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I didn't force it too. If they started to keep their distance then i let them be and don't bother them again. I just sometimes found it a bit weird that's all.
 
Just confuses me. For the time being, i don't want to be in a relationship so i'm not gonna feel anything because i'm not in the mood.
 
Being apart tends to patch things up unless one of you holds a very unhealthy grudge, especially if you don't remind yourself of the past and move foward
 
As many of you may have guessed, I'm still interested in the same girl. (I'd rather have the Giulia Sprint than the Camry and all that.) Some of what I said in that rather upset post is true, and I thought that if I took a step back and made it much less serious, it would be easier to ask her out and possibly smooth out any issues from there. If she says yes, cool, I have a beautiful girlfriend. If she says no, eh, doesn't matter, time to move on to the next thing. Made perfect sense. Only thing is, it does matter. I honestly haven't felt this way about anyone before, hence why I am so damn nervous. Better yet, I knew that she would be leaving the front desk position, and going back to teaching in a classroom. Having her at the front desk, at closing no less, always gave me the perfect opportunities, but I never took them. I figured I have a few days until the switch, I better make the most of it. Nope. The switch started today. I didn't get to interact with her at all, because she was busy, and she now leaves earlier as well. I totally blew every perfect opportunity I was given, and now, they're gone. I might be able to get in a quick word here and there, but now it's much more difficult than ever. I have no clue what to do now.
 
It's going to be pretty hard if I can barely talk to her. I'm thinking that I need to get her number somehow. But once again, I have no clue.
 
I can't tell if I'm being ghosted or not.

I'm giving benefit of the doubt as of right now, but if I'm wrong, then I'm going to cut it off. She doesn't seem like the person that constantly texts, so that's why I'm giving space. Also, Facebook being the data miner that it is, it showed me her Facebook page when seeing people you may know. Curiously, I clicked on her profile and it said that she hasn't been active on her page for a few weeks, so I'm guessing she's not too active on social media.

Insult to injury, she wasn't even at class. Considering we have a long weekend, I was going to ask her out to a car show in my part of town since we aren't going to see each other for about a week. She also mentioned getting together to do some things outdoors.

No big deal, but it cements my hatred for text messaging. It provides uncertainty.

What do you all think? Maybe she got cold feet? I mean, if so, oh well.

(Also, I told a classmate that I thought that she was kind of cute. He scrunched up his face and said "Whatever floats your boat.") I highly doubt he likes athletic girls, so whatever.
 
A combination of stuff that she has to deal with and ghosting you seems like the correct answer.

Many girls tend to ghost someone if they think the other person is trying to make a move and they're not interested in that person.

She might be an exception and might be dealing with something really important, who knows.
 
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A combination of stuff that she has to deal with and ghosting you seems like the correct answer.

Many girls tend to ghost someone if they think the other person is trying to make a move and they're not interested in that person.

She might be an exception and might be dealing with something really important, who knows.
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I never see her on her phone during class. I've only seen her texting a couple of times.

It's either she got cold feet, or she's busy. She does have a job.

I'll talk to her the next time I see her. If she really isn't interested, I'll be pretty damn confused.

She's the one that's doing the moves and suggesting we do things together. She probably doesn't know how to carry things out. :confused: :lol:

I need answers, lol.

I will say, knowing that she got cold feet would be annoying. All that for nothing. I formed a little crush on her.
 
That's almost he opposite of my situation. I think she thinks that I am not interested in her, and has kind of stopped trying to be super nice to me. I am almost certain she likes me (or did) but I'm being such a bitch right now. I feel somewhat intimidated by her looks sometimes, which I think has a lot to do with it. All is not lost on the opportunity front however. She said that she will be working at the front desk on Tuesdays, which is great. I think about the possibility that if I wait too long, she will find someone else, but it's somewhat unlikely, as she is not desperate to be in a relationship, and I'm not sure she goes to school at the moment and is focusing on work like myself, and I'm the only guy at work, so it's not likely she will find someone new. Today I was going to do it. All logic says I should but my irrational brain seems to say otherwise. Plus, I forgot what I said I would do, not lust after her so much and put pressure on myself as a result. Wooops. Not all hope is lost, as I can see her quite a lot on Tuesdays now, but I'm not sure what I should do on the other days. (or Tuesday for that matter apparently) I feel like I need to be more direct, engage with her more and possibly do something for her, say something or whatever to possibly show that I'm interested in her. That seemed to work last time when I closed for her once on a Friday, and on Monday, she gave me a sincere thank you and was extremely nice towards me, once again, another blown opportunity. We'll see what happens.
 
