The General Relationship Thread

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GTboyz
You mean she just want to keep in touch with me ?
She did explained that the reason she asked me is because the pet store was closed, but i forgot to ask her about her other friends who lived near her and who isnt busy too.

Man i would hate getting those feelings back again
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I should of put a big "if". I know its hard to hold feelings back but sometimes, there are reasons why she didn't want to spend the time to be in a relationship with you. Just keep your guard up and try to spend time with her when the chances come. Good luck to you man.
 
nk4e
I should of put a big "if". I know its hard to hold feelings back but sometimes, there are reasons why she didn't want to spend the time to be in a relationship with you. Just keep your guard up and try to spend time with her when the chances come. Good luck to you man.
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Right now i dont even know if i want to be in a relationship with her. Everyone keeps telling me she likes me which tbh, im tired of hearing that, i wont believe it until she actually say that she like me. When it comes to stuff like this, i'm really weak :guilty:
 
GTboyz
Right now i dont even know if i want to be in a relationship with her. Everyone keeps telling me she likes me which tbh, im tired of hearing that, i wont believe it until she actually say that she like me. When it comes to stuff like this, i'm really weak :guilty:
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Aren't we all, just talk to her, be yourself and make her feel welcome. Don't rush the relationship, just let it grow. If she find someone else in the mean time then YOU should just focus on happiness and yourself.
 
I an very, and I mean very, weak and don't know nearly enough when it comes to this kind of stuff. I'm like a mouse at a racetrack. I have no idea what to do. At all. You're not alone on being bad at this.
 
My last ex left me because I was "very stressed and need time to myself". Shortly after, she found another BF, while I continue to be single and going on with her last reply as " time to yourself".
 
nk4e
Aren't we all, just talk to her, be yourself and make her feel welcome. Don't rush the relationship, just let it grow. If she find someone else in the mean time then YOU should just focus on happiness and yourself.
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Yeah, all this time i just try to picture her in a relationship with someone else so i wont go so down if it become a reality.

Thanks man.
 
GTboyz
Yeah, all this time i just try to picture her in a relationship with someone else so i wont go so down if it become a reality.

Thanks man.
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Personally, don't do that. It is just going to hurt you when she is hurt by that person. Be yourself, be happy single and let life take its path. I made that mistake with a friend ( I somewhat regret doing that but I am blessed that she is still my friend after all these years.)
 
nk4e
Personally, don't do that. It is just going to hurt you when she is hurt by that person. Be yourself, be happy single and let life take its path. I made that mistake with a friend ( I somewhat regret doing that but I am blessed that she is still my friend after all these years.)
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Tbh i dont really follow you on this. Why is it going to hurt me when she is hurt by that person ?. I honestly have no idea.
 
GTboyz
Tbh i dont really follow you on this. Why is it going to hurt me when she is hurt by that person ?. I honestly have no idea.
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The only "if"s." If you care about someone so much, you can let them go"" Just don't want you hurt when it happens.
 
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I feel like her now. I just don't even know anymore...

Saturday was the night of a concert. A concert I would have loved to go to with her. Unfortunately my family had already scheduled a vacation starting that day so I couldn't go. She was disappointed and sad that we wouldn't see each other for a week so we both promised to call and whatnot. Now to make up the concert we bought her tickets to see Nine Inch Nails and Soundgarten here on Sunday.

Since she still had my ticket she decided to go with a guy friend. Our relationship being good I had nothing to worry about, after all she's known him for a while, if she liked him she would be dating him instead of me! I still have no worries about him. My worries come from another guy that was there. A guy she's good friends with whom she also used to like. No big deal of course, she wouldn't cheat on me I know that.

The bad news comes on Monday. He likes her, and doesn't plan on giving up at all. No problem, I'll have to deal with competition anyway. She reassures me there's no need to worry or anything, however events take a turn. She starts getting very vague and emotionless in her texts which is not like her at all. She also completely stops flirting. I've been in this situation too many times to recognize the signs.

So the next day I ask "Hey want to talk on the phone for a bit?" To which she responds "No not really. I'm kinda upset" so I ask what's wrong. She states "I just. Don't know anymore". After that I told her she could talk to me about it, no matter what it was. No response.

I pretty much figure that she likes him again or something. She's just waiting for the concert to pass so we don't feel like we wasted money or something before she brings the news. Pretty disappointed really cause this has been the best two months I can truly recall, but I guess everything has to come to an end right?
 
Spend more time with her during the concert. One of my current friends just went through that situation. I don't know how to respond correctly..
 
