Girl Advice?

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Oh good grief. Just get on with it.


Work out exactly what you're going to say so that you're not tense then go ask the girl. Don't drop in with a "hi i think you're beautiful can we go out?" build up, ask her if she understood that math question (or whatever) can she help you that sort of stuff or can you help her.....


Imagine finding out 15 years later at the school reunion that the little babe from 5c turned down three other blokes while waiting for you to ask her out then giving up cos you waited so long.


Get on with it, you're young, you're expected to screw up a few times. Nobodies gunna get hurt and if the the boyfriend does exist he isn't gunna get pissed at you he'll be flattered that someone agrees that his girl is cool.
 
Originally posted by slip2rock

Imagine finding out 15 years later at the school reunion that the little babe from 5c turned down three other blokes while waiting for you to ask her out then giving up cos you waited so long.
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Believe me, finding out something like that HURTS. It hurts bad. I should know. Except it was only 2 years later instead of 15. Turns out the girl I REALLY liked REALLY liked me too, for 3 friggin years. I was always chicken and my mind would go blank as I was about to ask her, even though I knew she liked me. She didn't even date anybody, just went out with friends and stuff. Then after she graduated (when I was a Junior), I guess she just gave up. She went off and got married to some guy she met after half a year of college, and now she's got kids. *sigh*

Believe me, you don't want this to happen to you, gt2_gs. It just kills me every time I think about it. That was definately more than a mere crush or lust, and I wasted it.
 
Originally posted by skynyrd



Believe me, finding out something like that HURTS. It hurts bad. I should know. Except it was only 2 years later instead of 15. Turns out the girl I REALLY liked REALLY liked me too, for 3 friggin years. I was always chicken and my mind would go blank as I was about to ask her, even though I knew she liked me. She didn't even date anybody, just went out with friends and stuff. Then after she graduated (when I was a Junior), I guess she just gave up. She went off and got married to some guy she met after half a year of college, and now she's got kids. *sigh*

Believe me, you don't want this to happen to you, gt2_gs. It just kills me every time I think about it. That was definately more than a mere crush or lust, and I wasted it.
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My point entirely. Gutted for you skynyrd tho'.

Seize the day gt2_gs.

you are in a win win situation. Either you get the girl, or you get to move on.
 
Originally posted by gt2_gs
My plan was to have a friend tell her i like her and then my friend tellin me what she says... Im not gonna tell my friend to ask if she likes me, because naturally if she likes me she would tell my friend after she found out right?
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I do that a lot..works most of the time
 
this happened to me last night....

Ok so we had a school dace, right? it was like a semi-formal....everyone was dressed up. I used to have a girlfriend, but we broke up and i thought we were friends....well, anyway theres this one girl i really, really like...very hot, especially in a dress :p and i was sitting on a table, trying to attract some attention (:angel:hehe), when a slow song starts. i look up to see the girl walking towards me (her name is Holly by the way), and then when she gets about 8 feet away from me, my ex runs up, grabs her, and takes her somewhere...as she is being taken away, she looks over her shoulder at me....

damn that sucked :cry:
 
Way back in High School, I liked a girl named Stephanie. We were great friends, talked about everything but a relationship.
I admitted offhandedly that I had liked her for a long time. Her response (after hitting me): "Why didn't you say something sooner?" Unfortuneatly, I had to move away, never saw her again. I still wonder what would have happened if I had spoken my mind.
I became quite a bit bolder after that. Life is too short to let things sit and simmer. If you drive, tell your dad what the deal is, chances are he's been in your shoes, ask to borrow the car and ask the girl out. As for not having a job, ask someone on the block if you can mow thier grass, the going rate around her is $20 a lawn. If she says "no" you've really lost nothing. You'll have proved to yourself that you can talk to her which will make it easier the next time. If she says "yes" and you hit it off then you will be right where you've wished you were.
Besides, girls are wired a bit wierdly, If you are willing to "embarass" yourself to get her attention she will be flattered. See the movie "Ten things I hate about you". Then tell the girl how you feel, all the attention she's giving you may mean she's interested, but scared too.
 
Originally posted by gt2_gs
I dunno, im kinda having second thoughts about that idea.. i mena she lives the whole opposite direction than i do..
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Mate, you're looking at an expert. So what if she lives in the other direction to you? Tell her you want to walk home with her, then while you are walking, get in to conversation. Maybe start on something like movies, and then, after a bit of yakking, ask her to a movie. Then while you're at the movie, just say that you are interested in her. If she says "Oooh, yuk!" j/k but if she says she isn't interested in you, then she's not good enough for you.
That's all there is to it! :)

BTW keep "in her face" about your feelings for her, and after a while she might agree to go out for a while!
 
