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Well bi-polarism has different spectras and usually has set ranges for eqch person. It's not a flip of a switch and voila she hates everything. Usually a month. From joy to depression, etc. Varies for each person. Just figure out what that time interval is, and if she is on medication make sure she doesn't miss one as it helps.

Bi-polar is a difficult condition, but all you can do is be positive and always be there for her. You have to understand that she doesn't go through this voluntarily. It just happens.

When she's manic, watch your wording. Listen to her. She most likely wont let you speak during either a panic attack, or fit but be there for her and be strong.

It's sad to say this, but when your girl is manic, she isn't the same person. Be careful with what you say, be supportive. Don't let words get to you, just push through the session.



Educate yourself on her condition. Sit with her in therapy sessions, talk to her psychiatrist, do some reasearch to better understand her condition.
Thanks man! :cheers:
 
Thanks man! :cheers:

No problem. I used to have a gf who had just been dianosed with bi-polar and she was really scared but most of all confused.

I had a hunch she was bi-polar but I personally believed that the diagnosis pushed her over the edge.

You might want to read this. It really helped me back in the day. My high school psych teacher sent me this link when she saw that I was on the verge of breaking.
 
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I found this on the internet

Did you make plans or what are you planing tonight?


What she really means is “You better take me out somewhere nice.” She wants to be treated like a princess tonight. I’m not talking Red lobster. No chain restaurants please.

(So according to the internet she wants to go to a restaurant and be treated like the Queen of england ? Is that why she asks me what are your plans for tonight ?)
 
I found this on the internet

Did you make plans or what are you planing tonight?


What she really means is “You better take me out somewhere nice.” She wants to be treated like a princess tonight. I’m not talking Red lobster. No chain restaurants please.

(So according to the internet she wants to go to a restaurant and be treated like the Queen of england ? Is that why she asks me what are your plans for tonight ?)

Did you make plans to do something with her, and she's asking what you've got planned?

Is this what you're asking us? Whether what you read on the internet is true?
 
Did you make plans to do something with her, and she's asking what you've got planned?

Is this what you're asking us? Whether what you read on the internet is true?

Is what I read on the internet true meaning of what she is saying ?
 
Maybe

You cannot know all the time

All women are different, but sometimes their attitude is the same. I hope that's helpful for you.
 
I found this on the internet

Did you make plans or what are you planing tonight?


What she really means is “You better take me out somewhere nice.” She wants to be treated like a princess tonight. I’m not talking Red lobster. No chain restaurants please.

(So according to the internet she wants to go to a restaurant and be treated like the Queen of england ? Is that why she asks me what are your plans for tonight ?)

You are confusing yourself.

If she casually asks "what are you doing tonight/got plans for tonight?" it means she is curious about if you have something specific you are doing tonight. If you answer "I'm not sure" it means you don't have anything specific you were thinking of doing. If you answer, "Ya, I was going to see a movie" it means you have plans for yourself.

She may be asking because maybe if you are free perhaps, you could do something together.

The sentence you just wrote is different.

"Did you make plans/ What are you planning tonight?" This implies that the two of you have already decided to go out that evening and she is wondering if you planned anything specific for the both of you.

Good thing you asked here. She could have casually asked 'doing anything tonight?" and you would have taken her out to a 5 star restaurant. ;)
 
You are confusing yourself.

If she casually asks "what are you doing tonight/got plans for tonight?" it means she is curious about if you have something specific you are doing tonight. If you answer "I'm not sure" it means you don't have anything specific you were thinking of doing. If you answer, "Ya, I was going to see a movie" it means you have plans for yourself.

She may be asking because maybe if you are free perhaps, you could do something together.

The sentence you just wrote is different.

"Did you make plans/ What are you planning tonight?" This implies that the two of you have already decided to go out that evening and she is wondering if you planned anything specific for the both of you.

Good thing you asked here. She could have casually asked 'doing anything tonight?" and you would have taken her out to a 5 star restaurant. ;)

I wish she wasn't so vague.
 
Well, after all that happened with the friendzone thingy, I sent her a message to turn the page and get on as friends.

I think I can live with her as my friend, even though that's not how I really wanted to end... but there's plenty of time for anything to happen, I'm only 19 haha

I think that's the best decision I could take. At least I have another person I can trust down the road.
 
