The General Relationship Thread

[Johnny1996]

I'd say some funny things if the girl that sits on my other side wouldn't beat me to it. She's funnier than I'll ever be, though. But thanks for the tips guys. 👍

 

[phillgt2002]

I'd say some funny things if the girl that sits on my other side wouldn't beat me to it. She's funnier than I'll ever be, though. But thanks for the tips guys. 👍

I look back at high-school and notice how easy it is to get a conversation started. Just talk to her when you're around her. Complain about the thing every high-school person hates, and that's homework. Just start from that and you'll probably have lengthy conversation that may turn into something completely different.

 

[ProjectWHaT]

So yesterday, our science teacher said we can sit wherever we want. As I expected, the girl that likes me sits behind me. I was really tempted to talk to her but I just couldn't do it. :'C

Hopefully, I'll be able to do it tomorrow. Or the day after that...

 

[Slash]

So yesterday, our science teacher said we can sit wherever we want. As I expected, the girl that likes me sits behind me. I was really tempted to talk to her but I just couldn't do it. :'C

Hopefully, I'll be able to do it tomorrow. Or the day after that...

I tend to think about it rapidly over and over until I work up enough adrenaline that it just comes out.

It's actually been getting things off my chest lately by doing that.

 

[MiuraSV777]

So yesterday, our science teacher said we can sit wherever we want. As I expected, the girl that likes me sits behind me. I was really tempted to talk to her but I just couldn't do it. :'C

Hopefully, I'll be able to do it tomorrow. Or the day after that...

Im not the best at advice with this type of stuff, but let me just throw this idea out there: (Could the more experienced people in here back this up, or say if its not a good thing?)

Until you get used to talking to her and build up confidence, try the best you can to forget that you like her when you talk to her. This could make it easier to talk to her. Also, I would think its best to try to talk to her as soon as possible, because it may give a better first impression, instead of the impression of a shy person.

Anyone what to add or change anything to what I said? I may have been a bit confusing, because Im extremely tired right now.

 

[Bo]

Things be better today 👍

Shook hands, moved on.

 

[Callum B]

Im not the best at advice with this type of stuff, but let me just throw this idea out there: (Could the more experienced people in here back this up, or say if its not a good thing?)

Until you get used to talking to her and build up confidence, try the best you can to forget that you like her when you talk to her. This could make it easier to talk to her. Also, I would think its best to try to talk to her as soon as possible, because it may give a better first impression, instead of the impression of a shy person.

Anyone what to add or change anything to what I said? I may have been a bit confusing, because Im extremely tired right now.

That's good advice man. As I've said before it's all about 'not trying' and this is part of it.

 

[phillgt2002]

@MiuraSV777

Sounds like what I did. I wouldn't do it on purpose but id actually forget I liked her and I just usually treated her as another student. Of course my anxiety destroyed any possibility of us speaking much further. Noticed now A relationship is useless. I have too much **** to worry about.

 

[ProjectWHaT]

She's absent today. :/

 

[Cano]

Yep! Finally happened 👍 Gracias!!!

About time, got dammmit. Now just don't get pregnant.

 

[phillgt2002]

She's absent today. :/

Happened to me haha. She'll be there waiting for you haha

 

[Bc4]

She's absent today. :/

Do you like have her on facebook or something?

 

[ProjectWHaT]

Do you like have her on facebook or something?

No. I don't think she has one.

 

[Bc4]

No. I don't think she has one.

Oh well, would've made things easier

 

[ProjectWHaT]

Oh well, would've made things easier

Yea. Communication on the Internet behind a screen is much easier than face to face. Great example is this. Right now. Talking about my personal problems to a stranger.

 

[Madertus]

Yea. Communication on the Internet behind a screen is much easier than face to face. Great example is this. Right now. Talking about my personal problems to a stranger.

I actually always found it easier to talk to people - to everyone, not just the girls I'd be potentially interested in - far easier via not-face-to-face method.

This is the one thing that I like the Internet for - you're pretty much completely anonymous. You can tell the next guy about your biggest secret, and you won't feel like you said it out loud in public.

 

[INEEDNAWZZZ]

Never been in a relationship (I'm 18 in 2 months). A part of me likes the idea of it, the other part of me doesn't really care, and is more interested in making new friends who are female if that makes sense.

