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you don't deserve the one you've got.
Excuse me?
Not trying to be mean here, but that's a whole lotta oh hell no bro. You may be right, it might not affect her, but if that's true, then you're going to have to find out just what she does feel, if she can feel at all. Because I don't know one person, not one, who wouldn't be hurt if they knew their significant other had feelings for somebody else! So while you might be right, I'm willing to bet that she's hiding it. Whether she's hiding it behind denial, or naivety I can't answer that. But if she's completely fine with everything you've said here, then she has some serious issues of her own to think about. Also, even if she is fine with it, it still doesn't make it okay. Being honorable is, often, doing something that is viewed as right or righteous, even though the alternative action isn't necessarily viewed as wrong or indecent. All that being said, I do understand where you're coming from with all this, I do. I think that feelings are out of our control - it is near impossible to change the feelings that emerge, once they're there, it's a little easier, but not much. How you act on those feelings is what defines you as a person, however. I grew feelings for another woman when I was engaged two years ago, but the first thing I did was tell my fiancée, and the second thing I did was completely cut the other woman out of my life. Was I in the right? No. Did I avoid heartbreak and pain as much as I possibly could? Yes.It doesn't seem to phase her.
LOL, you just keep believing that, then. The way you're going will bite you in the ass sooner or later.The thing is she knows about this...it's not something I've kept hidden from her. It doesn't seem to phase her.
Excuse me?
Bro.The thing is she knows about this...it's not something I've kept hidden from her. It doesn't seem to phase her.
Are you kidding me?!
How about you break up with your 'distraction' and let her go find someone who won't lust after her best friend then act like it's some victimising hardship they haven't brought on themselves.
There is this girl I want, who I met last December. And she is a beautiful. She is light skin African American( just like me) and she is so cool. Good personality. Funny. Mature. See each year my family and friends go down to Ocean City,MD at December ever since I was born.. 1996.
So we go down there to shop, chill, have fun. So I first met her last time and she came with her cousins. I'm cool with them and I think they won't care if I date her. Here is the twist she is 20-23 I don't remember its been months. But I confirm in the 20s. I'm 16 now. Gonna turn 17 in August. Here is another thing, I'm a 220 lbs.. 5'5. I'm shorter than her. But here is the thing, I excercise like crazy now. Not then but now! I'm trying loose 75 pounds by December. I dropped processed food and sodas. So hopefully I can do it.
I can run 6.0mph for 3 mins strait.. probably longer if I try harder. I do about half a mile a day. Trying to do 3 1/4 of a mile a day.
Any excercise tips. Oh and my bumps/pimples are almost gone.
SOMEONE HELP!!
I'm in an akward position. There's this one girl who likes me for a fact. She's always staring at me and gets nervous around me and jumbles up her words when she talks to me. She even told her best friend and she told me. And I like her too. The problem is she has a boyfriend and here's where it gets wierd. Her boyfriend is my best friend. I really like her but I don't wanna loose my best friend. What do I do.
Extra details) if I need to choose I'd choose her over my best friend.
Hey bro! I appreciatte you took the time to write all that, thanks a lot. After all this time, I've finally decided not to talk about that with her anymore... I made one final try, but got another "I don't know"...
I'll just leave it there. If she doesn't want to see me, fine. I'll grant her her wish... All the SMS messages and phonecalls count for nothing when we can't see us face to face to make things straight...
I don`t know if what I`am about to say directly relates to this topic, but I`am finding hard to start conversations with girls on Facebook. How can i start a conversation with someone i don`t know from anywhere, but seems really lovely? I feel embarrassing asking this since I`am already 19 years old >.<
Dude, what? She actually hates you?! It hurts but you'll move on and it'll get easier, trust me. The end of the world are things like losing a loved one to death or disease, losing your home, losing your life. A girl is not one of those reasons to feel like the world is coming down. Best of luck.I just, I just give up, this girl i have been courting for weeks just hate me and such, i give up kill me now!
XSDude, what? She actually hates you?! It hurts but you'll move on and it'll get easier, trust me. The end of the world are things like losing a loved one to death or disease, losing your home, losing your life. A girl is not one of those reasons to feel like the world is coming down. Best of luck.
I know but i was just trying to make her laugh when she was pissed and it did the opposite she's so pissed right now. I know that when a family member dies it's gonna be the worst thing in the world good thing some of them died before i was born and i didn't need to go through all the pain.
Ah, I see. I was just making a point because you seem like you hate the world right now, which is understandable. If she likes you, she'll get over it pretty quickly, just apologize and give her a little space for a while. If she doesn't like you then you know it's time to move on a live life. It's hard, but as soon as you stop concentrating on an infatuation and concentrate on living life, you start to feel much better. Actually, in psychology this is considered the ONLY sure way to happiness. Other things can make you happy, but the human mind is most happy when there's no stress of regret or anxiety of future decisions to weigh it down, therefore letting go and reducing stressors as much as possible will build general happiness over time. It's still very difficult, I know.I know but i was just trying to make her laugh when she was pissed and it did the opposite she's so pissed right now. I know that when a family member dies it's gonna be the worst thing in the world good thing some of them died before i was born and i didn't need to go through all the pain.
XSAh, I see. I was just making a point because you seem like you hate the world right now, which is understandable. If she likes you, she'll get over it pretty quickly, just apologize and give her a little space for a while. If she doesn't like you then you know it's time to move on a live life. It's hard, but as soon as you stop concentrating on an infatuation and concentrate on living life, you start to feel much better. Actually, in psychology this is considered the ONLY sure way to happiness. Other things can make you happy, but the human mind is most happy when there's no stress of regret or anxiety of future decisions to weigh it down, therefore letting go and reducing stressors as much as possible will build general happiness over time. It's still very difficult, I know.
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Edit: OTH - Danny's advice sounds much better.![]()
Don't start off with direct messages if you can help it. Maybe comment on their status agreeing with something they say. Then later on message them to ask them something about it?
Works much better with some lead-up.
Yeah, I would feel sad too, but until you can say for certain, I'd give it a shot. It's true that she might not like you, but if you ask her out to a date, and she goes for it, than you've already got a good start and she might start liking you on the basis that she now knows you're interested in taking the friendship further. This actually happened to me. I had a secret infatuation with a coworker, asked her out, the date went badly in my case though, but over a year later she revealed that after I showed romantic interest in her, she started liking me too. The kicker is now she has somebodyWell she's basically in her general mood she gets mad quick but she also cools down quick, she's in her usual childish girl mood but I'm glad she's not mad at me or anything like that. However I doubt that she apologized because she likes me, She's like that to everyone. So I'm pretty much still sad because she probably doesn't like me.
-Lucas.
Probably would have been better if you'd just told him that she'd told you she was pregnant, he'd have run a mile.