The General Relationship Thread

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I hate Valentines day with a passion. Not only is it a load of 🤬 created purely for a commercial benefit, BUT i'm always the guy out of a group of friends who spends the day on his own.
I second that.

This guy who hangs out around where I do is kinda funny, but now he's started to get really annoying. Like I'm close and talk to a lot of girls, being cutesy a lot of the time, but every time he sees me with a girl afterwards he's like "Oooo has she friendzoned you yet dude!?". Yes, very drole, thanks for reminding me off the fact girls generally don't see me as boyfriend material.
Ironic coming a guy that from what I can tell speaks to one girl in total in the whole college. And she has a boyfriend.
 
Alright guys, Ive decided that tomorrow is the day that Im going to ask that girl i mentioned out. (Yes, i know: Valentines day; so original :p) Ill give you guys an update tomorrow with what she says. Wish me luck! :D
 
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I hate Valentines day with a passion. Not only is it a load of 🤬 created purely for a commercial benefit, BUT i'm always the guy out of a group of friends who spends the day on his own.
I decided not to mourn for the day and just treat it as another day. So I dropped off a rose to three friends of mine.
 
I don't mind Valentines day, I usually joke around hating it but it's just that I'm not really into the cheesy romantic hearts, chocolate and roses. I guess I'll get accustomed to it when older but for now, I'll just keep it low key and cheap like usually when I take someone out.. I don't even want to know what my honeymoon would be like if I ever have one. Probably rent out a McDonalds to stay the night at.
 
What I'm gonna say here is that its so annoying being very shy when it comes to girls. Then make it worse you think you have the courage to finally say something and have a relapse so to speak.

'Nother note, there's a girl that I think likes me who sits next to me in English class but I have no darn idea. She's a hockey fan, though not of my favorite team, but that's too small to worry about. As I said I'm very shy when it comes to talking to girls, as well as damn nervous.

Once in English class last year, a girl that I was attracted to said hi to me but I couldn't audibly say hi back I was so nervous. At that point, I mentally powerbombed myself through a table, like below.

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That reminds me of myself back in school. When a girl says hi and waves to me, I just smiled back. I didn't said anything, not a hi or hello. Then I started hearing people say I'm stuck up. I'm not stuck up! I'm just shy! :eek: So I've learned, to at least reply to someone who says hi. I still don't say hi to someone unless they say hi first, though. I'm not one to initiate because I'm just... shy like that. But then I've heard people saying I'm stuck up again. Still working on that.
 
1 girl is like *You're really cute, can we have sex* *Don't tell my bf doe* Well then, these days keep on getting weirder... :|
 
I don't have a date for Valentine's day, but I did text "Happy VD" to a girl this morning.

She got pretty mad, I guess I woke her up.
 
All my friends with partners are off with them. Even my friends without have plans. And I'm sat here on reddit.
Even if I could go out it's raining damn hard so would I really want to. And now I've run out of Seananners prop hunt videos to watch. Damn it! :lol:
 
Three hundred and sixty five days...

THREE HUNDRED AND SIXTY FIVE FAILURES...



At least, she can't say I didn't try hard enough...
 
Yay, alone again. But the day's just a big scam so who cares.
 
Meh, I don't really care actually. It feels just like another day. I don't understand what it's supposed to be about, or why are we celebrating it, or the relation to its origins. (other than the fact that Valentine was the name of a certain saint)


Anyway, first post here. Just to keep it slightly more on-topic - I've never had a significant other, and I'm 19. Ever had sad feelings that I don't seem to have a loving someone by my side? Well, sometimes.