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Anyway, I get back to my desk to finish packing up and she's waiting for me.

Okay, no biggie. Just walk and talk.

We get to the main entrance of the building and I said I needed to split and go the other direction, towards my car but it was nice meeting her.

She then steps forward twirling her hair, and I step back.

*I just want to go home*

She then asks if we can go to her dorm. I kindly reject her offer, and this is where she loses it.

"What? What do you mean you can't..?"

I explain that I'm very happy with someone.

"Oh come on don't be like that. She doesn't have to know."

"Yeah no... Im going home"

"What DO YOU MEAN NO? DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH IT TAKES FOR ME TO ASK YOU OUT?!"

"Well you didn't ask me out, you asked me to come to your bed. Sorry hun, find some other poor sap and play with their emotions."

Why is it that when you're single, it seems like NOT A SINGLE woman wants to go the extra mile with you but when you hook up with someone dear to you, all these girls come out of the woodwork.

Is it perception or what?!


But yeh, pretty crappy Tuesday morning.
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Wow, that's just absurd. She doesn't have to know?! Does this women live in a porn film or something?! That's a red flag and a half.

Women like you more now when you're in a relationship, simply because you're more confident, and not trying too hard.
 
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Like the type that takes a couple of days to respond?
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Yeah, it took her two days to respond to something I sent her.

I appreciate that kind of because she doesn't seem like the type that is glued to her phone, but it can be annoying. I feel more inclined to call her now.

Anyways.

Me: Alright. Just a heads up, ____ plans on going to the stone or glass place next Thursday. It's not mandatory, but I think I may go for fun. It's on the eastern side of the bay. He's going to give out directions Tuesday. Just to keep you in the loop.

Her: Thank you :)

I'm planning on going too. Just for giggles. Are we driving ourselves? If so, you can ride with me if you don't have a car

She's..... Interesting. Confusing really. I told her that I was going myself, but she asks me if I want to carpool.

Anyways, I'll go for it. I'm going to ask her if she wants Café au lait from this great café in town. Make it a good little date in the process. I'm not sure what she wants to do this weekend, but it rains pretty consistently throughout.

I don't want to brush her off, but I'm getting somewhat uninterested in her. I feel bad for feeling like that.
 
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She sounds a bit... eccentric but that's cute. I mean Audrey isn't any different :lol:

Go for it man. Also you can make a few jokes about café au lait if you want. I know I would

Pronounce it like some 20th century ponce.


Sorry let my imagination run a bit :D
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I'm only calling it that to be a posh prick. I dress like a slightly sylish homeless man, so saying it like that would be slight irony.

And yeah, her behavior is interesting. She's quiet around other people, but she's just not as vocal around others when I'm around her. As I've mentioned, she's not glued to her phone, so there are never really any interruptions when we sit down to talk together. It makes conversation much more intimate.

Now, here's another development. Another guy needs a ride, but I don't want him to get in the way of our.... vibing, so I think I may just meet her in SF where she lives and take her out to breakfast.

So, what should I do? I don't want to be an asshole as I usually am and not give this guy a ride.

I really want to spend time together with just each other, and she does too.

I'm considering just meeting her in SF with my brother's car in the morning, getting breakfast or lunch together, and then picking up the guy at the school.

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I'm sitting here, reading all of these posts, and can't help but feel lonely.

But then again, I have so much college work to do as it is.
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Generally, I would feel like you, but I've been shoehorned into this situation with this girl, and I'm just following suit to see where we can go with this.

I'm not really the most capable.of dating as of now. I don't even have a job.

I have an interview at REI, her favorite store on Tuesday, but other than that, I haven't worked in a little over 7 months. So yeah, ****'s interesting right now.
 
@phillkillv2 the breakfast and lunch is a good idea actually.

So after that all three of you are going to be in the same car going to an event?

It'll work out like this don't worry. The guy won't get in the way too much.
 
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Why is it that when you're single, it seems like NOT A SINGLE woman wants to go the extra mile with you but when you hook up with someone dear to you, all these girls come out of the woodwork.

Is it perception or what?!
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My thought is that it could potentially be because when you're in a relationship, you feel more confident. You may not even realize it, it might just be an energy thing. And more girls notice you because of that confidence.

Or it could be that some girls just want to stir up 🤬. :p
 
Well I guess it's been quite a bit since I last posted on here. Probably due to the snow then rain then sun then warmth then snow and etc. Had to look back to see when I posted, which was about a month ago. Oops.

