The General Relationship Thread

[TB]

I have been in so many relationships that only lasted like a day or two. Well if i count legit ones relationships that lasted a week None.

A relationship of a day or two isn't a relationship. Neither is a week, really. If it's not at least months, it's just a date.

And i kind of need to pull my head out of my *** and stop falling on these idiots so easily.

So these "relationships" are one sided, then. Sounds to me like you come across as very needy and craving attention. There really is no better recipe for driving females away.

Marry me or something like that.

No one is saying that.

Kinda sucks when Kitten is very sensitive

Should I go there? I feel I must so bear with me. Stop being a pussy, act like a man and females might actually respect you enough to spend more than a few minutes with you.

 

[ITCC_Andrew]

In fairness, though, we are talking about teenage girls (yes, the ones who scream at Boy Band X), so they probably do actually want to marry Kitten...

For a few hours, like teenage girls.

 

[GTboyz]

So she came to my house last night. Nothing big, she wanted to pick up a movie for her college matetials and i happen to have the movie. But man, its just feels awkward for me when both of us just went to my room (the movie is inside my computer and the computer is inside my room so well you know) and i think she used too much parfume or something because i can smell the fragrance when i'm not even close to her, made my bedroom smells like her which made me thinking about her again.

 

[ITCC_Andrew]

Did she hint? Did you?

 

[TB]

In fairness, though, we are talking about teenage girls

Then it's your own fault(s) for expecting them to not act like teenage girls. Or at the very least, don't be surprised when they do.

 

[Speedy Samurai]

I meaning used in another way...

Let me count here.

4 i think if i recall... Just said a day later after i asked them out said sorry this wont work... *when there like oh your they best... Your so adorable.. Marry me or something like that. Or they just like eh ill just replace you for another guy. Although one said "Oh no other guy can replace you"

Kinda sucks when Kitten is very sensitive :\ and then they say crap about me? Reallly? I did nothing to you.

Too much drama. That's like woman repellant.

 

[ITCC_Andrew]

Then it's your own fault(s) for expecting them to not act like teenage girls. Or at the very least, don't be surprised when they do.

...kinda my point exactly. I'm telling Kitten to laugh it off.

I'm the guy who was with a girl for like a week or two, and dated another girl 8 minutes after the first break-up. again, rarely do I take myself seriously.

 

[phillgt2002]

woman repellant.

True woman repellent.

And I hope none of you wear these.

So she came to my house last night. Nothing big, she wanted to pick up a movie for her college matetials and i happen to have the movie. But man, its just feels awkward for me when both of us just went to my room (the movie is inside my computer and the computer is inside my room so well you know) and i think she used too much parfume or something because i can smell the fragrance when i'm not even close to her, made my bedroom smells like her which made me thinking about her again.

 

[Sage Ages]

True woman repellent.

I can confirm this is true.

 

[ITCC_Andrew]

Indiana Jones got the girl. Only person in history

 

[cnd01]

A relationship of a day or two isn't a relationship. Neither is a week, really. If it's not at least months, it's just a date.

So these "relationships" are one sided, then. Sounds to me like you come across as very needy and craving attention. There really is no better recipe for driving females away.

No one is saying that.

Should I go there? I feel I must so bear with me. Stop being a pussy, act like a man and females might actually respect you enough to spend more than a few minutes with you.

My thoughts exactly.

 

[phillgt2002]

A relationship of a day or two isn't a relationship. Neither is a week, really. If it's not at least months, it's just a date.

Or a hug.

This applies for men also. I remember when a chick gave me a major hug in 8th grade, changed my mind about her lol... started feelin kinda warm towards even though I meant **** to her.

 

[GTboyz]

Did she hint? Did you?

Nah, i didnt at anything because already knew i had feelings for her for a long time. This is the longest ive been on having feelings for this girl. I'm sure nothing will happen between us. She doesnt hint anything either. Like i said a few pages earlier, the only possible hint from her is that her friends "think" that she does have feelings for me but from what i see, nothing going on or maybe girls are good at hiding their feelings lol. I just don(t want to get my hopes up.

Im not planning on getting inside her pants at all man haha she's too much of a good person to be treated like that lol

 

[ITCC_Andrew]

Ask her. If she says "no," that's all that happens.

I felt the same way about a girl for a while. She's now one of my best friends, and I hang out with her at least once a week. The worst thing you can do is usually nothing. But don't force anything. Invite her to a pizzeria or something... See what happens.

 

[GTboyz]

Ask her. If she says "no," that's all that happens.

I felt the same way about a girl for a while. She's now one of my best friends, and I hang out with her at least once a week. The worst thing you can do is usually nothing. But don't force anything. Invite her to a pizzeria or something... See what happens.

Im guessing you havent read my story a few pages back haha thats okay. I already told her what i feel and she wanted to stay friends which im okay with. The thing is that her friends told me about how they think she has feelings for me, 2 months after i told her about my feelings. But i take anything with a grain of salt when it comes to her having feelings for me. Since i just cant believe it anymore lol

 

[ITCC_Andrew]

Some day, things might be different. Ask her later. just don't close a door...

 

[phillgt2002]

Im guessing you havent read my story a few pages back haha thats okay. I already told her what i feel and she wanted to stay friends which im okay with. The thing is that her friends told me about how they think she has feelings for me, 2 months after i told her about my feelings. But i take anything with a grain of salt when it comes to her having feelings for me. Since i just cant believe it anymore lol

Take it slow dude. Usually, spending time around a person will make you get feelings for that person. Just a matter of time, really.

 

[ITCC_Andrew]

There was an article about that in the NY Times, actually... Everyone should read it...

 

[GTboyz]

Take it slow dude. Usually, spending time around a person will make you get feelings for that person. Just a matter of time, really.

