The General Relationship Thread

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phillkillv2
I have free airfare in the US, don't tempt me.

How did you solve the problem?
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I'm no longer interested in her. I realized that I just thought that she was very attractive, and I was enticed by the idea that she might be interested in me. Not to mention that I quite liked the idea of people saying "That's your girlfriend?! Damn! She is way out of your league!"

We really didn't have any chemistry. I was really nervous around her and I felt like I had to be someone else around her. We really connected in my imaginary scenarios but not in reality.
 
So I've been in a good one for a little over 2 years, prior to her I messed around with various different girls, and after doing that and being "young" and stuff it got old. I met her about a month before we started "dating" so we went on a few dates before I'd tell anyone " that's my girlfriend"

I'm 19 and in the car business, my dad is the GM of a dealership that I do some marketing/sales stuff at. She's 18, working part time (35-37 hr weeks) so she's "independent" which honestly I'm proud of her for that. So much so when we go out to dinner (unless its the cigar bar steakhouse where I'll blow a couple hundred lol) she'll always offer to pay. She's going to college in Sept. so that'll be cool.
 
V0RT3X
We really didn't have any chemistry. I was really nervous around her and I felt like I had to be someone else around her. We really connected in my imaginary scenarios but not in reality.
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So you think you have no chemistry before you even get to know her..
 
Hollow
So you think you have no chemistry before you even get to know her..
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Well, considering the fact that I have been talking to her for months and that most of or conversations were pretty stale in reality, yes.
 
Finally decided to write this.

Me and the Australian Girl? Well were not friends anymore. Saw it coming she stopped texting me for couple weeks, until she texted me saying its better off not being friends.

The Good News!
So, one of my best girl friends basically hooked me up with one of her really close friends, and told me i should talk to he. Like couple days after i broke up with my ex. I didn't really talk to her much, but since the past 2 weeks, we've been getting really close. We both want the same thing in a relationship. I really took my time, and didn't go blind relationship like the last one, which was a mistake on my part. She knows my whole life, and i know her whole life. We both really enjoy talking to each other. Plus i have close friends that tell me she's not a psycho like my ex. So We'll see what happens friday when we hang out :). So i think i've found the lucky charm in a cereal box.
 
TheKitten
Finally decided to write this.

Me and the Australian Girl? Well were not friends anymore. Saw it coming she stopped texting me for couple weeks, until she texted me saying its better off not being friends.

The Good News!
So, one of my best girl friends basically hooked me up with one of her really close friends, and told me i should talk to he. Like couple days after i broke up with my ex. I didn't really talk to her much, but since the past 2 weeks, we've been getting really close. We both want the same thing in a relationship. I really took my time, and didn't go blind relationship like the last one, which was a mistake on my part. She knows my whole life, and i know her whole life. We both really enjoy talking to each other. Plus i have close friends that tell me she's not a psycho like my ex. So We'll see what happens friday when we hang out :). So i think i've found the lucky charm in a cereal box.
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Congrats, both on the post number and the lucky charm! Better than finding a crispy flake.
 
What in the world is going on here?!

The last few pages were just a rollercoaster of emotions, damn...

You got psychological analyses of situations, critiquing, sacrificial kittens(?!?!). Wow.




Anyway, been so busy with work that I didn't make time for Audrey. Barely made time. On top of that, didn't have internet for a couple weeks so my contact with her was pretty limited. Feel like 🤬 because I leave this weekend for my vacation, and she really wanted to see me before I did.

Hopefully I can stop by her house and surprise her today or tomorrow. If not, I can be with her for a couple weeks when I get back.

Completely neglected my unicorn... no wonder they're so rare... we - well... me - always treat them like crap.
 
TheKitten
Finally decided to write this.

Me and the Australian Girl? Well were not friends anymore. Saw it coming she stopped texting me for couple weeks, until she texted me saying its better off not being friends.

The Good News!
So, one of my best girl friends basically hooked me up with one of her really close friends, and told me i should talk to he. Like couple days after i broke up with my ex. I didn't really talk to her much, but since the past 2 weeks, we've been getting really close. We both want the same thing in a relationship. I really took my time, and didn't go blind relationship like the last one, which was a mistake on my part. She knows my whole life, and i know her whole life. We both really enjoy talking to each other. Plus i have close friends that tell me she's not a psycho like my ex. So We'll see what happens friday when we hang out :). So i think i've found the lucky charm in a cereal box.
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Guess not.... :guilty:
 
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What happened?
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This.
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In hindsight, something funny happened. Being me, I was looking at a place I shouldn't have been looking at and the Swedish girl i mentioned turned around and did an eyebrow raise at me.

She knew.. :lol: It was hot outside, so she had an excuse.
 
Cale
Sadly for him that doesn't actually say she's not looking for a BF right now. It says "you're not the guy I'm looking for".

It's aiight dude. You're what just finishing your first year of college? Plenty of time.
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2nd year.
 
Boy have I got a story like some of the current ones going in this thread or not going anymore in some cases. I'll just say this before I start, I'm now 22 and have a wonderful girlfriend of 4 years this coming June.

