The General Relationship Thread

[CinnamonOD]

Do it in person.

 

[fortbo]

Do it in person.

I know that, I mean you think she is still in to me? We haven't talked in person for about a week.

 

[Johnnypenso]

We went to homecoming together, we went to a movie together and we went to a hockey game together. We usually just talk and stuff when we hang out. Her mom took a picture of us together at the game though. So idk

I'll take that as a "no" when it comes to knocking boots. Looks like you're in the friend zone bud, so if you want to get out of the friend zone it's going to take some action. I'm a big believer in boldness and I think for the most part, women like that trait in men. If I were you I'd just make a move, take it to the next level, go in for the kiss and see what happens. Don't be tentative, don't settle for the cheek or a little peck, give her a nice soft one on the lips (no tongue just yet, unless hers comes a peakin') and see what happens. That'll tell you where you stand. If she isn't into it, she'll let you know. Key thing is, be prepared for anything. She might slap you, she might grab your ass or anything in between. Be mentally prepared for any response and don't lose your cool. Even if you get slapped, laugh it off with a quip and a chuckle, then you can have a conversation about it. If she isn't into it that's fine, just be prepared for any eventuality.

We don't talk much in school but we text a lot, what do I do lol she is the most complicated girl I have ever talked to.

Dude trust me, you have no idea. Wait until you're dating women in their 20's and 30's then get back to me about complicated

 

[fortbo]

I'll take that as a "no" when it comes to knocking boots. Looks like you're in the friend zone bud, so if you want to get out of the friend zone it's going to take some action. I'm a big believer in boldness and I think for the most part, women like that trait in men. If I were you I'd just make a move, take it to the next level, go in for the kiss and see what happens. Don't be tentative, don't settle for the cheek or a little peck, give her a nice soft one on the lips (no tongue just yet, unless hers comes a peakin') and see what happens. That'll tell you where you stand. If she isn't into it, she'll let you know. Key thing is, be prepared for anything. She might slap you, she might grab your ass or anything in between. Be mentally prepared for any response and don't lose your cool. Even if you get slapped, laugh it off with a quip and a chuckle, then you can have a conversation about it. If she isn't into it that's fine, just be prepared for any eventuality.

Dude trust me, you have no idea. Wait until you're dating women in their 20's and 30's then get back to me about complicated

Does it matter if she is really shy? I don't want her to feel uncomfortable

 

[Parker]

Does it matter if she is really shy? I don't want her to feel uncomfortable

Just talk to her. Tell her you really enjoy spending time with her and ask her if she'd like to go on a proper date with you. Women for the most part want the man to make the first move.

 

[fortbo]

Just talk to her. Tell her you really enjoy spending time with her and ask her if she'd like to go on a proper date with you. Women for the most part want the man to make the first move.

Should I get her something for Valentine's Day?

 

[Johnnypenso]

Does it matter if she is really shy? I don't want her to feel uncomfortable

If she's shy then she's likely waiting for you to take the lead. If she was bold she'd have kissed you already. You are overthinking this. Women/girls expect men to want them after reaching a certain comfort level with them, it's just a question of whether she will return your affection or not. She might turn you down, it happens, as I said, just be prepared for any eventuality and be cool with it and everything will be fine.

Should I get her something for Valentine's Day?

No. Valentine's Day is for people who have a certain level of intimacy and you don't have that yet. Kiss her first, then go shopping. Don't get a card that says "love" anywhere on it, too early for that. Get something funny. She'll love it.

 

[CinnamonOD]

Should I get her something for Valentine's Day?

Yes, something nice, small, or mid sized, does she like chocolate?

A teddy bear and a small box of chocolates would do

 

[SlipZtrEm]

According to my observation the girls are wrong in looking for their permanent partners. They are too quick. By being too quick, they only get those fellows with quick emotions. All quick emotions are irresponsible and short lasting.

