Depression, what to do?

[halfracedrift]

Well, my friend is in a pretty.. "depressed" mood right now...
any advice? she's a really good friend.. kinda like her too... so..yeah...
help plz

 

[Belda_Da_Hun]

Originally posted by halfracedrift
Well, my friend is in a pretty.. "depressed" mood right now...
any advice? she's a really good friend.. kinda like her too... so..yeah...
help plz

before i give advice, are you the one who is depressed? i wanna make sure you not just saying she so nobody knows that its you.

 

[Pupik]

f you like her, listen to her talk. Well, just listen. Sometimes, that's all a woman wants. If it's not a commited realtionship, you can probably get by staring at the stars or a nice looking car...or even her whilist not paying more than 1% attention.

 

[halfracedrift]

i'm not the one that's depressed
she is, cuz she likes someone that's my friend
and she feels bad right now cuz he sorta..... turned her down i guess?

 

[Belda_Da_Hun]

of its from a relationship, sorry can't help ya there

 

[halfracedrift]

Originally posted by Belda_Da_Hun
of its from a relationship, sorry can't help ya there

now i'm confused
what do you mean by "of it's from a relationship"

 

[Belda_Da_Hun]

ignore my fast typeing errors

 

[rjensen11]

my support>
don't make a move on her, yet....
Just be there for support and a friend, don't try to take things into your own hands.

 

[halfracedrift]

ok rjensen... thanks for the advice.. thanks 2 everyone
i'm just gonna... " be there " if she needs it.. heh

 

[Ryan2]

Yeah, my advice is to always be there as a friend for her. Try to comfort her all you can (A hug works, and since you like her it will be kind of a bonus. But be sure to ask her if she would like one, first. Heh, heh.). Someday, try taking her out to see the stars, or a sunset. (Like Pupik said.)

 

[Belda_Da_Hun]

Originally posted by Bimmerkid
Yeah, my advice is to always be there as a friend for her. Try to comfort her all you can (A hug works, and since you like her it will be kind of a bonus. But be sure to ask her if she would like one, first. Heh, heh.). Someday, try taking her out to see the stars, or a sunset. (Like Pupik said.)

bimmer your 13.... you can't possibly ever been in this situation....

 

[Blazing20]

Ouch. Getting turned down. Well I would know how that feels a million times over.

Trust me, it hurts. And depending on how much she likes/liked the guy depends on how long she'll hurt. Girls love it when guys listen to us. We need listeners. And let her know that she shouldn't be afraid to cry around you. Sometimes when we're upset, we just bottle up our emotions a lot because we might not want our friends to see us cry or how we really feel. This leads to stress, frustration, and even more "depression." The more she lets out her emotions the quicker the pain will go away. Give her comforting words and let her know you're there.

And by the way...do not try to put any moves on her until you are certain she is over this guy and feeling much better.

 

[halfracedrift]

Oooooo blazing must be an expert... not to diss you
i told one my friends i lykd her.... someone told her
so she knows
but shes like.. "ignored" it
so i guess i'll just.... wait....
>,<

 

[Blazing20]

Originally posted by halfracedrift
Oooooo blazing must be an expert... not to diss you
i told one my friends i lykd her.... someone told her
so she knows
but shes like.. "ignored" it
so i guess i'll just.... wait....
>,<

lol...nooo, I'm not an expert. My mom is, though

Heheh, mom's know all the answers to this "girl stuff." Plus she use to be a Mental Health Specialist.

Hope your friend feels better.

 

[Tercel_driver]

Bah... I can't help you on this one.

I SUCK at relationships. 👎

 

[space]

My vote goes for the "get lots of friends together, throw a big party, and do stupid things" option.

That way you can look back in and 20 years and say, "geez what a assclown I was back then"



But don't listen to me, my ideas always go incredibly wrong, like a bad teen movie.

 

[GilesGuthrie]

Space is on the right track I reckon. You should arrange a nice day for her, perhaps take her to a movie that she wants to see, and/or take her for lunch (NOT dinner).

What you're looking to do is take her mind off what is depressing her, and she'll come back to life. Obviously she must make the decision that the rejection doesn't matter after all, but it's a lot easier to do this if it's not the only think that she can think about.

Girls are (no offence Blazing20, Tatinee, Lotus350) relatively easily distracted, so you just need to think of something nice that you can enable her to do, even if you're going to hate it.

But (and I've already said this many a time here on GTP), you have to put your own desires second. If she gets even a sniff that you're interested in anything other than her mental well-being, then the whole plan will backfire.

Remember, there's a chance that she didn't go for you because she was interested in this other guy. If you come across as some horny kid who only wants to get his hand in her top, then you're gonna be in a whole world of pain.

Be nice and sympathetic, and make her a nice day. She'll really appreciate it.

 

[Blazing20]

Originally posted by GilesGuthrie
Girls are (no offence Blazing20, Tatinee, Lotus350) relatively easily distracted, so you just need to think of something nice that you can enable her to do, even if you're going to hate it.

I would have to aggree...

 

[Flerbizky]

Buy her a PS2 and a GT3 disc

On a slightly more serious not.. Just BE there....

 

[Red Eye Racer]

the last thing you wanna do is put preasure on her.. other than that,. no clue

 

[milefile]

As one who has tried it, I can tell you that "support" that hopes to exploit the vacuum you may perceive by filling it yourself will not work, even with loads of "patience." Your support/friendship must be unconditional. If it's not don't bother. But as far what to do there's been plenty of great suggestions already.

 

[halfracedrift]

wow..
See that's what I like about an online community
People are always nice to each other (excluding some people, we're not going to point out names)
You guys are always so helpful..... hehe
Anyway, I'm probably gonna see a movie w/ her when it comes out then go for a snack or something
thanks for the advice d00ds!

 

[Flerbizky]

Originally posted by halfracedrift
People are always nice to each other (excluding some people, we're not going to point out names)

Thanks... Why do you hate me so much ?.. I'm nothing like SandStorm

 

[DGB454]

Who is this SandStorm person?

 

[Flerbizky]

Originally posted by DGB454
Who is this SandStorm person?

Actually we're not quite sure. We're still trying to figure that one out ourselves....

 

[halfracedrift]

Who said i was talking to you sandstorm..
I can't really point out names, but some of those people include auto ..... haha

 

[Flerbizky]

Originally posted by halfracedrift
Who said i was talking to you sandstorm..
I can't really point out names, but some of those people include auto ..... haha

SandStorm was never here dude Re-read the posts

 

[12sec. Civic]

Do you know what depression is? It's not being sad when you miss the bus or something. Its a very serious thing that goes on for weeks.

 

[milefile]

That's why most people who have no first or second hand experience with it don't take it seriously. People think that because they woke up on the wrong side of the bed they are depressed. I'd like to see them get a ten second dose of real depression, just so they'd quit whining.

 

[Blazing20]

Originally posted by milefile
That's why most people who have no first or second hand experience with it don't take it seriously. People think that because they woke up on the wrong side of the bed they are depressed. I'd like to see them get a ten second dose of real depression, just so they'd quit whining.

That's correct. Sadness and depression are two different things. Sadness is something that would last like a day or a few days. Depression lasts for a looong time, and most people who suffer from depression need counseling or medication. It's very serious.