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Seeing her post about watching movie with other guy is really painful. Damn it. Why did i became so stupid with all that mistakes that caused this break up.

F-word. F-word. F-word.
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What social media was this on?
 
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Path. I did a bit of check that the guy she's with isn't even following her on Instagram so this is new.

I just don't expect it to be so soon.

Sigh... I was gonna try to mend things up again.
 
I'm hopefully going to brighten up the thread here a little bit.

Friday was my 4 year anniversary with my girlfriend, we didn't exactly celebrate like a lot of young people do because we're both recently out of college with no careers and little cash. We did do a little bit though, we had planned in advance to go to a movie but after looking at the current selection we decided against that since neither of us liked the look of any of them. We just went to dinner instead, now I'm a big sucker for pasta but I really wanted to try something new so we went to a sort of pub restaurant called Fionn MacCool's. There was a lot of burger selection as would be kind of expected but the other mains weren't exactly lacking either. We aren't very into PDA so it looked like a fairly normal dinner out. I had a steak, she had shrimp, we shared bits, she surprisingly didn't steal any of my mushrooms. After dinner we went home and took a more scenic route to just kind of fantasize/ponder buying a house together and where it would be. She gave me a gift as well, I think it's really quite sweet but the rest of you will probably think it's pretty barfy. There's a company called LoveBook and you go and write things you love about the person or a bit of a story and they take that and bind it into a very nicely polished looking hard cover book. She took more of a reasons route and lucky for me it's surprisingly thick.

She's definitely what cool people call a "keeper" even if the book mentions the one bloody time I set fire to garlic bread because I used the broiler in a gas oven. Ugh, I love her.
 
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I'm hopefully going to brighten up the thread here a little bit.

Friday was my 4 year anniversary with my girlfriend, we didn't exactly celebrate like a lot of young people do because we're both recently out of college with no careers and little cash. We did do a little bit though, we had planned in advance to go to a movie but after looking at the current selection we decided against that since neither of us liked the look of any of them. We just went to dinner instead, now I'm a big sucker for pasta but I really wanted to try something new so we went to a sort of pub restaurant called Fionn MacCool's. There was a lot of burger selection as would be kind of expected but the other mains weren't exactly lacking either. We aren't very into PDA so it looked like a fairly normal dinner out. I had a steak, she had shrimp, we shared bits, she surprisingly didn't steal any of my mushrooms. After dinner we went home and took a more scenic route to just kind of fantasize/ponder buying a house together and where it would be. She gave me a gift as well, I think it's really quite sweet but the rest of you will probably think it's pretty barfy. There's a company called LoveBook and you go and write things you love about the person or a bit of a story and they take that and bind it into a very nicely polished looking hard cover book. She took more of a reasons route and lucky for me it's surprisingly thick.

She's definitely what cool people call a "keeper" even if the book mentions the one bloody time I set fire to garlic bread because I used the broiler in a gas oven. Ugh, I love her.
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Glad to hear things are going well with someone here. 👍
 
My best friend cried and she just wanted to talk to me but when she cried, I told her to relax but she can't. I tried everything to cheer her up but she can't to the point where she just stopped replying to my messages.

What should I do when I meet her?
 
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It's over. It's over...


We tried desperately to keep going... turned out everyone in her life was turning against her because of me. She lost her best friend she'd known since she was 6 because she hates me and was being an immature bitch; most of her friends were being judgemental selfish assholess. She turned against her parents trying to defend our relationship.

I couldn't sit there and watch her cry her beautiful heart out apologizing and pleading. It was the most gut wrenching 3 hours of our lives. We were fighting with everyone but in the end I had to make her end it for her sake. She had the weight of the world on her shoulders and she still tried to keep smiling for me day in and day out. Still tried to keep her head up and have a positive attitude.

I just wish I could hold her and reassure her instead of leaving her all alone with those bitches that are called her friends. :nervous::nervous::nervous:

God I can still hear her pleading.



Sorry guys, been a rough night... I'm sorry.
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Wow. That must have been intense. Such a shame to hear on all fronts. I can't believe so many people would try to step into somebody else's business like that. Why didn't they like you? You seem like a good guy I don't understand why they would try to do that to you two.
 
