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Ishikawa M
What I meant is outside of events that affect her life (hospital visits, birthday, holidays, etc). It's nice to check on her, but she has her own bubble that would like to be left alone sometimes.
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You might be on to something... I'll ask if she is getting better and leave it at that.
 
My sister found out.

Or she already knew, rather.

Led to an interesting conversation. I asked her if she thought it would work out. Several times she replied with "why wouldn't it??".

Her demeanor through the whole thing suggests she knows more than she's telling. In a good way, it seems.
 
ITCC_Andrew
You might be on to something... I'll ask if she is getting better and leave it at that.
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My advice: Keep awareness of her events and try to keep positive, but don't revert to it a lot as a topic. Talk to her one day then leave either one or two days as a break, unless you work with her. Keep it neutral at work or sometimes make small talk (just don't let management catch you get off guard though). Let out your personality then and outside of work.
Slash
My sister found out.

Or she already knew, rather.

Led to an interesting conversation. I asked her if she thought it would work out. Several times she replied with "why wouldn't it??".

Her demeanor through the whole thing suggests she knows more than she's telling. In a good way, it seems.
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Well then. I suppose that's a good thing... right?
 
I'm hoping it is.

It was a rather awkward conversation. We aren't really close, but since my sis talks to her more than I do, as well as my mom, well I guess we will see how things play out.

It seems they wouldn't mind having her as part of the family :)
 
Ishikawa M
My advice: Keep awareness of her events and try to keep positive, but don't revert to it a lot as a topic. Talk to her one day then leave either one or two days as a break, unless you work with her. Keep it neutral at work or sometimes make small talk (just don't let management catch you get off guard though). Let out your personality then and outside of work.
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I talk to her maybe once a week... On Facebook.

Soon, we will likely end up hanging out outside of Facebook chats... But we've only really talked in person once or twice. She was the super quiet girl in a loud Civics class, in which I sat between two of my best friends.


But, I added her on Facebook shortly after graduating as I added the remainder of the graduates. We got chatting...


Anyways, she isn't feeling better yet. :(
 
Slash
I'm hoping it is.

It was a rather awkward conversation. We aren't really close, but since my sis talks to her more than I do, as well as my mom, well I guess we will see how things play out.

It seems they wouldn't mind having her as part of the family :)
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Or maybe she'll take the opportunity to make a some jokes out of it.

Whatever, keep your head up both in hopes and reality. Lacking in either will seriously suck.
ITCC_Andrew
But, I added her on Facebook shortly after graduating as I added the remainder of the graduates. We got chatting...


Anyways, she isn't feeling better yet. :(
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Hope she gets better then.
 
Slash
My sister found out.

Or she already knew, rather.

Led to an interesting conversation. I asked her if she thought it would work out. Several times she replied with "why wouldn't it??".

Her demeanor through the whole thing suggests she knows more than she's telling. In a good way, it seems.
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See, i was in a quite similar situation weeks ago, just that in this case, her friends were the ones who kinda replied with "why wouldn't it?" And like your sis, their demeanor kinda suggested that they know something about her more than she's telling. But sounds like yours is heading in a good way, while mine... Well a bit blurry to tell. Thats why i decided to stop wasting time and look for someone else.

I dont wanna rain in your parade but be careful, don't hope too much but still be positive :)
 
I told her to keep her yap shut. She plans on it. Last thing I need is this coming back to bite me.

Not that everyone doesn't already know anyways. It's pretty apparent how I feel about her. I don't really hide it that well.

I didn't really go into detail like I did with my mom about future intentions though. I'm just playing things by ear. I asked her if there was something she wasn't telling me and then she played stupid. Hmm.

If this works out, all the years of my feelings for her won't have been wasted, but I'll kick myself for not doing it sooner.

Maybe it's time I finally did this thing. After all, she's only a girl right?
 
Surprising part: both people I'm chatting with on Facebook have the same name. One, from college, and one from high school.

@Ishikawa M , that's what I told her. I hope she gets better, too... Somewhat obviously.
 
Slash
I told her to keep her yap shut. She plans on it. Last thing I need is this coming back to bite me.

Not that everyone doesn't already know anyways. It's pretty apparent how I feel about her. I don't really hide it that well.

I didn't really go into detail like I did with my mom about future intentions though. I'm just playing things by ear. I asked her if there was something she wasn't telling me and then she played stupid. Hmm.

If this works out, all the years of my feelings for her won't have been wasted, but I'll kick myself for not doing it sooner.

Maybe it's time I finally did this thing. After all, she's only a girl right?
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Maybe sister does know something... how can we know? She won't play bite, no point of trying to get anything out of her, but she knows something or has a secret plan.

Years? Geez...

