I need dating advice!

[Skid Mark 33]

Any time you see her, think about how you could ask her out then.

Less can go wrong if you need less to go right. And if you just kinda do it as a spur of the moment, the only thing I can see going wrong is between you and her.

How about a speech? Think about what you might want to say in general to her. She might like it if you are all flustered, but be prepared enough to not pull a "Hi..uuuuhhhhhh. We......uuuhhhhh..... You want to ummmmm..... date?"

Now thaaaatt would be embarrsing!

 

[Philly]

So don't do it. Convince yourself that you are prepared. That, along with Danoff's advice will make it go all the more smoothly and easier.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

So don't do it. Convince yourself that you are prepared. That, along with Danoff's advice will make it go all the more smoothly and easier.

Don't do it. Thats what I've been doing for the last six moths, ok 12 months!

 

[Philly]

Don't do it. Thats what I've been doing for the last six moths, ok 12 months!

By don't do it, I mean don't make yourself look stupid by looking like you can't even speak. Cut the uhhhhhs and ummmmms. You still have to ask her.

But yeah, I pretty much went through what you are going through in May.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

By don't do it, I mean don't make yourself look stupid by looking like you can't even speak. Cut the uhhhhhs and ummmmms. You still have to ask her.

But yeah, I pretty much went through what you are going through in May.

What happened to you then?

 

[Philly]

I wanted to ask her to prom, and hoped it would go from there. I can count many chances that I had that I may not have realized, and it came down to me asking her over text the night before she left for a cruise. Basically, I felt like a total wuss and idiot for the few weeks before I actually asked.

I tried to get her to hang out a few times so I could ask her out, but she apparently had plans. From there she got my best friend's number and things went downhill from there. Then there are some great stories about how we are all enemies now, but this isn't the place for that.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

I wanted to ask her to prom, and hoped it would go from there. I can count many chances that I had that I may not have realized, and it came down to me asking her over text the night before she left for a cruise. Basically, I felt like a total wuss and idiot for the few weeks before I actually asked.

I tried to get her to hang out a few times so I could ask her out, but she apparently had plans. From there she got my best friend's number and things went downhill from there. Then there are some great stories about how we are all enemies now, but this isn't the place for that.

Ouch, that must have been painful. I am a bit worrried about this happening to me, since my mate has a crush on this girl as well, and he has some weird idea that she has a crush on him because she talks to him a lot, but the fact is, she talks to everyone a lot. He keeps rubbing my face in it though, if you get what I mean by that, hopefully soon I will be able to rub his face in it cause I'm pissed of with him taking the piss.

 

[Azuremen]

Just do it already.

Walk up to her, in her pack of friends, and ask "Would you like to go to such and such"

And listen to Danoff. Seriously.

I mean, if I, the social inept engineering student, can ask a girl "so, what are your plans for the evening?" well cutting pizza and having a million co workers around, you can manage this

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Just do it already.

Walk up to her, in her pack of friends, and ask "Would you like to go to such and such"

And listen to Danoff. Seriously.

I mean, if I, the social inept engineering student, can ask a girl "so, what are your plans for the evening?" well cutting pizza and having a million co workers around, you can manage this

So if I get nervous, shall I just ignore my nerves and do it?

 

[G.T]

So if I get nervous, shall I just ignore my nerves and do it?

Precisely.

Harder than it sounds at the time, I know, but try to think of something else at the time while getting prepared to say something, to reduce your nerves a little. If that makes sense.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Precisely.

Harder than it sounds at the time, I know, but try to think of something else at the time while getting prepared to say something, to reduce your nerves a little. If that makes sense.

Ok, I'll try that. I've just remembered, there is one day during week 2 where she is in all of my lessons.

PS: I said week 2 by the way because I do not have the same lessons during the same time during the same week every week. We have week 1 and week 2, and the timetables for each are different!

 

[Famine]

SRSLY:

Mark: Ask her out. Worst she can say is "No". This means she doesn't like you - and if she doesn't like you, she's not worth losing any sleep over.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Ok, worst she can say is no. I hear you loud and clear bro...

 

[Boundary Layer]

Y'know they always say that if you're nervous about speaking, just picture everyone in their underwear. Maybe that would work

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Y'know they always say that if you're nervous about speaking, just picture everyone in their underwear. Maybe that would work

Yeah, but the problem is, if I was to picture everyone, including this girl in their underwear, I would picture her in red lacey nickers. Now that would'nt help...

PS: Hold on, red lacey nickers, I might try that actually!

 

[Danoff]

Y'know they always say that if you're nervous about speaking, just picture everyone in their underwear. Maybe that would work

I think he's probably been doing that for ages now. Notice that he even has the exact underwear picked out and everything.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

I think he's probably been doing that for ages now. Notice that he even has the exact underwear picked out and everything.

