The Love Therapy Thread

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Yup, that's a great post. I can kind of see some myself in some of that post, without the major health issues. I was pretty mature for my age, reasonably intelligent, I had a some pretty well formulated opinions, and I knew it.

That said, If I look back even just 4 years, I was so naive back then and even things I thought I understood well, I understand so much more now. Experience is so vitally important, is it sad that I am excited about how much I can learn over the next few years? :crazy:
 
I have a crush on Emma Watson.. Since I kinda worked with her for a week...

Fix'd for my context. Damn she was fine.


Oh and tlowr4, couldn't you have chosen a better colour to express your oh so naive views with?
 
Fryz' post deserves to be read, not just by the youngin(s), but by anybody 👍

It reminds me of how much I remember changing after just a year of university. My roommate was a year older, but was also just starting, and I clearly remember him telling me to honestly evaluate myself and my personal beliefs, and stances on what I deemed important. My thoughts on love, relationships, success, etc etc. He asked if I thought I'd change any of them during life. Like any head-strong 18 year-old, I stood firm that my comparatively black-and-white, idealistic views on life would be with me for life. Only a year later, he asked me again, and I laughed and admitted that he was right; I would change. What you know about life at 13 is only a fraction of what you will in a few years, especially about things as utterly complicated as love. And especially if your idea of love is an actress in a movie you watched. Life is so many nuanced shades of gray.

Oh, and to stick to the non-serious, joking manner of a good chunk of this thread: should someone be warning this Anna Sophia girl's agent?!
 
I just can't believe that after post after post telling us that he "knew it all", was "more mature than the other kids", and that "age doesn't matter", he confesses to loving a celebrity. Like come on man, seriously. A celebrity crush and you're saying it's love? Uggh.


Edit: quick google search reveals she will be 17 in a month. :rolleyes:
 
Oh and tlowr4, couldn't you have chosen a better colour to express your oh so naive views with?

And it is Comic Sans. Maybe he is a top tier troll?

That aside, Fryz story is a read anyone should have, regardless. And an excellent example of how much one's view changes with experience, regardless.

Virtually everyone wants to think they are quite unique and different, and they know better. Fact is, virtually no-one actually days. Sure, my parents died when I was younger and that changed my view quite a bit, but I certainly did not understand how this world worked, at all. I still don't, but I have a much better idea than I did even 3 years ago.

Basically, tlowr4, you are more or less reinforcing the point we've all been trying to make. Constantly arguing that you are not "the usual" and then making the same arguments that we all made at that age. Learn some humility, then perhaps will take you more seriously.

Also, using Comic Sans more or less reinforces you're naivety, and that font color. Yes, no one else is using those, but there is a reason.
 
Hell - first year here at uni has taught me heaps. I laugh at myself a year ago from now...

Not as much as some would, but wow - learning curves everywhere..
 
I was honestly going to keep trolling and posting sarcastic comments for my enjoyment but for some reason I felt compelled to type at least one post in hope that you (tlowr4) would read it and maybe learn something.

Ok, I'm listening.

When I was 13 I thought I was different. I thought I understood life and its experiences, I thought I understood mortality, and I thought barely anyone could tell me something that I already didn’t know. If they did then they didn’t understand and didn’t realize that I was different. Why did I think that?
I'm with you there.

Well for starters I was/am (debateable :lol: ) quite smart and in fact I skipped a grade at school. I never had any issues learning and I could grasp new concepts easily and could think outside the box. Study for me was reading the formulas or a few dot points on a subject.
See here's the thing. I'm exactly the same as that. But if I say it, then everyone turns around and calls me gloating and attention seeking, just because i've got an IQ 50 points higher than the average bear.

