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GTboyz
And i dont really understand the "axe or two to grind" part, maybe you can explain more about that ?
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Team THRT Drift
An axe to grind is an idiom used in the UK. A simple phrase of I say so myself.

It means to have a selfish reason for doing something. In your case, pretending to like you so she doesn't lose her fans.
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Partly that although it's by no means confined to the UK.

To me it also has a hint of vengefulness, rightly or wrongly.
 
BobK
Partly that although it's by no means confined to the UK.

To me it also has a hint of vengefulness, rightly or wrongly.
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Vengefulness ? I'm sorry, i'm not that good at understanding some english phrases. English isn't my native language, would you care to explain more ?
 
The idiom, yes can portray a sense of vengeance however I don't think it applies in his case.

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Vengefulness, to seek vengeance. Gotta love the English language right? It means, a desire to seek revenge.
 
Team THRT Drift
The idiom, yes can portray a sense of vengeance however I don't think it applies in his case.

BTW

Vengefulness, to seek vengeance. Gotta love the English language right? It means, a desire to seek revenge.
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I know that, i meant in my case, i cant see anything vengefulness about it ? I thought its going to be another idiom or something.
 
Actually, I'm not so sure it doesn't apply in this case; that's why I chose that particular phrase. Wouldn't be the first time a best friend has had a secret desire to knife the friend in the back. Not saying that's indeed the case here, just putting out the possibility. But in any case I'd look for confirmation/corroboration instead of just taking her word at face value.
 
Oooo i see what @BobK mean now..... Even though you said that, i knew this person really well and she isnt the type to stab people in the back. I trust her since some of her stories confirm my suspicions as well so...

Still i know there's a very slim chance that its backstabbing but i doubt it.
 
Speedy Samurai
An axe to grind usually means a person has an agenda. Often involving retaliation to something.
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Yeah, that's pretty much my take on what it means, too.
 
It hurts like hell to do it, and I hope I don't regret it too much (its inevitable that I will regret it some), but I've decided to move on.
 
Johnny1996
It hurts like hell to do it, and I hope I don't regret it too much (its inevitable that I will regret it some), but I've decided to move on.
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Yeah i get what you mean man, it hurts but its for the best of us.
 
I'm sorry for the double post (I believe this actually won't count as one due to so much time being passed between posts), but here's a quick update: every time today that I thought I was getting somewhere as far as moving on goes, my heart just kept going back to her. Therefore, moving on is even tougher than it already was. :(

Maybe this is me really starting to miss her? I don't know. :indiff:
 
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Well its normal, you're starting to miss her. My advice as someone who is in the same boat as you are is to keep yourself busy, dont ever think about how you are going to move on and stuff, just do something, hang out with friends, go for a walk or even just spacing out thinking nothing helps (well at least for me).

Everytime you think you're moving on, try not to be too happy about it. Just keep pretending like you don't realise that you're moving on. Treat it as something unimportant.

Hope you understand what i just said because i'm not good at explaining stuff. Oh and also, try avoid stuff that remind you of her. If it can't be avoided then just go with it but pretend that it's nothing.
 
I do understand what you mean, @GTboyz.

Moving on got a lot harder though because of a dream I had last night. Basically, all progress I thought I had with moving on got washed away because of how hard the dream hit me.
 
He's right on the money. Keep yourself busy and force yourself to so something because sitting around doing nothing will make you think. Trust me. I am hurting in ways unimaginable and it does help.
 
Johnny1996
I do understand what you mean, @GTboyz.

Moving on got a lot harder though because of a dream I had last night. Basically, all progress I thought I had with moving on got washed away because of how hard the dream hit me.
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Yeah, the dreams are one of the things that made moving on hard, and its almost always came when you're about to move on. Just dont give up man, i just did it and got away from the thought of "she's the only one and i can't imagine my life without her".It feels great :)

Of course sometimes she crosses my mind but i'm not gonna waste away everything i do to forget about her, she's not worth it.
 