No, not really. I just said that as a joke! *uhemredlaceyknickersuhem*

 

[Boundary Layer]

I think he's probably been doing that for ages now. Notice that he even has the exact underwear picked out and everything.

It certainly sounds that way... little perv.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Cant you tell I was joking!

 

[Skid Mark 33]

I will tell you all what happened (if anything) when I get home from school tommorow!

Edit: That is if you want me to!

 

[Danoff]

I will tell you all what happened (if anything) when I get home from school tommorow!

Edit: That is if you want me to!

As long as something happened you'll have succeeded. Even if she says no.

 

[Stevisiov]

I will tell you all what happened (if anything) when I get home from school tommorow!

Edit: That is if you want me to!

Not if, you will report back tommorow. Get it out the way with or you will put it off and put it off. Then nothing will happen. This is talking from experience.

 

[McLaren]

....I wonder what happened to the little guy who started the thread?

EDIT: Ooops should have read better (posted yesterday) D'oh! guess we'll know tonight.


anywho, my first date with my fiancee was at her house, watching movies. 'Twas nice...

Engaged already? It must have been a while since we last talked in the same thread. Congrats.👍

Well, it was'nt my fault for a start. You see, I was going to ask her 2nd lesson which was maths, because afterwards I had to walk to assembly, so my plan was to ask her while we were walking down there. However, she got out of the classroom just before me, and as I tried to follow her, the teacher stopped some pupils in front of me because their uniforms were dodgey. So they were standing there, doing their ties properly, tucking their shirts in while blocking the door way. By the time they finally moved, she was long gone!

This stuff usually happens when you're going to plan it. Let it come naturally. If you see the opportunity, don't try to wait for it to get better, just take it.

I'd make my way to her home. Introduce yourself to her folks. If you impress them, they'll make their daughter go to a movie with you.

I'm not sure I'd want my daughter being with a kid who would do this at less than 16 years of age. Esp. not if she doesn't talk to him on a daily basis.

Ask her if she's available Friday or Saturday night. If she's available one of the two then ask about the movie? Just make sure to come off as confident and not nervous but make sure not to overdo the confidence thing.

Don't forget that if you do get turned down, keep that confidence. Don't go, "Oh, ok", and moap away. Say, "Oh, well ok. Maybe another time", and walk away as if you're still in the best mood. Keep your dignity.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Engaged already? It must have been a while since we last talked in the same thread. Congrats.👍


This stuff usually happens when you're going to plan it. Let it come naturally. If you see the opportunity, don't try to wait for it to get better, just take it.

I'm not sure I'd want my daughter being with a kid who would do this at less than 16 years of age. Esp. not if she doesn't talk to him on a daily basis.


Don't forget that if you do get turned down, keep that confidence. Don't go, "Oh, ok", and moap away. Say, "Oh, well ok. Maybe another time", and walk away as if you're still in the best mood. Keep your dignity.

Thanks. I find it really hard to pretend that I am in a good mood, but I promise I will try my best if I have to. Anyway, wish me luck, and hope the same thing that stopped me today does'nt happen again...

 

[Bram Turismo]

This stuff usually happens when you're going to plan it. Let it come naturally. If you see the opportunity, don't try to wait for it to get better, just take it.

Exactly 👍


My little story if it's ok:

About two months ago, I realised I was totally in love in a girl in my class. But the careful guy I am, I never had the balls to walk up to her and this and that. However, she did ask me at least 1 time a week to come over and play tennis and whatnot, something which was unusual for her, the others said. One day, when we'd been together that one day for hours, I began to talk about it, I began to express my feelings to her on MSN chats, or SMS messages or I'd be making jokes about us two while I gave the impression underneath the joke, was something I really meant. But I remained careful since I didn't know what she thought about me. But I did get the impression she spent more time with me then with any other guy, but hey, good friends maybe? I thought...Then, I still remember it very well, we went for a walk on a Friday evening, while we were walking upwards, she suddenly grabbed my hand and held it like we were actually together. Of course I totally went crazy in my head while I stayed cool, or at least I tried. I just couldn't believe it, I felt so incredibly happy.

But I still remained cautious, not to screw anything up. I took a few weeks before the first kiss arrived but it was totally worth it, I now know we're actually together, I've got her, the most beautiful, honest, funny, most clever girl I ever knew. We share so many interests and thoughts, it's like it's impossible to discuss things, as if we're thinking exactly the same, though I don't know if that's good or not. I now try to spend as much time with her as possible, though it's hard since we live 20 kilometres from eachother...