Throw in the fact that by 13 I have experienced 5 open heart surgeries and a pacemaker. My most recent surgery as 12yrs went from being a 3 day experience installing a pacemaker to the night before being informed they have to cut open the whole chest again and this means split rib cage and months of rehabilitation. No worries I thought, I had already done that at 4 and 9. However unlike previous visits which lasted about a week and half in hospital with no real complications, I got 3 lots of chest infections and spent 9 weeks in and out of hospital on antibiotics so harsh that my veins collapsed every few hours and I was constantly getting new drips inserted all up my wrists on both arms. The pain from this is something I can still remember.
*gasp*.....Holy 🤬.....holy 🤬....Holy 🤬. My god. Oh gee...ehh...ok I was with you until now but, wow. I'm so sorry. I've never had anything that severer wrong. Sure I'll have arthritis like I'm 80 by the time I'm 32 (had a big bike accident, neck, back, and every other joint in my body has been creaking and groaning ever since) but open heart surgery. I'm so sorry.

Another fun memory was watching the doctor cut open a few layers of my scar on my chest with his scalpel to remove the puss build up under the skin. So at the mighty old age of 13 I had faced the odds and survived not once but a good 5 times, and not just as a baby either, recent and real. For the sake of this I will also add I had yet another open heart at 14, again cut down the middle and splitting all my ribs, only this time I was fortunate enough to get out with no troubles (other than getting my lungs back and healing my ribs). I could sit here and bring up tons of pity stories about being teased because I was smallest / weakest and due to my heart I was useless at any sport etc etc, but I won’t, just know that they exist.
I know exactly what you mean. I was always useless at sport, never one anything. But I always said, "Right well I did my best, had a go. I'm happy."

Anyway with my life experiences and a high level of adult interaction throughout my life (it was easier for me to talk to adults than kids) I thought I knew everything about life and its experiences. I had faced death, I had gone into theatre not knowing if I would come back, been very sick and lived to tell the tale. While my friends worried about useless crap (which I can’t even remember) I had other more pressing issues.
I can relate to that too. I may not have faced death myself, but my mother has. As I was constantly in hospitals with moms illness, and have spoken to people (particularly about medical issues) to others that the doctors don't understand themselves. I always found that kids my own age were too difficult to follow. Their imagination ran wild, and that was nice to see, I just found it easier to speak with adults, and children 3-4 grades higher than me.

So getting to my point... Just like you I think I’m different, Just like you I’ve had my fair share of “issues” and I don’t know about you (I don’t know you enough) but I was smarter than 95% of my peers, not me bragging just outright facts when it came to the tests. So with all that in mind I had to be different right? I understood so much... I had been through so much. How could anyone possible tell me something I didn’t know when it came to that? HOWEVER what I knew back then is nothing compared to what I know now 9 years later, hell even 4yrs ago is a massive difference in life experiences, even 1yr ago. While your talking about Love and I’m talking about life experiences in general, they are both the same. My perception on everything is far better now than 9 yrs ago and I’m willing to bet as I experience more and more in my life that in 10yrs time it would be even greater again. Chances are someone who has already lived for 30 – 35yrs who is half intelligent would have plenty of things to teach me. Maybe not in some areas but I can certainly bet in others. So when you have someone who is 30 – 40’s married with kids for many years talking to you about love, you would be so ignorant to ignore such obvious experience.
Yeah, now I see it. That's the thing though. If I tell everyone these things, then they immediately think I'm bragging, and seeking attention. But I see your point now. I see everyone's point.

This is something I learned a few years back after talking to someone similar to me both in intellect and in health (he had a double lung transplant and has CF) but unlike me he was 56yrs old. The wisdom and experience this man has. The stories, so many things I thought I knew that he just laughed at and proceeded to give me real experienced advice on why I was either wrong, or why I was missing something. Honestly if you don’t listen or value other people’s opinions especially when they have been through similar you’re just being arrogant and you’re hurting your development. As soon as you realize this, you can learn from other people’s mistakes and not need to make so many yourself.
Yeah. See here's a little trivia for you. I've got this set of rules. There's 41 in the list, and I've been contridicting them by not listening to other people.
#23 There are three kinds of men: The ones that learn by reading. The few who
learn by observation .The rest of them have to pee on the electric fence and find
out for themselves.
#24 Good judgment comes from experience, and a lot of that comes from bad

judgment.

