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But then she would feel happy, in a bad way, because she thinks i still like her. She would think that she can still take advantage of me. It's one of the reason i don't want to talk to her at all. Just want to stay away from her

And then there's some people who think i'm still in love with her, even though i'm not anymore.
Whether you give her roses anonymously or in person, it's a bad idea.
You said you've stayed away for a reason so why would you put yourself through either scenario?
Don't kid yourself, you still have feelings for her. Otherwise this scheme wouldn't have entered your brain.
 
Whether you give her roses anonymously or in person, it's a bad idea.
You said you've stayed away for a reason so why would you put yourself through either scenario?
Don't kid yourself, you still have feelings for her. Otherwise this scheme wouldn't have entered your brain.
This is everything I said in my mind when I read that. Don't do it, man, it's a trap!
 
I've decided I'm going to talk to my crush for the first time tomorrow. I wanted to do so today, but something got in the way. I have it all planned out now, unless someone out there thinks otherwise. I'm going to say hi to her and ask how she's doing, and just do some small talk from there if it seems like a good time to talk to her. If not, then at least I said something to her, and something is a hell of a lot better than nothing the way I see it.
 
My school got a new student today. I was walking by the guidance office and my guidance counselor signaled me to come over. She introduced me to said new student. She transferred from Manchester and is really cute. I was asked to show her around and asked to sit near her in the few classes she had for me. I'm very shy when meeting new people, but I wanted to help my counselor out so I said sure. It turns out she was very shy as well. I got the courage to break the silence. I asked her shy she moved up from Manchester and after that we just kept on talking. I think this could be the start of a good friendship, but I'm going to play it carefully.
 
I forget who said it, but someone told me that a first date would be equally as awkward with both people being shy. Whether this has any truth, I don't know yet. :indiff:

But that aside, with us shy people, we're either shy because we had some bad things happen in our past and are afraid to open up, shy because we're new and don't know anyone yet, or shy because there's not much we feel the need to say. There's maybe other reasons too. Best advice is to play it really safe, because you never know, and obviously the last thing you want to do is hurt someone.


This next part, in the spoiler below, is an update from what I said on Monday and is separate from the above:

I actually haven't talked to her yet. That's bad enough, but its worse: she was absent today. On top of that, my school's having a volleyball game. I was thinking about buying a pair of tickets for her and I to chill out at the game, but the idea came to me after I got home today. The fact that I haven't talked to her yet and that she wasn't present today makes that idea I had not able to be pulled off.
 
a first date would be equally as awkward with both people being shy.
It should not be if one opens to the other and starts talking about his/her family and/or friends

Makes the conversation flow and makes it easier for the other to open up..
 
I can tell you from experience, you have to be extremely careful with shy people the moment you decide to make a move (if you ever think about it)
I myself am a very shy person, right now i just want to become friends with her
 
I myself am a very shy person, right now i just want to become friends with her
So.. you're voluntarily putting yourself in the friend zone? Have fun! :D

I actually haven't talked to her yet. That's bad enough, but its worse: she was absent today. On top of that, my school's having a volleyball game. I was thinking about buying a pair of tickets for her and I to chill out at the game, but the idea came to me after I got home today. The fact that I haven't talked to her yet and that she wasn't present today makes that idea I had not able to be pulled off.

First off, establish some kind of relationship with her. Secondly, don't make plans like that before you have even talked to her. Get to know her before jumping to conclusions that she'll even like you, also, even if she is nice to you, that doesn't mean that she's interested in you.

Good luck
 
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Well, I was sitting in class today and I saw her look right at me out of the corner of my eye. I had it figured out what I was going to do, but as soon as see looked, I just froze right there. :banghead:



First off, establish some kind of relationship with her. Secondly, don't make plans like that before you have even talked to her. Get to know her before jumping to conclusions that she'll even like you, also, even if she is nice to you, that doesn't mean that she's interested in you.

Good luck
That's why I didn't go through with my plan. :)
 
If you have to plan simply saying hi to someone a week in advance, and then not even do it, it isn't a plan. It's wishful thinking.
I can just tell you straight up that you're right, given how I am and/or can be. :indiff:
 
You know what really bothers me...?

