I need dating advice!

[Danoff]

A) It is not illegal for a 14 year old to have sex with another 14 year old.
B) She isnt interested in you right now, gotta cope and move on.
C) She sounds stupid. Think about this guy for a minute and ask yourself if you want to be with someone who would want to be with this guy.
D) Youre not in love with her man. You think shes hot, like everyone else apparently. Give me some reasons to believe that youre in love with someone youve barely spoken with.
E) Forget her. Seriously, forget her until she has broken up with this dude. Even then, you may not want to be with her given her history of choices.
F) Try to take a lesson from this. If you had just manned up 2 weeks ago and asked her out it might be you she was planning on experimenting with.
G) Another lesson to take from this - dont fall for flirty girls.

 

[TheCracker]

Thanks for that advice. Just stay out of the way, OK that would be difficult since she is in my English class, Maths class, ICT class, Life Skills class, Art class and Food Tech class. Then again, if I dont pay attention to her, it will be easy as writing a letter!

No one will tell you that it'll be easy but its something i'm sure we've all been through at some point in our lives.

 

[G.T]

Incidentally, how did you find out about the whole boyfriend/sexing thing? From her (which I would find surprising and creepy) or from one of her friends (at which point I would disregard it)?

I am curious too.

Did you actually ask her out and she told you this, or did you find out by other means (like how Famine described)?

 

[Famine]

You've got to admit that giving a girl advice on who not to sleep with when you want to sleep with her might just be seen as a conflict of interests.

At your age, you don't know what love is. Will you spoon feed her pureed goop and change her colostomy bag after she's been paralysed in a car accident? Or do you just want to walk hand-in-hand with her in soft-focus and have her tongue down your throat?

That's the difference between love and lust.

 

[VT]

I am curious too.

Did you actually ask her out and she told you this, or did you find out by other means (like how Famine described)?

I'm thinking he found out through someone else as I'm not sure many 14 year olds would be that open sexually (unless she's a .. yeah).

 

[Danoff]

One more thing. Ive totally been there man. I fell for this stupid chick when I was about your age. I thought she was the best thing on the planet - but thinking back on it I cant figure out why.

Anyway she ended up dating some loser who was like 5 years older than she was. I think at this point she has pumped out a bunch of kids and works at a gas station or something.

Actually, come to think of it, that has happened to me TWICE. I guess it took me two times to learn my lesson.

 

[VT]

Yeah I've actually been through stuff like that a couple times, I'm pretty sure most every guy has too.

Needless to say its not the end of the world. There are bigger and better fish out there.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Yeah I've actually been through stuff like that a couple times, I'm pretty sure most every guy has too.

Needless to say its not the end of the world. There are bigger and better fish out there.

This is actually really funny, and I'll tell you why. When you said about there being bigger fish out there, you aint kiding. This girl is tiny compared to me. She is below my shoulder height!

 

[VT]

Dude .. that shoulda told you something from the start. If you did end up with her you'd have serious neck problems from craning down all the time to kiss her (even on the forehead!)

 

[ExigeEvan]

A) It is not illegal for a 14 year old to have sex with another 14 year old.

Over here I'm quite sure it is. It's called "statatory rape" and it's usually the guy that takes the rumble for it. Plead guilty and you get off with a caution, I say get off with one but you get placed on the sex offenders register which can severly hinder your future.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

A) It is not illegal for a 14 year old to have sex with another 14 year old.
B) She isnt interested in you right now, gotta cope and move on.
C) She sounds stupid. Think about this guy for a minute and ask yourself if you want to be with someone who would want to be with this guy.
D) Youre not in love with her man. You think shes hot, like everyone else apparently. Give me some reasons to believe that youre in love with someone youve barely spoken with.
E) Forget her. Seriously, forget her until she has broken up with this dude. Even then, you may not want to be with her given her history of choices.
F) Try to take a lesson from this. If you had just manned up 2 weeks ago and asked her out it might be you she was planning on experimenting with.
G) Another lesson to take from this - dont fall for flirty girls.

Do you live in England. I swear on my life you have to be 18. I think this is to try to combat young teenage pregancies. But thanks for the advice, all this makes sense!