Crispy
Pretty disappointed really cause this has been the best two months I can truly recall, but I guess everything has to come to an end right?
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Spend a few days out of contact with her. If she calls or texts you within that period then you know that she wants to talk. If she doesn't then just ask her how she's doing, if it's the same stuff she has said before then there isn't much hope in that relationship, move along..
 
Omg I think I just me the girl of my dreams today. So I was at a shop with my mum today because I had to go. This girl kept on smiling at me every time she saw me. Something went wrong with the transaction so my mum had to go back and exchange but when she was gone the girl kept on smiling at me then started talking to me we talked about lots of stuff but one thing that came to after was she said' do you think it's hot in here?' Now I don't think check out people would even ask that question to a customer but then at then end I started talking about me not working she said that I should bring my resume in since there always looking for resumes. Now I have a question could she have liked me and I had no idea about it or was she just being nice? She was telling me when she got off work and when she was working next she either clearly wants to see me again or I just think to much into things. However I will be dropping my résumé off but this time ill be without my parents. So do you think I should ask her out next time I see her? Someone please help I like her but am confused on how to approach something like this. Never been in this situation before :p. Sorry for the long post.
 
ITCC_Andrew
Unless you're accused of stalking like some people here will do, go for it... Others will hate this post.
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How should I approach though? She said she was working on the weekend but I don't want to go in straight away I was thinking I could go during the week hand in my résumé and see if she wants to hang out sometime when she's not working.
GTboyz
You lucky dog @Cobra_GT500 :D
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Does that mean I'm in? if so i will be stoked. What do you know a girl is out there waiting for me :D
 
Cobra_GT500
How should I approach though? She said she was working on the weekend but I don't want to go in straight away I was thinking I could go during the week hand in my résumé and see if she wants to hang out sometime when she's not working.


Does that mean I'm in? if so i will be stoked. What do you know a girl is out there waiting for me :D
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Well im actually only saying that you are in a very lucky situation compared to me. But that does sound like signs when a girl take an interest, but hey what do i know, like i said i'm weak at this kind of thing. I dont even have any idea how there are people who can get a lot of girls to even like them.

This is really stupid and annoying. Suddenly i started to think about her, i can't even talk to anyone about it because i think they're tired of it even though i rarely tell them about this.

Why do i even think about her when she's not really my type anymore ? I feel like asking anyone, even God directly if i know how, why do i have this feeling. This must be how being a sucker feels like.
 
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GTboyz
This is really stupid and annoying. Suddenly i started to think about her, i can't even talk to anyone about it because i think they're tired of it even though i rarely tell them about this.

Why do i even think about her when she's not really my type anymore ? I feel like asking anyone, even God directly if i know how, why do i have this feeling. This must be how being a sucker feels like.
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Dude, I totally get it. It's awkward. I mean not gonna lie, I still think about my ex girlfriend from high school every now and then. Even if she kinda threw me out and dumped me hardcore, I still lie down sometimes thinking "What went wrong?" It totally sucks. But also to be honest, just sitting around worrying about things aren't gonna improve them much. My 8-6 was down because I got in an accident around the time I got dumped and I was in a REALLY bad place. I had no hobby anymore, only one of my friends were actually there for me, but I still managed to get back up. There's always a rebound, trust me ;)

There was a quote Chris Rock said that really resonated with me:
"Even if you get kicked down, just get up, brush off the dust, and keep walking forward."
 
Hope you're right, this is really sucks, this feeling is really weird. Makes me paranoid and worrying about things. You're lucky you have a car that you can have fun with. I don't even have a car yet and i think driving cars can help me forget about things. I just can't do anything right now.
 
GTboyz
Hope you're right, this is really sucks, this feeling is really weird. Makes me paranoid and worrying about things. You're lucky you have a car that you can have fun with. I don't even have a car yet and i think driving cars can help me forget about things. I just can't do anything right now.
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Well, not now I can't lol. My 8-6's radiator just blew out lol. But that's an easy fix :P

Anyways, just sitting around thinking about how weird it is and hoping I'm right isn't gonna solve much. From my experiences, you need to make your own hope up. You can't sit around waiting, expecting it to come. Get outside, go hang out with friends, your friends are a big part of the healing process and you don't even notice sometimes.
 
GTboyz
Well im actually only saying that you are in a very lucky situation compared to me. But that does sound like signs when a girl take an interest, but hey what do i know, like i said i'm weak at this kind of thing. I dont even have any idea how there are people who can get a lot of girls to even like them.
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Yeah I'm not going to go in and stalk her or anything that would be weird but as I said. I'm job hunting and if I could get a job there i might see her more often lol :p plus it would do me good to get out of the house and start getting work experience 7 months unemployed now. Ive decided not to look into this to hard as I could easily get rejected. So I'm not going to go me make a fool of myself I will just take things as they come. If things don't go my way I always play bf4 to take my mind off things like this.
 