So, a month ago it has happened.

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I found this on the internet

Did you make plans or what are you planing tonight?


What she really means is “You better take me out somewhere nice.” She wants to be treated like a princess tonight. I’m not talking Red lobster. No chain restaurants please.

(So according to the internet she wants to go to a restaurant and be treated like the Queen of england ? Is that why she asks me what are your plans for tonight ?)
The thing I think a lot of you you younger fellas miss out on is context. You focus on specific statements and try to decipher their meaning, without understanding or relating it to the context of the discussion you were having and the way the message was delivered. Sometimes, "what are you doing tonight?" means they are just curious about your plans, just making conversation. Sometimes, "what are you doing tonight?" means they would really like it if you asked them out. Sometimes it means they are horny and want to knock boots. It all depends on the context, the eye contact, the hand gestures, the tone and intonation of the voice etc. The way a message is delivered is often more important than the content of the message.

You will learn about women much faster if you stop focusing on the specific words and specific phrases and focus on the overall mood, tone and physical delivery of the message. People rarely speak in a direct manner when in the throes of that awkward phase of getting to know each other and being uncertain of what the other person is thinking or wanting. "Do you want to go out tonight?". That's obvious. Everything else is indirect, largely due to the fact that they are shy or uncertain of where they stand with you and that's on top of the possibility of just making conversation. It all depends on what has happened throughout the conversation.
 
The thing I think a lot of you you younger fellas miss out on is context. You focus on specific statements and try to decipher their meaning, without understanding or relating it to the context of the discussion you were having and the way the message was delivered. Sometimes, "what are you doing tonight?" means they are just curious about your plans, just making conversation. Sometimes, "what are you doing tonight?" means they would really like it if you asked them out. Sometimes it means they are horny and want to knock boots. It all depends on the context, the eye contact, the hand gestures, the tone and intonation of the voice etc. The way a message is delivered is often more important than the content of the message.

You will learn about women much faster if you stop focusing on the specific words and specific phrases and focus on the overall mood, tone and physical delivery of the message. People rarely speak in a direct manner when in the throes of that awkward phase of getting to know each other and being uncertain of what the other person is thinking or wanting. "Do you want to go out tonight?". That's obvious. Everything else is indirect, largely due to the fact that they are shy or uncertain of where they stand with you and that's on top of the possibility of just making conversation. It all depends on what has happened throughout the conversation.
Good to have high emotional intelligence. 👍
 
Story Time.

One of my friends asked me if i wanted to eat lunch, i agreed, only like the third time :lol:. Afterward she asked if i wanted to hang out with her before her lab. I agree'd. We walked back to her dorm, and she goes take a nap, and then shes like nap time, and persuades me to join her, i was he big spoon, but my breathing was really out of whack. And she asks if im okay, and i reply yes, and she comforts me. We both fall asleep, i wake up because my phone exploded, and i checked and went back, we changed positions, and she layed her head on my chest, and we end up falling asleep again. I wake up and i start playing with her hair, and i got bored shortly after i put my hand back on my chest, and she takes my hand and ploops it back on her head. Guess i continued playing with her hair. Then she woke up and looked into my eyes, and we made out, french kissed... But my phone blew up since my mom urgently needed to see me. And she texted me saying she felt really stupid, since she has a thinng with another guy, and now shes telling me im scared thag ill use you. I have been giving her a ride to a class every monday&wednesday. Oh great :lol; oh kitten. On another note that was fantatic nap..
 
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And she texted me saying she felt really stupid, since she has a thinng with another guy, and now shes telling me im scared thag ill use you.
I will never comprehend why people do this.

For the record - I'm by no means blaming you as you couldn't possibly know that.
 
I will never comprehend why people do this.

For the record - I'm by no means blaming you as you couldn't possibly know that.

Lets say this, according to her -> "It never happened" :lol:. But... Another instance which shouldn't of escalated that much.. ugh.
 
Story Time.

