I need dating advice!

[Boundary Layer]

...a few weeks now.

Then they're clearly destined for a lifetime of bliss and happiness.

 

[Philly]

Ok, I'll try that. I've just remembered, there is one day during week 2 where she is in all of my lessons.

PS: I said week 2 by the way because I do not have the same lessons during the same time during the same week every week. We have week 1 and week 2, and the timetables for each are different!

NOOOOO.

Bad. You ask her NOW.

You ask later, you not get. It will be OVER if you say you will in two weeks. Because then you will miss your chance and keep putting it off.

 

[prisonermonkeys]

I was indirectly given dating advice by a friend last night. She didn't mean anything by it and she's my best mate's ex-girlfriend so she's obviously off-limits. But these are the two most important things she said:

- Cook for a girl and she'll be putty in your hands
- The fastest way to a woman's heart is through chocolate

 

[Zrow]

This thread reminds me how much high school sucked for this type of thing. It's hard to be cool and fun when you're in all of the same classes together and see each other every day.


If you're gonna do it, do it. None of this "expressing your feelings" crap, don't wait around to do it, don't send her subtle hints; you're gonna look like a wuss. Make her laugh and go for the kill.

 

[G.T]

Then they're clearly destined for a lifetime of bliss and happiness.

Indeed.

But usually a few days is good at high school...

 

[Bram Turismo]

I simply cannot believe that worked. If you know her in real life I'd never recommend that anyone use a chatroom for anything like this.

Well, I never wrote things like "I love u, omg!!!!!" while I wouldn't say it in real, no sir...Just those little jokes, you know....I've probably written that part down wrong in my post, sorry for that

 

[Vasco]

So is this like Doug's post or not?

 

[Silverzone]

Engaged already? It must have been a while since we last talked in the same thread. Congrats.👍

Thanks man, yeah it has been awhile (I miss the convo forum :/). I never really announced it on GTP though.

Anyway to Skid:

(a little late) good luck, and don't lose your head.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Well, I am losing my head now. Guess what found out in ICT today, she has a boyfriend. And get this, she has only been going out with him for about two weeks, and now she wants to lose her virginity to him. Oh, and did I tell you she is only 14. I really do not know what. I have never had to deal with something this big before. So can anyone help me. Do I need to stop her, or just get her out of my head. Please Help...

 

[VT]

Thats high school for you. Its no big deal, there are a lot of other women out there. You're 14, its not the end of the world, and in all honesty, it probably would have only lasted a few months or so. Been there done that, bought the T-Shirt, and moved on.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Thats high school for you. Its no big deal, there are a lot of other women out there. You're 14, its not the end of the world, and in all honesty, it probably would have only lasted a few months or so. Been there done that, bought the T-Shirt, and moved on.

We call it secondary school over here. And about the other thing you said, yes there probably there will be others. There's just none at the moment who I like in that way, apart from the one I was talking about.

 

[Danny]

Well, I am losing my head now. Guess what found out in ICT today, she has a boyfriend. And get this, she has only been going out with him for about two weeks, and now she wants to lose her virginity to him. Oh, and did I tell you she is only 14. I really do not know what. I have never had to deal with something this big before. So can anyone help me. Do I need to stop her, or just get her out of my head. Please Help...

It's illegal. I'm sure that if she wants it enough, nothing you do will stop her, but just make sure she's aware she's breaking the law.

If she's old enough to have sex, she's old enough to know of the dangers and live with the consequences, should any arise.

 

[ROAD_DOGG33J]

Tell her that she should have sex with you or in other words, forget her.

 

[VT]

We call it secondary school over here.

Same difference.

And about the other thing you said, yes there probably there will be others. There's just none at the moment who I like in that way, apart from the one I was talking about.

There will be. Just keep your eyes open and live it a day at a time. You tried (right?) and thats what matters here.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

It's illegal. I'm sure that if she wants it enough, nothing you do will stop her, but just make sure she's aware she's breaking the law.

If she's old enough to have sex, she's old enough to know of the dangers and live with the consequences, should any arise.

Well I thought she was different. I thought she would know the dangers, which she probably does, but I still thought she would'nt do it at this age. And to be honest, I dont want to make sure she's aware she's breaking the law, I just dont want to be involved. She's moving to fast to early in this ne realationship of hers, but what I am really worried about is that this guy might not actually love her like I do. This girl is really hot, and I really do think he just want's to get into her knickers, and I want to stop this, but I don't wish to be involve either...