I think I just peed on the electric fence, for the past 6 months.



Age isn’t just a number. Sure at 13 I might have been through a lot, but I was still 13, and at 13 there were things I never had to deal with and never needed to understand. Now at 22 I have my own place, I cook, clean, have a job and I STILL HAVE everything else to deal with that I had at 13. So it would be complete ignorance to think I’m not far better off now than 9yrs ago. You will look back at yourself in 9yrs and just laugh. I will look back at myself in another 9yrs and laugh at me now, but at least I know that and I’m always willing to learn and improve and acknowledge that even with everything I’ve been through, some people can still give me really valuable advice.

If you ask a question about love at 13 and someone who has been married for 20yrs answers listen. If you ask a question about love at 13 and someone who has never had a girlfriend but is 35 answers, then maybe take it with a pinch of salt. But certainly don’t go throwing out the first guys advice just because it may go against what you thought is correct, He has been married longer than your alive, he has had a bit of time to figure it out, you can’t understand how importance experience is until you have a little yourself, only by then it can be too late...

Anyway , I know it’s not the most well written posts, I was natural mathematician and quite useless at English and never bothered to properly master it, But hopefully its coherent enough to make sense and I hope even more that you can learn something from it, something I wished I learnt sooner in life.

Don't dismiss other peoples opinions/advice just because it differs from your own, you could actually be wrong.. especially if they have solid experience and facts to back it up.

Yeah, I see it all now. Thanks. Really, I think you and everyone else here has just saved me a lot of trouble. Even though I've lost my feeling for AnnaSophia, I'll still probably go meet her one day. Who knows, I might actually meet her and fall in love with her....properly. It was just a crush after all.


Fryz' post deserves to be read, not just by the youngin(s), but by anybody 👍

Oh, and to stick to the non-serious, joking manner of a good chunk of this thread: should someone be warning this Anna Sophia girl's agent?!
:lol: Ha. Ha. Ha. Very funny.

I just can't believe that after post after post telling us that he "knew it all", was "more mature than the other kids", and that "age doesn't matter", he confesses to loving a celebrity. Like come on man, seriously. A celebrity crush and you're saying it's love? Uggh.


Edit: quick google search reveals she will be 17 in a month. :rolleyes:
Please don't mock my previous feelings, please. ;). And I don't care about age. That's got nothing to do with it. I've already said I had a crush on her. I realize now it wasn't love.

And it is Comic Sans. Maybe he is a top tier troll?

That aside, Fryz story is a read anyone should have, regardless. And an excellent example of how much one's view changes with experience, regardless.

Virtually everyone wants to think they are quite unique and different, and they know better. Fact is, virtually no-one actually days. Sure, my parents died when I was younger and that changed my view quite a bit, but I certainly did not understand how this world worked, at all. I still don't, but I have a much better idea than I did even 3 years ago.

Basically, tlowr4, you are more or less reinforcing the point we've all been trying to make. Constantly arguing that you are not "the usual" and then making the same arguments that we all made at that age. Learn some humility, then perhaps will take you more seriously.

Also, using Comic Sans more or less reinforces you're naivety, and that font color. Yes, no one else is using those, but there is a reason.
Okay, why does my font color have anything to do with this. :lol: I like Comic Sans. I like the Maroon color. Big deal. :lol:



In concluding post, I'd like to apologize for my ignorance, and arrogance towards this subject. I realize now that my feelings for AnnaSophia were just a crush, and with that I got myself beaten up over it all. I'd like to thank-you all for helping me realize about my feelings. I was a real ass-hole. For all anyone knows, when I'm touring in the states, I'm libel to run across her. Like I said earlier in the post, who knows, I might actually fall for her again......but the proper way then. I'm really truly sorry if I screwed up some peoples own thoughts, feelings and whatever else I might have stuffed up. But thanks guys, really.....thanks. :)
 
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Ok, I'm listening.

Are you really?