Roxanna
You don't have to put on the red light
Those days are over
You don't have to sell your body to the night
:note:
Roxanna
You don't have to wear that dress tonight
Walk the streets for money
You don't care if it's wrong or if it's right
:note:
Roxanna
You don't have to put on the red light
:note:
I loved you since I knew you
I wouldn't talk down to you
I have to tell you just how I feel
I won't share you with another boy
I know my mind is made up
So put away your make up
Told you once I won't tell you again
It's a bad way
:note:
Roxanna
You don't have to put on the red light
Roxanne
You don't have to put on the red light
:note:


:weird:
 
Wow, lots of great advice here! Maybe I should open up a Love & Relationships forum? :D Anyway, I couldn't agree more with everything already said, and I'd just like to point out an excellent website for guys in our........your position. ;)

http://www.mh18.com/section/0,3099,3,00.shtml
 
I've had the same damn problem 2 times. First time was with a girl named Kelley, we knew eachother since 1st grade, and she was on my bus like every year. And we would talk occasionally, but she always had a boyfreind. So then we begin talking online, and one Saturday in 6th grade, she tells me that she was dumped by her boyfreind, so I'm thinking "Hey this is a great time to tell her", but then she says that she has another boyfreind already(somehow, she was dumped friday, and has a new boyfreind on saturday....)and so I was like "What?!" and she was like "Well, is there a problem with that?" and I was like "eh...yea. Thing is I like you, and I've liked you for several years..." and then she musta freaked out and got off the internet...then she would get back on and I'd try to explain but she was too embarrassed. And then at school I was ignored by her, and her freinds(who had previeusly talked to me a fair amount). So then I just resorted to isolationism(from trying to get a girl) for several years

Then 9th grade(just ended) I started liking this other girl Laura. It seemed to me that in history(the only class 2nd semester that she was in with me)she would look at me a lot, and I'd catch her and look back at the same time, and she would smile. So I *thought* that maybe she liked me, so I got her screen name(I was still resorting to isolationism at the time, not trying to get a controversy started like before)and I'm talking to her, and I tryed to make conversation(which was hard cause she was always busy talking to her mob of freinds)and then I, instead of saying that I liked her, asked what she thought of me, and got "I don't know you that well", even though, I swear she went to my temple(she's Jewish too...alot of the people that go to my school are jewish), but she says that she didn't. So then I just come forward and say that I like her, and she didn't freak out, she just said "how could you like someone you don't even know?"(even though I do know her, she went to my middle school although I never had a class with her there). And then I guess she told her crew, and some of them thought it would be fun to just bring it out during class. So then I go into class, and one just askes me out loud "Hey Ryan, do you like Laura?" and I just sat there, not trying to start something. Then it got worse, I had people I didn't know comeing up to me to ask me questions, and then some stupid people were pretending to be me and talking to her online really...ehh...sick like. So then, I'm the middle of a whole scandal, and either some people liked me and supported me, but most just laughed and said that it must be a revisiting of 6th grade. So then I got you all involved(you were big help though, but it was too late to fix anything cause I was in deep magumbo)and then things sorta cooled down, and I for once was actually talking to her online a lot, but then she started getting pissed at something, and then pulled a joke saying that basicly she was a slut and saying that she did it with Jeff(who was helping me, one of her freinds)and Jeff was part of it, so he was saying that she had done it with him several times. So I didn't make to big of a deal about it, and the next day I told them that it was all a joke or you are all really screwed up. It was a joke trying to get me to stop talking to Laura, and well the opposite happened, I talked to her more. Then one day about 2 weeks ago, I hadn't talked to her in several days, and so I say hi(on AIM), and then like 5 min later(All I said was hi)I was cussed at and blocked. End of story. I wasn't going to even try again to talk to her, if she wants to be stuck up then I won't hold her back.

And there you have it, my girl problems...

I wouls suggest just asking her what she things of you, just put it like that, then if she says good stuff, then complement her, and eventually something will happen.

If she says that she either doesn't know you, or says bad stuff, then just ask why, and like what is bad, and then if you can't get her, atleast you can fix anything wrong with you for your next attempt.

Good luck!
 
it's ok...

BTW, gt2, do you ride bikes, skateboard, roller skate, or any of that? Then you could ride over to her house, or if you both agree to ride to like a park or somewhere. I can't drive(leagally without an adult), but I bike everywhere, I can ride probably 20 miles away if I don't tell anyone. That might work if she does that stuff....

Otherwise, just walk...
 
