my studies yet and I'm gonna have to start to think about a job soon, I guess the big boy stuff is on the way... 👍
 
Good luck @Adamgp !!! :)👍

Thanks. :)👍

It went very well.

We met up for drinks after work, very casual. Odd that I wasn't even nervous. I had good time and she must have too, since she wants to go out again. 👍


She even grabbed the check and insisted she pay the bill. We ended up splitting it, but still almost fell out of my chair when she did that. :lol:
 
Had a decent week, got to play a few days, and now I am just enjoying the weekend. maybe do some NFS, after that might be meeting up with someone come monday, dunno yet.
 
Had a decent week, got to play a few days, and now I am just enjoying the weekend. maybe do some NFS, after that might be meeting up with someone come monday, dunno yet.
Taking things easy 👍
 
Been chatting with a woman recently who I'd normally not chase after (and probably shouldn't be) but strangely enough I can't help but feel attracted to her. Funny how the system works. Staying cautious though, don't want to get burned.
 
So there's this girl who i developed feelings with for *wait for it* 6 years without really any progress. I mean she knows i like her but i dont really know how she feels about me. I have told her about my feelings and she said she wants to stay friends.

The thing is, all her very close friends (girls and guys) thinks she actually has feelings for me. I know i should take all those with a grain of salt (like i did with Kaz's words lol) but one of her friends is a very reliable and the one that she really trust, her friend is also a very mature person and an expert about stuff like this. Idk what to do now, i dont want to have high hopes but what they said kinda bugs my mind. She does shows some signs but she is really good at making me wonder about.

What i can describe about her is that she is so beautiful that it kills me. I mean i hate her for making me feel this way.
 
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If you like her and all her friends think that she likes you back, why not talking with her about that? It's the only way that you can be sure of what she feels about you.
 
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If you like her and all her friends think that she likes you back, why not talking with her about that? It's the only way that you can be sure of what she feels about you.
the thing is, i have talked to her about what i feel months before her friends told me about what they think. She also stated a few times to her friends that she doesnt want to be in a relationship with me since we are friends and she wanted someone older. This is why i'm confused, i still believe that she doesnt have any feelingd from me though but i have doubts sometimes. Women are hard to read....
 
the thing is, i have talked to her about what i feel months before her friends told me about what they think. She also stated a few times to her friends that she doesnt want to be in a relationship with me since we are friends and she wanted someone older. This is why i'm confused, i still believe that she doesnt have any feelingd from me though but i have doubts sometimes. Women are hard to read....
I was in almost exact same position. What I ended up doing (this might not work for you) is, I played "hard to get", kinda distanced myself from her and let her seek out my friendship (sounds douchy I know). Also I would flirt around with other girls (bear in mind my interest was really only for this one girl) in front of her and eventually she came around. That's my story hopefully it gives you an idea of your possible options. Good luck! 👍
 
6 years is a long time. Too long. If she hasn't given you much of anything at this point how can you expect it to suddenly change. And if you hate her for making you feel this way, is that a good emotion to carry over into a different type of relationship?
 
6 years is a long time. Too long. If she hasn't given you much of anything at this point how can you expect it to suddenly change. And if you hate her for making you feel this way, is that a good emotion to carry over into a different type of relationship?
i dont really hate her lol i was quoting Max Payne haha. And its not actually 6 years since i had kept myself busy for 2 years so i kinda moved on from her at those time. On that 6 years, she had 1 relationship that lasted 3 years. At that time i already knew her and i also realized how much i like her that i became really sad for a long time. Though i let her go back then and became good friends with her. Then when she broke up, she came to me because she was looking for a rebound which i was able to resist but after a certain time those feelings came back so it's not actually 6 years but 4 years to be exact.

There were hints actually from her and her friends that she actually has feelings for me back then but i was very shy so i didnt make any move (which is why she ended up with someone else and made me sad).

This is a very embarrassing story for me which is why i never really talk about it with my friends. I just dont know what to feel now, it was between trying to move on and wanting to be with her.

Meh i feel so overdramatic hahaha
 
Damn.. So you spent potentially 6 years in the friend zone?
Yep. Well not really 6 years, but 4 years to be exact. There were some times where i make a move on other girls or didnt even think about her at all. But in the end, the feeling keep coming back and went away again like a cycle. Some people said i'm loyal but i never think i'm loyal at all, i'm sure you guys think i'm leaning towards stupid than loyal :lol:. Even some of my friends said that my story is like Ross Geller and Rachel, but a bit less succesful lol.

But hey, at least right now i'm getting better though. I no longer feel like she's the only one. It was stupid to think like that. I'm keeping my eyes open for other girls :). But IF it turn out that she does have feelings for me too... I don't know what i will do, i'll ask you guys for sure lol.
 
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So... I met a fellow Autistic girl... She might be the greatest girl I've ever met.

But she's a bit young and shy. Waiting is going to be seriously hard... But I should. She likes me, too... Says I'm handsome. :D
 
So... I met a fellow Autistic girl... She might be the greatest girl I've ever met.

But she's a bit young and shy. Waiting is going to be seriously hard... But I should. She likes me, too... Says I'm handsome. :D
Dont wait too long buddy, you dont want to end up like me haha
 
Dont wait too long buddy, you dont want to end up like me haha
Well, no, but I think this will be different. In private, we discuss the possibility of dating. But, in public, where people might get the wrong idea (she is a few years younger,) we're much more mellow.


Our first outing together, we held hands and made comments about how a few particularly angry-sounding ducks still made better politics than the liberal government... "Duck parliament"... She put her head on my shoulder when we were on top of the bridge above the swans.

:)
 
Well, no, but I think this will be different. In private, we discuss the possibility of dating. But, in public, where people might get the wrong idea (she is a few years younger,) we're much more mellow.
How much is "a few years?"
 
Well, no, but I think this will be different. In private, we discuss the possibility of dating. But, in public, where people might get the wrong idea (she is a few years younger,) we're much more mellow.


Our first outing together, we held hands and made comments about how a few particularly angry-sounding ducks still made better politics than the liberal government... "Duck parliament"... She put her head on my shoulder when we were on top of the bridge above the swans.

:)
How much younger are we talking about here ?
 
Must I specify? I'll say that it's legal and not taboo, but I think we're getting a bit personal.

The reason I like her is the personality, not age. Age is nothing but a number.
 
Thanks. :)👍

It went very well.

We met up for drinks after work, very casual. Odd that I wasn't even nervous. I had good time and she must have too, since she wants to go out again. 👍


She even grabbed the check and insisted she pay the bill. We ended up splitting it, but still almost fell out of my chair when she did that. :lol:

Well, that didn't last long. Back to the single life for me.
 
Must I specify? I'll say that it's legal and not taboo, but I think we're getting a bit personal.

The reason I like her is the personality, not age. Age is nothing but a number.
Haha alright then, i just wanted to know the age difference that's all.
 
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