All I can say is that it's better for you to try it (either when you're ready or you'll have to force yourself to try) than regret not trying at all and have that haunt you later in life, but make sure you're prepared in case it'll be a rejection because having those feelings for that long only kill your personality for a while. I did this within a 5 month period and I was at my worst for the past few months afterwards. I still haven't fully recovered and probably never will, but I'm mostly over it.

But I don't get what you meant by
After all, she's only a girl right?
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She's a human being with feelings more sensitive than the average only with two curvy milk containers and a vagazzle... too far.
Regardless, she has feelings too.
 
@Slash, wish you the best of luck,
. Like i said earlier, i was in a similar situation as you and i hope yours is better than mine. I know the feeling of holding back feelings for years, it's haunting and depressing. I haven't really recovered from it and i lt made me wish i never meet her.
 
Ishikawa M
Maybe sister does know something... how can we know? She won't play bite, no point of trying to get anything out of her, but she knows something or has a secret plan.
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Yeah, I'm just going to let it go.



Ishikawa M
Years? Geez...
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Let's just say since I laid eyes on her I wanted her to be mine. It was off and on as far as strong feelings go, sometimes she'd be out of my mind for months and months at a time, but it ALWAYS came back. Ruined past relationships even.



Ishikawa M
All I can say is that it's better for you to try it (either when you're ready or you'll have to force yourself to try) than regret not trying at all and have that haunt you later in life, but make sure you're prepared in case it'll be a rejection because having those feelings for that long only kill your personality for a while. I did this within a 5 month period and I was at my worst for the past few months afterwards. I still haven't fully recovered and probably never will, but I'm mostly over it.
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Wouldn't be the first time I was rejected. But like my mom said, either she was in a relationship, or gotten out of one and was afraid to commit. And she also said that since she was beaten by one of her previous boyfriends (oh boy I would love to ring his neck), she might have been afraid of commitment. I understand that.




Ishikawa M
But I don't get what you meant by

She's a human being with feelings more sensitive than the average only with two curvy milk containers and a vagazzle... too far.
Regardless, she has feelings too.
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I didn't mean it badly, more so that she's a human. I know there's more fish in the sea but she's the only fish I want, if that makes sense. This has been going on in the background for long time.

I can't even look at another girl without feeling like I cheated.

Ishikawa M
two curvy milk containers and a vagazzle
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Honestly, as I've told mostly everyone, I'm not in for that. All that is is a perk I suppose. I just want to be with her. I could care less if it never went that far the rest of my life. Even seeing her face makes me smile. :)

GTboyz
it's haunting and depressing
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It really is...
 
Slash
Yeah, I'm just going to let it go.





Let's just say since I laid eyes on her I wanted her to be mine. It was off and on as far as strong feelings go, sometimes she'd be out of my mind for months and months at a time, but it ALWAYS came back. Ruined past relationships even.





Wouldn't be the first time I was rejected. But like my mom said, either she was in a relationship, or gotten out of one and was afraid to commit. And she also said that since she was beaten by one of her previous boyfriends (oh boy I would love to ring his neck), she might have been afraid of commitment. I understand that.
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As some say, it's better to let it go.

Oh. Ouch. Don't even know what to say about that.

Did you try to comfort her after knowing that? It probably would help if you'd be gentle with her, reassuring her comfort and sympathy, let her know that you'll always check on her, that you care. I sound like a romanticist, but come on, it's better to let that be known and let it expand from there.
Slash
I didn't mean it badly, more so that she's a human. I know there's more fish in the sea but she's the only fish I want, if that makes sense. This has been going on in the background for long time.

I can't even look at another girl without feeling like I cheated.



Honestly, as I've told mostly everyone, I'm not in for that. All that is is a perk I suppose. I just want to be with her. I could care less if it never went that far the rest of my life. Even seeing her face makes me smile. :)



It really is...
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I know what you mean. I'm not going to knock you for that knowing I've been in the same situation.... well, not looking at someone else without feeling like I cheated (I like looking from time to time...), but attached to that person.


Finally, a person who isn't attracted to other people only because of their physical features (I'll admit, I've done that too, but I fall for their personality and traits later on). A genuine person who's honest about their feelings. A nice refresh from the typical self-centered people.


I know... It's even worse when you have major depression (which I show all symptoms for when I have it).
 
Ishikawa M
As some say, it's better to let it go.
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Indeed.


Ishikawa M
Oh. Ouch. Don't even know what to say about that.

Did you try to comfort her after knowing that? It probably would help if you'd be gentle with her, reassuring her comfort and sympathy, let her know that you'll always check on her, that you care. I sound like a romanticist, but come on, it's better to let that be known and let it expand from there.
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She didn't really say a whole lot about it but made hints that something was going down. It's been a long time since I've actually spent time with her. I think it's best to let her cope and not bring it up. I don't want to remind her.




Ishikawa M
I know what you mean. I'm not going to knock you for that knowing I've been in the same situation.... well, not looking at someone else without feeling like I cheated (I like looking from time to time...), but attached to that person.
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It's bad.



