The General Relationship Thread

[adam46]

• You're 16. Both you and any potential significant other are going to change massively over the next few years.
• You simply can't know if they're perfect for you until you try. It might work out, it might not. But either way is a learning experience.

Yeah I know, I put that in basically so I wouldn't get any "Don't give up!" style messages, honestly.

EDIT: Bottom line is, I'm just not going to bother at all until I'm done with education, even if that makes me 'sad' or whatever.

 

[GTboyz]

Really? I MEAN... REALLY?

She REALLY thinks I've got no memory of what forced me to distance myself from her...

I knew she was an arrogant diva but... I knew she wouldn't say "Sorry"... but this is f:censored: stupid...


Bloody idiot...

Just ignore her man..

 

[MoLiEG]

Just ignore her man..

Never forgive, never forget...

 

[Ken]

It hasn't happened yet but man is it closer than ever. And its all happening so fast too.

Massive shout out to @Ken Koios for sticking with me through this and giving me a lot if the confidence to man up and make a move. I'd never be this far along without you bro.

When it happens you guys will know because I will literally blow up GTP lol.

I hope to god we are together forever. I don't want anyone else. Ever.

 

[MoLiEG]

She still thinks we can be friends... how cute...

God, what a headache...

 

[Ryanswannell]

Some of you guys may remember me posting about a girl that I liked, and also worked with.
Well, for about a month now I had really been wanting to ask her out, but I kept bottling it on fear of rejection.

However, today I decided to grow some balls and ask her if she'd like to go and hang out with each other outside of work. And...

She accepted my offer, and shortly afterwards we exchanged phone numbers

Finally, I'm getting somewhere 👍

 

[Slash]

Talked to her today. Texted her for a couple of hours...things went well I think. We talked about how she likes going fishing and how we should go together sometime. Also asked her if she wanted to hang out next Wednesday when we all go to the local drag strip for the evening. She said she's not busy but will let me know if she wants to go. She seemed like she wanted to go, so I guess we will find out what she's going to do.

 

[cnd01]

Some of you guys may remember me posting about a girl that I liked, and also worked with.
Well, for about a month now I had really been wanting to ask her out, but I kept bottling it on fear of rejection.

However, today I decided to grow some balls and ask her if she'd like to go and hang out with each other outside of work. And...

She accepted my offer, and shortly afterwards we exchanged phone numbers

Finally, I'm getting somewhere 👍

Good job buddy 👍

 

[phillgt2002]

Some of you guys may remember me posting about a girl that I liked, and also worked with.
Well, for about a month now I had really been wanting to ask her out, but I kept bottling it on fear of rejection.

However, today I decided to grow some balls and ask her if she'd like to go and hang out with each other outside of work. And...

She accepted my offer, and shortly afterwards we exchanged phone numbers

Finally, I'm getting somewhere 👍

I'm happy for you dude, I gave you some advice, hope you used it. Good job

 

[cnd01]

There's success here and there on the relationship thread after all

 

[Madertus]

Talked to her today. Texted her for a couple of hours...things went well I think. We talked about how she likes going fishing and how we should go together sometime. Also asked her if she wanted to hang out next Wednesday when we all go to the local drag strip for the evening. She said she's not busy but will let me know if she wants to go. She seemed like she wanted to go, so I guess we will find out what she's going to do.

I'm actually rooting for you with that one 👍

 

[Ryanswannell]

I hope I'm just being paranoid, but about an hour ago I sent the girl I asked out yesterday a text message asking her if she wanted to "go to the cinema or something" after she had finished college on Thursday.

She then messages me back saying "I'm not sure, I'll find out if I'm free and get back to you :-)"

I now have the feeling she's not really that interested in me, but hopefully that's just me being paranoid

 

[Madertus]

I hope I'm just being paranoid, but about an hour ago I sent the girl I asked out yesterday a text message asking her if she wanted to "go to the cinema or something" after she had finished college on Thursday.