Grade 8, yeah, that far back, I was by far and away not only the shyest kid in the class, but the whole school. Yeah it was pretty bad because I had like 1 friend in my grade I could tell things to and was sort of able to hold conversations with most of the other guys. Me, talk to girls? HA, what an occasion that was when I even so much as said 1 sentence to any of them, and it's not like any of them were really mean, I just had no confidence whatsoever. So in grade 7 I started to like this one girl but never told anyone, dirty blonde, ponytail all day everyday, didn't wear really girly clothing but she was crazy athletic, and she and her friends were definitely the nicest group of girls in my grade.

Remember that one friend I could tell things to, well yeah, suddenly I couldn't tell him things anymore because he spilled the beans on me liking this girl, in grade 7. All the guys knew then but somehow the girls never got the memo. People would come up to me trying to give me "encouragement" by way of saying they would tell her I like her, they never told her really and I never asked her out. So in grade 8 there was this dance, I don't remember when it was but I think it was around halloween because I remember there being costumes, maybe. It seemed however that the ladies of the grade received a certain message that was "declassified" by a certain friend that day. At this dance I'm minding my own business, not dancing because shy guys don't really dance. All of a sudden one of the girls comes up to me and says something like 'you're going to be asked if you like X.' Completely out of the blue she said this, but sure enough, probably 20 minutes later one of my crush's very close friends comes up to me and asks me if I like her, I of course being the very shy kid said no being completely embarrassed. After that I could see she was kind of disappointed but she was her regular self again the next day and was really friendly. I had the chance to ask her out all through the grade and even on our grad trip we were by ourselves a couple times and never asked her out. She's turned into this amazing person now and even though she's still single I blew that chance years ago.

Heck, I almost blew my chance with my girlfriend right now. You just have to get on with it and there's really no way around that. In person is best, over the phone is acceptable, any form of texting/direct messaging via social media should really be avoided. Now I'm not a good example of this but I lucked out because she knew how tough it was for me to message her because she was just as shy as I was. We've grown together and I have a confidence now that I sure didn't have before, she's been a little bit slower in gaining that confidence but I can see it getting better. I know I'm getting a bit sidetracked but man it's great when you're in a relationship with the right woman. It all starts back at you though, you have to make that move because unless she feels the exact same way about you she won't ask you out. I still think about my grade 8 crush, at least once a week in fact, and think 'man I was an idiot, why didn't I ask her out?' Now don't get me wrong, I wouldn't break off this great relationship I have just to be with an old crush, it's just the fact that I was so afraid of being turned down. I knew for a fact that one of her favourite quotes is one Gretzky made "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take." How stupid could I have been, with that knowledge and how nice she was/is there's almost no way I would have been turned down.

I'm making an example of myself in hopes that you guys will take those chances on that 'her' because she won't wait for you for long. She's got life to deal with so slowing it down for too long just isn't really an option.

Sorry for the wall of text but seriously, send it up the inside, pluck it in first, give it some jandle and 🤬 yeah.
 
I'm not completely giving up on this girl, I'm more or less just keeping my options open. I just think that it might not be the best idea to have a relationship in the workplace as there is no place to hide haha. If I get an awkward rejection it will lead to awkward encounters and if we have a fight or one of us is mad at the other we won't be able to avoid each other. I also realize that perhaps pairing two people who are shy and have difficulty talking to each other might not be the best idea. However, I'm young and she is very pretty so now might be a good time to make some mistakes.

I knew I had exaggerated what she was like to myself quite a bit when I was able to get over her so easily. I guess her beautiful smiles cast some sort of spell on me or something. Even thinking about her smiling now makes me think.... No! No! Fight it!:lol:
 
V0RT3X
I'm not completely giving up on this girl, I'm more or less just keeping my options open. I just think that it might not be the best idea to have a relationship in the workplace as there is no place to hide haha. If I get an awkward rejection it will lead to awkward encounters and if we have a fight or one of us is mad at the other we won't be able to avoid each other. I also realize that perhaps pairing two people who are shy and have difficulty talking to each other might not be the best idea. However, I'm young and she is very pretty so now might be a good time to make some mistakes.

I knew I had exaggerated what she was like to myself quite a bit when I was able to get over her so easily. I guess her beautiful smiles cast some sort of spell on me or something. Even thinking about her smiling now makes me think.... No! No! Fight it!:lol:
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^Applies to other people here as well. (Minus the tissue and hand thing)
 
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^Applies to other people here as well. (Minus the tissue and hand thing)
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Pretty spot on actually. I don't think she found another guy and she doesn't want some one night stand or anything and I see the signals, I just don't know how to act on them. Other than that, it's pretty crazy how spot on that is.
 
My girl classmate (we're in the same course) always says "hi babe, hi loves, and hi babyloves" to me to the point where I asked myself if she likes me as a friend or as a possible boyfriend.

I was being teased everytime she greets me. Not to mention she always smiles at me everytime we see each other and sometimes it leads to a lengthy conversation where it ends with a smile.

Should I ask her if she likes me as a friend or as a possible boyfriend?
 

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