Ishikawa M
Finally, a person who isn't attracted to other people only because of their physical features (I'll admit, I've done that too, but I fall for their personality and traits later on). A genuine person who's honest about their feelings. A nice refresh from the typical self-centered people.


I know... It's even worse when you have major depression (which I show all symptoms for when I have it).
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I'll admit I find her insanely attractive, beautiful and just downright gorgeous, BUT I don't want her for that. Spending an evening holding hands sitting on a blanket watching the sunset would mean the world to me. That's my idea of a perfect night.




I'll be the first to tell you that I was never one that wanted to settle down and get married, have kids etc.

AND THEN I MET HER.

Suddenly everything people talked about with love and all that MADE SENSE.
 
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Touche @Slash, she made me feel this way too. I was really heartbroken back then when she got into a pretty serious relationship back then.
 
Well mom told me she'd squeeze info out of her somehow without making it obvious. She said I won't know when she does it either to keep me out of the loop.
 
Today I spent some more time with her and our friends. As the day ended we all ended up leaving. I got two hugs, then she saw my car. :lol: Due to it being a really cool night with thunderstorms in the distance, I put the top down. She was originally getting a ride from her friends, but when I passed by she asked if I could give her a ride. So we just made some conversation while I drove her home, good enough conversation to get her distracted enough to miss a few turns.

When I got home she texted me "Thanks for the ride! I really appreciate it!" so I said no problem, as it's nice to have company. Afterwards she said something that really shocked me, "Hahah, we should hang out sometime! Your pretty awesome, I hope to see you next Monday night for the music again!" So as the night went on I eventually asked her if she wanted to watch some movies later in the week. She said "Maybe, I'll have to find out what dad has planned this week"

Not sure if I'm friendzoned or have a chance. Hopefully it's the latter! :lol:
 
Act now before you get into the friend zone.


You are far enough in that you have a fighting chance without being so far in that you wouldn't be considered.


Do it now.
 
Crispy
Not sure if I'm friendzoned or have a chance. Hopefully it's the latter! :lol:
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You have a chance, but don't rush into it. Make gradual progress instead of
@Slash
DO IT NOW.

Good luck to ya, sir.
 
cnd01
I think any guy who has instagram has more problems than just women
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We're on a website dedicated to a video game about cars. Just throwing that out there...

ITCC_Andrew
...because Flickr. Forget fake filters and nonsense... Beautifully composed pictures are lovely.
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Today I learned that the medium dictates the quality of the shot. Next you'll tell me I can't take a good picture unless I have a top-end camera.

ITCC_Andrew
Realism - understanding both sides of a discussion.
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That's an odd card to play after wide-swathing an entire age range on their ability to have long-term relationships. One you're a part of no less.

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@Slash - I'm pretty sure you've mentioned this one before (if memory serves), so my advice is short; find out where you stand with her. The signs from your family are promising, and whether it's good or bad, for your own sake an answer is best. Nobody wants "the one that got away" stories.
 
@SlipZtrEm

Your memory serves you well. This is the same girl as the past.
 
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SlipZtrEm
Today I learned that the medium dictates the quality of the shot. Next you'll tell me I can't take a good picture unless I have a top-end camera.



That's an odd card to play after wide-swathing an entire age range on their ability to have long-term relationships. One you're a part of no less.
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The Flickr comment was relevant to the 14 year olds using the "vintage" filter set available on Instagram. Not cool. Well-composed photos are lovely. Pictures of a peanut butter sandwich with a fake vintage filter just aren't..

The comment about my realism comment is that I could also understand the points of the others, but decided to be the hopeful optimist.
 
Ok so I liked this girl back in school I know now its been a few years out of school now so I thought maybe i could tell how I felt about her when we were back in school. But the only way to do that would be over facebook messaging and she might find it a bit weird but that would be the only way I could do it. Anybody have thoughts on this? Also I know they can see your message on facebook but hey I don't give a damn if they don't reply it's worth a shot isn't it? I could send her a text message but I haven't done that in a long time lol and her number might have changed by then. Also we used to get along really well back then :). But she had a boyfriend so I couldn't make a move :(.
 
Don't go all out at once. That puts the ball in her court. Just casually start liking, commenting, and randomly messaging her here and there
 
cnd01
Don't go all out at once. That puts the ball in her court. Just casually start liking, commenting, and randomly messaging her here and there
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Any idea of what I should start a facebook message off with I don't want to sound stalking but I want her to still be in touch with her and maybe ask to catch up later down the line if she responds of course.
 
Cobra_GT500
Any idea of what I should start a facebook message off with I don't want to sound stalking but I want her to still be in touch with her and maybe ask to catch up later down the line if she responds of course.
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Is a simple "Hey *insert name*" not enough?
 
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