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Dude .. that shoulda told you something from the start. If you did end up with her you'd have serious neck problems from craning down all the time to kiss her (even on the forehead!)

I would'nt have serious neck problems, I would'nt have a neck at all. It would probaly fall of (along with my head)!

 

[Stevisiov]

Do you live in England. I swear on my life you have to be 18. I think this is to try to combat young teenage pregancies. But thanks for the advice, all this makes sense!

I believe it is 16 back here in Great Britain, but what Danoff said probably refared to the laws in the US

 

[xXSilencerXx]

To Skid: Just forget her there will be plenty of other girls for. And trust me once you get a girl you'll miss being single. they chew threw money so fast and get so moody that you really need to be sure you're ready for it. Seeing as you are 14 I would say you don't "need" a girl friend but if you want one just be patient and make sure you ask em out face to face. The worst they can say is no and then you move on and wait for another girl that interests you.

I simply cannot believe that worked. If you know her in real life I'd never recommend that anyone use a chatroom for anything like this.

It does work. I've had my girl for almost 17 months now. That's how I kept in touch with her because I could only see her once a week at yourth group. I had just go tmy driver's license so my parents were still not to keen on me going wherever I felt. We talked alot online and grew to know each other better. The most we said about feelign were that we liked each other alot. Eventually I knew I wanted to ask her out, so I asked her out on a date adn then asked her to be me gf. Worked out for me. Just don't ask anybody out in any way except face to face and you'll be good.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

I believe it is 16 back here in Great Britain, but what Danoff said probably refared to the laws in the US

The law in the U.S. really allows that? Hay, you know the thing about me being obbsesed with this girl, well just check out my new user title!

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Does anyone think this thread is still needed. (Please dont close it just yet)

Edit: Oh crap I serial posted. Sorry, I seem to mess things up alot latley!

 

[Famine]

The law in the U.S. really allows that? Hay, you know the thing about me being obbsesed with this girl, well just check out my new user title!

I believe that under Federal Law, a child aged between 12 and the State age of consent can have sex with a person aged not more than 4 years older than them.

In the UK, 16 is a cutoff. Below 16 and it's statutory rape.


Incidentally, I now own your life.

You didn't answer how you knew about this lass's sex life...

 

[Philly]

You lost. Game over.

Just convince yourself this is true, and that might be hard now, but if you do, you will be over her soon. I forgot about that prom chick in like 2 days. It took me I think two weeks to forget about that one I might still have a chance with.

The question isn't whether you want to forget her, it's about when. You decide. Make it hard now and it will be easy later. Be lazy now, and you will be hurting for a while.

 

[Danoff]

Do you live in England. I swear on my life you have to be 18.

Nah, US. If it is illegal in England all I can say is that that sucks. Edit: Treed by the Faminator.

This thread has been a major stroll through memory lane for me, and it reminds me of some of the most embarrassing moments of my life. I never tried to get advice for dating from anyone, so I learned all of this the hard way. I'm not sure I'd have listened even if I had gone after advice.

Every relationship I had until I met my wife fell apart because I didn't ever stop to use my head. I saw a pretty tail and I went after it. After getting into those relationships a bit it became painfully apparent that we weren't compatible at all.

With my wife I was the opposite. Early on we had a date where we basically interviewed each other.

You have to think about the type of personality you're compatible with, but until you're a little older, you may not even understand yourself well enough to answer that question - which is why so much of what you attempt right now relationship-wise is doomed to failure.

But it's part of life. Gotta learn.

My advice: Go find another girl to ask out. Preferably this week.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Nah, US. If it is illegal in England all I can say is that that sucks.

This thread has been a major stroll through memory lane for me, and it reminds me of some of the most embarrassing moments of my life. I never tried to get advice for dating from anyone, so I learned all of this the hard way. I'm not sure I'd have listened even if I had gone after advice.

Every relationship I had until I met my wife fell apart because I didn't ever stop to use my head. I saw a pretty tail and I went after it. After getting into the relationship a bit it became painfully apparent that we weren't compatible at all.

With my wife I was the opposite. Early on we had a date where we basically interviewed each other.

