I feel like I'm going to be a lonely old man. I try to go out and talk to women, but I end up meeting women I am not into or women who are not into me. I don't think I have a self esteem problem. I like myself. I think I am a cool guy. I have friends. My friends are real people. Maybe I just need to be more patient and stop trying so hard to be in a relationship with a girl.
I don't want to come off as some therapist,
hogger - and I usually leave well enough alone with those who need it. But, your post caught my eye because of a very important sentence in there:
This is a vital secret of success. Many people don't like themselves; a malady which makes them continually hunt the admiration and accolades of others. They may fool themselves that they actually like themselves - but it is usually a shabby disguise for terrible insecurity (which expresses itself then in the continual put-down of others they perceive as 'lesser' than they are.) In reality, they despise what they are, ego boosted only by some kind of domination. School bullies are a fine example of this. Sometimes this is a carryover from being bullied themselves at one time or another.
But, stop, for a moment, cool guy, and ask yourself: what would a woman give you that you don't already have? You have friends, you have confidence, you have a life to be enjoyed. Maybe what you
think a woman is going to give you is not what you are going to get after all.
As well - many woman are as uncomfortable in a man's presence, as you may be in theirs.
Some tips on catching their eye? Catch their eye. Smile. Nod. Sometimes not a word needs be said - and a comfortable rapport can be built up. All you have to send is the signal -"I understand you - and will not hurt you. I'm on your side. I'm just a harmless guy. There's nothing I want from you but to hear you laugh."
These are messages that women intuitively receive and understand.
There is only one problem with that whole scenario - as I said in the beginning. What you want is what you may not get. A woman-less life is not all that bad (in the same way that a woman-filled life can be hell.) While a conjugal partnership has its joys, there are many obligations in a partnership - and sometimes without them life is a lot easier. The choice, eventually, is yours. Not what society wants it to be.
I share a drink with you - from a google electrons away (well, almost
:
Harry.
No certainly not, that's a slap in the face to police officers, which I have a few of as friends. They'd definitely get me back for that!