She then messages me back saying "I'm not sure, I'll find out if I'm free and get back to you :-)"

I now have the feeling she's not really that interested in me, but hopefully that's just me being paranoid

If she does get back to you, you're free to advance 👍

*fades away*

So... you guys remember that girl who got excited about my voOf course you don't, but who cares.

That party she was supposed to host is taking place on July 12th (as of now at least, it just got postponed).

From what I've heard, she is pretty damn excited about me... When a situation in which she talks about me to my pal's girlfriend (she's a good friend of hers) occurs, I think it's time to start wondering what the hell do I make of that.

I mean... We had a few chats, some of which turned out to last for even up to 2 1/2 hours. And although there's absolutely no denying that she's very kind and whatnot, I am by no means looking for a girlfriend.

I just hope she's not gonna be all over me on that party, because when my friend told me about this I was kinda... 'whoa!', I guess.

I don't want to end up as the bad guy here if it turns out I don't want to take another step with her.

And in all honesty, I don't view myself as boyfriend material. I don't even feel the need to maintain contact with people around me, let alone getting close to them...

Finally, I think that what my two pals did (which was getting me and that girl to know each other) was kind of unfair. They knew that I'm not trying to get close to anyone and I'm not, so to say, desperate for a relationship (I'm 100% sure I told them that). And I generally think that trying to get two people to know each other so they may potentially become a couple is always a terrible idea.

I don't know what to do, and I might need help soon...

 

[phillgt2002]

She then messages me back saying "I'm not sure, I'll find out if I'm free and get back to you :-)"

I now have the feeling she's not really that interested in me, but hopefully that's just me being paranoid

Try not to sweat it. If you message her back later, just ask her what day and time is best for her, that's if she can't hang out of course.

 

[cnd01]

I hope I'm just being paranoid, but about an hour ago I sent the girl I asked out yesterday a text message asking her if she wanted to "go to the cinema or something" after she had finished college on Thursday.

She then messages me back saying "I'm not sure, I'll find out if I'm free and get back to you :-)"

I now have the feeling she's not really that interested in me, but hopefully that's just me being paranoid

Don't worry about it man. Don't give up! 👍 I think she's probably just busy

 

[Ryanswannell]

Don't worry about it man. Don't give up! 👍 I think she's probably just busy

I hope so, after all she is in college and I think exams are taking place at the moment, so maybe studying/rest are her priorities at the moment, which is understandable.
It's just that if the roles were switched, I would make time to be with her, but maybe I'm just wired differently.

As I said before, I hope I'm just being paranoid. How things went yesterday seemed way too good to be true, and I'm just expecting this to blow up in my face. .

With a bit of luck though, things go ahead without a hitch 👍

 

[Crispy]

There's success here and there on the relationship thread after all

These past few pages have been populated with successes!

So today she was able to get some free time. We had lunch at 1:00, walked around the plaza for a few hours, took her back to my place to get some cupcakes and meet my parents, then we went to her place, I met her dad, and we watched the USA-Portugal (What a game) Match. To top it off we just finished skyping for an hour!

I have to say things are going very well. She likes my Miata, which is good! Plus it turns out she's been liking me for about as long as I've been liking her, which surprised me a lot.

 

[Speedy Samurai]

If she does get back to you, you're free to advance 👍

*fades away*

So... you guys remember that girl who got excited about my voOf course you don't, but who cares.

That party she was supposed to host is taking place on July 12th (as of now at least, it just got postponed).

From what I've heard, she is pretty damn excited about me... When a situation in which she talks about me to my pal's girlfriend (she's a good friend of hers) occurs, I think it's time to start wondering what the hell do I make of that.

I mean... We had a few chats, some of which turned out to last for even up to 2 1/2 hours. And although there's absolutely no denying that she's very kind and whatnot, I am by no means looking for a girlfriend.

I just hope she's not gonna be all over me on that party, because when my friend told me about this I was kinda... 'whoa!', I guess.

I don't want to end up as the bad guy here if it turns out I don't want to take another step with her.

And in all honesty, I don't view myself as boyfriend material. I don't even feel the need to maintain contact with people around me, let alone getting close to them...