Anyways Shortly after I did post that I was kinda in something with a 42 year old. That kinda went sour for a few weeks. (No talking no nothing) Until recently, Tuesday.
As I was kinda surprised and everything I guess other things took priority. I thought it was done because of the silence, and not doing anything. We still talked a bit here and there over Tuesday still has the feelings for me just that other things happened. (Which I don't mind other things but at lease an update once in a while instead of going silent for like 3 weeks) We didn't talk much Wednesday, but it was something. Yesterday it was the best. Talked a lot even had a 50 minute call. Thought we would of talked last night but just got too late. Woke up had a message from her and it was like the best but kinda awkward one. Here is a bit of it "Sometimes all I want is to lay with you and not do anything. Just talk and get to know one another a lil more. Then there are times I want to get crazy kinky with you."

So she hasn't forgotten about me. Which is always nice. Maybe it will go back to where we talk again just about every day or so.
 
This is what my mind has been like at work for the past 2 months. :lol: (Both characters playing various states of mind as well.)



But in all honesty, Things lately have been going fairly well, which is a surprise since I don't see her much, as I expected. However, what little interaction we have is usually pretty good. The other day, I was having a terrible day, and just seeing her smile at me and say hi, made the day pretty decent. Today, there was no interaction what so ever, until the end of the day when we were cleaning up. The fact that we seem to have some conversations that last longer than any conversation with some other person would, signal to me that there may very well be something between us. Rather than a smile, or a smile and a polite hi, she gave me a smile, a hi, and a how's it going. To which we had a conversation about how she had to work in another room today and close there. Not exactly the most fascinating of subjects, as it would usually consist of a line or two from each person, but there was a lot more dragging on from both of us, to keep the conversation going just a bit longer. I'm really start to feel comfortable around her. I'm not one of those guys that has a hard time being around or talking to women or anything, but for a while I was very nervous around her, which luckily is starting to fade.
 
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I'm really start to feel comfortable around her. I'm not one of those guys that has a hard time being around or talking to women or anything, but for a while I was very nervous around her, which luckily is starting to fade.
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Ask for her number and tell her you want to take her out after a bit more talking.

I feel like what you say resonates with me, though I don't get nervous around women.

I take a while to thoroughly read them out.
 
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Ask for her number and tell her you want to take her out after a bit more talking.

I feel like what you say resonates with me, though I don't get nervous around women.

I take a while to thoroughly read them out.
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I plan on simply asking her out and just getting her number then.
 
The last two weeks have been a little bit mixed for me, so... why not have a ramble about it, right?

It's another long one as well.

Last time I wrote something here, I said that I was trying to organise something with her and well... that didn't go particularly well. I was going to see her twice that week and I didn't end up seeing her at all. One of them didn't matter as much as I'd be seeing her with a few friends but the other one was going to be just us and she kept delaying it. Tuesday became Friday, Friday became Saturday and when Saturday actually came, she said she couldn't come. I'll admit, I was pretty 🤬 angry about that. She did message me later that day though explaining that she was ill and she was annoyed by the whole thing as well, which pissed me off even further at the time because she was the one who was delaying it for no particular reason, but whatever. She wanted to reschedule for the next time we have a holiday which was in FIVE WEEKS but I insisted that we see each other the next Saturday and she agreed to that. It still confuses me how it takes over 3 weeks to organise going to the cinema, but again, I was still seeing her. That was the important thing.

As for the actual date... it went fairly well, I'd say. I had fun, she seemed like she had fun and, most importantly, she wanted me to stay in town a little longer and get something to eat with her. I think she was late for her gymnastics class in the end...

Yeah, I'm proud of that. :lol:

Since then, I've tried to learn my lessons from that week and cool off my interest a little bit, just so I'm not looking desperate mainly. The important thing is that so far, it's working! She's starting talking to me more rather than the other way around and she's even started talking to me on Skype, so yeah. Solid progress.

There's just one issue, though. I'm sure this is nothing, but she talks about this other guy who lives in Scotland who she talks to a lot and she's even going to see him for a few days in June. She seems to talk to him a lot and she was telling me about him when we were out together which I thought was a little odd, but I'm just not going to try to think about it. If she's interested in him more, then so be it.

Then again, just as I was about to post this, she's asked me if I want to go see her tomorrow. And she sent a kiss.

She's never done that before...

Oh boy. I'm so out of my depth here. :lol:
 

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