See here's the thing. I'm exactly the same as that. But if I say it, then everyone turns around and calls me gloating and attention seeking, just because i've got an IQ 50 points higher than the average bear.

You are attention seeking if you are talking about your IQ to people at 13. I've made no mention of my IQ for years because it doesn't really matter and it really is just attention seeking.

Also, I must question that comment on your IQ anyhow because...

I like Comic Sans.

Yeah...
 
Are you really?
Yes.

You are attention seeking if you are talking about your IQ to people at 13. I've made no mention of my IQ for years because it doesn't really matter and it really is just attention seeking.
Well that's not nice. I prefer people not thinking I'm due a trip to the special ed class, but I really hate gloating about stuff. My grand mother tells everyone and everything, and I really don't like it..

Also, I must question that comment on your IQ anyhow because...

Yeah...

And what's that supposed to mean?
:lol:
 

Well that's not nice. I prefer people not thinking I'm due a trip to the special ed class, but I really hate gloating about stuff. My grand mother tells everyone and everything, and I really don't like it..


People will think that based on how you act, not on numbers you tell them. Telling them you are smart only makes you look like a pompous ass.



And what's that supposed to mean?
:lol:

The fact you don't get this clearly testifies to your lack of experience in the world.
 
See here's the thing. I'm exactly the same as that. But if I say it, then everyone turns around and calls me gloating and attention seeking, just because i've got an IQ 50 points higher than the average bear.

Just to prove my point even further... Linky from when I was 15

Look how things change :dopey:
 
Just to prove my point even further... Linky from when I was 15

Look how things change :dopey:
That there, is AMAZING STUFF! You sir, need a bucket of gold for all the laughing that just came out of my mouth, you badly spelling child.

(I wasn't much better just 3 years ago).

First thread: https://www.gtplanet.net/forum/showthread.php?t=100194 (Don't laugh..please?)

First Post: https://www.gtplanet.net/forum/showthread.php?t=91834&page=2#post2811602 (When I was a graphics nazi).
 
A little late to the last discussion, but..

Cut the young 'uns a break! Experience hardens us, but it doesn't necessarily make us wise.. there are plenty of 20, 30, 40 and 50 year old that can testify to that, I'm sure.

.. now I'm going going back to my sizeable Rum on the rocks.. and listn to some Joe Bonamassa.
 
Guys, I'm having a ****ed-up situation here and need you advices and thoughts about it.

I met a girl at my school one year ago, and since then I became her best friend. Basically, she trusts me more than anyone in her family.
When we first met, she clearly wasn't the kind of girl I was looking for, by far. I would even put some distance between us, because she's the only girls in my class and the other guys would often make jokes and even try to match us together.
With time, I've learned to know her and, it's quite strange to say, but I love her.

I began questioning myself... began acting weird, losing my appetite, couldn't sleep at night because of all these thoughts. It was very noticeable, especially when other guys would flirt with her when I was near, I would either go away or look away. Basically, I was just trying to hide my feelings, because I knew it wasn't the time or the place to tell her how I felt.

One day, when driving back home, she asked me if I loved her. Caught between telling her the truth or simply saying no and keep hiding it… I said yes.

She told me “I don’t have those feeling for you, you’re too nice…” “You’re only a friend to me.”

I told her it was okay.

This is where I broke down. I still don’t understand how someone can be “too nice”.
I was raised by my mother, more than my father, so I’ve learnt to be very respectful, to listen rather than talk and have nothing to say in the end. I have my faults too: I’m shy, don’t speak a lot (mostly because I love to listen and learn).

I don’t know what to think anymore.

Now, every day that goes by at school is a pain in the ass, playing my poker face, as if everything was perfect, as if I was happy. She still talks to me, nothing has changed, but I’m dying from the inside.

I need help.
 
Okay, don't take this as something offensive, but what you're experiencing is the so-called friend zone. You've been put there long ago, and it'll be hard, if not impossible to 'escape' it ever again...