I do have a query though; I've been told by a female friend that I'm a really nice guy and would have no problems finding the right girl. However, most girls seem to go for guys with quirks - confident, slightly cocky, even awkward in an endearing way - all of which are things I don't necessarily possess. I think part of my issue is that I'm just 'generic'. There's nothing spectacularly amazing about me, yet there is nothing offensive or antagonising about how I act either. I mean, I figure there is a girl out there with that criteria in mind for a guy, but that's my point - do girls really just go for those with those little differences, or are there some who'd just be happy with someone who is just the archetypal guy*?

*Also, this doesn't mean I'm categorising myself as a 'nice guy'; as far as I'm concerned, you aren't a nice guy at all if you characterise yourself as that, since it implies you just act amicably to maintain a good image.

 

[Bc4]

Never been in a relationship (I'm 18 in 2 months). A part of me likes the idea of it, the other part of me doesn't really care, and is more interested in making new friends who are female if that makes sense.

I do have a query though; I've been told by a female friend that I'm a really nice guy and would have no problems finding the right girl. However, most girls seem to go for guys with quirks - confident, slightly cocky, even awkward in an endearing way - all of which are things I don't necessarily possess. I think part of my issue is that I'm just 'generic'. There's nothing spectacularly amazing about me, yet there is nothing offensive or antagonising about how I act either. I mean, I figure there is a girl out there with that criteria in mind for a guy, but that's my point - do girls really just go for those with those little differences, or are there some who'd just be happy with someone who is just the archetypal guy*?

*Also, this doesn't mean I'm categorising myself as a 'nice guy'; as far as I'm concerned, you aren't a nice guy at all if you characterise yourself as that, since it implies you just act amicably to maintain a good image.

I related to almost everything you just wrote so I'd like to know too...

 

[phillgt2002]

Never been in a relationship (I'm 18 in 2 months). A part of me likes the idea of it, the other part of me doesn't really care, and is more interested in making new friends who are female if that makes sense.

I do have a query though; I've been told by a female friend that I'm a really nice guy and would have no problems finding the right girl. However, most girls seem to go for guys with quirks - confident, slightly cocky, even awkward in an endearing way - all of which are things I don't necessarily possess. I think part of my issue is that I'm just 'generic'. There's nothing spectacularly amazing about me, yet there is nothing offensive or antagonising about how I act either. I mean, I figure there is a girl out there with that criteria in mind for a guy, but that's my point - do girls really just go for those with those little differences, or are there some who'd just be happy with someone who is just the archetypal guy*?

*Also, this doesn't mean I'm categorising myself as a 'nice guy'; as far as I'm concerned, you aren't a nice guy at all if you characterise yourself as that, since it implies you just act amicably to maintain a good image.

Are you me? Me are you?

 

[AlvaroF]

Most of us can relate

 

[Madertus]

I had the ultimate horrible dream this morning.

You guys might remember my boo-hoo, sad story about how unhappy I am for not pursuing that girl years ago? Yeah, I had a dream that she agreed to meet with me (I messaged her in December 2012 just to see "Seen on X" message pop up). And I thought it was finally real.

After waking up I was just severely depressed, and now I'm blaming myself again, although I had no choice but to leave my pursuit at what it was because I had to move to another city with my family.

God I hate when this happens.

 

[Ryanswannell]

I think I've just made myself look a massive cock . So, I had a few drinks with my golf mates as it was our 'captains day', which is our most important golf event of the year, and afterwards we went to the pub to celebrate 👍.

So, about an hour after I get home, I chose to go on the internet in my 'tipsy' state, and then logged onto Facebook. There is this girl who I have on my friends list who I think is gorgeous but I don't know her very well, but I just sent her a private message saying how I felt about her.

She has seen the message but hasn't replied . Luckily I don't see her much anymore (as I have finished my last year of Sixth Form) so it wont be as awkward as it could have been, but I still feel weird about it

However, I'm so glad I got it out there for her to see. Let's just hope there are no repercussions

So, 6 months after this post of mine there is still no reply, but she didn't delete me from facebook either so at least she (hopefully) doesn't think I'm some kind of wierdo. But now she has a boyfriend . How brilliant is that .

This gets depressing after a while .

 

[INEEDNAWZZZ]

If it makes you feel any better, I've only ever asked out one girl in my life, when I was in year 11 (or rather, my friend told her I liked her before I got to know her a bit better). Wanna know her response? Yep - removed and blocked on Facebook. Then she started saying stuff behind my back. And texting me abusive messages. And my friends thought it was hilarious.