I'm going to assume a bit of a language barrier here, but just so we're clear: there is nothing inherently wrong with hook-ups, one-night stands, or any other sort of relationship that could be deemed "short-term". Provided both folks involved are consenting adults and are on the same page as to what the encounter actually is - oh, and naturally, are both doing this safely - then there's no problem.

There are two kinds of love - sensual and sentimental.Sensual love has the present and little future only. The sentimental love has the present, past and future, so it is more desirable. It will be slower but it will last longer.

There are near-infinite kinds of love - it's different for every single person.

Now, girls, when any fellow jumps quickly at you, you had better keep away from him. He has no consideration that the action would do any good to you. You are the weakest side, so you should have the better deal and if you don't get the better deal, there is a little brute in him and it may come very hard to train it out of him.

...why is the woman the weak side?

The fellow who makes an advance toward you, and if he won't state what the eventual purpose will be, he is not a gentleman.

I imagine "Hello stranger, I'd like to talk to you with the possible eventual outcome being marriage" must be a killer pickup line.

All men should know that the girl's primary purpose is to find a permanent partner while they are young. Those fellows who fail to see this are not desirable to have around.

That's one broad brush you're painting with.

Girls below sixteen should not be allowed to associate with the boys, they are practising in love making, such a thing should be discouraged.

Associating =/= love making. Good luck keeping them separated until they can drive, though.

Love making should be reserved for their permanent partners.

Unless you've got a time machine, good luck determining permanence.

With every love making affair, their hearts get bruised and by the time they grow up, their hearts are so badly bruised that they are no more good.

I'd rather subscribe to this view:

You know how you can really learn what you want out of a relationship? By experiencing one that doesn't give you those things. I'm not saying those that find their love early miss out - @TB is all the proof I need of the contrary ( ) - but just as I said before about there being way more than two different versions of love, there is no "right" path through relationships in life.

Boys and girls start out as friends and finish as disappointed lovers, now let me tell you. Male and female are never friends, a friend will not want anything from a friend, but a boy or a girl, one or the other, sooner or later, will ask for a little kiss, so they are not friends, they are lovers.

I have plenty of female friends. Statement invalid.

Let's see what happens when they are selecting their partners while they are young. They select their partners on account of good looks. The liking for the good looks remain but the good looks change and they change so much in ten years that you would not recognize them if you had not seen them now and then - and the boy gets the best deal almost every time. By that time they are grown up. The girls will be faded so much that the fellow would not want her any more so then, any girl who associates with a fellow only five years older is headed for a bad disappointment.

Tell me, how do you select a partner from across the room? Their charming personality?

I imagine true love doesn't much come up from a relationship that was started on nothing but looks, but to suggest looks aren't important at all is equally silly.

Then, if you do a slow approach, you'll end up in the friendzone, is that what men are looking for?

Can we also clear up the idea of "friendzone"? It's a concept sprung by the same people that wear stupid hats and call themselves pickup artists. The entire idea seems to imply that men are owed access to the elusive relationship option, and are punished when the end result is only a mere friend. Seriously?

 

[cnd01]

I know that, I mean you think she is still in to me? We haven't talked in person for about a week.

You won't know unless you do it

 

[fortbo]

You won't know unless you do it

Well shes coming over this weekend so I'll try then.

 

[Speedy Samurai]

...any girl who associates with a fellow only five years older is headed for a bad disappointment.

Hey. My wife is five and half years younger!

 

[TVR27]

I shouldn't read books they muss up my mind.

 

[Team THRT Drift]

I shouldn't read books they muss up my mind.

I don't think that's the case... it sounded more like you were EXTREMELY jealous of a girl you were lusting after who's now in love with a guy she's only known for a short period of time... hence the irrational rant.

 

[TVR27]

I don't think that's the case... it sounded more like you were EXTREMELY jealous of a girl you were lusting after who's now in love with a guy she's only known for a short period of time... hence the irrational rant.

I don't think she is with anyone at this time and I don't see anyone replacing me problem is we don't live in the same country anymore.