You have to think about the type of personality you're compatible with, but until you're a little older, you may not even understand yourself well enough to answer that question - which is why so much of what you attempt right now relationship is doomed to failure.

But it's part of life. Gotta learn.

My advice: Go find another girl to ask out. Preferably this week.

Even if I'm not intrested in them?

 

[Danoff]

Even if I'm not intrested in them?

I'm sure there's another girl you're interested in.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

You lost. Game over.

Just convince yourself this is true, and that might be hard now, but if you do, you will be over her soon. I forgot about that prom chick in like 2 days. It took me I think two weeks to forget about that one I might still have a chance with.

The question isn't whether you want to forget her, it's about when. You decide. Make it hard now and it will be easy later. Be lazy now, and you will be hurting for a while.

Oh crap. I just realised I forgot to tell you something else that happened today. It was between Me, My mate and well, guess who. Look, it might seem a bit weird to mention it now, but I just plain bloody forgot. (Is'nt unusual for me) I'm not saying this changes anything, because to be honest I just could'nt be sure!

 

[Stevisiov]

What was this thing you speak of?

 

[Danny]

You've lost me completely. :S

 

[VT]

Oh crap. I just realised I forgot to tell you something else that happened today. It was between Me, My mate and well, guess who. Look, it might seem a bit weird to mention it now, but I just plain bloody forgot. (Is'nt unusual for me) I'm not saying this changes anything, because to be honest I just could'nt be sure!

You know you can't just say that and not tell. You are now obliged to tell.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Well, first of, sorry I forgot, I was just so desprate to get some good advice on this that I plain fodayrgot. Well, in English today, we went down to one of the computer room's because we needed to do some coursework. So I sit down by a computer, and tun it on. Meanwhile my mate, sat next to her. So they start talking, whilst I was doing what we were supposed to, dong my work. Anyway, I get a bit worried that he is chatting her up, so I quietly tell the teacher that he is talking and not doing his work. So the teacher goes up to him and tells him to get on with his work. So he carry's on with his work. A few minutes later, I turn around to look at this girl, and she just happens to be looking at me as well, so I smile at her. She had her hand over her mouth, but I know she smiled back. So I turned around and carried on with my work. A few minutes later, I heard her laughing, so I turned around, and guess what, she was laughing at me. But I'm really not sure if this was in a good or bad way. So I just smile at her, and go back to my work. A few minutes later the same thing happens again, so I turn around to look at her. But was feed up with just smiling and shrugging it off. So I start making hand jesuters to my mate, as if I was trying to say why is she laughing at me, but he could'nt tell that was what I was trying to say. She saw me making these hand jestures, and I guess she did'nt know what I meant either. Nothing else like this happened after. And by the way, this was last lesson. I had already found out about the boyfreind thing.

PS: Sorry I took so long to post this. I was trying to eat dinner and do this at the same time! 👍

 

[ExigeEvan]

You snitched your mate up to the teacher for talking?


Okay everyone, go home, there's nothing you can do now.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

You snitched your mate up to the teacher for talking?


Okay everyone, go home, there's nothing you can do now.

Yeah I know that was stupid. I would'nt do it again, but what would you do. I could'nt go over to him and say ''Stop talking to her or I'll smash you face in''. I mean what would she think, that I'm an autistic manic!

 

[ExigeEvan]

Yeah I know that was stupid. I would'nt do it again, but what would you do. I could'nt go over to him and say ''Stop talking to her or I'll smash you face in''. I mean what would she think, that I'm an autistic manic!

Now at the very least she'll think you're a teacher's pet, and with abit of sense she may realise you're an extremely jealous person aswell.

Serious, you can't expect a girl to talk to no-one but you even when you're going out with them, let alone when you just fancy them.

 

[Philly]

Have you talked to him about what was going on? A good friend should always talk....

I would definitely say you should get your friends involved, on your side. Make sure they won't be likely to pick the girl you want up. Three heads are better than two. And your mate will probably know a little more about the girl, and he can go up and talk to her.

Yeah I know that was stupid. I would'nt do it again, but what would you do. I could'nt go over to him and say ''Stop talking to her or I'll smash you face in''. I mean what would she think, that I'm an autistic manic!

I would have approached him after class and asked what was going on between the two of them.