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I had a sort of semi-blind date today, sat there for half an hour and then I may have slightly faked a phone call and ran away...

In my defence, the other party was a) clearly a mentalist, and b) not my type, which makes it absolutely fine.
 
/\ How tall are you dude? Taller women (usually 6'0"+) understand it might be slim pickings finding a taller guy and might be more open to it, especially if her b/f is the same or shorter height.

If I was in your shoes, I'd steal her away yesterday. You may just have to sell her on why you are better and that moment is when you need to lay it on the line and tell her you want more, be honest, confident and respectful when you do this. Three things will happen afterward; 1) She dumps him pretty quickly, 2) She says she's not interested, but now you know where you stand and she WILL respect you for what you did (EVERY woman loves to be wanted, take my word for it) or 3) She won't soon forget your conversation and realize the points you made and eventually dump him and give you an opportunity.

Just be careful, if option 2 happens to NOT change anything, the best thing to do for you mentally (again my opinion) is to act like it never happened so things don't get 'awkward'. The best cure for that? Find another girl and she'll probably jump on the idea of play matchmaker (another thing women like to do).

When looking for that other girl and you need to 'impress' her, ask her questions. Listen about what she says and ask more questions referring to her answers (thats what I call the 'golden ticket'). That will seal the deal once you get the nerve to break the ice and that...well that just takes GUTS and PRACTICE my friend :)

Jerome
 
Most of the girls I've dated have been taller then me, it's never been a problem.

Strange, Around here its pretty much social death to go out with a guy smaller than you. I was walking with a friend the other day and he points across the road and shouts 'haha bad relationship' and I asked him why and he just goes 'the girl is taller than the guy!' and I'm just like 'yeah thanks'.

/\ How tall are you dude? Taller women (usually 6'0"+) understand it might be slim pickings finding a taller guy and might be more open to it, especially if her b/f is the same or shorter height.

If I was in your shoes, I'd steal her away yesterday. You may just have to sell her on why you are better and that moment is when you need to lay it on the line and tell her you want more, be honest, confident and respectful when you do this. Three things will happen afterward; 1) She dumps him pretty quickly, 2) She says she's not interested, but now you know where you stand and she WILL respect you for what you did (EVERY woman loves to be wanted, take my word for it) or 3) She won't soon forget your conversation and realize the points you made and eventually dump him and give you an opportunity.

Just be careful, if option 2 happens to NOT change anything, the best thing to do for you mentally (again my opinion) is to act like it never happened so things don't get 'awkward'. The best cure for that? Find another girl and she'll probably jump on the idea of play matchmaker (another thing women like to do).

When looking for that other girl and you need to 'impress' her, ask her questions. Listen about what she says and ask more questions referring to her answers (thats what I call the 'golden ticket'). That will seal the deal once you get the nerve to break the ice and that...well that just takes GUTS and PRACTICE my friend :)

Jerome

Thanks for the advice, and ermm well I'm around 5'1" and she's about 5'3" I'd guess, maybe 5'4". (bear in mind I am only 16)

Pretty much everyone has realised I like her and so she must know especially after what one of my 'friends' did the other day where he flat out said to her that I liked her and it seemed like she liked me so we should get together. It was a difficult situation, if she'd have been single and without her friend (who hates me because I like her :S) I'd have said there and then that I liked her if she'd have asked. I think the problem she has with her boyfriend is that he's been given a gift with her and seems really paranoid about loosing her and a touch obsessed (e.g he sat on the edge of a window sill with his legs out telling her he was sorry and asks about any other guy she talks to (She's already told me he hates me because I talk to her more than he does). I think she's afraid he'll do something stupid if she ditches him and she'll feel responsible for it. I guess its a difficult situation for everyone here but I'll just have to see how it goes, thanks for the advice.
 
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Today is my birthday and I feel like ****. We just moved to this new town and I, being my shy self, barely have any friends to celebrate with today. BS; the same has been happening for the last 3 years.

My parents bought me a little cake today and them and my sister sung me happy birthday. For some reason, that made me feel worse. I feel bursting. At least I have them.
 
(bear in mind I am only 16)

This is the most important bit, Chris. You're only 16, relationships aren't really all that serious for a few more years yet, nor will you have much experience or knowledge. The height thing is a complete non-issue.
 
This is the most important bit, Chris. You're only 16, relationships aren't really all that serious for a few more years yet, nor will you have much experience or knowledge.

