The General Relationship Thread

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Slash
I am absolutely eating up the fact that I can hold a conversation with her these days. A year ago, a "Whats up" text would go ignored. Sometimes I'd even get hate back (only once, and it wasn't trying to be mean...I had a girl, I was an idiot).

Ever since she got out of that shoddy and abusive relationship shes returned to her real self. Although, my mother and I agree that she has a lot of emotional issues do to her family arrangement...her dad split when they were young, never pays child support and shes got it rough otherwise. Add in the abusive relationship...possibly even, dare I say it...rape...(please lets not be the case), and well you had a reciepe for distaster.

Making her laugh makes my world. She actually answers me in depth more and more.

Everything talks wise is going well but its still very early.I cheaped out today and didn't get ahold of her...felt it was too early.

I'll get ahold of her this week. Please...please...PLEASE work....I'm begging on my knees over here please work....
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If you're dead set on her, I really hope it works out. I really do

If I were in your shoes, I'd not put all my eggs in her basket for the fact that she let herself be in the situation she was in. For whatever reason, some people would rather be treated like crap. It's beyond logical, but I've seen it happen to friends in a similar situation.

I'm not saying you're wrong in any manner. Every situation is unique and sensitive in its own way. Just my 2c
 
So I'm assuming that when she brings up hanging out and going out to lunch and stuff, coupled with the fact that she says she "Loves" hanging out with me, plus Skyping me daily, is a good sign? At least I hope it is... :lol:
 
Crispy
So I'm assuming that when she brings up hanging out and going out to lunch and stuff, coupled with the fact that she says she "Loves" hanging out with me, plus Skyping me daily, is a good sign? At least I hope it is... :lol:
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ಠ_ಠ Dude, really?
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If you're dead set on her, I really hope it works out. I really do

If I were in your shoes, I'd not put all my eggs in her basket for the fact that she let herself be in the situation she was in. For whatever reason, some people would rather be treated like crap. It's beyond logical, but I've seen it happen to friends in a similar situation.

I'm not saying you're wrong in any manner. Every situation is unique and sensitive in its own way. Just my 2c
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The thing is it didn't start out that way. It gradually turns into that over time. She wanted out badly but couldn't figure it out...I think she was scared. I've seen some posts online and she made cries out for some one to be there for her. I'm trying to be that guy.

I am hell bent on her. I don't want anyone else in my life period. This is the girl I want to have a family with. This is the girl I want to marry. She's the one. I just know it. I can't let her slip away.
 
Slash
The thing is it didn't start out that way. It gradually turns into that over time. She wanted out badly but couldn't figure it out...I think she was scared. I've seen some posts online and she made cries out for some one to be there for her. I'm trying to be that guy.

I am hell bent on her. I don't want anyone else in my life period. This is the girl I want to have a family with. This is the girl I want to marry. She's the one. I just know it. I can't let her slip away.
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"If you love them so much, you can let them go"
Just watch your actions on being a the nice guy or big brother.
 
I've tried to let her go in the past. Eventually it comes back around full circle.

I'm trying to avoid that by making steady advances. She seems to be responding well. But it's early.
 
Epic, EPIC news.

Without me knowing it mom dug for some info...the girl is totally not against being with me and is actually interested...some other stuff was said but its all very very very good news!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Slash
Epic, EPIC news.

Without me knowing it mom dug for some info...the girl is totally not against being with me and is actually interested...some other stuff was said but its all very very very good news!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Someone's quite happy.
 
Oh my god I am shaking. Everythings working...it's all slowly falling into place. It's going to be going slow, and we aren't together yet but she's like me and has 0 confidence and is very scared to get into something serious. She did real bad in school this year so she wants to focus on that, but I'm going to be supportive. She didn't know I was as serious about being together as she knows now and this could possibly work. Her biggest thing was that we don't know each other, if you know what I mean.

The big important thing is that she's interested. She's learning that I am everything she wants as far as interests and being faithful and all that. She's one that is very faithful to who she's with and I've learned that so exclusivity shouldn't be too big an issue. A big thing she was worried about was if things didn't work out with me is that she'd lose my mom and sister.

That won't happen.
 
Keep it up @Slash! :)👍

And now:

"Interesting fact: This year I've went on a date with more women than the last 5 years combined :lol: "
 
Thanks buddy I am really trying!!!!!
 
Very happy for you @Slash, I know how nervous you were getting a few months back.
 
Thanks :D

Nothing's set in stone yet though. We aren't dating...we just know there's a mutual interest at this point. Going to play it cool for a bit.
 
:O This Asian girl at Walgreens 👍

Perfecto mundo, motha****a! Gonna ask her out probably since I'm going to be in the Bay Area a bit. Need to get to know people here.
 
Good luck bud! Hope we both get the perfect girls :D
 
Slash
Good luck bud! Hope we both get the perfect girls :D
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Yeah dude. I just told myself myself not to expect much though since it'll be a small date or get together probably. Also, she has a decent accent but I can work though them, I'll walk over there tomorrow and speak to her if she is at work and isn't really busy. No big deal if not but still.

Also, I'm leaving 12:00am Wednesday so I'll have to arrange something later probably. We'll see how this goes :S
 
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I've not posted on here for a while.

I've been seeing someone for a couple of months now and it's been ok, we went to Download festival this weekend and had a good time, however it's been feeling a little distant at the moment, like we are friends.

Also I've been seeing an old friend from college a few times to catch up on things. However we've both developed feelings for each other, however she is in a very difficult position where she cannot leave her boyfriend at a moments decision, they live together and they'd both lose the house if they split up.

