look or personality

[Leicht]

Looks will certainly makes a person stands out but the personality will determine the rest.

 

[Callum B]

Looks is certainly the factor that stands out first, although what I've found is that I've got to know girls much better before I think "Hey she's actually really pretty" although that may just be them getting older and subsequently better looking Can't have all of one and none of the other though.
Also not just their personality but someone who can tolerate my own, so far I've got close but friendzoned, ah well

 

[prisonermonkeys]

-Being foreign, which includes the subpoint of having a foreign accent

Accents. Are. Awesome.

I have friends from Moldova, Bolivia and Bhutan, and their accents are all stellar.

 

[photonrider]

The Internet is all about Personality, is it not?

(We don't really want to bring Small Fryz pics into this, though. Neither Aldo's, Shem's or Danny's.)

No voice, no smell, no warmth of flesh-pressed palms.. . . just words on a screen.

 

[Wilbur]

Hmm now that's almost a trick question. I guess looks as shallow as that sounds.

Usually attraction comes first and if it that isn't there, I can't get serious. On flip side if we have nothing in common or can't talk like adults then I might as well be single because same issue for me as being unattractive.

 

[XS]

For me, if I really like someone it's because of a blend of looks and personality. I have seen women who are supposedly beautiful but because their personality is nasty I think they are quite ugly. Kristen Stewart is a good example. In my past partners (I'm single now) it usually wasn't until their personality grew on me that I thought they were the most beautiful woman in the world. It just evolved over time.

 

[Anathema]

Personality. I am in a happy relationship of about 1 and a half years with one of the nicest girls on this planet - has the quiet/shy/vulnerable look, but has an absurd understanding of people's problems (and she does want to become a psychiatrist after college.)

Her looks are just a bonus to her personality. And it did take a bit before we trusted each other 100%.

 

[photonrider]

For me, if I really like someone it's because of a blend of looks and personality. I have seen women who are supposedly beautiful but because their personality is nasty I think they are quite ugly. Kristen Stewart is a good example. In my past partners (I'm single now) it usually wasn't until their personality grew on me that I thought they were the most beautiful woman in the world. It just evolved over time.

The major difference between looks and personality is the time it takes to experience it. Looks are almost instant. Racism is built on this.
Personality, of course, has to be expressed - as a series of events that characterise the 'ways' of a person. That takes time. It also 'colours' a person's looks or appearance - as in 'A kindly-looking man' or 'That woman with the arrogant face'.
The woman with the arrogant face may be just born that way. And the kindly-looking man may not be Santa Claus after all.

 

[Starscream94]

Don't want to wake up next to a horse but don't want to talk to a bitch either Lol Jokes.

For me, if I really like someone it's because of a blend of looks and personality. I have seen women who are supposedly beautiful but because their personality is nasty I think they are quite ugly. Kristen Stewart is a good example. In my past partners (I'm single now) it usually wasn't until their personality grew on me that I thought they were the most beautiful woman in the world. It just evolved over time.

This is exactly how I've felt as well. The women I've been with me became the prettiest girls alive at the time. As their personality grew so did their looks. Basically becoming flawless...

 

[Dave A]

For me, if I really like someone it's because of a blend of looks and personality. I have seen women who are supposedly beautiful but because their personality is nasty I think they are quite ugly. Kristen Stewart is a good example. In my past partners (I'm single now) it usually wasn't until their personality grew on me that I thought they were the most beautiful woman in the world. It just evolved over time.

This is true in a lot of cases I think, I always remember these two girls who joined a company I used to work with at the same time as each other. Neither we're ugly but when they started I thought one was better looking than the other. Over time though my opinion on who was the better looking reversed, largely I believe due to the fact I got on with the one I ended being more attracted to better.

 

[Pupik]

It depends a lot on whether someone is confident in their looks. Confidence goes a long way, no matter what the appearance.

If they looks a certain way, but want to look like something else, to the point they are distracted, unhappy, broke, obsessed with looking differently than they are, or constantly trying to keep up with the latest thing...that's a generally a personality issue that has to be personally overcome before anything else (sparing unusual exceptions like having serious deformities/injuries, of course).

So, personality is important; looks fade, fashion tastes change, and external beauty is rather illusory.

 

[axletramp]

So, personality is important; looks fade, fashion tastes change, and external beauty is rather illusory.

Of course, that's just between us guys OK. Never mention this anywhere near a woman or you'll find that the looks and personality of your car might be slightly changed by morning...

 

[Pupik]

Of course, that's just between us guys OK. Never mention this anywhere near a woman or you'll find that the looks and personality of your car might be slightly changed by morning...

I mention it as a cautionary tale to those who found that special someone 10-15 years ago, but now wants plastic surgery. (Not my wife, BTW.)

 

[axletramp]

I find it's Mrs AT who wants the surgery. There's nothing wrong with her, but every christmas it's "don't get me a present, just pay for some Botox". Seriously? She just doesn't need it.

 

[Danoff]

I'm generally in favor of plastic surgery. Obviously there are horrific examples of over doing it, and there are plenty of people who do it wrong (too often/too big/too tight). If you do it right, it should look natural. You have to have the proper self-image to do it though. If you can't evaluate yourself objectively (which it sounds like Mrs. AT has an issue with), you probably shouldn't be handed the keys to the plastic surgery car so to speak.

