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Well you're just meeting her family. Not asking for her father's blessing. Are you?



I've been texting a girl and I can tell immediately that it's not going to work out. I would ask her something and she would answer directly without leaving an opening for me.

For example, 'How's *insert place she currently resides in*?' She would respond with 'Good. Lots of stuff to do here.'

I'm not going to press her for information or keep using ice breakers that keep failing. I see she has no interest whatsoeve because a girl who has interest would engage in the conversation.

Yet, I keep coming back to her..... I don't know why. I just want a girl I can take care of. Listen to whatever bull:censored: that happened throughout her day. A girl who is my best friend, companion and girlfriend. You know, a proper relationship.

*insert Jonah Hill meme here*
 
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The humble friendzone has taken me as yet another victim.

Been seeing a girl recently and it's been abundantly clear that we hit it off pretty damn well, having similar tastes in pretty much anything including even cars and all these silly inside jokes that make us laugh and we both support each other through anything. We've even slept together on numerous occasions. But while I have feelings for her she doesn't see me in that way. Bugger.
 
Murcie_LP640
The humble friendzone has taken me as yet another victim.

Been seeing a girl recently and it's been abundantly clear that we hit it off pretty damn well, having similar tastes in pretty much anything including even cars and all these silly inside jokes that make us laugh and we both support each other through anything. We've even slept together on numerous occasions. But while I have feelings for her she doesn't see me in that way. Bugger.
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Friends with benefits...?
 
If it is a friends with benefits situation don't complain.

It's rare that it happens and the female doesn't develop feelings! I'd stick with it for now if I were you.
 
So I sent this to a previous crush via Facebook:
I don't know if you might read this,
I don't know if you might respond to this,
But,
I'm sorry if I had tend to ignored your existence for half of this year and I'm sorry if that had made you feel terrible. That was my own ignorance, my own lack of care for your well-being, me being selfish. The one thing that you probably don't know about me is that despite the 'nice' car and the 'have it good' appearance is that I have a serious case of depression. No, it's not medically known and I don't let nobody but, a select few know about it out of worry of them being too involved in my life. It's been with me since age 14 and it still tampers with me today and probably in the future. It's origin started from me realizing my sexuality, but then it got to real life and now it's embedded in my head causing me to think about my self-worth. It's part of why I'm wishing that I have an early death- yes, it's that bad, but I know I can't do a thing about it without hurting so many others in the process. The thought alone is unbearable.
Me asking you out the first time was something that had me extremely nervous and asking you about Valentine's Day was very damaging to me. I had someone close to me die within 2 hours after the first time I asked you out and the second time sent me in another state of depression. I couldn't take a rejection to someone who I whole fully cared for so easily, so I had 'disappeared' from your life thinking you'd come and see what's up; to see if you actually cared. You didn't come, so I took as that you didn't really cared and that made me very upset about it.
I know I have no right to make you or anyone else go out with me and that I have no reason to put you down out of self-greed, so that's why I'm sending this message on Facebook as I probably won't get to see you in person after hearing you moved to Due West. I wish you the best of luck with your future.

If you don't have anything to reply with, it's fine. I couldn't let this guilt eat away at me with each minute passing by though especially given my unknown time that I will be here though.

Stay true to yourself
~Keshawn M/Akira Ishikawa
And I don't know what to feel. It's gotten rid of some weight, but I'm not feeling any sort of relief from it.
 
Aki Ishikawa
So I sent this to a previous crush via Facebook:
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If I were you, I would've taken away some of the weight of the message. Something like chopping it in half, and making it more blunt and straight forward would've made the message you're trying to get across more effective.
 
Was offered a friends with benefits deal the other night. I said yes but I haven't done anything with it.


I did it mostly out of spite and being pissed off and being real hurt over my recent situation; and I'm doing ok; but I feel really guilty.
 
Just had a dream about my ex, I don't want to relive it. :lol:
 
phillkillv2
Wait.. there are deals for these kinds of things now!?! Did you read the contract?
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I don't even know if I'm going to go through with it. I don't really want anything to do with women right now.
 
Slash
I don't even know if I'm going to go through with it. I don't really want anything to do with women right now.
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Then don't... no one forces you..
 