One of my friends asked me if i wanted to eat lunch, i agreed, only like the third time :lol:. Afterward she asked if i wanted to hang out with her before her lab. I agree'd. We walked back to her dorm, and she goes take a nap, and then shes like nap time, and persuades me to join her, i was he big spoon, but my breathing was really out of whack. And she asks if im okay, and i reply yes, and she comforts me. We both fall asleep, i wake up because my phone exploded, and i checked and went back, we changed positions, and she layed her head on my chest, and we end up falling asleep again. I wake up and i start playing with her hair, and i got bored shortly after i put my hand back on my chest, and she takes my hand and ploops it back on her head. Guess i continued playing with her hair. Then she woke up and looked into my eyes, and we made out, french kissed... But my phone blew up since my mom urgently needed to see me. And she texted me saying she felt really stupid, since she has a thinng with another guy, and now shes telling me im scared thag ill use you. I have been giving her a ride to a class every monday&wednesday. Oh great :lol; oh kitten. On another note that was fantatic nap..

Just run away.

Or get all the way in.

But don't pussyfoot (pun intended) around.
 
Just run away.

Or get all the way in.

But don't pussyfoot (pun intended) around.

At the end of it she messaged me this -> an hour ago.

"Thomas were still friends. I still want to hangout and do stuff with you. I just don't want to give you hopes of me having more feelings for you. Because I already have a guy that I really like. I just don't want to hurt anyone"
"Even though that was not appropriate for are friendship. It felt good"

:lol: Probably end up cuddling and taking a nap sometime in the future together :lol:

And on another note i made out with another girl today. Crap. I feel slutty :lol: Its the last girl i talked about before. We just kind of really missed each other.. and well made out, and hugged out. Since we've been legit ignoring each other, since a big drama broke out, and its been so hard, not looking at each other, and we just had urges.

Oops
 
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"Thomas were still friends. I still want to hangout and do stuff with you. I just don't want to give you hopes of me having more feelings for you. Because I already have a guy that I really like. I just don't want to hurt anyone"
"Even though that was not appropriate for are friendship. It felt good"

I just had the same situation happen to me (read last page post) so I know how that works out. Because she liked another guy as well.

Damn, I can identify myself that bad in your situation. '-'
 
@TheKitten, that sounds an awful lot like a "friends with benefits" situation developing. If you're both okay with it and mature enough to handle it, go with it if you want. If not, particularly the maturity thing, step back.

Its basically what its developing into. And i'm okay with it. And, I am seriously okay cuddling & taking naps. lol.


I just had the same situation happen to me (read last page post) so I know how that works out. Because she liked another guy as well.

Damn, I can identify myself that bad in your situation. '-'

So complicated right? -.-
 
I miss taking naps with someone. I miss being friends with benifits. I'm a bit jelly.

But hey, like @BobK said, if you're both aware, and comfortable with what it's becoming then go for it.

On that note.. I cuddled with that girl again... Except this time it was for like 4 hours :lol: At first she was sleeping with a body pillow and i got the wall, and she took all the blankets so i had to cuddle the wall.. Which well sucked... And i couldn't sleep either... And then i decided to cuddle the body pillow and i fell asleep.. Then we both woke up and decided to cuddle each other, she placed her head on my chest and fell asleep, i fell asleep shortly after... Then an hour went by or so, we ended up changing to spooning. And like 15min or so later, we couldnt sleep and ended up watching mean girls, for 10min or so, then i brought her to class, and i drove home.

Well, now we are just cuddle buddies, which im perfectly okay with.

well that is a good thursday :D
 
I'm now going to try and write about her context now

1. She laughs at most of my jokes even some of my bad ones

2. She sits close to me I noticed this recently that whenever we are in a group or if its just us she sits next to me (When she is sitting next to me her feet are pointing at me)

3. She ask me questions such as what are your plans for tonight ? What is the time ? What did you do today ? She says " (Name) oh what are we are going to do with you."

4. She gives me food (She says she wants me to cook her dinner) (she says it in a kind of joking way) I haven't cooked her dinner yet.

5. She flirts with me sometimes but you need to be very interested in what you talk about.

6. She plays with her hair when she talks to me but all girls play with there hair.

7. When she is jealous she changes the tone of her voice.

8. If she wants to go somewhere with you she will just talk about it all day.

9. She falls asleep around me I don't know if she does this on purpose or if she is just tired.
 
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