But, I suppose it's much better than some of you who had long-term relationships and suddenly got dumped. It must be devastatingly painful to have the belief that there's a certain someone who acceptingly loves you suddenly shattered. You must feel cheated, as if you were living a lie. But the thing is, if there seems to be no particular reason on why you suddenly were left behind, maybe he or she didn't actually love you in the very first place. (except you did something so horrendous such as cheating on him or her that caused severe mental breakdown, or you actually didn't know each other so well prior to the relationship)

I think that a truly loving relationship involves accepting each other for what they are, but also not being afraid to acknowledge the flaws of each other. You can't perfectly mold someone to be wholly like the idealistic partner you wished or imagined; I don't think you can actually find that person. That doesn't mean one has to be a suck-up all the time in a relationship; one should always be willing to state what he or she doesn't like. But you can't expect him or her to eliminate all the shortcomings. I think that when there are strong feelings between the couple, to the point where both share similar values, are fully comfortable in sharing or listening to details of personal issues, and are willing to trust, understand, and help each other, a relationship should remain intact. If it breaks, most likely love wasn't even there in the very first place.

The case of physical attractiveness is natural and it may add to the relationship, but it shouldn't be the primary incentive in determining whether you "like" a person in the very first place. You may find him or her to be the most handsome or prettiest, but he or she will never be half as beautiful as the person who you had tons of deep conversations with and managed to get the most understanding from. In the end, you will barely have feelings for the most physically attractive person. (except you feel so bewitched by his or her looks, to the point that you start fantasizing about what kind of person he or she is, which is actually not a case of being attracted to her in the end as well - you just need to force some sense into yourself in such moments, before it ruins your mental health)


But, what am I doing anyway. I've never even been in a relationship. There may be a lot of things regarding it that I don't understand. It's just another collection of my own ideals. I just feel like posting this, even though it's not completely relevant to the previous posts on this particular page. It's relevant to the thread's title, right.
 
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I think the whole "If they broke up with you they never loved you" thing is utter bull. I've been with girls, felt a strong bond with them, like they were the one for me, and then it fades. I mean love is just a bunch of chemical reactions in the brain so they can stop and start.

You guys are more difficult than most girls.
I'll give you a hug!
 
Meh, I don't really care actually. It feels just like another day. I don't understand what it's supposed to be about, or why are we celebrating it, or the relation to its origins. (other than the face that Valentine was the name of a certain saint)


Anyway, first post here. Just to keep it slightly more on-topic - I've never had a significant other, and I'm 19. Ever had sad feelings that I don't seem to have a loving someone by my side? Well, sometimes.

But, I suppose it's much better than some of you who had long-term relationships and suddenly got dumped. It must be devastatingly painful to have the belief that there's a certain someone who acceptingly loves you suddenly shattered. You must feel cheated, as if you were living a lie. But the thing is, if there seems to be no particular reason on why you suddenly were left behind, maybe he or she didn't actually love you in the very first place. (except you did something so horrendous such as cheating on him or her that caused severe mental breakdown, or you actually didn't know each other so well prior to the relationship)

I think that a truly loving relationship involves accepting each other for what they are, but also not being afraid to acknowledge the flaws of each other. You can't perfectly mold someone to be wholly like the idealistic partner you wished or imagined; I don't think you can actually find that person. That doesn't mean that one has to be a suck-up all the time in a relationship; one should always be willing to state what he or she doesn't like. But you can't expect him or her to eliminate all the shortcomings. I think that when there are strong feelings between the couple, to the point where both share similar values, are fully comfortable in sharing or listening to details of personal issues, and are willing to trust, understand, and help each other, a relationship should remain intact. If it breaks, most likely love wasn't even there in the very first place.

The case of physical attractiveness is natural and it may add to the relationship, but it shouldn't be the primary incentive in determining whether you "like" a person in the very first place. You may find him or her to be the most handsome or prettiest, but he or she will never be half as beautiful as the person who you had tons of deep conversations with and managed to get the most understanding from. In the end, you will barely have feelings for the most physically attractive person. (except you feel so bewitched by his or her looks, to the point that you start fantasizing about what kind of person he or she is, which is actually not a case of being attracted to her in the end as well - you just need to force some sense into yourself in such moments, before it ruins your mental health)


But, what am I doing anyway. I've never even been in a relationship. There may be a lot of things regarding it that I don't understand. It's just another collection of my own ideals. I just feel like posting this, even though it's not completely relevant to the previous posts on this particular page. It's relevant to the thread's title, right.
That. Was. The. Deepest. Thing. I've. Ever. Read.
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The feels. :hug:
 
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