The General Relationship Thread

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If she invites you into her life, it's alright, as long as you can respect her relationship with her bf and you understand your relationship with her.

If you try to force your way into her life, that's when you're inviting trouble.

I agree with both of your points @Bc4 and @Speedy Samurai
 
It gets to the point you just can't do it anymore, it kills you mentally^
 
I want to ask this girl out but I don't know if she has boyfriend. I usually know how to do this but hmm...
 
phillkillv2
I want to ask this girl out but I don't know if she has boyfriend. I usually know how to do this but hmm...
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Let her relationship end naturally. I don't think it's right to try and intervene in a relationship that's already there for your personal gain. The majority of the time, it makes you look like a douchenozzle and doesn't even work.
 
Do you all think it's ok to have a one-sided friendship? ie one where you have a best friend but that person has a best friend that's not you?
 
What? I don't know if she has a boyfriend or not. I'm not saying that I'm considering ending her relationship if she's in one haha. Slow down.
 
phillkillv2
What? I don't know if she has a boyfriend or not. I'm not saying that I'm considering ending her relationship if she's in one haha. Slow down.
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If you're talking to me, i'm talking about myself here... Nothing to do with you.
 
hsv010
Do you all think it's ok to have a one-sided friendship? ie one where you have a best friend but that person has a best friend that's not you?
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I think it is; as long as that friend is at least moderately aware that you consider them your own best friend, then its not weird in the slightest. Most friendships are like that anyway.
 
Speedy Samurai
If you're befriending girls who have boyfriends you are only inviting trouble. As much as everyone likes to think we are all mature enough to handle things like this that is rarely the case.
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How so? My best friend is a girl, has been my best friend for almost five years, has a boyfriend. I've had no trouble. Maybe just lucky?
 
ECGadget
How so? My best friend is a girl, has been my best friend for almost five years, has a boyfriend. I've had no trouble. Maybe just lucky?
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Same here. No trouble.
 
Since my last post. I've still not met this girl I've been talking to. So I've decided to stop asking to meet up and just carry on texting her and being nice about stuff, she's just text me in uni as I type this. And also whilst I've done that, I've met another person and I now have her number and I'm texting her regularly now, I'm gonna take a relaxed approach and see where that goes.

Also most interestingly, on Tuesday I met up with an old college friend who I've not spoken to in about 2 years, we used to be extremely close back then as her relationship was a pile of crap back then and I offered her an escape but she never took it. Now when we met up, it seemed like the old days and shes been texting me all week behind her boyfriends back. (The same one she was with in college who abused her) She's said things that have raised my eyebrows too.


What. The. Hell. Do. I. Do?
 
INEEDNAWZZZ
I think it is; as long as that friend is at least moderately aware that you consider them your own best friend, then its not weird in the slightest. Most friendships are like that anyway.
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He knows he's my best friend. To be fair, I think he'll naturally grow closer over the years as he spends more time with me.
 
phillkillv2
I want to ask this girl out but I don't know if she has boyfriend. I usually know how to do this but hmm...
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Seeing this made me think, how do you find out if a girl has a boyfriend or not? Obviously I don't wan't to just walk up to a girl and say "So, do you have a boyfriend?".

I'm actually in a strange position at the moment, with this girl at work who I may have mentioned once or twice here. Basically this girl is great, pretty etc. etc. and I talk to her at work often as you do, and then sometimes I walk part-way home with her if I'm walking back that night.
Then just when I think everything is going cool, I notice a ring on her ring finger :eek: (left hand, finger next to pinky).I mean, I'm 18 and she looks at most 1 year older than me. I'm assuming people only wear rings on their ring fingers if they are engaged/married. :confused:
So now I feel like a 🤬, and now I'm a little confused as well. :lol:
 
Sometimes girls just wear a ring on that finger just because.
 
Ryanswannell
Then just when I think everything is going cool, I notice a ring on her ring finger :eek: (left hand, finger next to pinky).I mean, I'm 18 and she looks at most 1 year older than me. I'm assuming people only wear rings on their ring fingers if they are engaged/married. :confused:
So now I feel like a 🤬, and now I'm a little confused as well. :lol:
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That ring could be anything. I don't know how to ask about something like that without coming off as weird or awkwards afterwards.

As for the situation with me, it's a lost cause. I don't know what or where to start at.
 
Girls should wear their rings on their middle finger, so that way if a guy starts to flirt with them, they can show the guy the ring and flip him off at the same time.

But yeah, I feel confused with rings too.
 
phillkillv2
That ring could be anything. I don't know how to ask about something like that without coming off as weird or awkwards afterwards.

As for the situation with me, it's a lost cause. I don't know what or where to start at.
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Just nonchalantly bring it up one day. Say something like "nice ring" and see if she gives any hints or answers
 
phillkillv2
That ring could be anything. I don't know how to ask about something like that without coming off as weird or awkwards afterwards.

As for the situation with me, it's a lost cause. I don't know what or where to start at.
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Wanna another car analogy?
 
SVT Cobra GT
Since my last post. I've still not met this girl I've been talking to. So I've decided to stop asking to meet up and just carry on texting her and being nice about stuff, she's just text me in uni as I type this. And also whilst I've done that, I've met another person and I now have her number and I'm texting her regularly now, I'm gonna take a relaxed approach and see where that goes.

Also most interestingly, on Tuesday I met up with an old college friend who I've not spoken to in about 2 years, we used to be extremely close back then as her relationship was a pile of crap back then and I offered her an escape but she never took it. Now when we met up, it seemed like the old days and shes been texting me all week behind her boyfriends back. (The same one she was with in college who abused her) She's said things that have raised my eyebrows too.


What. The. Hell. Do. I. Do?
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The girl came back to you. I'd go for the one you know best.
 
With the whole thing about not knowing if a girl has a boyfriend or not, I had a similar experience where I knew a girl for 7 months before she even showed the slightest sign that she had a boyfriend. I know that she never mentioned it before, because other people that knew her were shocked, also.

People can be confusing sometimes.
 
MiuraSV777
With the whole thing about not knowing if a girl has a boyfriend or not, I had a similar experience where I knew a girl for 7 months before she even showed the slightest sign that she had a boyfriend. I know that she never mentioned it before, because other people that knew her were shocked, also.

People can be confusing sometimes.
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Why were they shocked?
 
phillkillv2
Why were they shocked?
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Because shed been dating for over a year, and never told anyone. I dont know how nobody found out before hand, either. It was un-expected.
 
Slash
The girl came back to you. I'd go for the one you know best.
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It was more me that started that. I'm the one who carries a text conversation now but she has admitted she's glad I'm talking to her again, I'm not sure that I'd want to go back down that road again after what happened back then.
 
:banghead: go from a possible 6 hour meet up and hang out turned into 2 and a half hours (if that) plus to add a layer of snow so it would be more like 90 minutes.
 
The girl I've been speaking to a lot called me cute today. feelsgoodman.jpg
 
She said it in an endearing kind of way. Whatever connotations it holds, I'm still taking it as a compliment.
 
Well now my perfectly timed meetup didn't happen since she "magically" got sick. Hmm. I bet if I go near where she needs to go at 10 she would probably be perfect and well and everything.

Edit: Just found out she did go to her thing at 10. Just thinking should I still pursue or not?
 
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