Some day, things might be different. Ask her later. just don't close a door...

So you guys saying things could change ? Well if her hearts change then good but if not then its alright for me. Im so glad to experience that feeling from someone like her lol

OMG i sound so overdramatic hahahah

 

[cnd01]

Im guessing you havent read my story a few pages back haha thats okay. I already told her what i feel and she wanted to stay friends which im okay with. The thing is that her friends told me about how they think she has feelings for me, 2 months after i told her about my feelings. But i take anything with a grain of salt when it comes to her having feelings for me. Since i just cant believe it anymore lol

Generally telling someone you like your feelings isn't the best way to go about starting a relationship. I know this is easier said than done. What you need to do is invite her to something fun you're doing that's not anything like the atmosphere of a date. If you're going to hang out with some friends at a bar/restaurant or go watch a sporting event, that's a great way to get her to go places and have fun with you somewhere. Most girls like being social, and if they are with you and having fun while being social with other people, she'll give you more of a chance. Right now, you have laid your cards on the table and there's nothing drawing her towards you because she already knows everything about how you feel towards her, so now you have to work extra hard to build an attraction and that's pretty much the only way to do so

 

[GTboyz]

Generally telling someone you like your feelings isn't the best way to go about starting a relationship. I know this is easier said than done. What you need to do is invite her to something fun you're doing that's not anything like the atmosphere of a date. If you're going to hang out with some friends at a bar/restaurant or go watch a sporting event, that's a great way to get her to go places and have fun with you somewhere. Most girls like being social, and if they are with you and having fun while being social with other people, she'll give you more of a chance. Right now, you have laid your cards on the table and there's nothing drawing her towards you because she already knows everything about how you feel towards her, so now you have to work extra hard to build an attraction and that's pretty much the only way to do so

Yeah haha, well we have started as friends and we already hang out together with our friends to some places a lot so i have done all those things you said. Right now im still confuse wether to admit to myself that i need to get her or just stay friends. Thats why if she does have feelings for me, well that good but if she doesnt, thats totally fine with me.

 

[ITCC_Andrew]

But, as an example, my mom and dad only started dating after being friends for 10 years - she hated him for those 10 years, until he almost died... She then realized that she would miss him if he were gone.

So, again, don't close a door, ever.

The three greatest girls I know are all still friends of mine...

 

[GTboyz]

But, as an example, my mom and dad only started dating after being friends for 10 years - she hated him for those 10 years, until he almost died... She then realized that she would miss him if he were gone.

So, again, don't close a door, ever.

The three greatest girls I know are all still friends of mine...

Yeah we should still be friends even after she rejected us.

Yeah even if you're bring rejected by a girl that is your friends

 

[cnd01]

Yeah haha, well we have started as friends and we already hang out together with our friends to some places a lot so i have done all those things you said. Right now im still confuse wether to admit to myself that i need to get her or just stay friends. Thats why if she does have feelings for me, well that good but if she doesnt, thats totally fine with me.

The best thing to do in your situation is to give her some space and more importantly, give yourself some space. You may be so pre-occupied by her that you overlook someone who may really like you a lot that you wouldn't expect. Every guy is guilty of doing this. You shouldn't be embarrassed about it or feel bad. Just take some time and not worry about relationships at all then evaluate what you really want. Continue to hang out and have fun as you normally would. That'll take a lot of the pressure off of you and make your situation magnitudes better.

 

[GTboyz]

The best thing to do in your situation is to give her some space and more importantly, give yourself some space. You may be so pre-occupied by her that you overlook someone who may really like you a lot that you wouldn't expect. Every guy is guilty of doing this. You shouldn't be embarrassed about it or feel bad. Just take some time and not worry about relationships at all then evaluate what you really want. Continue to hang out and have fun as you normally would. That'll take a lot of the pressure off of you and make your situation magnitudes better.

Yup thats what im doing right now, i havent contact her for awhile, just yesterday when she wanted to come to my house

 

[cnd01]

Yup thats what im doing right now, i havent contact her for awhile, just yesterday when she wanted to come to my house

That's an odd scenario. Maybe text her sometime in a week or so and ask her what she thinks about that movie or whatever it was that she got from you, but do your best to come from a non-needy and/or desperate standpoint. There still is a chance. In the meantime, just go along with the flow!

 

[GTboyz]

That's an odd scenario. Maybe text her sometime in a week or so and ask her what she thinks about that movie or whatever it was that she got from you, but do your best to come from a non-needy and/or desperate standpoint. There still is a chance. In the meantime, just go along with the flow!

Haha ok once in a while i'll contact her, its not like i will disappear from her,im just gonna go with the flow like what you said. We're on the same university so even though i dont contact her for a while, we can still bump to each other in Uni.

 

[cnd01]

Haha ok once in a while i'll contact her, its not like i will disappear from her,im just gonna go with the flow like what you said. We're on the same university so even though i dont contact her for a while, we can still bump to each other in Uni.

That's a good place to be. Randomly bumping into each other is pretty good. Take note of how often you two bump into each other. If you sense a pattern or it occurs a little more frequently with time, you can get her no problem.

 

[GTboyz]

That's a good place to be. Randomly bumping into each other is pretty good. Take note of how often you two bump into each other. If you sense a pattern or it occurs a little more frequently with time, you can get her no problem.

Nah i rarely bump into her unless im with my friend who are close with her friends since my friend and her friends usually hangout together lol but thats fine, if it is meant to happen then it'll happen.

 

[cnd01]

Nah i rarely bump into her unless im with my friend who are close with her friends since my friend and her friends usually hangout together lol but thats fine, if it is meant to happen then it'll happen.

Can't argue with that Best of luck!