Precisely. If us males were strong-willed enough the most logical approach to females would be to simply make friends with them, like you do other males, until you hit about 30, where you can start to pursue females with the greater view to engaging in relationships and 'settling down'. Until that age, 'partner' relationships are scarcely very deep enough to warrant concern as to their development and, likewise, almost-inevitable deterioration.
 
I did it, I told her i like her. We had a private talk today and she doesn't like me the same way I like her. :(

To be honest, it feels good to have that off my chest (I mean saying it to her, not putting on GTP) and I don't feel as bad as I thought I would. I mean, sure it hurts but it's not the end of the world, and I'm not devastated or anything. I think we can actually go back to being friends without awkwardness, and it just feels relieving to be able to talk to her again without freezing up and getting nervous.

All in all, a bittersweet feeling is better than being nervous and awkward around her every time I see her.
 

Precisely. If us males were strong-willed enough the most logical approach to females would be to simply make friends with them, like you do other males, until you hit about 30, where you can start to pursue females with the greater view to engaging in relationships and 'settling down'. Until that age, 'partner' relationships are scarcely very deep enough to warrant concern as to their development and, likewise, almost-inevitable deterioration.

Nobody likes a 30 year old virgin :lol:
 
I used to steal money from my mums purse to play street fighter 2 in the local arcade :(
I stole from my own store to play Street Fighter 2: Turbo which was in my own store.
Does it really matter if your a virgin or not?
 
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Does it really matter if your a virgin or not?

Generally, the people who care most about the whole virginity thing haven't lost it yet. So I've found, anyway. For me it holds about as much emotional weight as my first ever Nandos - it's something that could have happened earlier or later than it did (or indeed could never have happened if that's your choice), but in the end it's not something that it's worth dwelling on too heavily. There's plenty more peri-peri chicken to come. Or something.
 
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Generally, the people who care most about the whole virginity thing haven't lost it yet. So I've found, anyway.
To be honest, I haven't lost it. I found out being a dad is hard and when that time came when I almost lost it. I choose not to do it or probably not the right girl to lose it to.
 
Generally, the people who care most about the whole virginity thing haven't lost it yet. So I've found, anyway. For me it holds about as much emotional weight as my first ever Nandos - it's something that could have happened earlier or later than it did (or indeed could never have happened if that's your choice), but in the end it's not something that it's worth dwelling on too heavily. There's plenty more peri-peri chicken to come. Or something.
^This.

And regardless of what people say, it is true that around the half the people who say they lost theirs in high school are full of it. And most of the other half never realized they weren't the "Best Dude Ever!" when it came to it.

I didn't lose mine until I was in Europe with Jen., mainly because I was in a different part of the world & didn't care much about losing it to someone I may never see again. In the US, I would have thought twice & wanted a relationship first. Luckily, I got one afterwards for a few years until a couple months ago.
 
I think my brother is turning into a "hikikomori". I have reasonable fears that he either turns properly insane, suicides or gets taken away my Social Services. And he isn't 16 yet. I'm NOT joking.
 

Precisely. If us males were strong-willed enough the most logical approach to females would be to simply make friends with them, like you do other males, until you hit about 30, where you can start to pursue females with the greater view to engaging in relationships and 'settling down'. Until that age, 'partner' relationships are scarcely very deep enough to warrant concern as to their development and, likewise, almost-inevitable deterioration.

30!?

What are you talking about?

Countless amount of people have children before they reach 30. Its a subject that is difficult to generalise about. You can have a deep meaningful relationship at 16 or 60. While I would agree that most 16 year old relationships break down within a relatively short time frame, people do meet in highschool and go on to marry and have children yada yada.

Why you shouldn't see females more as friends until you're 30 is beyond me. Being in a relationship doesn't necessarily mean you should be ready to settle down, a relationship doesn't need to be sustainable to be valuable. Trying and failing is fun (although it may seem heart breaking at the time), is something to look back on and laugh at, its something to learn from.
 
Since there are some older guys around here, I think that you might give me some advice in the weird situation I'm facing.

I have a great friend, we studied together all the way until the 8th grade, we're good friends and often meet up when he's near my town. He lives almost 250miles away from me. To clear things up, my question has nothing to do with the guy, but with his girlfriend.

I'm not exactly a preacher, I like older women, and I have to confess that I did take on some married women too. That makes me a jerk? Yeah, but this is isn't the question either.