Thing is, it's quite easy to be too nice for some girls. Now, there are girls who will enjoy someone who treats them with the utmost respect and who's, generally speaking, a total gentleman. Actually, most girls somehow want that, from my experience.
However, I think that being too nice makes you, you know, boring. It's a bit strange (even to me, after having gathered a bit of experience with women), but women are like that. One part of them wants a gentleman, the other half wants an aplha male, if that makes sense. Doesn't mean you have to act like a brute, but, as far as I can tell, you still have tobe able to leave somewhat of an impression.

The ultra-friendly guys are the ones girls want as best friends, but it's the macho guys they want to get intimate with. Again, that's just from my experience... But, as far as I am concerned, it's how a relationship works, or rather, what makes a girl take interest in you:
Being enough of a macho to get her heart pounding, enough of a nice guy to make her feel comfortable.

Now, as for actual advise... That's a bit tough. Acting all macho-like now will only make you look like you're trying to get her to like you, I'd think. In my opinion, your best bet would be to be pretty straight forward. You know, telling her that it really ticks you off to see her flirting with other guys and that you're sure as hell are not going to put up with that kind of stuff.

Don't try to act like everything's okay and don't keep up with that poker face thing. Won't work, for sure. You won't get her to love you that way and you're not going to get rid of the feelings.
Just, don't stay silent. First of, showing some balls might show her that you're not only the (sorry for saying it) boring Mr. Nice Guy she knows and change her mind a bit. Not likely, but possible. More importantly though, you'll get that stuff off your chest, which will help a bit in and off itself.
On the other hand, your friendship might as well go down the drain by doing so, but that's probably for the better. Having her around as just a mere friend isn't going to make you feel any better. Quite the opposite, it'll only make you feel worse.

To be completely blunt, just tell her to get lost (easier said than done, I know, but, still) if she only wants you as a friend. You changed your mind about her and you're not going to put up with being in the friend zone.
 
As Luminis says, you've strayed into the friend zone. Trying to act any further on this isn't going to get you any closer to her, and in all probability, it's going to drive her away. She's going to feel like you've breached her trust.

It's going to be difficult, but while you're friends, she's pretty much going to be off-limits. She trusts you and opens up to you. I don't know how far along the route she is now, but it's easy for girls who open up to boys in that way can feel deceived that they've told you how they feel about people and you've not told her how you feel.

Bottom line is, women don't want good guys, nor do they want the absolute bellends, contrary to popular belief. Women want someone they can change. You're not a boyfriend, or a husband. You're a project. The challenge of moulding you into how she wants you to be is like something out of Disney, it's an irresistable challenge. Have a bit of edge to you. Don't follow her around if you do, be a bit aloof without being hard to get. That's probably your most likely shot at a ticket out of Friendville.
 
As Luminis says, you've strayed into the friend zone. Trying to act any further on this isn't going to get you any closer to her, and in all probability, it's going to drive her away. She's going to feel like you've breached her trust.

It's going to be difficult, but while you're friends, she's pretty much going to be off-limits. She trusts you and opens up to you. I don't know how far along the route she is now, but it's easy for girls who open up to boys in that way can feel deceived that they've told you how they feel about people and you've not told her how you feel.

Bottom line is, women don't want good guys, nor do they want the absolute bellends, contrary to popular belief. Women want someone they can change. You're not a boyfriend, or a husband. You're a project. The challenge of moulding you into how she wants you to be is like something out of Disney, it's an irresistable challenge. Have a bit of edge to you. Don't follow her around if you do, be a bit aloof without being hard to get. That's probably your most likely shot at a ticket out of Friendville.

NickysLuckies, take this gold and cash in at the nearest gold exchange. This post ^^ is awesome.

I don't know how much experience you have with females, or how old you are, but i'll tell you a bit of what i've learned from my personal experiences.

