How do you initiate conversation with women?

[Omnis]

Let this thread be a reference.

 

[3-Wheel Drive]

"Why don't you come over, and we'll talk about the first thing that pops up?"




Oh, you must mean a two-sided conversation.

 

[Philly]

Hey! What's up?

That's how I start any conversation, girls or guys. That may be my problem.

Maybe this should be one of those things that are always at the top, like a READ THIS thing. I'm sure lots of people are wondering the same thing, that and "What should I do?"

 

[Zrow]

At a party or gathering (preferably with a couple of drinks in me), I'll usually just go up and say, "Hey, I don't think we've met, I'm Andrew." It's done me well so far, anyway.

 

[Klostrophobic]

Develop dimples and they initiate the conversation.

But really, Zrow's advice seems cool. Also, get a wingman. Preferably one who is less charismatic or more ugly than you; it's key.

 

[daan]

At a party or gathering (preferably with a couple of drinks in me), I'll usually just go up and say, "Hey, I don't think we've met, I'm Andrew." It's done me well so far, anyway.

You see, I've tried that, but she kept on calling me Andrew all night.

 

[Speedy Samurai]

How do you initiate conversation with women?

Talk to them.

 

[Klostrophobic]

This place really needs a :groan: smiley for bad jokes. It should be footnoted to everyone of my posts.

Always look for girls who travel in packs because it raises your odds and you can just go around the circle or girls and continue the conversation.

"Hey, what's up."
"Bye, loser."
"OK, how about you?
"..."
"You?"

Et cetera, and so on. The odds are really in your favor. Also, here's a good'n:

Walk up to a couple (2, no more than 3) and ask, "hey, why is is that girls always hang out together at bars like this?"

Then after a couple exchanges, ask the cutest one what a good line is to start a conversation with a girl. She'll almost always say something like, "just walk up and say Hi, I'm so-and-so, what's up?"

So, clearly, your next line has to be, "Hi, I'm so-and-so, what's up?" This will lead to blushes and smiles, assuming you don't look like Julian Tavarez.

 

[Touring Mars]

I wait until Klos starts talking to them and then go over and say "Excuse me, is this guy bothering you?"

 

[Mark T]

If I'm in an out of town pub/bar then I normally start the conversation by just saying "where is the best nightclub bar around here". They normally tell you where it is and if your lucky (and good looking) they might ask if you want to come along with them. If not just pretend that was all you wanted.

If it doesn't work on someone good looking aim lower until you find someone who's quite desperate. Good targets are women sitting by themselves that look over 55.

 

[MagpieRacer]

Go somewhere, bar or whatever, look for a woman who you quite like the look of, see if she has a drink, if not go and ask if she would like one. Can work also if they already have one as well..

 

[wfooshee]

I wait until Klos starts talking to them and then go over and say "Excuse me, is this guy bothering you?"

Kinda what I was thinking. Should work really really well. Especially if his wingman is bothering them, too.

Is the original question actually, "How do you initiate a conversation?" or is it more along the lines of, "What should I do to get laid?"

The first one is easy. The second one is, too, if you're not slobbering.

BTW, eye contact. Your eyes on her eyes, not on the rest of her.

 

[Silverzone]

Simple. Just talk. Ask em what's going on, and just let the conversation go from there. It's not hard.

 

[Lamboracer]

I say hey im 100% sicilian, you know the rest (wink wink)

 

[Pupik]

Be yourself, you're bound to get any response. Never fails, unless she's deaf.

 

[Burnout]

This place really needs a :groan: smiley for bad jokes. It should be footnoted to everyone of my posts.

Always look for girls who travel in packs because it raises your odds and you can just go around the circle or girls and continue the conversation.

"Hey, what's up."
"Bye, loser."
"OK, how about you?
"..."
"You?"

Et cetera, and so on. The odds are really in your favor. Also, here's a good'n:

Walk up to a couple (2, no more than 3) and ask, "hey, why is is that girls always hang out together at bars like this?"

Then after a couple exchanges, ask the cutest one what a good line is to start a conversation with a girl. She'll almost always say something like, "just walk up and say Hi, I'm so-and-so, what's up?"

So, clearly, your next line has to be, "Hi, I'm so-and-so, what's up?" This will lead to blushes and smiles, assuming you don't look like Julian Tavarez.

Sounds iffy, but I think someone should try this and post back the results.