Since he lives far away(it was february since he came around from the last time), his girlfriend is all alone, and since me and Pedro( fictional name) are friends, I'm quite friendly of his girlfriend too. ( let's call her Carla, hmm, I love Carlas...)

She is giving me all the possibilities to have sex with her, and without letting him know, she gave me all the clues and all the hints to do it. I'm in position, I'm ready, I just recovered from my last disastrous relationship and I'm eager to give her a proper 🤬 that she will never forget. C'mon, She said it to me, not with all words, but she just said it. :trouble:

Doing the thing, I'll feel like betraying my friend. However, it's just dumb of him to leave his sweetheart for months, women demands men, this is biological. So, I honestly think that another men already watered the plants while he is out...if you're getting what I'm saying in my crappy english.

So, I'm a complete s.o.b. jerk for wanting his girl ( she's a hottie, by the way)? Or he's doing it totally wrong and I should take on her without hesitating?

I never faced this situation before, a friend's girl is like a man to me.

Advice?
 
I think my brother is turning into a "hikikomori". I have reasonable fears that he either turns properly insane, suicides or gets taken away my Social Services. And he isn't 16 yet. I'm NOT joking.
1. Where are your parents
2. Why are you using a Japanese term?
3.Can you be more in-depth than referring it to a anime.
Since there are some older guys around here, I think that you might give me some advice in the weird situation I'm facing.

I have a great friend, we studied together all the way until the 8th grade, we're good friends and often meet up when he's near my town. He lives almost 250miles away from me. To clear things up, my question has nothing to do with the guy, but with his girlfriend.

I'm not exactly a preacher, I like older women, and I have to confess that I did take on some married women too. That makes me a jerk? Yeah, but this is isn't the question either.

Since he lives far away(it was february since he came around from the last time), his girlfriend is all alone, and since me and Pedro( fictional name) are friends, I'm quite friendly of his girlfriend too. ( let's call her Carla, hmm, I love Carlas...)

She is giving me all the possibilities to have sex with her, and without letting him know, she gave me all the clues and all the hints to do it. I'm in position, I'm ready, I just recovered from my last disastrous relationship and I'm eager to give her a proper that she will never forget. C'mon, She said it to me, not with all words, but she just said it.

Doing the thing, I'll feel like betraying my friend. However, it's just dumb of him to leave his sweetheart for months, women demands men, this is biological. So, I honestly think that another men already watered the plants while he is out...if you're getting what I'm saying in my crappy english.

So, I'm a complete s.o.b. jerk for wanting his girl ( she's a hottie, by the way)? Or he's doing it totally wrong and I should take on her without hesitating?

I never faced this situation before, a friend's girl is like a man to me.

Advice?
Is your friend in the military? IF you can live with the fact that broke your friends trust on that it. But it usually ends up bad between friends.
 
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Dan_ that's low man, surely there are plenty of eligible bachelorettes out there without going behind your friend's back. At least make her split with him or something. Bro's before Ho's!

We all know what it's like to have strong feelings for a particular girl. There's no one you could get with who would be as much what you wanted, but I have an unwritten law with my friends that I / we don't touch girls another bro likes never mind is going out with. Whoever calls it first etc.
 
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Depends heavily on the bros and hos, and of course the person making the decision.
 
Since there are some older guys around here, I think that you might give me some advice in the weird situation I'm facing.

I have a great friend, we studied together all the way until the 8th grade, we're good friends and often meet up when he's near my town. He lives almost 250miles away from me. To clear things up, my question has nothing to do with the guy, but with his girlfriend.

I'm not exactly a preacher, I like older women, and I have to confess that I did take on some married women too. That makes me a jerk? Yeah, but this is isn't the question either.

Since he lives far away(it was february since he came around from the last time), his girlfriend is all alone, and since me and Pedro( fictional name) are friends, I'm quite friendly of his girlfriend too. ( let's call her Carla, hmm, I love Carlas...)

She is giving me all the possibilities to have sex with her, and without letting him know, she gave me all the clues and all the hints to do it. I'm in position, I'm ready, I just recovered from my last disastrous relationship and I'm eager to give her a proper 🤬 that she will never forget. C'mon, She said it to me, not with all words, but she just said it. :trouble:

Doing the thing, I'll feel like betraying my friend. However, it's just dumb of him to leave his sweetheart for months, women demands men, this is biological. So, I honestly think that another men already watered the plants while he is out...if you're getting what I'm saying in my crappy english.