I don't know what to do, I like them both but I feel more of a connection to my old friend as we have history and have known each other a long time. The girl I've been seeing is lovely but lately it's felt like she's a friend.
 
SVT Cobra GT
I've not posted on here for a while.

I've been seeing someone for a couple of months now and it's been ok, we went to Download festival this weekend and had a good time, however it's been feeling a little distant at the moment, like we are friends.

Also I've been seeing an old friend from college a few times to catch up on things. However we've both developed feelings for each other, however she is in a very difficult position where she cannot leave her boyfriend at a moments decision, they live together and they'd both lose the house if they split up.

I don't know what to do, I like them both but I feel more of a connection to my old friend as we have history and have known each other a long time. The girl I've been seeing is lovely but lately it's felt like she's a friend.
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Run away!
 
Some of you fellow GTP'ers now know what she looks like, and the support is overwhelming! Thanks guys :D
 
It's been quite a long time since I haven't had any romantic options in my life (a woman I am with, have a secret crush on, or even considering approaching), and it's really freaking me out - especially with a big couple numbers in age quickly approaching. If I concentrated hard enough I could even trigger a panic attack, which isn't too hard for me anyway. But yeah, I'm not sure if the last breakup was so bad that I'm just not interested in getting back out there, or if I've really hit a dry spot. There's beautiful women everywhere at my job, but they all actually annoy me more than excite me. I don't know what's going on, but I hate that, "the clock is ticking" feeling. Ok, I'm done lol.
 
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What are yoour goals with a woman? Marriage? Kids? More people are waiting to get into something deep. Put yourself out there a little more. You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain.
 
She wasn't at work and now I'm at the airport. I guess I'll talk to her next month when month back in the Bay. Till It's back to normal Phill in STL.
 
SlipZtrEm
A few things:

  • Never underestimate how much of an impact clean/clear skin makes. Some people are lucky in this sense, but treat your skin well regardless.
  • Don't lift for looks - lift (or in a more general sense, work out and be active) because it makes you a healthier, better person.
  • Two bits of advice I was given years ago with regards to clothes: "It's better to over dress, than under dress", and "You wear 30% of your wardrobe 70% of the time". Like it or not, we are visual creatures; yes, a good connection is important, but you're not going to notice a girl from across the room because of her charming personality. It works the other way around too. As for that other bit, don't impulse buy, and post-high school, buy clothes with an idea of how well they work with the rest of your existing wardrobe.

Oh yeah, and never cheap out on shoes.
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The clear skin comment is true, if you have clear skin or even really nice teeth, be proud of that. I have really nice skin but I have a gap, my brother and others in my family had bad skin but mine is just fine, as for the gap, it runs in the family and my parents didn't bother with braces for me, although I can still get some later (behind the teeth ones). Thanks for reminding me about how nice my skin is, Lol gonna wash my face now.

I lift because it makes me feel better and it gives more confidence. Nothing wrong with lifting to get whipped into better looking shape though.

Yep, nailed nearly everything I do clothing wise. Sometimes I dress bad but I usually keep it somewhere near the business casual look with button shirts, dark jeans and sunglasses to go with.

I cheap out on shoes sadly.
 
So I've basically settled on the following 'relationship status': Unless someone is actually interested in me *muffled giggles go here*, or unless I get to know someone who's exactly right for me, I'm not going to bother.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not being picky at all. I've just enjoyed the last 8, relationship free, months far too much to care. The lack of stress and drama is just too good to part with! My last attempt at a relationship ended with a girl my age (so 16) talking about wanting kids by the end of this year, which probably put me off a bit too. The last conversation went something like this.

Her: "So you know how I always talk about being a mother?"

Me: "*Muffled groan* mmmhm hmmm."

Her: "Well why not try? I know I'm ready for parenthood... How'd you feel about that?"

Me: *Around 30 seconds of all out laughter, looks again, realises she's being serious.* "You are joking, right?"

Her: "Why'd I joke about something like that?"

Me: "Err, because being serious seems to stupid to be true?"

Her: "WHAT DO YOU MEAN?"

Me: "As in, we're both still at school, and I have career aspirations. I don't want that kind of commitment, especially so early into a relationship (Less than a month)"

Her: "You could do both."

Me: "I suppose that's humanly possible. But that doesn't mean it's financially possible, and it definitely does not mean I want to."

Her: "Well then we're through, if you can't see me being a mother!"

Me: "Oh I can see you being a mother, probably soon with this attitude. However, I am not going to be a part of that, no matter what. Bye bye."

And, eight months later, she's pregnant with a child, who's father has already left her and seemingly vanished into thin air. She's hinted getting back together, but that won't be happening. :rolleyes:

After all, if I had a kid to look after I wouldn't be able to :gtpflag:


Oh and @Slash good stuff man, glad to hear things are good on your end!
 
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Slash
What are yoour goals with a woman? Marriage? Kids? More people are waiting to get into something deep. Put yourself out there a little more. You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain.
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Thanks man.
Well, I was engaged years ago, but that fell through after a massive disagreement. So I guess I've been trying to get to that point again. Kids? I'd like to think so, but realistically I've got about 5 years to get it done, and considering the last 5 years didn't even produce a sustainable relationship, I'm getting pessimistic.
 
XS
Thanks man.
Well, I was engaged years ago, but that fell through after a massive disagreement. So I guess I've been trying to get to that point again. Kids? I'd like to think so, but realistically I've got about 5 years to get it done, and considering the last 5 years didn't even produce a sustainable relationship, I'm getting pessimistic.
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You never know man. Good luck.
 
:banghead: I can't believe it...

She is back...
 
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