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Latvija27
I'm now going to try and write about her context now

1. She laughs at most of my jokes even some of my bad ones

2. She sits close to me I noticed this recently that whenever we are in a group or if its just us she sits next to me (When she is sitting next to me her feet are pointing at me)

3. She ask me questions such as what are your plans for tonight ? What is the time ? What did you do today ? She says " (Name) oh what are we are going to do with you."

4. She gives me food (She says she wants me to cook her dinner) (she says it in a kind of joking way) I haven't cooked her dinner yet.

5. She flirts with me sometimes but you need to be very interested in what you talk about.

6. She plays with her hair when she talks to me but all girls play with there hair.

7. When she is jealous she changes the tone of her voice.

8. If she wants to go somewhere with you she will just talk about it all day.

9. She falls asleep around me I don't know if she does this on purpose or if she is just tired.
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I'm sure she likes you, and how you said everything she shows it too. But my question is do you like her back?
 
TheKitten
I'm sure she likes you, and how you said everything she shows it too. But my question is do you like her back?
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I'm still not 100% sure if she likes me its not easy to write about her I like her but she has been more like my friend and she has about five photos of me on her facebook profile.
 
Latvija27
I'm now going to try and write about her context now

1. She laughs at most of my jokes even some of my bad ones

2. She sits close to me I noticed this recently that whenever we are in a group or if its just us she sits next to me (When she is sitting next to me her feet are pointing at me)

3. She ask me questions such as what are your plans for tonight ? What is the time ? What did you do today ? She says " (Name) oh what are we are going to do with you."

4. She gives me food (She says she wants me to cook her dinner) (she says it in a kind of joking way) I haven't cooked her dinner yet.

5. She flirts with me sometimes but you need to be very interested in what you talk about.

6. She plays with her hair when she talks to me but all girls play with there hair.

7. When she is jealous she changes the tone of her voice.

8. If she wants to go somewhere with you she will just talk about it all day.

9. She falls asleep around me I don't know if she does this on purpose or if she is just tired.
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Latvija27
I'm still not 100% sure if she likes me its not easy to write about her I like her but she has been more like my friend and she has about five photos of me on her facebook profile.
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You're over analyzing this. If she likes you, she sticks around. She clearly has. Now you just need to define the term "like". What do you want it to mean, and check back with your "list".
 
Latvija27
I'm still not 100% sure if she likes me its not easy to write about her I like her but she has been more like my friend and she has about five photos of me on her facebook profile.
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I don't think she could make it any more clear to you short of slapping you across the face and telling you straight up. If you "like" her back in the same way you hope she likes you, then you need to make a move. If you wait too long you may give her the idea that you aren't interested and she'll move on.
 
I need some advice from people who have experience with online dating.

I started chatting with someone almost a week ago. We've been chatting every day, but I keep being the one to take initiative. First time I asked to meet her in person she said she had exams coming which required her attention. Second time I asked she put it as a condition we meet in her city should we indeed meet each other.

I am confused about her interest in me. I am the one asking to find out stuff about her. If she has no interest, I figured we would not be chatting every day. But on the other side I do not know whether she is being cautious, or seeing how much interest I have in her.

She is 20, I am 26. She still studies, I work.

The questionmark over my head about her interest in me is what is driving me up the walls. Should I keep waiting it out a bit longer, or should I ask her out a third time right now and move on if she still hesitates?
 
If she's online dating she might have other options as well (which may be closer than you or willing to come to her). It's possible that that she has enough interest in you that if you came to her you two could meet up, but not enough to drop what she's doing and travel for it.
 
Oh no Im perfectly fine meeting up in her city, its only a 20km drive. It's the fact that I keep chasing for contact that has me wondering. Is she testing me to see how much interest I have? She answers to everything I ask, and so far we have been chatting for hours. But if I would not have been the one to start every chat session, I don't think we would have been chatting at all.
 
Have you actually offered to drive to her? If not you might as well, and if she doesn't make time to meet up then I'd say she's not interested.
 
