I think it's best if you approach her.I'm pretty sure a girl at work is interested in me. I'm attracted to her but as far as personality goes, meh. I doubt we would have anything serious, and it would just be a fling. But hey, if there's anytime for me to have a fling it's now.
That's the plan.I think it's best if you approach her.
When you do, try having lunch or hang out with her after work so you will have the opportunity to ask her if she's interested in you.
Or if it's the opposite (instead of you asking her out, she asks you to hang out with her), then do it.
Need some advice guys.
Me and my current girlfriend of four months are in a long distance relationship. And truth be told, I don't like it and I don't love her. For reasons unknown, the spark isn't there and I've tried ending it four or five times now. She constantly needs attention, and doesn't take kindly to me putting my own personal issues (of which I have a fair few; depression thread kind of covers that) before her. On top of that, she's a bit... loopy. I'm not allowed to watch a movie with one of my female friends. I'm not allowed to compliment said female friend on... well, anything. I have to ask if I can hang out with my friends. I got accused of cheating because I went to town for an hour. She has a go at me for not wanting to spontaneously do a six hour round trip to spend some time with her. The list goes on. I should've jumped ship ages ago but I didn't, and now I'm stuck.
This girl refuses to take no for an answer. I've told her every possible problem; whether it be I'm not happy with her in general, my own problems, her own problems, just finding the relationship lackluster / boring, you name it. I can't get out of it. She just blames it on me being 'in a bad mood' and refuses to talk until I calm down. Either that, or she video calls me when she's in tears and spams me with 'please don't leave me'. I can't cope with it in all honesty.
So yeah, any advice would be strongly welcomed.
Get out while you can. the longer you're with her, the harder it's going to be.Need some advice guys.
Me and my current girlfriend of four months are in a long distance relationship. And truth be told, I don't like it and I don't love her. For reasons unknown, the spark isn't there and I've tried ending it four or five times now. She constantly needs attention, and doesn't take kindly to me putting my own personal issues (of which I have a fair few; depression thread kind of covers that) before her. On top of that, she's a bit... loopy. I'm not allowed to watch a movie with one of my female friends. I'm not allowed to compliment said female friend on... well, anything. I have to ask if I can hang out with my friends. I got accused of cheating because I went to town for an hour. She has a go at me for not wanting to spontaneously do a six hour round trip to spend some time with her. The list goes on. I should've jumped ship ages ago but I didn't, and now I'm stuck.
This girl refuses to take no for an answer. I've told her every possible problem; whether it be I'm not happy with her in general, my own problems, her own problems, just finding the relationship lackluster / boring, you name it. I can't get out of it. She just blames it on me being 'in a bad mood' and refuses to talk until I calm down. Either that, or she video calls me when she's in tears and spams me with 'please don't leave me'. I can't cope with it in all honesty.
So yeah, any advice would be strongly welcomed.
I agree with @Team THRT Drift on this one. Give her an ultimatim, assert yourself and stand your ground then just leave her. You shouldn't let her manipulate you into staying.She constantly needs attention, and doesn't take kindly to me putting my own personal issues (of which I have a fair few; depression thread kind of covers that) before her. On top of that, she's a bit... loopy. I'm not allowed to watch a movie with one of my female friends. I'm not allowed to compliment said female friend on... well, anything. I have to ask if I can hang out with my friends. I got accused of cheating because I went to town for an hour. She has a go at me for not wanting to spontaneously do a six hour round trip to spend some time with her. The list goes on. I should've jumped ship ages ago but I didn't, and now I'm stuck.
This girl refuses to take no for an answer. I've told her every possible problem; whether it be I'm not happy with her in general, my own problems, her own problems, just finding the relationship lackluster / boring, you name it. I can't get out of it. She just blames it on me being 'in a bad mood' and refuses to talk until I calm down. Either that, or she video calls me when she's in tears and spams me with 'please don't leave me'. I can't cope with it in all honesty.
Need some advice guys.
Me and my current girlfriend of four months are in a long distance relationship. And truth be told, I don't like it and I don't love her. For reasons unknown, the spark isn't there and I've tried ending it four or five times now. She constantly needs attention, and doesn't take kindly to me putting my own personal issues (of which I have a fair few; depression thread kind of covers that) before her. On top of that, she's a bit... loopy. I'm not allowed to watch a movie with one of my female friends. I'm not allowed to compliment said female friend on... well, anything. I have to ask if I can hang out with my friends. I got accused of cheating because I went to town for an hour. She has a go at me for not wanting to spontaneously do a six hour round trip to spend some time with her. The list goes on. I should've jumped ship ages ago but I didn't, and now I'm stuck.
This girl refuses to take no for an answer. I've told her every possible problem; whether it be I'm not happy with her in general, my own problems, her own problems, just finding the relationship lackluster / boring, you name it. I can't get out of it. She just blames it on me being 'in a bad mood' and refuses to talk until I calm down. Either that, or she video calls me when she's in tears and spams me with 'please don't leave me'. I can't cope with it in all honesty.
So yeah, any advice would be strongly welcomed.