Yes, the first kiss wasn't really impressive or good or anything, but the second one, oh boy!



I used to get rejected a lot in the past, even though I was 15 kg heavier, but it proved for me that you just have to go for it, otherwise you'll never know, and who knows, you may even miss the biggest chance of your life...?

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Exactly 👍


My little story if it's ok:

About two months ago, I realised I was totally in love in a girl in my class. But the careful guy I am, I never had the balls to walk up to her and this and that. However, she did ask me at least 1 time a week to come over and play tennis and whatnot, something which was unusual for her, the others said. One day, when we'd been together that one day for hours, I began to talk about it, I began to express my feelings to her on MSN chats, or SMS messages or I'd be making jokes about us two while I gave the impression underneath the joke, was something I really meant. But I remained careful since I didn't know what she thought about me. But I did get the impression she spent more time with me then with any other guy, but hey, good friends maybe? I thought...Then, I still remember it very well, we went for a walk on a Friday evening, while we were walking upwards, she suddenly grabbed my hand and held it like we were actually together. Of course I totally went crazy in my head while I stayed cool, or at least I tried. I just couldn't believe it, I felt so incredibly happy.

But I still remained cautious, not to screw anything up. I took a few weeks before the first kiss arrived but it was totally worth it, I now know we're actually together, I've got her, the most beautiful, honest, funny, most clever girl I ever knew. We share so many interests and thoughts, it's like it's impossible to discuss things, as if we're thinking exactly the same, though I don't know if that's good or not. I now try to spend as much time with her as possible, though it's hard since we live 20 kilometres from eachother...

Yes, the first kiss wasn't really impressive or good or anything, but the second one, oh boy!



I used to get rejected a lot in the past, even though I was 15 kg heavier, but it proved for me that you just have to go for it, otherwise you'll never know, and who knows, you may even miss the biggest chance of your life...?

I'm sort of convinced that I might as well go ahead and ask her now, however now I'm logging off!

See ya! 👍

 

[zoxxy]

Good luck man, you've got nothing to lose.

 

[peeweegary]

Exactly 👍


My little story if it's ok:

About two months ago, I realised I was totally in love in a girl in my class. But the careful guy I am, I never had the balls to walk up to her and this and that. However, she did ask me at least 1 time a week to come over and play tennis and whatnot, something which was unusual for her, the others said. One day, when we'd been together that one day for hours, I began to talk about it, I began to express my feelings to her on MSN chats, or SMS messages or I'd be making jokes about us two while I gave the impression underneath the joke, was something I really meant. But I remained careful since I didn't know what she thought about me. But I did get the impression she spent more time with me then with any other guy, but hey, good friends maybe? I thought...Then, I still remember it very well, we went for a walk on a Friday evening, while we were walking upwards, she suddenly grabbed my hand and held it like we were actually together. Of course I totally went crazy in my head while I stayed cool, or at least I tried. I just couldn't believe it, I felt so incredibly happy.

But I still remained cautious, not to screw anything up. I took a few weeks before the first kiss arrived but it was totally worth it, I now know we're actually together, I've got her, the most beautiful, honest, funny, most clever girl I ever knew. We share so many interests and thoughts, it's like it's impossible to discuss things, as if we're thinking exactly the same, though I don't know if that's good or not. I now try to spend as much time with her as possible, though it's hard since we live 20 kilometres from eachother...

Yes, the first kiss wasn't really impressive or good or anything, but the second one, oh boy!



I used to get rejected a lot in the past, even though I was 15 kg heavier, but it proved for me that you just have to go for it, otherwise you'll never know, and who knows, you may even miss the biggest chance of your life...?

Wowww...Congrats to that Bram but when i used the same method as you, i got owned -_-". She didn't like reject me but she told me like not to go after her in a indirect way

 

[Danoff]

Wowww...Congrats to that Bram but when i used the same method as you, i got owned -_-". She didn't like reject me but she told me like not to go after her in a indirect way

Did she indirectly tell you not to go after her, or did she tell you not to go after her indirectly? There's a big difference.

My little story if it's ok:
....
I began to express my feelings to her on MSN chats, or SMS messages

I simply cannot believe that worked. If you know her in real life I'd never recommend that anyone use a chatroom for anything like this.

 

[G.T]

I simply cannot believe that worked. If you know her in real life I'd never recommend that anyone use a chatroom for anything like this.

Oh, trust me, I've seen it work too. There is two friends of my brother's, a girl who goes to his school and a guy who is at a school a couple of miles away. They only knew each other for a month, maybe only met each other a couple of times in person, but they apparently told each other their feelings through MSN and they have been together ever since - a few weeks now.