Cale
Have you actually offered to drive to her? If not you might as well, and if she doesn't make time to meet up then I'd say she's not interested.
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Then again, it's end of October. Uni kicks into high hear during this time for the next two months. I agree with everything you've said but it's just another thing @Bram Turismo has to consider. She could genuienly be busy.
 
Latvija27
So once I decide what type of relationship with her, How do I talk about it to her ?
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Don't talk to her about it. Just do it. Ask her out. Do things with her. Kiss her. Hug her. Buy her a little present. I don't understand this obsession some of you guys have with always wanting to talk about your relationship and define it before you even have a relationship. Get a couple of weeks under your belt, have some fun, then tell her you'd like to be exclusive with her if she's up for it. More doing, less talking, she has girlfriends she can talk to.

Bram Turismo
I need some advice from people who have experience with online dating.

I started chatting with someone almost a week ago. We've been chatting every day, but I keep being the one to take initiative. First time I asked to meet her in person she said she had exams coming which required her attention. Second time I asked she put it as a condition we meet in her city should we indeed meet each other.

I am confused about her interest in me. I am the one asking to find out stuff about her. If she has no interest, I figured we would not be chatting every day. But on the other side I do not know whether she is being cautious, or seeing how much interest I have in her.

She is 20, I am 26. She still studies, I work.

The questionmark over my head about her interest in me is what is driving me up the walls. Should I keep waiting it out a bit longer, or should I ask her out a third time right now and move on if she still hesitates?
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Bring this issue to a head without being a dink about it. Just tell her straight up, "I'd really like to meet you in person, how can we make this happen?". Her response to this will give you your answer. If she wants to meet you, she'll make it happen and narrow down a time and date and stick to it. She'll also be positive about it. If she hims and haws about being busy and blah blah blah, she doesn't want to meet. Move on.
 
Johnnypenso
Don't talk to her about it. Just do it. Ask her out. Do things with her. Kiss her. Hug her. Buy her a little present. I don't understand this obsession some of you guys have with always wanting to talk about your relationship and define it before you even have a relationship. Get a couple of weeks under your belt, have some fun, then tell her you'd like to be exclusive with her if she's up for it. More doing, less talking, she has girlfriends she can talk to.
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GTboyz
I'm goin' bankcrupt in the relationship business. Falling for a girl sucks, right now i think i'm just gonna be alone for a while and not think about dating anyone. I wish you all the best at getting your crush :cheers:
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I'm on the same boat with you there.

I'm trying to talk to a redhead who's in a lot of my Chem classes but something keeps holding me back. I'm not afraid at all when it comes to women so I know that's not an issue, but there's something about her...

A friend of mine has her as his lab partner, so I asked him what she was like. First thing that came out of his mouth "she has anger management issues like me."

Well, I can handle that. I find it cute when a girl almost rages at the smallest things in life; I've dated a couple of them.

Today after our midterm I tried to talk her. I saw her sitting near the middle of the auditorium so I went up there. Said hi and she greeted me with a smile. I asked if I could sit next to her, and she was a bit hesitant, but only because her friend was going to sit next to her.

Here's where it just becomes awkward as hell. My friend, the one who is also her lab partner, comes up as well because he can see it's about to go wrong. So he plays the role of the buffer.

We chatted a bit about the midterm and shared answers, mistakes, etc. However I really wasn't feeling it. I mean, I want to get to know her, but this blank thought in the back of my mind is saying don't do it.

When the convo wasn't leading anywhere, I just decided to go home. As I'm leaving, she turns to me and says "Is it hot in here, or is it just me?" I shot that clichè down in a heartbeat.

I guess today just wasn't my day... maybe the fact that I only had two hours sleep has to do with it.
 
The reason i said some stuff in my previous post was because i got close to this girl whom i met at a social app. We never actually meet though we planned it but either one of us is always busy. We chat non stop everyday for the last 5 months. Never once we got bored with each other.

The problem is, she is stil close to her ex, she still has feelings for him even though they have broken up for 3 years. Her ex is somehow a jerk since after they broke up, he still acts like her boyfriend but doesn't want to get back together. Recently, she got really mad at her ex for lying to her, viewing her as a choice when he is bored with other girls and hated him for it. The next day, her ex came to her house and ask her to get back together, clearly shows that he just doesn't want to lose his "toys".