The fact that I find more comfort in a hunk of metal than a human being; the fact that, that hunk of metal makes me feel safe and secure; that hunk of metal is more reliable than a human being; that hunk of metal is more dependable than a human being; that hunk of metal doesn't use you and stab you in the back; that hunk of metal doesn't judge you...

It'll always be there for you. Waiting. Day in day out.
 
You know what really bothers me...?

The fact that I find more comfort in a hunk of metal than a human being; the fact that, that hunk of metal makes me feel safe and secure; that hunk of metal is more reliable than a human being; that hunk of metal is more dependable than a human being; that hunk of metal doesn't use you and stab you in the back; that hunk of metal doesn't judge you...


You've either met a really good car, or really bad people. Possibly both.

It'll always be there for you. Waiting. Day in day out.

Well, sure, it can't go anywhere on its own.
 
You know what really bothers me...?

The fact that I find more comfort in a hunk of metal than a human being; the fact that, that hunk of metal makes me feel safe and secure; that hunk of metal is more reliable than a human being; that hunk of metal is more dependable than a human being; that hunk of metal doesn't use you and stab you in the back; that hunk of metal doesn't judge you...

It'll always be there for you. Waiting. Day in day out.


"Tej Parker: It's all between you and the car you build it's a bond, it's a commitment.
Hobbs: Sounds like a marriage.
Tej Parker: Yeah, but with cars when you trade up they don't take half your 🤬."
 
So she invited me to her brother's wedding. Well, not just me but all of the our friends are invited too. Anyway i said i couldn't come because of family matters but actually somehow i think i'm afraid i would like her again. Well, it is s selfish act but i guess it had to be done. I had always think about what she feels if i did something like this in the past, that i should come to her birthday or bunch of other stuff just for the sake of her but right now, i need to take care of myself and help myself moving on.
 
I'm "single ready to mingle"... And none the happy about it. :grumpy:

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Anyways....



I need to focus on me. I'm staying up til 3 AM just to comfort a girlfriend all the way in Spain. I love her like a sister, and I really worry about her.

"Baby tell me when you're leaving, okay?"
"Yup. Leaving in five."
"Alright"
"Don't worry babe, I'll be fine :)"

Doesn't help the situation.


I don't know. I was the type that wouldn't get attached... however the last couple of years really hurt me. I can't seem to let go of the world, evem when the world let's go of me.
 
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Well guys, I've found myself in a pickle. Some of you, maybe only one or two, may know of some previous "pickles" I've been in, and are likely thinking "oh no not again." Well, this latest thing isn't too bad, but here it is nonetheless:

I went into school last Monday with a plan and even a bit of confidence to talk to my crush for the first time. It turned out that she wasn't in school that day. I figured that it wasn't a big deal, and that I had an extra day to build up some more confidence. The next day, she wasn't in school either. Now we're on Wednesday. I'm starting to get a bit worried, but the only class period I have with her (and the only time I see her) was cut off from the schedule for an early dismissal to start Thanksgiving break, so I didn't see her at all or even know if she was in school that day. Now, today was the first day back at school after Thanksgiving break. I had planned to talk to her, but she wasn't present today either.

So far every single day that I went into the school building in the morning with the intention of talking to my crush, she wasn't in school that day. And there you get that "pickle." *long sigh* :indiff:
 
Well guys, I've found myself in a pickle. Some of you, maybe only one or two, may know of some previous "pickles" I've been in, and are likely thinking "oh no not again." Well, this latest thing isn't too bad, but here it is nonetheless:

I went into school last Monday with a plan and even a bit of confidence to talk to my crush for the first time. It turned out that she wasn't in school that day. I figured that it wasn't a big deal, and that I had an extra day to build up some more confidence. The next day, she wasn't in school either. Now we're on Wednesday. I'm starting to get a bit worried, but the only class period I have with her (and the only time I see her) was cut off from the schedule for an early dismissal to start Thanksgiving break, so I didn't see her at all or even know if she was in school that day. Now, today was the first day back at school after Thanksgiving break. I had planned to talk to her, but she wasn't present today either.

So far every single day that I went into the school building in the morning with the intention of talking to my crush, she wasn't in school that day. And there you get that "pickle." *long sigh* :indiff:

She might have gone on holiday for thanksgiving. What if she's back next week?
 
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