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I'm hopefully going to brighten up the thread here a little bit.

Friday was my 4 year anniversary with my girlfriend, we didn't exactly celebrate like a lot of young people do because we're both recently out of college with no careers and little cash. We did do a little bit though, we had planned in advance to go to a movie but after looking at the current selection we decided against that since neither of us liked the look of any of them. We just went to dinner instead, now I'm a big sucker for pasta but I really wanted to try something new so we went to a sort of pub restaurant called Fionn MacCool's. There was a lot of burger selection as would be kind of expected but the other mains weren't exactly lacking either. We aren't very into PDA so it looked like a fairly normal dinner out. I had a steak, she had shrimp, we shared bits, she surprisingly didn't steal any of my mushrooms. After dinner we went home and took a more scenic route to just kind of fantasize/ponder buying a house together and where it would be. She gave me a gift as well, I think it's really quite sweet but the rest of you will probably think it's pretty barfy. There's a company called LoveBook and you go and write things you love about the person or a bit of a story and they take that and bind it into a very nicely polished looking hard cover book. She took more of a reasons route and lucky for me it's surprisingly thick.

She's definitely what cool people call a "keeper" even if the book mentions the one bloody time I set fire to garlic bread because I used the broiler in a gas oven. Ugh, I love her.
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Nice story.👍👍 I nearly ate at Fionn MacCool's on Wellington in London on Friday. Ended up at Boston Pizza instead. :sly:
 
I think I am giving up on the main girl that I have been obsessing about for a while. Looking back I can't think of a single time when I really had fun talking to her. She is a great girl but I'm not outgoing enough to break her out of her shell.

I think I'm going to ask out the girl from high school that I ran into a few weeks ago. She works at a fast food restaurant on my way to work so I know where to find her. Haha. She is always so happy to see me and I feel happy around her so I think it's the right choice for now. I think I'll try to ask for her number and text her saying that we should "Catch up sometime over dinner/movie." Feel free to offer any other ideas.
 
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I think I am giving up on the main girl that I have been obsessing about for a while. Looking back I can't think of a single time when I really had fun talking to her. She is a great girl but I'm not outgoing enough to break her out of her shell.

I think I'm going to ask out the girl from high school that I ran into a few weeks ago. She works at a fast food restaurant on my way to work so I know where to find her. Haha. She is always so happy to see me and I feel happy around her so I think it's the right choice for now. I think I'll try to ask for her number and text her saying that we should "Catch up sometime over dinner/movie." Feel free to offer any other ideas.
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Steal the date I had in mind with the non-manager I was chasing: Rifftrax the crap out of a bad film.
 
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The parent's point of view is understandable. Their baby girl is done with Uni for the year and is coming home for the summer, only their daughter is on her phone all night (7 hour time difference) and she's sleeping in, missing family plans, barely spending time with her parents. Not to mention her sister that has missed her all year. The family I understand.

But her friends butting in is not cool. I don't care who they are - obviously couldn't say this to her no matter how much they got on my nerves - it's none of their business. Her bff doesn't have a relationship so I asked if it was a case of jealousy and she assured me it was not. But... they got to her. Her family was more than enough before her friends chimed in.
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Sometimes when you walk out the door somebody treats you like a jerk and you think, 'wow, what a jerk'.

If everyone treats you like a jerk...

You're the jerk.


Usually in any relationship you can find one or two people against it. If everyone is against it maybe there is something there.
 
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So we're getting back together after that heated mess. :D
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What I say may not matter, but a best friend butting into a relationship sounds completely normal. What you have invested in the relationship, the close friend may have just as much. Her being a best friend, she should be able to understand that your girlfriend needs space. Though I can say that, being very close friends with someone takes up a great amount of mental space.

Take it like how many men who graduate college with their closest friends, continue to hangout with them, only for enough time to pass where they all get married. Someone is going to be jaded by the fact that the time that their best friend has spent with them mainly is being spent with someone that most-likely means more than them now.

If you really like each other enough, time lost getting to and back means nothing when you get to physically get to see one another.

Good luck.
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I shaved my spotty sideburns and cut my OWN hair and I've been treated differently for doing so. Partially, I did so because I work among and help some of the most attractive people in my general area. The outdoors company that I work for brings in some of the richer people, so I decided to clean up and look a bit more presentable.