Finally, I think that what my two pals did (which was getting me and that girl to know each other) was kind of unfair. They knew that I'm not trying to get close to anyone and I'm not, so to say, desperate for a relationship (I'm 100% sure I told them that). And I generally think that trying to get two people to know each other so they may potentially become a couple is always a terrible idea.

I don't know what to do, and I might need help soon...

Are you the only guy on here who expresses concern because they can most likely, should they want to, acquire a girlfriend?

 

[SVT Cobra GT]

Something interesting happened over this weekend.

Someone from Sweden added me on facebook, she found me through an Aerosmith fan page on there and we got talking.
She's going to be in London this Saturday for their concert and seems really keen to meet me if I go down there. All day yesterday she's been flirting with me and telling me all sorts of things that she likes! (I'll leave it up to you to figure it out)

Am I being naive in thinking this is genuinely going to happen?

 

[GTboyz]

Happy stories in general relationship thread oh my . Funny thing is i'm also feeling happy these days but unlike you guys, i'm feeling happy because i have got over her and finally moved on

 

[Madertus]

Are you the only guy on here who expresses concern because they can most likely, should they want to, acquire a girlfriend?

Probably yes.

So, let's say I finally found a girl and we begin a relationship, yeee-haw. Where do I take this now? Like, what am I supposed to do with myself when I pretty much don't leave my house because I have nobody to talk to, let alone hang out with? How am I supposed to suddenly begin a relationship with someone when for the past 10 years I didn't even have anyone to rely on?

Plus I'm a socially awkward person, so to say. Whenever I am alone with someone, I wish there was a third person to "save" me when (not if - WHEN, because it happens to me all the time) our conversation breaks into silence. I am no idea how to talk with people to maintain a dialogue.

Moving to Warsaw and starting anew, in a completely different city, in a completely new school and meeting completely new people who in time kept turning out to be my life enemies destroyed me.

Hell, I'm 22 (this year) and will have to start thinking about my life a bit differently quite soon. I'll need to get a job (I want to become a translator) and I'll probably have to work with people. I'll need to find a place to live in because I honestly don't see myself at 25 or maybe even 30 and living off my parents, and I'll probably have to deal with everything on my own.

And you know what, for some reason it's all terrifying for me.

 

[MoLiEG]

So... in the end... she DID say "I'm Sorry"...













I forgave her...

 

[phillgt2002]

So... in the end... she DID say "I'm Sorry"...




I forgave her...

Forgiveness is how it should have ended in my opinion.

 

[MoLiEG]

Yep. And that's how this Tale of Love, Madness and Death ends...

 

[Ryanswannell]

I hope so, after all she is in college and I think exams are taking place at the moment, so maybe studying/rest are her priorities at the moment, which is understandable.
It's just that if the roles were switched, I would make time to be with her, but maybe I'm just wired differently.

As I said before, I hope I'm just being paranoid. How things went yesterday seemed way too good to be true, and I'm just expecting this to blow up in my face. .

And there we go, just like that a little glimmer of hope has vanished .
After waiting all day for her to tell me if she could make it or not , I decided to message her asking if she's free, and she's not.

I'd love to know what I'm doing wrong.

 

[kennylmao]

Something interesting happened over this weekend.

Someone from Sweden added me on facebook, she found me through an Aerosmith fan page on there and we got talking.
She's going to be in London this Saturday for their concert and seems really keen to meet me if I go down there. All day yesterday she's been flirting with me and telling me all sorts of things that she likes! (I'll leave it up to you to figure it out)

Am I being naive in thinking this is genuinely going to happen?

A little, but who cares? It sounds awesome, go and see what happens.

I like this naivety because it makes me go out there sometimes.

Probably yes.

So, let's say I finally found a girl and we begin a relationship, yeee-haw. Where do I take this now? Like, what am I supposed to do with myself when I pretty much don't leave my house because I have nobody to talk to, let alone hang out with? How am I supposed to suddenly begin a relationship with someone when for the past 10 years I didn't even have anyone to rely on?

