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It was both for her best interests and mine. I was worried about her more than anything.

I grew up in a smoking environment, so the smell of burning nicotene and tar and tobacco doesn't bother me.

If she smoked pure tobacco, which she didn't, I wouldn't of been as worried.
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Smoking is really lame. Two of my family members have died from lung cancer, and another is currently dealing with it and is still smoking even at old age.

Currently have a brother that is hooked on Cigarettes.


I'm not settling with a smoker at all. Some girls I know took up smoking just to basically look cool and to start up conversations, no joke. So stupid.
 
phillkillv2
I'm not settling with a smoker at all. Some girls I know took up smoking just to basically look cool and to start up conversations, no joke. So stupid.
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Yeah I have friends that do that. I take it out of their mouth every time they light it in front of me.
 
Cale
Ugh I went through the same ****. My ex started smoking on lunch breaks at work with her d bag co-workers. Told her if I could smell smoke I wouldn't go near her, and if she started buying her own cigs it'd be over. Luckily it was just a phase, although I wouldn't be surprised if she started up again after we broke up.
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That sucks dude. I don't date girls that smoke. My dad and grandpa are basically lifetime tobacco users. I vowed at a young age to not use tobacco. I don't think smoking should be banned or anything or refuse to do anything with people who smoke, but I personally won't.
 
cnd01
That sucks dude. I don't date girls that smoke. My dad and grandpa are basically lifetime tobacco users. I vowed at a young age to not use tobacco. I don't think smoking should be banned or anything or refuse to do anything with people who smoke, but I personally won't.
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Yeah I told her I won't tolerate it as I've had 6 family members die from smoking related illnesses.
 
Cale
Yeah I told her I won't tolerate it as I've had 6 family members die from smoking related illnesses.
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I'm sorry dude. I'm totally in the same boat there
 
When I find a new girl I like there is always somebody else in the way of Me and her and I can never really win it always happens to Me ! I don't always go for the most beautiful girl in the world.
 
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As a senior in high school, I never really talked to a lot of girls. I had a couple short relationships, but nothing more. I was focused more on school, and other things. My thing was that being single, I could do whatever I wanted with whoever I wanted, and nobody would say a word. And I was honestly happy with that. Most people want a girlfriend, obviously, but I wasn't going to become desperate like the majority of my friends had. I wasn't going to lower my standards just so I could say I had a girlfriend, and be unhappy.

So, I waited. I was patient. I wanted to wait for the perfect girl. If not, I could always wait until college, since there will be plenty of females there lol. It turned out my patience has payed off extremely well. The girl I'm now in a relationship is honestly perfect. She has to be a gift from God. She's actually a model...not trying to brag, I'm just saying how lucky I am and how happy I am that something like this has come along in my life. She is the perfect match for me. To be honest, this is the happiest I've been in a long time.
 
Beav
As a senior in high school, I never really talked to a lot of girls. I had a couple short relationships, but nothing more. I was focused more on school, and other things. My thing was that being single, I could do whatever I wanted with whoever I wanted, and nobody would say a word. And I was honestly happy with that. Most people want a girlfriend, obviously, but I wasn't going to become desperate like the majority of my friends had. I wasn't going to lower my standards just so I could say I had a girlfriend, and be unhappy.

So, I waited. I was patient. I wanted to wait for the perfect girl. If not, I could always wait until college, since there will be plenty of females there lol. It turned out my patience has payed off extremely well. The girl I'm now in a relationship is honestly perfect. She has to be a gift from God. She's actually a model...not trying to brag, I'm just saying how lucky I am and how happy I am that something like this has come along in my life. She is the perfect match for me. To be honest, this is the happiest I've been in a long time.
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Are you two both graduating and going to different schools?
 
phillkillv2
I'm not settling with a smoker at all. Some girls I know took up smoking just to basically look cool and to start up conversations, no joke. So stupid.
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My ex did that. Went to a friend's place whose parents along with her dabbled in all sorts of silly substances, my ex had her first few cigarettes then and also some alcohol (she was under age at the time). Couple of weeks later she was at work and started smoking with a couple of the adult crew members on break to "fit in".
 
Murcie_LP640
My ex did that. Went to a friend's place whose parents along with her dabbled in all sorts of silly substances, my ex had her first few cigarettes then and also some alcohol (she was under age at the time). Couple of weeks later she was at work and started smoking with a couple of the adult crew members on break to "fit in".
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****** stuff.
 
Cale
Are you two both graduating and going to different schools?
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As of right now, yes. However, our colleges are only about a half hour away.
 
Beav
Ouch. That's horrible. And thanks! :)
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Yeah, but we gave up a long time ago. Too many promises broken due to time restrictions, and different schedules.