Now you gotta make it stick.Well, I did it. She took it unusually well (at least that's how it seemed); the entire conversation was done in literally five minutes.
Either way, I'm pretty happy already. Thanks everyone!
I'm pretty sure a girl at work is interested in me. I'm attracted to her but as far as personality goes, meh. I doubt we would have anything serious, and it would just be a fling. But hey, if there's anytime for me to have a fling it's now.
Congratulations for making the break. I've been through this once or twice (okay a lot more than that) and even at a young age I always found it useful to review my actions in the relationship and see what I did wrong or could improve. Not what she did wrong, you can't control that, but what you can do differently next time. In your case I'd be asking myself about long distance relationships, when to spot the signs that things aren't working, how to make an early break if they are not etc. What type of girl do I really want? What are the personality traits that I find really attractive and which do I want to avoid? Etc.Thanks guys. My friends all practically said the same thing. They think I was being far too nice as well, so I might have to try just blanking her straight after.
I can honestly say I much prefer single life haha. I'm not gonna let this relationship (my first one, in fact) taint any others, but one thing this has taught me is that I genuinely just prefer being on my own anyway. At least at the moment.
Best strategy ever, but my advice would be to let her know, when the time is right, that you're not big on communicating on social media, you'd prefer direct contact, less room for mistakes and more personal and private. I think most people would appreciate and actually prefer that to be honest and it has the effect of you not having to monitor or respond to social media nonsense about you or her or your relationship.And one more thing, the plan is to do everything in person with this girl including talking to her (and especially breaking the ice) unless she beats me to it on social media. Besides it's better like that anyway.
I just realized that I never replied to you and I thought I did.Best strategy ever, but my advice would be to let her know, when the time is right, that you're not big on communicating on social media, you'd prefer direct contact, less room for mistakes and more personal and private. I think most people would appreciate and actually prefer that to be honest and it has the effect of you not having to monitor or respond to social media nonsense about you or her or your relationship
You can try online dating but be very cautious.So As the new year is approaching. I thought I'd try something new. I have never been in a relationship before but was going to throw my hat in the ring. I'll first start by saying I don't have many friends who can introduce me to girls. If anything I'm just friends with a few girls and have one mate from school who I regularly catch up with. So my question is where do I start? I was thinking of online dating maybe set up a profile? If anyone has better options that would be good. Is online dating any good or is it full of weirdos?
I've never used an actual online dating site, I know there's some that are supposed to be pretty good. I think some even do some kind of backround check, so they know that person is who they say they are. Some people have pretty good luck that way.So As the new year is approaching. I thought I'd try something new. I have never been in a relationship before but was going to throw my hat in the ring. I'll first start by saying I don't have many friends who can introduce me to girls. If anything I'm just friends with a few girls and have one mate from school who I regularly catch up with. So my question is where do I start? I was thinking of online dating maybe set up a profile? If anyone has better options that would be good. Is online dating any good or is it full of weirdos?
In general, it is nice to simply meet people in person. With online dating it is easy to write people off that you don't like in the smallest way. It's easy to pick and choose.I was thinking of online dating maybe set up a profile? If anyone has better options that would be good. Is online dating any good or is it full of weirdos?
Stick with real life, that's your best option IMO. You can meet girls everywhere. I've met girls that I dated and married in many different places. Hair salon, waiting for a bus, working at the variety store, leaning over the railing watching a fashion show in the mall (eventually married her), friend's sister, along with the usual co-workers and classmates and other random places. The key for me was always that I was just talking when I met them not seeking a date or a gf, simply trying to establish a relationship. Often I had eggs in many baskets rather than relying on and putting all my hopes and energy into a single person and rising and falling with that outcome as I see many of you guys here doing. Dating successfully is mostly a numbers game. Get to know a lot of people, date a few of them and if you're lucky you'll find some keepers.So As the new year is approaching. I thought I'd try something new. I have never been in a relationship before but was going to throw my hat in the ring. I'll first start by saying I don't have many friends who can introduce me to girls. If anything I'm just friends with a few girls and have one mate from school who I regularly catch up with. So my question is where do I start? I was thinking of online dating maybe set up a profile? If anyone has better options that would be good. Is online dating any good or is it full of weirdos?
That's it exactly. Just talk to people, as many as you can, without an agenda beyond having that conversation or interaction. It's a real relief and helps you to relax and just be yourself. You'll succeed, you'll fail, you'll say the wrong thing and get awkward looks but above all you'll learn. A quick wit goes a long way to breaking the ice. If you can be funny without being crude you're halfway there already.As @Johnnypenso put it, its far easier to stick with real life and more natural. The numbers indeed do count. while not for me, since I didn't date all that much before getting married, but I know a couple of friends that make themselves pretty well with sheer numbers. One guy never had much luck. thought "eff it", and started to talk to every single girl, and he started gettting backon what he seeked. Sure, he then turned into someone who just hit on every girl, and seeked those with some confidence issues. but that part just depends on what one seeks and feels comfortable doing.
long stor short, even with few friends, or socially awwardness, just talk to people. there's no need to make friendship, or "deep connections". just become acquainted.