Right now i dont have any escape plans, PS3 got YLOD and i dont have any will to fix it plus the guilt of playing games too much. Like i said, my friends are tired of my story because its the same damn girl even though i rarely told them about my story. I can't find any new girl that i'm interested too. I guess i'm just too bitter about everything right now.

If only i have a car, if only the conditions allowed me to have a car that i can have fun with. Stupid complicated jealousy around family made it hard for me to even think about having a car -_-
 
GTboyz
Right now i dont have any escape plans, PS3 got YLOD and i dont have any will to fix it plus the guilt of playing games too much. Like i said, my friends are tired of my story because its the same damn girl even though i rarely told them about my story. I can't find any new girl that i'm interested too. I guess i'm just too bitter about everything right now.

If only i have a car, if only the conditions allowed me to have a car that i can have fun with. Stupid complicated jealousy around family made it hard for me to even think about having a car -_-
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Keep yourself occupied, there are tons of DIY's on the internet. Find yourself and she will come lol
 
A girl I liked about 14 months ago messaged me. I hope it's not what I think it is... Because I think it is that she just broke up with her long-term boyfriend.
 
Well, lately I've been talking to this really sweet, lovey-dovey guy on Facebook...but I need to tell a story to explain my situation, and ask for some help/advice.
Okay, so everyone here knows I'm gay, I think. I found that out two years ago, because there was this guy I started talking to, his name was Noah. He was just amazing, I loved talking to him (we met on some app, were about the same age and both loved the same music, so we started talking). Eventually though, I realized that I really liked him, not just as a friend. Freaked me out, so I was really super worried about it (I had never ever admitted I was gay before, even to myself).
So I didn't say anything, but after a few weeks he asked what was wrong (he got to the point where he could tell something was wrong just by my voice, when we talked). I just...kind of broke down and told him everything, started crying a lot. He said it was okay, and he told me HE FELT THE SAME WAY. How often does that actually happen?!
Anyway, we started dating after that, even if only online. (He lived just one state away.) I kind of really fell hard for him, and I know it was only my first relationship...but I kinda loved Noah, we talked everyday and I just loved his voice, how he looked....all that junk.
Well anyway, around Christmas time in 2012 he told me his Grandad died (he loved him, he looked to him as a father I guess). It really got to the poor guy, he was just bawling every time we got on the phone, it made me so sick to think of him crying all alone in his room all the time. :(
I kept comforting him...but a week after that my parents found our conversations, and thought it was bad for me to be so close to someone online. So...they took my phone. The next time I was able to try and talk to him again, he told me he hated me, he was convinced that I had abandoned him. :( I still haven't ever been able to get in touch with him again.
Anyway, that really messed me up, I've been depressed ever since. I never told anyone how I felt, was too shy to tell my parents.... I felt guilty, and I worried about him SO MUCH...it made me really depressed, made me think of...well you know. Anyway....I've tried to move on, and I really really have (I don't cry about him all the time now), but it's just made me a nervous wreck for getting back into a relationship.
WHICH brings me to my point. For a few weeks now I've been talking to someone on Facebook, and I've kind of got a crush on him. (My parents would be sooooo upset if they knew, they're not against me being gay, but they don't want me in online relationships at all.) He is just soooo sweet to me, but not in a way like he's taking advantage of me, he's just nice. He's also bi, but has a bf already. He even told me that if he was single, he likes me a little bit...but what do I do? He knows about Noah...but I'm just really scared about this situation, I don't want to make a mistake and do something stupid.
I'm sorry for all this, and I'm sorry if it annoyed anyone, I just don't know what to do right now. :( I'm really scared putting all this out in the open, it's been a terrible part of my life, but I've made some serious strides in overcoming it. So....I'm asking anyone out there for some advice.

Oh, and I'd like to thank @Odnmore for the immense amount of courage and confidence he's given me, he's helped me through this more than anyone ever has.
 
ITCC_Andrew
"I miss talking"
"So do I, but I'm at work until 5:45ish. I'll talk to you then."
"Deal"

I kept my end. She didn't really keep hers.
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Probably sleeping or something, if she contacts you just listen to her story and be her friend. Don't fall on any "trap" :lol:

@Rhykus Finlay hey everyone is welcomed in this thread you dont annoy anyone. I dont know much about relationship and all but i think just go for it, dont be afraid of mistakes but instead, learn from it. You're lucky you can find someone new who likes you so i say take the chances.
 
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