 

[tabs]

Just be normal, a simple "hi" usually works and don't spill beer on them. They don't like it when you do that.

 

[kikie]

I don't that's why I'm still single.

 

[Casio]

Just be normal, a simple "hi" usually works and don't spill beer on them. They don't like it when you do that.

Oddly enough, I've split beer on a girl I was out with, and she made me feel her arse to see how wet it was. It's defiantly a strategy I'm going to employ in the future.

 

[Zrow]

Just be normal, a simple "hi" usually works and don't spill beer on them. They don't like it when you do that.

Bahaha. A friend and I were at a party and eventually he strikes up a good conversation with a girl. They're talking for a good minute and suddenly she looks down and realizes... she's absolutely soaked with beer. He had a pitcher of beer in his hand and throughout the entire conversation was unknowingly tipping it forward more and more. Needless to say, that was the end of their conversation.

So no, don't do that.

 

[NoQuarter]

BTW, eye contact. Your eyes on her eyes, not on the rest of her.

Boys, this is key. Eye contact. If a conversation ensues, regardless of what you did to initiate it, above all, maintain the eye contact, and look interested. Be amused by her quips. If she says something startling, be startled. But stay locked into those peepers.

 

[tait]

? You guys got it all wrong. Just club her, grab her, throw her over your shoulder, and drag her back to your cave. Works everytime.

 

[DQuaN]

Go over, and say hello.

Simple really.

 

[Blake]

? You guys got it all wrong. Just club her, grab her, throw her over your shoulder, and drag her back to your cave. Works everytime.

Yeah, what’s the name of that stuff you can give them to forget what happened in the last few hours?

 

[kennythebomb]

Yeah, what’s the name of that stuff you can give them to forget what happened in the last few hours?

Touring Mars.

BTW Klos's last advice, where you approach the two girls and ask what to say, would definitely work on the right girl.

 

[guska]

Touring Mars.

BTW Klos's last advice, where you approach the two girls and ask what to say, would definitely work on the right girl.

The prob lem is, finding that girl

 

[kennythebomb]

The prob lem is, finding that girl

Well the context I am saying that in is this. If I approach a girl and act a bit silly with her, and she doesn't find it humorous, she is not the right girl for me. This is personal to me, obviously. But I think a lot of people will agree that if a girl doesn't have a sense of humor that at least in some way mirrors yours, it will be a very boring time. So, if I tried that on a girl and she wasn't impressed, I'll try Klos's other method... the revolving door.

 

[daan]

Yeah, what’s the name of that stuff you can give them to forget what happened in the last few hours?

Rohypnol? Not that I would know...

Touring Mars.

TM just makes them want to forget, but those puns stay with you for life.

 

[Touring Mars]

Yeah, what’s the name of that stuff you can give them to forget what happened in the last few hours?

Touring Mars.

A girl falling asleep on me? Now that would make a change...

In all seriousness, however, what you might find helpful is other female company. Just last week, researchers at Aberdeen University showed that men who were seen with women who showed signs of approval were more attractive to other women... this is pretty logical, and it neatly explains the old 'you wait ages for a bus and then two come along at the same time' theory on relationships - I've always noticed that I get more attention from the ladies when I'm either already going out with someone, or have other female company... it may sound like a Catch-22, but it's worth bearing in mind

 

[kennythebomb]

TM just makes them want to forget, but those puns stay with you for life.

Ah, so all the groans are just from TM thrusting his puns at them.

A girl falling asleep on me? Now that would make a change...

In all seriousness, however, what you might find helpful is other female company. Just last week, researchers at Aberdeen University showed that men who were seen with women who showed signs of approval were more attractive to other women... this is pretty logical, and it neatly explains the old 'you wait ages for a bus and then two come along at the same time' theory on relationships - I've always noticed that I get more attention from the ladies when I'm either already going out with someone, or have other female company... it may sound like a Catch-22, but it's worth bearing in mind

A girl fell asleep on me in a car ride home one time, she even pre-warned me about it. "I tend to fall asleep on people." Well 10 minutes later, ker-plunk.

Well of course. A woman sees you with another woman, and if you are decent looking she might think either that the woman he is with is attractive and she trusts him, so he must be a decent guy... or her thoughts immediately turn to jealousy, because she is better-looking or whatever and why doesn't she have a man like that?