I may have posted this before, but it matters. Presentation is a big seller for people when they decide to speak to you. Ever since then, it's been smooth sailing when going out with my buddies back in the Midwest.
Temporarily; **** dating. Partially because I'm **** at maintaining new relationships, and I have a hard time finding anyone who can handle my hyperactive introvert attitude.
 
Things are going well good and bad.
The good things are is that I am making progress with the Ukrainian :)
Starting to have some significance in the relationship.
Going on 2 months, Only 10 more months to go before more could happen. (Which I wish it wasn't so)
I guess the only like bad thing is that we are both gamers however I am Sony, She is Microsoft.
 
I was kind of depressed yesterday, because I could not get that girl out of my mind and I hadn't seen her at all in almost 2 weeks. I couldn't even make eye contact with anyone or greet anyone as I often try to do. However at the end of the day, after all of my thinking, I was able to get over her and move on. I was immediately happier.

Now that I am able to smile and greet people again, (I was even better at my other job in retail when dealing with customers today, as I had been struggling with that.) I was able to be more confident in talking to others again, but now with her out of the picture, work seems boring. Seeing her was what I looked forward to when going to work but now, there's nothing..... Or so I thought. Remember when I said that there might be a couple of girls who could be interested in me, but I was most likely jumping at shadows? Well, one of them (the really pretty one:D) who is very similar to the original girl, in the sense that she doesn't seem to interact with people a lot or extensively, has been smiling at me a lot more today, pretty much at every chance. I have never really talked to her much, except for brief work related things. But I decided to try and talk to her a bit and say something, which luckily she found funny. when leaving, we passed each other in the parking lot and she told me to have a good night. Interesting as she has never done that to me before, or seldom to other people for that matter. It's not much but at least it's something. :)

I often "fall in love" way too quickly. It happened to me with the original girl and that left me as a stressed out mental case. I said it before, but I really do need to be in a simple, casual relationship. Just "dating." Even though the girl I went to High School with is a very safe, and good choice, I still "fell in love" with her, even though I knew that was not best for what I needed. However, this other girl might work out well. I'm not hopelessly in love with her or anything, I just think she's pretty and want to get to know her better. If things don't work out, oh well, I wasn't super attached anyways, and if things get more serious, so be it. We'll see what happens tomorrow.
 
@V0RT3X I get a sense that you are falling for her. Try not to over analyze everything; I dunno if you're writing all those details for us, or it's a part of your process in venting/sharing on this thread. I hope it's the latter because I don't want you falling in that abyss of confusion and self-doubt again.


@TJ13 is it really a bad thing that both of you are gamers? I mean realistically, that's something that should bring you two closer together.. unless she is a PC master race elitist (I kid :p).
 
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@V0RT3X I get a sense that you are falling for her. Try not to over analyze everything; I dunno if you're writing all those details for us, or it's a part of your process in venting/sharing on this thread. I hope it's the latter because I don't want you falling in that abyss of confusion and self-doubt again.


@TJ13 is it really a bad thing that both of you are gamers? I mean realistically, that's something that should bring you two closer together.. unless she is a PC master race elitist (I kid :p).
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Its the latter. I honestly don't see us being together forever and all that guff. With the other two I spent so much time on imagining what our future would be like. With this all I am planning for is simple dating that's it.
 
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@V0RT3X I get a sense that you are falling for her. Try not to over analyze everything; I dunno if you're writing all those details for us, or it's a part of your process in venting/sharing on this thread. I hope it's the latter because I don't want you falling in that abyss of confusion and self-doubt again.


@TJ13 is it really a bad thing that both of you are gamers? I mean realistically, that's something that should bring you two closer together.. unless she is a PC master race elitist (I kid :p).
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No it's not bad that we are gamers, just that I kinda dislike xbox and she kinda dislikes playstation
 
It's very difficult for me to fall for her at this point because unlike the other two I know almost nothing about her.
 
V0RT3X
It's very difficult for me to fall for her at this point because unlike the other two I know almost nothing about her.
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Don't worry, it can still happen even if you have no real idea about her.

Though I can say that it's dangerous to fail for someone without knowing them well, or at all, I'd be lying to say that it doesn't happen. It's natural, but the only problem is how often it happens and how much it leads your thoughts.

