The General Relationship Thread
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- Duisburg
That's what I've been thinking, yeah. I just don't want to be the one who both of them will get mad at
True, but it's not the case here. You know, I made sure to double check that by asking some of her female friends.
Bros before hoes?
I'd like to think that they are willing to keep it. I definitely don't want to see it gone because of that girl. Would be a friggin' shame, really.
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Luminis
It is a very common for that (friendships ending because of girl) to happen where I live. It's ridiculous specially when I was in Senior year. And very often it happens to girls too.
My point of view on it is that if they really cared about their friendship they would have backed off a long time ago, both of them. And about the girl. You gotta remember that she won't care about their friendship. She'll want all the attention for herself. She'll obviously keep leading them on, and I mean it's not necessarily that's she's out to destroy their friendship, it's just that most girls are like that.
If I were you I may talk to penny if it's already obvious that they both like her, let me tell you why you may want to do this... There have times were two of my friends (female) go after the same guy but even after telling them to stop it sometimes they get carried away because for whatever reason the possibility of a guy talking to them and being interested in them gets them both all giddy, if they are both in their own clouds in a situation like this what I did is talk to the guy who was leading them on. I know my friends know how to pick 'em because thankfully the guys have been pretty understanding that my girls have a great friendship and they don't want to mess with them like that.
I've also had to get in between 2 guys twice. One of them is my best friend (he's like a brother to me.) and he was hitting on the same girl as his friend. The first time around the girl understood my concerns and she backed off, the second time around (a different girl) said I was just jealous and that I wanted him (my best friend) all for myself even though I was just clearly speaking about their friendship, besides he had been with other girls before her so it's not like I'm trying to get him for me.
I was just concerned about his friendship. He knows I got in between them and her so he doesn't mind and thanks me afterwards he's done and gets over her.My friends know that I have done that stuff to help them so they are very understanding, here's the thing, since you are a guy also be careful when talking to her if you are considering taking my advice, this may backfire and they may start to think that you want her for yourself, when there are this much feeling involved in this type of situation you may even consider just let them be.
I'd tell them first to back off both. If they don't listen then I'd talk to her.
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Taking a note out of my friends book which is "Don't get obsessed with someone". She's just stayed out of relationshipy stuff ever since her first crush went badly wrong (rejection she took hard) and tbh I think I should do the same, my last crush ended a few weeks ago and it almost killed me.
Added note my ex-girlfriend (my only) is now my best friend and she recently said that it's a dead cert we'll end up going out again. Hmmm...
Added note my ex-girlfriend (my only) is now my best friend and she recently said that it's a dead cert we'll end up going out again. Hmmm...
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That's probably what I'm going to do. Didn't even think about talking to her
Thanks, interpunct.I don't want to be rude, but, are you in a rush, or something?
If it's been just a few weeks since your last crush, just relax and give it some time. Do yourself a favor and don't rush into another crush or whatever. Take your time to get over that last one, first.
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Although I posted that up there tonight she apologized for everything and said she still loves me.
Told her that I was done, even if it means leaving an empty space in my heart by taking her back I would have been leaving the other part o my heart open to be killed. The part that matters; Me, myself and my life.
Told her that I was done, even if it means leaving an empty space in my heart by taking her back I would have been leaving the other part o my heart open to be killed. The part that matters; Me, myself and my life.
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Luminis
Listen to Luminis, and also you are welcome, just remember and be careful of you have to go talk to Penny. Frankly if she even then doesn't care about it and keeps leading them on maybe what she really is worth is a penny after all.
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- WillyTwoScoops
I'm a little scared to go and read this whole thread.
I will say this I seem to find drama some way no matter what, and it's my fault. My ex is nuts to the extreme, I'm kind of that one guy they seem to never let go but aren't really worthy of their time for good.
It seems I need to find more guy friends since all mine don't live close anymore.
I will say this I seem to find drama some way no matter what, and it's my fault. My ex is nuts to the extreme, I'm kind of that one guy they seem to never let go but aren't really worthy of their time for good.
It seems I need to find more guy friends since all mine don't live close anymore.
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MarinaDiamandis
It really did hurt but I know that it had to be done. If it is meant to be, another opportunity further down the line when this whole situation is gone,¨and we will take that opportunity. But for now, it just can't be done; The circumstance outweighs the intention.
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So, to bring this thread back to life, I'll post a litte story with some problems/questions;
I started at the gymnasium, this Monday. I met at 10, and walked into a big hall, where I was sitting along with ~285 other new students. We were first given some info, and then we got to meet the new class along with the new teachers. I, spotted this “good looking” girl (we'll call her Em), who, luckily enough, was put in the same class as me. We didn't talk on the first day.
However on the second day, we talked very shortly, while we (the class) was on a “find posts in the forest-run”. So now you got the story, here's the problems/questions:
Should I go talk to Em? Is it to early, as we've only known each other for a few days? What should I say to her? Etc. ...
I know I'll get very nervous, but I believe it's worth the try.
I started at the gymnasium, this Monday. I met at 10, and walked into a big hall, where I was sitting along with ~285 other new students. We were first given some info, and then we got to meet the new class along with the new teachers. I, spotted this “good looking” girl (we'll call her Em), who, luckily enough, was put in the same class as me. We didn't talk on the first day.
However on the second day, we talked very shortly, while we (the class) was on a “find posts in the forest-run”. So now you got the story, here's the problems/questions:
Should I go talk to Em? Is it to early, as we've only known each other for a few days? What should I say to her? Etc. ...
I know I'll get very nervous, but I believe it's worth the try.
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I suck with that too, as I had a similar problem, however, my bro is really good with this stuff. Here's what he told me
"Start with a general subject. You know, sports, music, etc. Then, move onto more personal stuff, like food." These are just suggestions. Anyways to your question, maybe wait for a while. But don't ignore her for a week. Say hi once in a while. Then start to talk. Otherwise it'll seem weird to just go up and be like " hello!" You have to get her to at least recognize you.
"Start with a general subject. You know, sports, music, etc. Then, move onto more personal stuff, like food." These are just suggestions. Anyways to your question, maybe wait for a while. But don't ignore her for a week. Say hi once in a while. Then start to talk. Otherwise it'll seem weird to just go up and be like " hello!" You have to get her to at least recognize you.
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Wilbur
Nope, that's the best bit! I say always assume there's a vibe and see what happens because if you don't then nothing will. Happen, I mean. We're here for a good time, not a long time, after all.