It's your life so you should be doing things to better yourself or your situation and to set yourself up for an awesome life ahead. Women come and go, but you're stuck with your life situation for a long, long time - don't get distracted by them to the point that you are neglecting yourself and your friends.
Think of women as a supplement to your lifestyle - sure you may have to compromise a bit to fit them in, but if you make your intentions clear early things usually run smoothly. Ultimately don't let her control you - If you say you're out with the boys tonight, you most definately ARE out with the boys tonight. Don't try to control her, support her in whatever she does - If she knows what you expect of her she will behave accordingly and this will allow you total trust in her - If not this is NOT the girl you have been looking for.

I see too many guys trying to impress girls, or allowing the girl to rule them and dictate when they can do what and with who - not cool. You have the power over your life, so use it well. If you are true on your path and go for what you want with everything you have, women will be drawn into you automatically, as they can see that you have a defined purpose and stability in a pretty uncertain world.

A few other things i've noticed -

Girls seem to use funny little tests to figure you out. If you keep your cool, you have passed. If you pass one test, more will still come, but passing the first makes it likely you will pass everything she can throw at you.

An example of a test -

True story. I was waiting on a cute blonde (had been seeing her for a few months previous) in a semi-swanky cafe - she knew what time we were meeting there, and to contact me if anything went wrong, and as the time ticked by I was getting a little frustrated. By now she was 15 minutes late and still no contact - I went outside and called her, she picked up and said she had got stuck in traffic but was on her way - she would probably take another 10 minutes to arrive.

As I was just about to hang up, I spotted a car similar to hers across the road, so went to have a closer look. Sure enough, it was hers, made evident by the fact she was still sitting in the drivers seat! :ouch: I tapped on the window and her face turned to a look of horror as I caught her playing her little games with me. She wound the window down and started frantically apologising, but this was beyond a joke and a pretty serious insult in my opinion.

I calmly reminded her about how I severely dislike poor timekeeping, as it is blatant disregard of how important my time is. I told her the date was off and left. The day after she calls me to apologise, and I tell her i'll maybe consider forgiving her. I'm busy the next couple of days (she knew this) so her calls and messages go unanswered. I get back home and ring her when I get time to check my messages - she has missed me and wants me to go over for the evening to watch a film. I go over and she is clearly expecting 'something' from me, but doesn't get it - Lesson learned? I think so!

Sorry to waffle, but this topic is HUGE. Women aren't THAT complicated but there is a lot of content to cover!
 
It's hard to break out of the friend zone, but Ogden Nash has the answer:

Candy is dandy, but liquor is quicker!
 
Most girls don't go for friendly guys because they are interested in someone who is more than a friend, this is particularly true of younger girls. After a while, some girls start to realise they don't like being with arses, and tend to value things like respect a great deal more.

In most instances, its almost impossible to get out of the friends zone, I nearly got out of the friend zone once with a girl who was my best friend, I got the chance and bottled it though, that was back in highschool. For all intents and purposes its probably worth calling it a day on this one, if she has stated she isn't interested then she probably means it (although this is not always true).

The problem with being nice, is some girls will just take advantage of you because of it, it's not always a good idea to roll over and do what they say because of it, you just have to gauge it. That doesn't mean you should act like an arse either.

Don't forget, out of nowhere you could meet someone randomly and hit it off, its not as absurd as it sounds. The girl I am currently with, we had known each other for over a year, and while friends we had never really showed any signs of being any more than that, then randomly one night we got together. Sometimes stuff like that just happens, so you don't really have to look at it as if all your eggs are in one basket that she has control over.

There's no harm in staying friends, but you might want to drift away for a bit, else it may drive you mad. Try and talk to different people, meet as man people as you can, hang out with different people, in the mean time, anything could happen. Remember constantly sharking a girl is not necessarily going to win her over, even if you do everything for her. Afterall, why does she need you as a boyfriend if you do everything for her already as a friend?
 
Re the above situation with friend zoning:

I found this was only the case untill I was 16 yrs old i.e. friendzoning, once above this age were I had my drivers licence I pretty much told every girl I used to hang with my feelings for them straight up, got the same answers of "your just a friend" etc. So Basically stopped hanging around them all and just stuck with my bro's.