Originally posted by gt2_gs
Ok, theres this girl at school i like, her name is Roxanna. I have her in my 5th period class (one out of 6...) and i say hi to her alot n she says hi back. She also smiles at me alot even when we dont say hi to each other. She also waves to me if we are far away n we see each other sometimes... Thing is i really like her but she doesnt know, and i want to know if there is any way to tell if she likes me or not. I mean.. We are freinds but we dont know each other that well and im just afraid that if she found out i liked her she would get disgusted or something and not talk to me anymore.. I was planning to have a friend tell her i like her just because i would make an ass out of myself if i tried to tell her. Should i follow through with what i was going to do or should i do something else? Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks.
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Aww man! Nightmare! I've been there on many an occasion. You've already heard everyone telling you to go for it, and they're right. I've two things to add:

1. The way she reacts to you speaking to her and asking her out determines whether the effort was worth it in the first place. See at the moment, you don't know. She could be a total cow, and just blow you off like some insect, in which case you should walk away thinking you had a lucky escape. She could be really nice, and let you down gently, in which case, go back to the smiles, and the 'hi's and the gentle flirting. I'm not talking hardcore stalking, I'm just talking about making yourself visibly nice and a quality target. Or she could say yes, in which case you owe us all a beer. (apart from the minors!)

2. When I was really going through a bad phase, a Rabbi said to me "If you don't love yourself, nobody will ever love you. If you don't respect yourself, how can anybody else respect you?" It was quite an amazing experience because I'm actually an atheist, so I took the advice as someone with more wisdom helping me out. And it's really helped. Just remember man, that if she doesn't like you it's because you're not what she likes, that's all. One person not liking you does not make you a bad person.

I've seen a lot of your posts, and you're generally pretty cool. So you should definitely take a punt on this one, and go speak to the lass.

Good luck. Let us know how you get on. :)
 
Well, everybody youre gettin a little too far ahead for me... I'm not planning on asking her out yet because i barely know anything about her and i would like to know atleast a bit about her before i ask her out. Basically, what im going to do is on monday (next school day...) im just gonna tell her how i feel and see how she reacts, and if she reacts nicely (not getting mad or disgusted etc.) then i will try n talk to her more, learn more about her etc THEN ask her out like maybe a week later...

I'm going to have to react fast though as there is only 2 weeks left of school (damn.)...

Thanks for all the advice. :)
 
Originally posted by Jordan
Wow, lots of great advice here! Maybe I should open up a Love & Relationships forum? :D Anyway, I couldn't agree more with everything already said, and I'd just like to point out an excellent website for guys in our........your position. ;)

http://www.mh18.com/section/0,3099,3,00.shtml
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I'm sure plenty of guys could use a forum like that, including me! :lol:

Great site by the way, thanks Jordan! :D
 
tell her yourself, girls hate guys that dont have the balls to tell their feelings. tell her that u like her and you will probably get a good response. it worked for me.
 
Originally posted by gt2_gs
Well, everybody youre gettin a little too far ahead for me... I'm not planning on asking her out yet because i barely know anything about her and i would like to know atleast a bit about her before i ask her out. Basically, what im going to do is on monday (next school day...) im just gonna tell her how i feel and see how she reacts, and if she reacts nicely (not getting mad or disgusted etc.) then i will try n talk to her more, learn more about her etc THEN ask her out like maybe a week later...

I'm going to have to react fast though as there is only 2 weeks left of school (damn.)...

Thanks for all the advice. :)
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With only two weeks left of school, you need to become, at the least, friendly with the girl so you can talk to her on the phone over the summer. And, it may be a little easier to talk on the phone at first. Find out what you have in common, etc.
Again, good luck. and do let us know how it turns out.
 
My plan exactly.. mwahaha.. lol

I will let you all know how it wors out after i tell her how i feel so... keep a lookin at this thread :p
 
gt2, find out her SN online(if she has one), then talk on there...I find it 100 times easyier to talk online then in real life, and you don't have to worry about how you look or how you sound(voice tone...in real life sometimes I screw up when I talk...I donno why, just when I get nervous like infront of a whole class I sound scratchy and stuff...that might help.
 
ok so you were born in 1987 *uses his fingers to count* ok so your 15. your balls have dropped, use em mate. go ask her to walk her home from school, thats how i met my girlfriend 13 years ago. walk slow so you got time to talk and get to know her a bit before you ask her out.

i found it a lot easier to ask out lauren out because we had been friends for 4 years and when we started going out it was no different than the friendship we had before...well accept for a few things you can think of ;) :lol:.

good luck on monday mate :cheers:
 
Originally posted by Stealth Viper
Ack. Girls suck.
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How old are you? that is a typical 10-year old response :rolleyes:

and they dont suck..most of the time
they are good friends if you get to know them
my best friend is a girl (and shes not my girlfriend)
 

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