I know I made a big deal in my above post saying that I don't really care for relationships or chasing girls in general, but to say it didn't make me feel awful about myself is an understatement. That was about 2 years ago now, and obviously I've learnt from that and come to the decision that she's completely at fault here - I did nothing wrong and that she's just mental. Obviously, your story isn't as extreme as mine is, yet I'll give the same advice - it's not worth kicking yourself over. It sucks thinking about 'what if?', but in all honesty, its better to look forward to meeting someone who appreciates your company. Trust me, it'll happen. 👍

 

[Slash]

I find it much easier to talk once you become friends. It's just getting there that I tend to have a tough time with.

 

[Madertus]

If it makes you feel any better, I've only ever asked out one girl in my life, when I was in year 11 (or rather, my friend told her I liked her before I got to know her a bit better). Wanna know her response? Yep - removed and blocked on Facebook. Then she started saying stuff behind my back. And texting me abusive messages. And my friends thought it was hilarious.

I know I made a big deal in my above post saying that I don't really care for relationships or chasing girls in general, but to say it didn't make me feel awful about myself is an understatement. That was about 2 years ago now, and obviously I've learnt from that and come to the decision that she's completely at fault here - I did nothing wrong and that she's just mental. Obviously, your story isn't as extreme as mine is, yet I'll give the same advice - it's not worth kicking yourself over. It sucks thinking about 'what if?', but in all honesty, its better to look forward to meeting someone who appreciates your company. Trust me, it'll happen. 👍

Except I'm not really looking for anyone

No, seriously. My secondary school experiences made me completely unable to trust anyone. Two suicide attemps because of bullying.

Also, about that moving to another city thing... I lived in the first one (well, it was a town rather than a city) for 12 years - over half of my life. Everyone I knew and considered at least a colleague (exactly 27 people) received a message from me, saying that I'd just like to meet them casually. And guess what.

Not one answer. Not a single one.

How am I supposed to find someone whom I won't regret meeting when even those who knew me for 12 years dump me?

 

[INEEDNAWZZZ]

My school experience was largely the same, especially from my friends regarding the whole thing about this girl. Although I did have a little meltdown a while back, feeling completely useless and that no one really cared about what I had to say or had done, and they did eventually put their hands up and admitted they used my naïvety to get away with their 'banter'. Its taken time, but I do feel I've gained their trust again and they do act more kind towards me. Starting college has helped me immensely too; gave me a real perspective of what people are actually like outside of the school environment - suffice to say, I was pleasantly surprised.

Being a tad older than me, I'm not sure what opportunities there are for you to get out and meet some new people, but in all honesty, there are decent people out there, you just need to broaden your horizon a bit I suppose.

 

[Slash]

High school summed up in a few words: Cars, trucks, sex, drugs, music.

 

[AlvaroF]

I'm not that further from the same situation... 2 years ago every single one and everyone of my close group just disintegrated into small groups and I didn't fit in any of them, resulting in loneliness and sadness. Regarding girls, after that I've neve been cofident to start a conversation after that incident.

@Slash, lucky you... I'm still in high school and I don't get any of that. My summary is: study, music, study, beer, study and a bit more of study.

 

[Slash]

It wasn't all fun.

 

[Ryanswannell]

If it makes you feel any better, I've only ever asked out one girl in my life, when I was in year 11 (or rather, my friend told her I liked her before I got to know her a bit better). Wanna know her response? Yep - removed and blocked on Facebook. Then she started saying stuff behind my back. And texting me abusive messages. And my friends thought it was hilarious.

Sorry to hear that mate, that must have been horrible. I don't get how she could do such a thing, but I suppose it's better finding out she's a bitch then rather than finding out during a relationship.👍

I know I made a big deal in my above post saying that I don't really care for relationships or chasing girls in general, but to say it didn't make me feel awful about myself is an understatement. That was about 2 years ago now, and obviously I've learnt from that and come to the decision that she's completely at fault here - I did nothing wrong and that she's just mental. Obviously, your story isn't as extreme as mine is, yet I'll give the same advice - it's not worth kicking yourself over. It sucks thinking about 'what if?', but in all honesty, its better to look forward to meeting someone who appreciates your company. Trust me, it'll happen. 👍

I hope so, I just suppose I'm lacking something other guys have because, you know, I've been single during the whole 18 years of my existence, whereas everyone else around me has had at least one relationship.

Again, I'm sorry to hear your experience wasn't too great.