Plus I'm a socially awkward person, so to say. Whenever I am alone with someone, I wish there was a third person to "save" me when (not if - WHEN, because it happens to me all the time) our conversation breaks into silence. I am no idea how to talk with people to maintain a dialogue.

Moving to Warsaw and starting anew, in a completely different city, in a completely new school and meeting completely new people who in time kept turning out to be my life enemies destroyed me.

Hell, I'm 22 (this year) and will have to start thinking about my life a bit differently quite soon. I'll need to get a job (I want to become a translator) and I'll probably have to work with people. I'll need to find a place to live in because I honestly don't see myself at 25 or maybe even 30 and living off my parents, and I'll probably have to deal with everything on my own.

And you know what, for some reason it's all terrifying for me.

Damn, man. That's my dilemma. I don't care for people, I don't always need people. I do sometimes but I prefer being alone most of the time. I am an introvert, social awkwardness and all.

Here's where I sound like an immature fool. The thing I like most about relationships is the chase, the flirting, the pursuit. I find that to be the most exciting part, but then comes the proper "relationship phase" and I 🤬 up. I realized that, as much as I like being in a relationship with another person, I like being by myself more. Realization is one step towards... (how does the saying goes?) eh? Don't know if I'll change, what I know is that I've been this way the past 7 years and I am also afraid.

I also think I've brought this up previously in this thread. And I apologize for that.

 

[terminator363]

Alright guys so I've decided, after thinking about my ex for more than a year (not talking to her of course - and removing her off my Facebook), the day after my graduation I'm telling her how :censored:ty of a human being she was to me. Honestly if I couldn't get her off my mind for this long, and I had to live with hating her deep down inside without saying a word. This is more than appropriate.

 

[cnd01]

And there we go, just like that a little glimmer of hope has vanished .
After waiting all day for her to tell me if she could make it or not , I decided to message her asking if she's free, and she's not.

I'd love to know what I'm doing wrong.

Dude, she could just be seriously busy. Give her some space for a day or 2 then invite her somewhere(or at least phrase the question) in a way that she can't refuse

 

[McLaren]

Alright guys so I've decided, after thinking about my ex for more than a year (not talking to her of course - and removing her off my Facebook), the day after my graduation I'm telling her how :censored:ty of a human being she was to me. Honestly if I couldn't get her off my mind for this long, and I had to live with hating her deep down inside without saying a word. This is more than appropriate.

Wait, you've been broken up for a year and in that time frame, haven't spoke either? And now out of the blue, you've decided to initiate talking to her again just for the sake of telling her off?

Put yourself in her shoes for a minute. What would you do if an ex. from a year ago randomly called you out of the blue just to say, "You treated me like ****!"? You're either going to get pissed off or your feelings hurt for no reason other than an ex. who looks desperate to have the final word. It's just an asshole thing to do after such a long time frame of no interaction, regardless of whoever it is you don't like anymore.

Trust me, I would love to do this to my old ex. & then some to others, but it ain't worth the time or effort and it just looks bad on your part. You're graduating? Focus on that instead and mark this chapter of your life with her closed & the beginning of a new one.

 

[terminator363]

Wait, you've been broken up for a year and in that time frame, haven't spoke either? And now out of the blue, you've decided to initiate talking to her again just for the sake of telling her off?

Put yourself in her shoes for a minute. What would you do if an ex. from a year ago randomly called you out of the blue just to say, "You treated me like ****!"? You're either going to get pissed off or your feelings hurt for no reason other than an ex. who looks desperate to have the final word. It's just an asshole thing to do after such a long time frame of no interaction, regardless of whoever it is you don't like anymore.

Trust me, I would love to do this to my old ex. & then some to others, but it ain't worth the time or effort and it just looks bad on your part. You're graduating? Focus on that instead and mark this chapter of your life with her closed & the beginning of a new one.

But I hate her this much:

I frankly couldn't care what she thinks now (it's likely that I never see her again [I really hope so]). Besides she has hurt so many other people around her. She just walks off all jolly and gets away with all of it. I want her to finally feel that people don't just disappear. That there aren't any consequences to what she does. If I don't send her a message what can I do, let her laugh in the tears of others?