Slash
I don't even know if I'm going to go through with it. I don't really want anything to do with women right now.
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I was all for this school year but I haven't actually found any women my age that I'm interested in. There are some, but the odds of me having a worthwhile conversation with them is slim to none. It's hard to be introduced somewhat naturally to a person in a community college. If **** happens and I get somehow caught up in a relationship then whatever... I don't exactly have much time for women in the first place and it'll probably be a fling.
 
I joined college aged 14. Going through puberty around 16-18 year old girls. Inevitably, I ended up getting with a lass until she got annoyed at me sitting on the sofa with her watching top gear and GT racing. (and not to mention getting on with her dad) Many experiences later I just can't wait for a car
 
Furinkazen
Then don't... no one forces you..
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It's a 30/70 feeling right now.

phillkillv2
I was all for this school year but I haven't actually found any women my age that I'm interested in. There are some, but the odds of me having a worthwhile conversation with them is slim to none. It's hard to be introduced somewhat naturally to a person in a community college. If **** happens and I get somehow caught up in a relationship then whatever... I don't exactly have much time for women in the first place and it'll probably be a fling.
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Right now, I'm pretty determined never to end up with anyone so...
 
Slash
It's a 30/70 feeling right now.


Right now, I'm pretty determined never to end up with anyone so...
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That's probably for the best. Maybe in 10 years when you reach the maturity of an 18 year old, you'll be able to deal with the opposite sex in a more adult manner.

Aki Ishikawa
And I don't know what to feel. It's gotten rid of some weight, but I'm not feeling any sort of relief from it.
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That's not the right way to go about it. If you went through the process of losing weight with the notion that things will all of a sudden get better, you're going to be worse off than you started. That's the wrong mentality. You're still just a fatty but in a skinnier body.
I went through this. You have much work to do. You have to work on your mental and emotional state.
 
eSZee
That's probably for the best. Maybe in 10 years when you reach the maturity of an 18 year old, you'll be able to deal with the opposite sex in a more adult manner.
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What the hell are you talking about?
 
What is happening to me ? Suddenly i become feeling weird with the girl that i used to like. I've never been like this with her before. I never ask her if she'd like me to pick her up when we were going to hangout and now it just suddenly came out of my mouth!
Everytime she crosses my mind, i wanted to meet her so bad. Though lately i rarely think about her. What should i do ? People started telling me that she gave me signs that she like me but i brushed it off as jokes although i kinda feel something different about her now but i thought it was just me.
 
Ok I've been looking at all my options. I think I'm going to find it hard to find a girl outside by just going up to her and asking her. So maybe online dating is the way to go? But the thing is I'm unemployed and have been for quite some time do you think I should wait till I get a job then start looking for a relationship or just look for one now and tell them I'm actively Jon hunting? Also is online dating trust worthy or any good? Also I'm kind of a shut in and don't really like going out so maybe this is the best way for me.
 
Cobra_GT500
Ok I've been looking at all my options. I think I'm going to find it hard to find a girl outside by just going up to her and asking her. So maybe online dating is the way to go? But the thing is I'm unemployed and have been for quite some time do you think I should wait till I get a job then start looking for a relationship or just look for one now and tell them I'm actively Jon hunting? Also is online dating trust worthy or any good? Also I'm kind of a shut in and don't really like going out so maybe this is the best way for me.
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Don't force yourself to find a relationship it'll come to you especially online where there's so many websites to sink your teeth in things that interest you (I'm not talking about dating websites here ). For example. I really like Tumblr been on tumblr for many many months gathering followers reblogging stuff from my favorite fandoms n stuff then out of nowhere *BAM!* A wild blogger appears on my feed. She looks really pretty and she's into the same fandoms as I am, why not send her a little message. Fast forward to now we've been dating almost 2 years. Online of course. Skyping, texting, sending eachother stuff like her favorite T-shirt and my favorite dvd set (House MD). We're planning on meeting eachother very soon. So you see once you find something you're very interested in you'll later find out that its not that hard to find other people that are interested in the same thing. Good luck.
 