I also really like plastic surgery during your 20s. There are two women that I work with on a regular basis who figuratively scream "I need plastic surgery" to me. One of them would be stunning if it weren't for her insanely massive clown nose. I mean I can't see her without thinking "Hi Nose, having a good nose... uh... day?". She's probably in her early 30s and she's already missed out on her entire 20s of having a face that is proportionate and being considered gorgeous looking instead of unfortunate.

The other female I work with is in her 50s, and has a bad case of turkey neck. Why would you not fix that? Again, she'd be fantastic looking if not for that issue - but it's so prominent and quite awful. She should have the self-confidence to have it done.

I find that few women would do well with breast augmentation. There are rare examples, but mostly they'd be doing themselves a disservice. Many many women could use breast reduction surgery - which my sister is doing it (in her 20s) soon, and I'm very proud of her for being able to recognize it and do that for herself.

I'm also a fan of hair dye, braces (though people over-do that, some crooked teeth look really cute), hair plugs (which I considered but luckily I look good bald), and getting exercise.

 

[CAMAROBOY69]

Looks are very important to me. Looks are actually important to most people even if they dont want to admit it to prevent from sounding shallow.

Anyone saying looks dont mean anything. I am sure she has a great....personality right? Would you just approach this woman to see if you were attracted to her personality?
Sorry if this offends anyone. If its your wife, mom, or girlfriend then she um has nice ears.

 

[CodeRedR51]

Both. Asking a bit much, I'm sure.

But, would you want to wake up next to someone you can't stand to look at every day?

 

[Pupik]

I'm generally in favor of plastic surgery.

Women should also walk by with theme music and fans blowing their hair about, but that crap is fake, too. To each their own.

 

[Callum B]

Well... both. Surprisingly not that hard to find someone with both, just hard to get them to not mind you crouching in hedgerows outside their houses with binoculars...

 

[Danny]

I tend to go more for personality. It's all very well looking like Jaime Alguersuari but if I want to claw your eyes out after ten minutes then it's just not gonna work.

I have a low tolerance threshold.

 

[Danoff]

Women should also walk by with theme music and fans blowing their hair about, but that crap is fake, too. To each their own.

I assume you like armpit hair and BO.

(I find this response to be parallel to yours)

 

[Danny]

Your avatar suggests so.

Wow, cutting.

That situation is usually not the case, Exaggeration.

You don't know me.

Maul first, ask questions later.

You are supposed to choose one.

I bet you're fun at parties.

You done?

 

[Boxout]

Looks, for now that I'm young.
Maybe later when I grow older I'll go for personality.

 

[Slash]

Depends. Attraction has to be there first and then I'll find out if I like there personality.

 

[Bram Turismo]

Anyone saying personality over looks is just lying. We just say that to be nice.

Looks is a first impression, and always determines whether you are interested in someone in the first place. So I'm with the poster above me; if I'm attracted to the looks, then I'll find out what kind of personality they have. There is no way you can even fall in love with someone you aren't even attracted to.

 

[Joey D]

Looks gets me in the door, personality keeps me there. Although I'm willing to sacrifice a few numbers on the hotness scale for some better numbers on the personality scale. I've dated girls who were 8-9's in the looks department, but a -47 in the personality, needless to say it didn't last long.

But to be shallow, I won't date a girl who doesn't take care of herself. If she's overweight, has poor hygiene, etc. I'm not interested.

 

[Dennisch]

if there is something nice to suck on and play with there it will be

 

[Pupik]

I assume you like armpit hair and BO.

(I find this response to be parallel to yours)

Got over that phase rather quickly, actually. (okay, can I get those six months back?)

Please...we've both changed baby diapers at ungodly hours of the night. That's the moment in life when you dispense with a lot of crap.

 

[niky]

See, I don't mind a woman who smells like wet dog, unless she doesn't own a dog.

And armpit hair... you get used to it. I was born in an age when people didn't shave their hair down there, and every time I see a baldie, I get the giggles.

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I don't honestly mind people who get plastic surgery, but too much of anything can be too much. Flaws aren't always a bad thing. In the sea of sameness that is Hollywood, there are actresses who specifically refuse plastic surgery because their imperfect looks are a meal ticket to steady work.

 

[niky]

Dog owners smell. Especially if they sleep with their dogs. Not a big thing. Could be worse. She could be a cat owner. I'm allergic to cats.

Used to be a gymnast and a cheerleader, so I'm used to the smell of feminine sweat. Which is the same smell you get when you do other things with women... if you can't stand it, then why bother doing those other things?

*These points are moot and academic, since I'm married.*

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Well... where else do you see naked beavers except on naked beaver videos out of Canada? I understand why women do it, but I find stubble and Hitler staches' in areas like that hilarious.

And stubble is horribly scratchy and itchy.

Pubic hair IS a public thing... especially at the beach. No way you can get away without shaving with the cuts most women wear nowadays.

As for men... no comment. They could have piercings down there for all I care. When we're side-by-side at the urinal, I look at mine, you look at yours. No negotiation.