look or personality

[Driving Park]

Both - can't have one without the other. I first look to see if the girl is attractive and if they are I talk to them to scope out personality. There are a few absolute babes around uni that are just shallow and therefore I wish nothing to do with them in that aspect. On the other hand if you are a girl and you have a rocking personality but I don't find you attractive, then plutonic friends we are and I have many of them and we get along famously.
Very few pass my standards for both. No I am not a catch, but yeah, its sad how high my standards are. There are a few I have met that meet these but not many. :/
Its funny because I have thought about this and I can't lower my standards, its just not something I do. If I like you in that aspect, then thats that, and I can't bring myself to do something with a girl I don't feel that way about. I am simply unable to have a one night stand or drunken hookup.

Pretty much my thoughts exactly. 👍

 

[photonrider]

Had a meeting this afternoon with a lady involved in working out the contracts for a large job I'm acquiring on Monday; she may have been Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese - I'm not sure (can I call her Oriental?) She was so plain I kept trying to actually memorise her face! The strange thing; she had this mysterious, intriguing, utterly sexy way about her that made be keep forgetting what we were supposed to be doing. She smelled fabulous and I realised after awhile that I was breathing hard like some phone psycho. The soft sweet tone of her voice gave me shivers. Because I didn't want any of that intimacy interfering with our business I was also uncomfortable and had to deliberately squash my natural instinct to grab her and investigate. I fled as soon as I could - and I may never meet her again; she was a temp at that office.
However, I can't get her out of my mind - though for the life of me apart from the expression in her eyes, I can't remember her face.
Now

 

[Michael88]

What do you think is more important if your looking for a partner their looks or personality?

Looks or personality? They're both equally important.

Appearance reflects a persons character, this includes clothing style, body hygiene, hair style, body shape / fitness and all the little details etc.
Yes, judging people by their appearance sounds awfully superficial, but this method has worked surprisingly well for me so far. *shrugs*

 

[terminator363]

Both

 

[itsbenjibrand]

As long as they have a pretty face, and their body is average (maybe a nice ass) and a decent personality, I could manage.

 

[Cale]

Physical attraction starts it all.

 

[DarkAvengerZR1]

Everyone looks for a good mix of both... That is the truth.

You will not date that girl who looks ugly as beat your own mother because there is no meat for the lunch but are a wonderful person, same way that nobody will date a souless pretty girl.

Same goes if you are looking for a boy. So, what really matters is if you are fine about the looks and personality of your parthner. Unless you are blind.

 

[Danoff]

Yea I definitely think it's easy to come in this thread and say "personality", but I don't think those people would be willing to date a lot of women with great personalities but terrible looks.

Personality can get you past the first date or two... maybe even 10. But eventually the lack of looks will wear you down. Same is true for looks, they can get you through a few dates, but eventually a bad personality will wear you down.

 

[Small_Fryz]

I need to be physically attracted to the girl. Once that is established then the personality is important. If I had a "cute" girl who loves life and laughs and is great to be around, id pick her over a "supermodel" girl who has no personality.

Yep, I want my cake and I want to eat it too

 

[Joel]

As long as there's physical attraction it comes down to personality (intelligence) IMO.

 

[Prince.M5]

I want both but sometimes you just can't. Perhaps somewhere in between.

 

[Liquid]

Mix of both here too. I'm shallow enough that looks do matter (I'm not talking supermodels here but someone pretty at least), but I'd quickly be driven utterly insane if I was with someone utterly personality free, or someone annoying.

This.

It's kind of weird for me, because personality is everything; spending x amount of time with someone means you have to get on with them, but I don't fancy someone I don't find attractive. I guess a good personality has a knock-on effect, maybe.

 

[granturismite]

One thing I've noticed, is that in general terms, is that one seems to exclude the other. Most of the "good looking" girls I've known have been awful people that I can't stand to be around.

Most of the "plainer" girls are people I want to talk to, and get to know better. Maybe I am not your typical male, but I value personality far and above looks. and looks go away over time, but personality keeps you wanting to see them. And as far as intelligence goes, I personally rate that as a close 2nd to personality

 

[Driving Park]

One thing I've noticed, is that in general terms, is that one seems to exclude the other. Most of the "good looking" girls I've known have been awful people that I can't stand to be around.

Most of the "plainer" girls are people I want to talk to, and get to know better. Maybe I am not your typical male, but I value personality far and above looks. and looks go away over time, but personality keeps you wanting to see them. And as far as intelligence goes, I personally rate that as a close 2nd to personality

I've generally noticed something along the same lines as well.

My standards are such that I am attracted to "beauty" more than "hot" as is the trend nowadays, and many of the "plainer" girls you speak of with good personalities/intelligence still qualify for me to be attracted to them (and many girls that people are attracted to because of how "hot" they are don't really do it for me)...BUT, the MOST attractive girls to me always have a compromise in at least one aspect of their personality. Shallow, intelligence not quite up to par, or something along those lines. Not necessarily enough to turn me off from them, but it is noticeable.