 

[VT]

Obsession != love

(!= is not equal to .. programming dies hard sometimes)

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Same difference.


There will be. Just keep your eyes open and live it a day at a time. You tried (right?) and thats what matters here.

Tried, well I was so lacking on courage I just sat around, smiling at her sometimes, and waiting for her to do something. In other words, this ismch more my fault then hers!

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Infatuation != love

(!= is not equal to .. programming dies hard sometimes)

What do you mean by this!

 

[TheCracker]

And to be honest, I dont want to make sure she's aware she's breaking the law, I just dont want to be involved.

Rightly or wrongly it's her business, she won't appreciate you sticking your nose in. She probably isn't aware that you or others know about what she's planning on doing with her boyfriend. She will not thank you for pointing out the moral or legal implications of her actions.

She's moving to fast to early in this ne realationship of hers, but what I am really worried about is that this guy might not actually love her like I do. This girl is really hot, and I really do think he just want's to get into her knickers

Of course he does - he's 14! Nobody really loves anyone at 14.

I want to stop this, but I don't wish to be involve either...

Keep out of it, it's her mistake to make.

Bu look on the plus side, once this guys had his way with her, he'll probably just dump her and you can be the one to offer her a shoulder to cry on?

 

[Matt R]

What do you mean by this!

Shouldn't you be at school at 1PM on a Thursday?

 

[VT]

What do you mean by this!

I used the wrong word .. I meant obsession not infatuation .. although either fits. Love develops over a length of time between two people. What you have developed is an obsession with someone which you've mistaken as love

I'm no psychologist though ...

Of course he does - he's 14! Nobody really loves anyone at 14.

+Truth!

Shouldn't you be at school at 1PM on a Thursday?

He lives in the UK. So its like 5pm I think.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Shouldn't you be at school at 1PM on a Thursday?

The time is different over here in England. Over here it is dead on 5:00 PM!

 

[Skid Mark 33]

I used the wrong word .. I meant obsession not infatuation .. although either fits. Love develops over a length of time between two people. What you have developed is an obsession with someone which you've mistaken as love


I'm no psychologist though ...


+Truth!

I dont get how the two can get mixed up!

 

[Famine]

I have never had to deal with something this big before.

Nor do you now.

It's none of your business who she sleeps with (or otherwise). You don't have to deal with it in any way.

She's got the hots for someone else. Man up, move on.


Incidentally, how did you find out about the whole boyfriend/sexing thing? From her (which I would find surprising and creepy) or from one of her friends (at which point I would disregard it)?

 

[VT]

I dont get how the two can get mixed up!

Its quite easy actually and it happens more often than not when people your age are involved. You will look back on this in a few years and see what really came about.

I can't really explain how the mix up happens, possibly someone else here can.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Nor do you now.

It's none of your business who she sleeps with (or otherwise). You don't have to deal with it in any way.

She's got the hots for someone else. Man up, move on.

Ok, trying never hurt anyone. So, just think the worst of her and I won't give a ****!

PS. I know it's none of business, I'm just worried she MIGHT be making a mistake!

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Its quite easy actually and it happens more often than not when people your age are involved. You will look back on this in a few years and see what really came about.

I can't really explain how the mix up happens, possibly someone else here can.

I dont understand this psychology stuff, do you?

 

[TheCracker]

PS. I know it's none of business, I'm just worried she MIGHT be making a mistake!

Making mistakes in life are all part of the growing-up process. You can only learn from your mistakes (and contract STD's as well )

 

[VT]

Ok, trying never hurt anyone. So, just think the worst of her and I won't give a ****!

PS. I know it's none of business, I'm just worried she MIGHT be making a mistake!

If she is making a mistake then its hers to make. Let her make it. You don't necessarily have to think the worst of her to be able to move on. Its just as simple as moving on with your life. Get a hobby or something to take your mind off of her and get back on with your life.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Making mistakes in life are all part of the growing-up process. You can only learn from your mistakes (and contract STD's as well )

Thanks for that advice. Just stay out of the way, OK that would be difficult since she is in my English class, Maths class, ICT class, Life Skills class, Art class and Food Tech class. Then again, if I dont pay attention to her, it will be easy as writing a letter!