So, I'm a complete s.o.b. jerk for wanting his girl ( she's a hottie, by the way)? Or he's doing it totally wrong and I should take on her without hesitating?

I never faced this situation before, a friend's girl is like a man to me.

Advice?
Why don't you PM Keef & ask him how this situation worked out for him.

Give you a clue. The girl didn't stay long.
 
So, I'm a complete s.o.b. jerk for wanting his girl ( she's a hottie, by the way)? Or he's doing it totally wrong and I should take on her without hesitating?

Advice?

Get on it like a car bonnet.

Nah just kidding that's something a jerk would do. Don't.
 
We all know what it's like to have strong feelings for a particular girl. There's no one you could get with who would be as much what you wanted, but I have an unwritten law with my friends that I / we don't touch girls another bro likes never mind is going out with. Whoever calls it first etc.

I follow these lines too, however there are some differences in this particular situation, I have NO feelings for her, actually, I'm love with her body, nothing more, nothing less. That's why my only concern is this situation, is my friend.

Is your friend in the military? IF you can live with the fact that broke your friends trust on that it. But it usually ends up bad between friends.

Classic, honestly I don't want to lose his friendship, he took me out of some really bad situations and I did the same for him when we're teens. No, he's an engineer, so I'm quite safe in this matter.

Why don't you PM Keef & ask him how this situation worked out for him.

Give you a clue. The girl didn't stay long.

I don't give a penny for the girl, It's pure physical attraction, once it's done, it's done(done half-dozen of times) and then we'll move on. Of course that there are many other girls available ( countless ), but my instincts are demanding a proper 🤬 in this chick, like we say around here: I just can't let her pass.

Get on it like a car bonnet.

Nah just kidding that's something a jerk would do. Don't.

Don't associate cars and women, I like both. :D

Well, to get things worse, I posted my question here and went from work to home, I was at home at night taking a shower when my mobile ringed, guess who was calling? Obviously Carla, inviting me for "some random conversation", Saturday at a bar, little hint, the bar is known as a dating spot. Basically, she wants me to drink and then have a "conversation" after that. I said I would have to check my schedule, since I'm quite busy with my work, of course I was lying, since I never work in weekends, but I'll say no.

As you guys pointed, it's quite easy to spot a hottie, but quite hard to find a good friend. Also, they might break up in the next time he comes around, I'm quite sure he knows that she have been meeting other men for a long time. After that, the road will be totally free and I'll put my piston to blow fuel in her cylinders.
 
If you do it, don't go to the Police because he's coming to kick your ass and you won't take responsibility for your actions.

That's all I gotta say.
 
I don't give a penny for the girl, It's pure physical attraction, once it's done, it's done(done half-dozen of times) and then we'll move on. Of course that there are many other girls available ( countless ), but my instincts are demanding a proper 🤬 in this chick, like we say around here: I just can't let her pass.
That's easy to say when you're not the boyfriend 250 miles away thinking he's in a good relationship not knowing his friend & GF are having sex & believe doing it once (or 6 times as you put it) will have no effect.


Your friendship with this guy obviously doesn't mean much to you if you really believe you & her can 🤬 and then move on with no consequences. Once he finds out, he's coming to kick your ass regardless of whether or not you have feelings for her. All he's going to see if a friend who banged his G/F behind his back & want revenge.
 
I was replying to the thread, when the battery in my notebook just died... :mad:

Anyway, I had a instant message conversation with him a couple of hours ago, we talked about everything, work, life, women, and then I phoned him.

He said he's happy and enjoying life (read: banging other chicks...), but he still miss her and will be back to São Paulo in the next month to spend two or three weeks with her and his family. Strange love? I think so.

Talking with him made me realize that we are still friends, not like before but, regardless, he is betraying her and she is doing the same, so I won't get involved in such filthy situation. Probably, he's going to realize what a 🤬 she is, and she will see that he's not an archangel. He's a jerk.

After all, I'll probably be capable of keeping our friendship, but what makes me nuts is, she knew since the last week that he was coming. Then she started to try something with me, so yep, she is a complete 🤬, or maybe she is unhappy with the relationship, but isn't mature enough to break with him. Whatever, I won't be used as the final blow to finish the relationship, which was probably her intention to me. Yeah, a nice pair of breasts can fool any man. My bad.

Lesson learned.
 
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