 

[Slash]

Looks first. If the attraction is there, then I will pursue her to find out if she has a good personality about her.

 

[RikkiGT-R]

Looks first. If the attraction is there, then I will pursue her to find out if she has a good personality about her.

Yeah this. If you said "just pick one" then I couldn't answer.
There has to be an attraction in the first place. No point thinking a girl is a munter, but then thinking "what the Hell, she might be a great person on the inside..."

 

[DarkAvengerZR1]

Yeah this. If you said "just pick one" then I couldn't answer.
There has to be an attraction in the first place. No point thinking a girl is a munter, but then thinking "what the Hell, she might be a great person on the inside..."

Her lungs are beautiful man...

But yes... what really start/sparks something is the way you look like. AND your look can tell things about your personality. It is not a rule, so, watch out to not fall in stereotypes.

 

[nobuffalo]

Looks all the way. I'm a little weird in the head so I can make up for their lack of personality myself, as in I'll just talk to myself.

 

[phillgt2002]

Combination of looks and personality, If she looks good but has flaws i could put up with it If a girls got a good personality but not a looker id probably get bored and move on....

Is there a reason behind your name (Slick Rick)

Also I don't care about looks but like someone else said , looks are just a bonus. I love girls that have a great personality.

 

[Patrick]

As Slash said looks then personality.

 

[Skython]

Looks all the way. I'm a little weird in the head so I can make up for their lack of personality myself, as in I'll just talk to myself.

Talking to yourself is normal though... Isn't it?

 

[Leonidae@MFT]

Personality.

 

[lbsf1]

Both, if she was a complete horse in looks but a nice person then I still wouldn't, in the same way as a really nice looking bitch, it needs to be ballanced.

 

[Pako]

Here's the way I look at it. If you're talking short term, then looks might be fun and you wouldn't have to worry about any life long personality conflicts. However, if you are talking long term, looks come and go with kids, age, etc., but her personality lasts a life time.

 

[photonrider]

Where is the fine line between 'looks' and 'personality', though?
Some people's 'looks' are their personality.
For instance - how one walks - is that part of one's personality? Charlie Chaplin?
How one talks - the physical tone of voice - is that part of looks or personality? A pretty girl with the 'wrong' kind of voice can turn people off. Is that part of her looks?
If you are driving a Corvette instead of a Gremlin - will that be part of your looks or personality?

 

[Omnis]

Hygiene is an assumed characteristic. It is an expected prerequisite, like wheels on a car. I won't even bother with those that can't maintain themselves. I don't negotiate with people that smell like terrorists. Besides, a girl can have unremarkable features but great skin and a great smile can make anybody beautiful.

Intelligence/Culture is the most important for me. They have to be able to keep up, and if they're not cultured, how else are they going to be interesting?

Next comes personality, compassion, and responsibility. Would she make a good parent? Do I gotta pay her bills? Oh hell naw!

Those things fulfilled, I can start being choosy about looks.

And if she's a vegan she's gonna eat meat one way or the other.

 

[prisonermonkeys]

Intelligence/Culture is the most important for me. They have to be able to keep up, and if they're not cultured, how else are they going to be interesting?

Yeah, I agree with that. I need someone who I can have stimulating conversations with. I don't want to talk about work or how my day was. I especially don't want to talk about work or how my day was if my partner works in the same place or profession as me.

The Uma Factor is also important to me. There's a scene in PULP FICTION where Uma Thurman tells John Travolta that you know you've met someone special when you don't feel the need to make small talk just to feel comfortable around them.

And speaking of speaking, someone's voice is the equivalent of looks to me. I have to want to listen to somebody all day, and in order for that to happen, I have to like the sound of their voice. Maybe that's just shallow of me, but at least I can say with confidence that someone's voice would never be the first thing I consider in them.

 

[Liquid]

Mix of both here too. I'm shallow enough that looks do matter (I'm not talking supermodels here but someone pretty at least), but I'd quickly be driven utterly insane if I was with someone utterly personality free, or someone annoying.

This.

It's kind of weird for me, because personality is everything; spending x amount of time with someone means you have to get on with them, but I don't fancy someone I don't find attractive. I guess a good personality has a knock-on effect, maybe.

And I stand by this.

I don't fancy someone unless I get along with them personally, but they also have to be attractive. It's a weird mix, if they're just pretty, then they're just that: pretty. It means absolutely nothing to me.

Women score bonus points with me for:

-Being foreign, which includes the subpoint of having a foreign accent
-Being above average height

Aww yeah.

But absolutely, being interesting and funny is a definite must.

 

[Steele_obsidion]

I need a mix of both. I want someone who looks good, but also can handle my craziness, and has some common interests. I want common ground as well as looks, if she's dumb as a rock, I don't care how good she is in bed or how hot she is, I get turned off.

 

[sumbrownkid]

Personality. Looks go away over time.