Slash
What the hell are you talking about?
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When you can not crush out over someone who made it obvious she didn't reciprocate feelings and no one bothered to tell you (we did, you didn't listen) Sorry, but I will be brutally honest
 
cnd01
When you can not crush out over someone who made it obvious she didn't reciprocate feelings and no one bothered to tell you (we did, you didn't listen) Sorry, but I will be brutally honest
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The thing is she did have feelings for me; but then turned around and threw them out the window.

I should have listened to all my friends and you guys but I didn't and it's biting me in the ass hard. Live and learn I guess.
 
Cobra_GT500
Ok I've been looking at all my options. I think I'm going to find it hard to find a girl outside by just going up to her and asking her. So maybe online dating is the way to go? But the thing is I'm unemployed and have been for quite some time do you think I should wait till I get a job then start looking for a relationship or just look for one now and tell them I'm actively Jon hunting? Also is online dating trust worthy or any good? Also I'm kind of a shut in and don't really like going out so maybe this is the best way for me.
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I met my partner (now fiancee) online. I went through a couple years of online dating before finding the right one.
I actually quite enjoyed my time online dating, sure you'll have a fair few dud dates, a few time wasters, but you'll also go out and get to meet quite a few really nice girls. Once you start organising two or three dates a week with different hotties you no longer want or enjoy being a 'shut in' anymore, trust me :).
I must admit you'll definitely find it harder being unemployed, but I also guess you could argue if you did find the right one your employement situation shouldn't matter.
 
Slash
The thing is she did have feelings for me; but then turned around and threw them out the window.

I should have listened to all my friends and you guys but I didn't and it's biting me in the ass hard. Live and learn I guess.
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You showed your hand waaaaaaaaaaaay too quick. Geez Louise, that's what hurt you the most
 
cnd01
You showed your hand waaaaaaaaaaaay too quick. Geez Louise, that's what hurt you the most
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And as always I never can do anything right. :/

Whatever I guess. I'm still really hurt over it but I'll be fine.
 
Slash
And as always I never can do anything right. :/

Whatever I guess. I'm still really hurt over it but I'll be fine.
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Honesty and being up front is always the best option, but showing that you're head over heels is irrational and creepy when you're not even dating.

There will always be another party, another girl, another day. Heck, the ability to live another day is the only free thing in life. Go for it
 
cnd01
Honesty and being up front is always the best option, but showing that you're head over heels is irrational and creepy when you're not even dating.

There will always be another party, another girl, another day. Heck, the ability to live another day is the only free thing in life. Go for it
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I was always open and honest with her, I never once truly forced the situation on her. I made it known what I wanted, she responded the way I had hoped, things were progressing well and then BAM all in my face. She was opening up to me, we were getting somewhat close (probably a lot more than I initially realized), she was basically telling my mom that she cared about me and all that. For what. She lead me on all summer. The one girl I have cared about for the longest time of my life man. *shakes head in self-pity* If she really didn't want something then she should have just told me from the start. I wouldn't have bothered. That never happened. Her reaction when I caught her sealed that. She knew she screwed up.


You're absolutely right; things will change. But I need to do this at my own pace. I'm going to be ok. But I really :censored:up. I'm sorry guys...I tried...
 
Interesting, oddly enough I live like no one notices me and my presence unless I announce that I'm there. I guess I can say that I'm quiet but passive loud. Somehow managed to get the attention of some chick I had no clue was in my classes. Too bad she isn't all that attractive, and her hair blocks my view of the board in my math class.
 
Slash
She lead me on all summer. The one girl I have cared about for the longest time of my life man. *shakes head in self-pity* If she really didn't want something then she should have just told me from the start. I wouldn't have bothered. That never happened. Her reaction when I caught her sealed that. She knew she screwed up..
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Just remember one thing. Only put in effort if you are receiving some kind of result. If you're putting effort into a relationship and see that the person isn't exactly appreciating what you're doing or saying, then bail out. There is no point in wasting your time and getting hurt. I don't want to sound like an absolute dick, but in some moments, it seemed as if you led yourself along. Next time, try not to get yourself so caught up and take time to realize the things a girl may be saying, or the signs they may be giving off. We have all fallen into the well of thinking women are interested in us, only to find out they've been using us for mental support. I guess it's just learning from your mistakes, and that can be a start.

Double post, meant to hit edit instead of quote.
 
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