Well she will never see the rant anyway.

 

[MarcoM]

Sooooo after my divorce last year, I have dated quite a lot. So I know what I want to feel and should feel when I meet a lady. And that just seems to happen now. We had a drink last week and tonight we are having dinner at an Italian restaurant..


Could it be, really, I really do hope so!

 

[Bc4]

Good luck marco! ;D

 

[TVR27]

When I meet women, I immediately start talking about global warming.

It's a real icebreaker.

 

[CinnamonOD]

I know this guy that used a strange strategy to break the ice..

He would come closer to a girl and randomly ask her:
-How much does the polar bear weighs?
-IDK ayy lmao
-Enough to break the ice, Hi, I'm...

It actually worked.

 

[Cobra_GT500]

Ok I've got a question why in gods name do I alwyas fall for someone i know I'll never see again or ever get? Ffs it's annoying I was out with a friend having coffee and I start falling for the waitress. But we are catching up again probably at the same place so I am not sure what to do. My friend is like a master when it comes to women maybe He could help me .

 

[Cale]

Ok I've got a question why in gods name do I alwyas fall for someone i know I'll never see again or ever get? Ffs it's annoying I was out with a friend having coffee and I start falling for the waitress. But we are catching up again probably at the same place so I am not sure what to do. My friend is like a master when it comes to women maybe He could help me .

Don't be bashful. Give her the tip

 

[Cobra_GT500]

Don't be bashful. Give her the tip

I've got a fear of rejection so everytime I talk to a girl I always get nervous and my words start stuttering lol it's painfull. Basically why I've been single my whole life.

 

[phillgt2002]

Ok I've got a question why in gods name do I alwyas fall for someone i know I'll never see again or ever get? Ffs it's annoying I was out with a friend having coffee and I start falling for the waitress. But we are catching up again probably at the same place so I am not sure what to do. My friend is like a master when it comes to women maybe He could help me .

Eh, it took me a bit to come to a realization that almost every woman I see out and about will be forgotten within the next few few hours of my life. Don't cling onto women you see, dude. If it's someone you know you'll never see again, try not to get too much of an attachment due to attraction, but if it's someone that you see frequently, try to push the boundaries and try and get to know them. In example: someone you see on the bus leading to the college you go to, or someone you see in or around your school.

If there are any typos in this, it's because I'm typing this in the direct morning sun.... I need some sunglasses before my eyes turn into what roasted marshmallows look like.

 

[Stephan]

Should I admit to a girl that I like her and then tell her if I have a chance on her or not because I've been friends with a girl lately and becoming close though.

 

[TVR27]

Ok I've got a question why in gods name do I alwyas fall for someone i know I'll never see again or ever get? Ffs it's annoying I was out with a friend having coffee and I start falling for the waitress. But we are catching up again probably at the same place so I am not sure what to do. My friend is like a master when it comes to women maybe He could help me .

Most of the girls I like I will never see again I don't know why ? it's like their is a force that takes them away.

 

[fortbo]

So an update on my relationship with this girl: I'm not in the friendzone anymore I think. She came over and we watched a movie and she sat on my lap for most of it. I'm still kicking myself for not kissing her though...

 

[Kitten]

So an update on my relationship with this girl: I'm not in the friendzone anymore I think. She came over and we watched a movie and she sat on my lap for most of it. I'm still kicking myself for not kissing her though...

You'll get her next time :d

 

[TVR27]

I will have to find a girl with the same kind of standards and behaviour and characteristics as her that isn't going to be easy find.

 

[MrUnknown]

I will have to find a girl with the same kind of standards and behaviour and characteristics as her that isn't going to be easy find.

Err...

Good luck then...

 

[Team THRT Drift]

I'm not in the friendzone anymore I think.

she sat on my lap for most of it.

Yeah... you're not

Man, in that situation, I would be so nervous; my stomach would be growling like a cornered German Shepherd.

Well, a quarter of it would be due to nervousness, the rest would be because I don't eat.