Think back to your last experience. This time, if you have ooverwhelming nterest in her all of a sudden, try to find out something about her that could possibly break those thoughts up.

Usually, there will be red flags amongst someone that will make you slam the brake pedal.

All I can really say.
 
Thats what I've been doing haha. The new girl and the girl from my high school are both good options so I'll let opportunity decide.
 
So I went to the musical.
I'll post a pic of us when I get home.
All went well so far and so far so good.
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I don't much come in here at all. In fact I think the last time I was in here asking for advice was just before I became close friends with another user on here that helped me so much with a girl I was very interested in and still am after two and a half years despite nothing ever happening past borderline friends/best friends. Anyway I know that I've probably made myself look completely stupid in here before (almost all the reason why I'm not here often), and I know that it'll probably happen again, but here I am again asking for advice. Even though I should probably already know what to do. I just can't put my tongue on it.

So, here's the deal (might end up being pretty long and I'm sorry if that turns out to be the case) - There's two girls I'm interested in, one slightly more than the other. Girl A and Girl B we'll call them. Girl B is the one I'm slightly more interested in. Last year in the middle of doing partner work in English class I was working with my friend and he randomly asks Girl A who's a little over halfway across the room if she'd ever date me. She said "most definitely" and had this really big smile on her face. By the end of the year I really started to like her but I could never manage to open up to her. School was over so I missed my chance and the self inflicted ass kicking commenced. I tried reaching out to her and apologizing to her over social media but got nothing back; I don't even know if she even got either of the two messages I sent her. This year I still liked her and most likely was attached to her after what she said in class stopped me from... let's say "leaving the world on my own accord" over the summer after I thought about her and what it'd do to her. But once again I still never could open up to her, which was further complicated by the fact that I had no classes with her and very rarely saw even a glimpse of her in the halls. It's now 23 days since school was out and I still want her, though not as much as I used to now that Girl B has been at my attention. However I do feel like my feelings are real. On top of not having a way to talk to Girl A in class I also don't have a way to talk to her outside of school and on social media since she no longer is active on either of the accounts I previously messaged her on, which I do know for a fact. A little more on this girl later.

Now on to Girl B, it's a slightly similar situation with this one as far as talking to her goes. I don't really have a way to talk to her. I know she has an Instagram because one of her pics actually just showed up under my Explore tab, which I suppose is IG's version of friend suggestions. The problem being, IG isn't exactly a good platform for talking to her. Basically the best chance I have of doing so would be for her to add me on Snapchat but I don't know if she still uses her account there anymore. But the biggest problem is this - The last time I had any classes with her was 8th grade, so it's been a few years since she was actually there in person which makes me question if my feelings are real, since they just pretty much randomly came to me a couple of weeks ago after school was out. She's more a thought than a connection, unlike Girl A. Also unlike Girl A though, I may just have a way to talk to her outside of school because I found out she works at one of the local ice cream places (Dairy Queen), so it could just be a matter of seeing her at work. But I don't know if my feelings are real or not considering how they came to be about.

What I need advice on is this - I don't know which girl to go with or how to start making a connection with them. I'd like to be at least friends with both of them so that's what I intend to start with if I can make a connection at all. How can I do so? And when it comes to looking at both these girls (who I must say are both really pretty :O) as more than friends, who should I go with?

So that's about it, of course if I think of more to throw in that I think would help you guys more I'll add it in. And I know that was pretty long and maybe confusing but I don't really know how I could've shortened it or worded it better. Also, I briefly skimmed the last two pages and after reading the tiny bit that I did, I hope everyone finds themselves in a better situation soon. Sorry if that comes off as a 🤬 move or attitude or lack of understanding etc; I don't intend it to be.
 
Thats a very similar situation to mine, haha. With girl B I suggest either going to her work and at least try to talk to her a bit if you can. Since you haven't seen her in a while, just say that you'd like to "catch up sometime" preferably in person rather than social media.

Since girl A is very difficult to contact at this point, and you literally said you like girl B better, go with girl B. I understand your attraction to girl A though. Knowing that a girl is interested in you is probably one of the best qualities a girl can have, especially when they are very attractive.
 

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