I’m trying to not let something bother me - the fact that I’ve always been told that I’m smart and that I’d be a great bf, but I’ve never had a gf. I’m also still a virgin and I hear some women prefer men with more experience. So I try not to let it bother me, but I turn 30 in late March, so sometimes I feel really self-conscious about my situation. I’m not fat nor ugly, and I’ve tried the supposedly popular dating apps for over a year without getting any dates. It feels like my relatives just give me empty platitudes when I tell them that fact, like that they’re sure that whoever I find will think I’m a catch. I want to be more pro-active in finding someone - either for something casual or longer-term, as I just want the experience at this point - but I don’t know what to do. All I know is that I’ve had a fear of missing out for too long.
It feels like everyone my age is getting married or already has someone. What’s left for me? Bitter divorcees? Single mothers? And otherwise damaged women who have far more baggage than me? No, I feel like I deserve someone better, and I’m not going to settle. You can call me “entitled,” but I’m just tired of missing out, and I want the experience. Other people always tell me that I’m handsome, smart, and nice - so the only reason I’ve never had a gf, I think, is a simple lack of trying. Otherwise, I don’t have any excuses for myself as to why I don’t have a gf. But I just don’t know what to do, exactly, even though I’m clearly motivated. I wish dating apps actually worked for me, they feel so broken. Getting an escort isn’t an option for me, either - it’s not in my budget.
I want sex and I want it yesterday! Why do I never feel like I’m good enough to get that?! It’s not as if I was told it was like, the best thing in the world for all my life, dammit! I’m so tired of being told that dating, online or not, is a numbers game. I’m almost 30, I don’t have time to pull the lever of life’s slot machine until I win the jackpot.
I feel seriously tempted sometimes to just get a RealDoll and cuddle with it, pretending it’s my gf.