A few years passed and I had heard that most of the girls I used to hang with were constantly in & out of relationship's and werent to happy with the direction there life was going in, Generally hooking up with deadbeat guys and such, Every time I would bump into one of them out & about somewhere it would be as if there face would light up & they would try & hook up with me even though they knew I had a gf. This was a pretty epic feeling at the time. I stayed strong and shunned them away and they were cut, cut hard. The day I got engaged to be married most likely burned them the hardest.

Moral of the story: dont bother befriending chick's just try go for the sex or nothing, if you think you have found a nice girl just try hang with her for a bit first but make sure you let her know early on what your looking for.
 
Every time I would bump into one of them out & about somewhere it would be as if there face would light up & they would try & hook up with me even though they knew I had a gf. This was a pretty epic feeling at the time. I stayed strong and shunned them away and they were cut, cut hard. The day I got engaged to be married most likely burned them the hardest.

No offense, but I seriously laughed out loud on this one. Wow.
 
Okay, don't take this as something offensive, but what you're experiencing is the so-called friend zone. You've been put there long ago, and it'll be hard, if not impossible to 'escape' it ever again...

Thing is, it's quite easy to be too nice for some girls. Now, there are girls who will enjoy someone who treats them with the utmost respect and who's, generally speaking, a total gentleman. Actually, most girls somehow want that, from my experience.
However, I think that being too nice makes you, you know, boring. It's a bit strange (even to me, after having gathered a bit of experience with women), but women are like that. One part of them wants a gentleman, the other half wants an aplha male, if that makes sense. Doesn't mean you have to act like a brute, but, as far as I can tell, you still have tobe able to leave somewhat of an impression.

The ultra-friendly guys are the ones girls want as best friends, but it's the macho guys they want to get intimate with. Again, that's just from my experience... But, as far as I am concerned, it's how a relationship works, or rather, what makes a girl take interest in you:
Being enough of a macho to get her heart pounding, enough of a nice guy to make her feel comfortable.

Now, as for actual advise... That's a bit tough. Acting all macho-like now will only make you look like you're trying to get her to like you, I'd think. In my opinion, your best bet would be to be pretty straight forward. You know, telling her that it really ticks you off to see her flirting with other guys and that you're sure as hell are not going to put up with that kind of stuff.

Don't try to act like everything's okay and don't keep up with that poker face thing. Won't work, for sure. You won't get her to love you that way and you're not going to get rid of the feelings.
Just, don't stay silent. First of, showing some balls might show her that you're not only the (sorry for saying it) boring Mr. Nice Guy she knows and change her mind a bit. Not likely, but possible. More importantly though, you'll get that stuff off your chest, which will help a bit in and off itself.
On the other hand, your friendship might as well go down the drain by doing so, but that's probably for the better. Having her around as just a mere friend isn't going to make you feel any better. Quite the opposite, it'll only make you feel worse.

To be completely blunt, just tell her to get lost (easier said than done, I know, but, still) if she only wants you as a friend. You changed your mind about her and you're not going to put up with being in the friend zone.

I'm 14. What you said is what I am very slowly learning :(. I agree with the get lost thing. If the feelings are true then they will stick around longer and being close but just friends will amplify this. What I do in this situation is look for other fish in the sea. I think men know as much about women as women know about men.
 
A few years passed and I had heard that most of the girls I used to hang with were constantly in & out of relationship's and werent to happy with the direction there life was going in, Generally hooking up with deadbeat guys and such, Every time I would bump into one of them out & about somewhere it would be as if there face would light up & they would try & hook up with me even though they knew I had a gf. This was a pretty epic feeling at the time. I stayed strong and shunned them away and they were cut, cut hard. The day I got engaged to be married most likely burned them the hardest.

That right there is why they acted interested, not because you were nice.

My motto is, if you want to be with lots of girls, get a girlfriend. Proven fact that you act differently and girls act differently towards you when you're in a relationship. I can agree from experience, although I won't go into detail as its not something to be proud of.
 
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