Then she suddenly said to me that she's still thinking about getting back together even though the day before she said she hated him and doesn't want to get back together again.

From there on, i just can't be close to her anymore. I guess you all can say i'm the dumb one here. Maybe i've developed some kind of feeling to her even though we never actually met and now i just had to stay away from her before i like her even more.

The point is, stay away from people who can't seem to move on from their exes. What a crap experience.
 
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Team THRT Drift
I'm on the same boat with you there.

I'm trying to talk to a redhead who's in a lot of my Chem classes but something keeps holding me back. I'm not afraid at all when it comes to women so I know that's not an issue, but there's something about her...

A friend of mine has her as his lab partner, so I asked him what she was like. First thing that came out of his mouth "she has anger management issues like me."

Well, I can handle that. I find it cute when a girl almost rages at the smallest things in life; I've dated a couple of them.

Today after our midterm I tried to talk her. I saw her sitting near the middle of the auditorium so I went up there. Said hi and she greeted me with a smile. I asked if I could sit next to her, and she was a bit hesitant, but only because her friend was going to sit next to her.

Here's where it just becomes awkward as hell. My friend, the one who is also her lab partner, comes up as well because he can see it's about to go wrong. So he plays the role of the buffer.

We chatted a bit about the midterm and shared answers, mistakes, etc. However I really wasn't feeling it. I mean, I want to get to know her, but this blank thought in the back of my mind is saying don't do it.

When the convo wasn't leading anywhere, I just decided to go home. As I'm leaving, she turns to me and says "Is it hot in here, or is it just me?" I shot that clichè down in a heartbeat.

I guess today just wasn't my day... maybe the fact that I only had two hours sleep has to do with it.
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"I shot that clichè down in a heartbeat.". Just to clarify, what did you mean by this?

GTboyz
The reason i said some stuff in my previous post was because i got close to this girl whom i met at a social app. We never actually meet though we planned it but either one of us is always busy. We chat non stop everyday for the last 5 months. Never once we got bored with each other.

The problem is, she is stil close to her ex, she still has feelings for him even though they have broken up for 3 years. Her ex is somehow a jerk since after they broke up, he still acts like her boyfriend but doesn't want to get back together. Recently, she got really mad at her ex for lying to her, viewing her as a choice when he is bored with other girls and hated him for it. The next day, her ex came to her house and ask her to get back together, clearly shows that he just doesn't want to lose his "toys".

Then she suddenly said to me that she's still thinking about getting back together even though the day before she said she hated him and doesn't want to get back together again.

From there on, i just can be close to her anymore. I guess you all can say i'm the dumb one here. Maybe i've developed some kind of feeling to her even though we never actually met and now i just had to stay away from her before i like her even more.

The point is, stay away from people who can't seem to move on from their exes. What a crap experience.
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Sage advice for anyone. If he/she is hung up on the ex, don't even think about getting involved beyond a booty call. You're just setting yourself up for a fall.
 
Good News :)!

I am in a steady new relationship! Everything is going really well! She is so sweet, beautiful, just ugh everything. I asked her out yesterday night, and she promptly said yes, with the most beautiful smile i have ever seen. The best part is, she lives basically 6 houses down from my house. Which is fantastic. I met her parents, and her sister, and her animals, and they really like me. Today, my mom was like, "out of all the girls you brought over, this is the first one that i like, and she is so cute, and smart" I brought her over today, and we did homework, and my mom helped her with her Geometry homework, since my mom is doing a masters in math. And she tutors math at the college i'm going too.

She's in 9th grade, and i would technically be a senior... but, i never went to high school :lol:


Sunday we went on a majestic hike, to a peninsula, which i never went to, quite talked alot, and that was a great day, was really relaxing. And she walked with me Monday night with my poodles, which was really nice, spent at least a great hour walking around the neighborhood. And i brought her over Tuesday, and she helped me cook meatballs, and rice, i ended up burning the rice a little, and then it ended in the best cuddling, i have ever experienced in my life. And i finally asked her, and she promptly accepted, with the biggest joy in her eyes, and just everything.

Yep this is my week.

:dopey:
 

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