I got to go over one time, and it was the best time I ever had with her. Also the last time we saw each other, and our last date.
 
Team THRT Drift
Yeah, but we gave up a long time ago. Too many promises broken due to time restrictions, and different schedules.

I got to go over one time, and it was the best time I ever had with her. Also the last time we saw each other, and our last date.
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Wow. I'm sorry to hear that. That's rough man. I can't imagine going through that myself. It must've been hard to push through that.
 
Beav
Wow. I'm sorry to hear that. That's rough man. I can't imagine going through that myself. It must've been hard to push through that.
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Yeah... we both knew it was bound to happen so it didn't hurt as much.

Skype is good and all, but it's not the same. You can't hug her through the screen or be there for her.
 
Stuffed now she likes someone else why must it always happen to Me ?
 
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Latvija27
Stuffed now she likes someone else why must it always happen to Me ?
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Why do you think you're so special that you're the only guy that ever had a girl that he likes, like someone else instead? Happens to everyone, get over it, move on.
 
Team THRT Drift
Yeah I have friends that do that. I take it out of their mouth every time they light it in front of me.
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I can't stand smoking. My mom smoked during breast-feeding - not during the period of it, literally while I'd be there, teeth-clamped - and I had asthma as a kid. I had three different inhalers until I wisely/stupidly took up long-distance running of all things, and somehow my asthma disappeared. I blame growing up in a smoke-heavy household on why I'm slightly south of the six-foot mark, and I remember the permanent stench it left in my clothes, and the yellowed curtains.

...but unless they're smoking somewhere that it's illegal to do so, doing what you're doing makes you the arse, not them.
 
I've been thinking about taking a girl to Maccas for an informal date for quite a while now, and I plan to do it sometime during the holidays if I can. Would it get the ball rolling for a relationship or not?
 
Johnnypenso
Why do you think you're so special that you're the only guy that ever had a girl that he likes, like someone else instead? Happens to everyone, get over it, move on.
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It's not that I think I'm special and I do move on but it happens to much.
 
Feeling caught up at the moment. Although I've had smooth approaches sometimes,I feel like this girl will make me feel like a moron I'd I attempt to ask her out.

Never knew I'd have a thing for red haired women.

We shall see what comes of this.

:lol: I mentioned her on here and to a few friends. I also mentioned how I made her feel stupid incidentally. Her cheeks went redder than her hair. :lol:

I don't think she took it straight to the heart since she con continues to speak to me. :cool:
 
So, things have been going pretty good with me and my gf(It's the same girl I was talking about earlier). I took her to dinner and to see Furious 7 last night and it went pretty good.
 
Friend of mine has taken a breakup pretty roughly. Just shows how relationships can be both great and bad, though I hope he has learned a bit from it.

I learned a bit about myself after speaking to him about it.

To not forgive a person for their actions is better than hating the person for choosing actions. I just hope that my friend understands that.
 
So with nowhere else to turn, I've come here to you fine people of the rumble strip to vent about, of all things, my relationship woes.

I'm 22 and graduated from college in January. Right after new year's my girlfriend and I of 4 years called it quits. We had been in this relationship since our senior year of high school; she was great. I was great. But towards the end it was clear we didn't really feel it anymore, were fighting more than ever before, and it was just time.

So now I'm trying to move on, and being out of college I've found it (not too surprisingly) difficult to meet new people. So I turned to Tinder, which in retrospect was probably a mistake. From there I did meet a girl, a dancer at my school and we went on a few dates. Initially she seemed to be everything I wanted, until her myriad personal issues began to take over and she treated me pretty awfully. She also drunkenly admitted to me one night that she was low on her rent one month, so she had sex with a 40 year-old fake doctor she met on a seeking arrangements style site for $200. We fought, she passive aggressively whined on social media, it was a disaster. That ended.

So I returned to Tinder a month later, cause that's how long this whole thing lasted. Met another girl who I seemed to share much in common with, especially music which seemed to be an equally big part of our lives. We texted back and forth a ton and set a day to meet up at one of her favorite record stores as a first date. She had to reschedule, but assured me that "she didn't want me to think she was standing me up." She told me she'd text me later to work something out, that never happened.

Now I never met this girl in person, so I really don't know if she would've been great or not, but the point is I don't understand why you would be interested in meeting someone, say that you are, set a date, assure them you don't want them to think you're standing them up, and then not follow through. We were talking pretty frequently over 2 weeks and at this point I feel like she's probably thinking if she stays quiet and ignores me, this will all just fade away. When she could have just saved a lot of time and my sanity if she just said she didn't want to see me at all.

TL;DR: Recently out of a long relationship, dating world is disappointing me and driving me crazy, people confuse me, think I ought to just be alone for a while.
 
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