Great day went to absolute 🤬...... I haven't been hearing from my girlfriend a lot since she left for college, so I wanted to surprise her (hopefully not interrupting her studies). Its raining and it took me a bit longer to get there. I park next to her car and go off to find her apartment. I knock on the door, no answer; knocked again, same thing. I could hear the tv from outside so I thought she couldn't her me. So I grabbed the door handle and it turned out it was unlocked. To honestly put it short she was on her couch kissing some other guy. I have felt no other pain like this...after a year I thought we really had something......but I guess not......
 
Owwww.. that hurts :indiff:

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Astroboy2215
Great day went to absolute 🤬...... I haven't been hearing from my girlfriend a lot since she left for college, so I wanted to surprise her (hopefully not interrupting her studies). Its raining and it took me a bit longer to get there. I park next to her car and go off to find her apartment. I knock on the door, no answer; knocked again, same thing. I could hear the tv from outside so I thought she couldn't her me. So I grabbed the door handle and it turned out it was unlocked. To honestly put it short she was on her couch kissing some other guy. I have felt no other pain like this...after a year I thought we really had something......but I guess not......
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At least you have a definite answer to any nagging questions you may have been having. Moving on will be easier now.
 
Speedy Samurai
At least you have a definite answer to any nagging questions you may have been having. Moving on will be easier now.
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true, but it definitely still hurts, this has taught me a lot though..
 
Man that has to hurt...

I feel you man.... Moving on will be easier now for you...

Its been almost a month since my last post, its going great i can finally moved on for real. Seems like she's noticed how distant i am and she's started to distance herself from me too. Hopefully she won't do any of the stuff she did in the past again.
 
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Finally found myself another woman. Far more mature than my ex was and it's actually fairly uncanny just how much we have in common with each other.

Currently long distance until I have myself a confirmed job and enough money to move to the city which I'm aiming for the beginning of 2015.
 
Astroboy2215
Great day went to absolute 🤬...... I haven't been hearing from my girlfriend a lot since she left for college, so I wanted to surprise her (hopefully not interrupting her studies). Its raining and it took me a bit longer to get there. I park next to her car and go off to find her apartment. I knock on the door, no answer; knocked again, same thing. I could hear the tv from outside so I thought she couldn't her me. So I grabbed the door handle and it turned out it was unlocked. To honestly put it short she was on her couch kissing some other guy. I have felt no other pain like this...after a year I thought we really had something......but I guess not......
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Did you confront her or did you walk away?
 
Team THRT Drift
Did you confront her or did you walk away?
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I walked away, there was nothing she could say to me that would change my mind, maybe down the road we could become friends again, but thats a ways off
 
Does she know or are you going to forget and move on?


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I've developed this over-protective brother relationship with this girl I know who's in the States. We're in different Uni's but I'm trying to come up with a plan to see her.

She's a really sweet, smart and cute girl. I've always wanted to ask her out but never did; one of my biggest regrets and I think she knows this.

Anyway, we've been texting each other for the past couple of months and when I look back to the conversations we have I notice a recurring theme: we try to look out for each other and try to comfort each other.

For example, she tells me where she will be, abd when she's going. We talk to each other during our commutes, even though we're 350 miles away from each other.

We tell each other to notify one another once we arrive. Every now and then, life gets in the way and we forget to do so. I got three missed calls and a load of texts when I fell asleep and forgot to tell her I made it home.

I really want to see her again but I can't and it kills me everytime I see her on Snapchat or Skype.
 
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Team THRT Drift
Double post.
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Since your original post were too long to quote, i'd thought i reply here if you dont mind.

So right now you and her doesn't talk much ?

I think you should try talking to her again, pick up where you left off and apologize for those missed calls. I think she'd understand :)
 
GTboyz
Since your original post were too long to quote, i'd thought i reply here if you dont mind.

So right now you and her doesn't talk much ?

I think you should try talking to her again, pick up where you left off and apologize for those missed calls. I think she'd understand :)
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No no we talk. We just talked now. She was out for a late gym workout and she's on her way back. I'll talk to her tomorrow she has a really long day and needs someone to take her mind off of it.
 
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