Double post: sorry but I got a major breakthrough.
New road to practice on - narrow shoes + new foot position = Heel toe!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
OK, first part was the new road, found a road lots of very low speed corners ( rare as people using their turn signals, or a mountain here in florida ). It's even more remote than my previous road choice.
I haven't had much time to ditch the narrow shoes and try my new foot position until now.
Notes: I'm not dropping down into the top of 2nd gear because that would too fast for the speed limit and the corner.
First 3rd to 2nd attempt - "Slight lurch, but still way closer. A little quicker throttle next time..."
2nd 3rd to 2nd attempt - "DID YOU FEEL THAT!! YES, NOTHING!!!!!! PERFECT, now repeat..."
3rd 3rd to 2nd attempt - "OK, not quite as good, I did feel a little, very tiny, bit of over revving the engine ( don't want to do that often

) still close enough"
4rd 3rd to 2nd attempt - "And I missed the throttle..."
I did it more times, getting it right 70% of the time. I'm really happy I can finally do it like in iRacing or Assetto Corsa. Sure I'm still messing up 30% of the but it's a lot better than 100%