The General Relationship Thread

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She filled you up with water, wrung you out, twisted you as hard as she could, and you still haven't had enough?

It's tough though. I get it. You like who you like. Your mind says hell no but your heart says oh yes...
 
She got the best of me... But I won’t give her what’s left of me... despite it's not too much...
 
MoLiEG
She got the best of me... But I won’t give her what’s left of me... despite it's not too much...
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All it takes is "that one text" and then you are second guessing everything. Dude I have been there. There comes a point were logic and reason becomes a moot point anymore and then you feel like your stuck on a tightrope. You don't know which direction to take because neither could be good or bad. You want out, but at the same time you don't. And then it gets to the point where all you want to do is rip your hair out and scream.

It's tough to understand unless you've ACTUALLY been there. And then it makes perfect sense.
 
[Bangs head against wall]

I'm such a mess right now... :indiff:

Better watch some football... that will keep my mind busy for now...
 
Doing fine, thanks! ... eating some tacos and watching Uruguay vs. England... It's been a quiet day at the office so far... 👍
 
MoLiEG
[Bangs head against wall]

I'm such a mess right now... :indiff:

Better watch some football... that will keep my mind busy for now...
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That's how I was recently. Up until we started talking frequently I thought I had no chance. Even a few days ago I had a breakdown...Sunday night actually. I cried for probably an hour.

No reason to, but sometimes I just feel I'm not good enough.
 
Slash
Even a few days ago I had a breakdown...Sunday night actually. I cried for probably an hour.

No reason to, but sometimes I just feel I'm not good enough.
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Sometimes it's tempting to measure oneself against the images we see in the media every day, then we see people around us and think they have that same perfect life, perfect hit rate, perfect body, perfect sex life, perfect emotions... they don't.

Try to find someone to talk to who you can be completely completely honest about everything with - that can really help. It's best if its someone you don't know and will never meet again. It's not the telling them that helps it's the telling yourself.

I've been there and I bet a few other people reading this have too. You're much much better than you think, you just need to see and accept it... and that can be a difficult process. Peace.
 
TenEightyOne
Sometimes it's tempting to measure oneself against the images we see in the media every day, then we see people around us and think they have that same perfect life, perfect hit rate, perfect body, perfect sex life, perfect emotions... they don't.
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I know. It used to never bother me but really it's hitting me I think.


And as I've said before. I do not cry for anything.

Why it's happening over this is beyond me.


TenEightyOne
Try to find someone to talk to who you can be completely completely honest about everything with - that can really help. It's best if its someone you don't know and will never meet again. It's not the telling them that helps it's the telling yourself.
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Fortunately, I have several close GTP friends I can talk to about this stuff and are very helpful 👍


TenEightyOne
I've been there and I bet a few other people reading this have too. You're much much better than you think, you just need to see and accept it... and that can be a difficult process. Peace.
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It's very difficult. But hearing that she is interested in me gave me a serious confidence boost.
 
Slash
I know. It used to never bother me but really it's hitting me I think.


And as I've said before. I do not cry for anything.

Why it's happening over this is beyond me.
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Moods go up, they go down, they rotate around a centrepoint. The problem is that the centrepoint can shift so your "default return" position is lower than average. It's as medical as appendicitis or influenza and can be treated in all kinds of ways, medicinal or otherwise.

I generally show no emotion at all except when F1 is on but I found myself in a place where I cried at adverts with women holding babies (for example), I took my brain to the doctor, had it felt, got it fixed. Simple... you just have to accept that it really is something normal and fix-able.

And why is it beyond you? It's your brain, dude, and when it's faulty you can't use it to measure itself from its own point of view. That's why the externalisation thing helps, the difficulty is believing what people tell you. I'm sure that by now people know I don't believe anything even when I'm "normal", accepting my own doctor's explanation was very difficult to begin with.

It's good that you've got people here to talk to but consider some more direct, qualified intervention too, really! Don't think you'll stay at this point, you might improve from here but my instinct from experience is that you may find it becomes worse.

And you can always PM me if you want some good old grumpy, curmudgeonly advice :D
 
I've been talking to my mom about this girl more. And friends of mine. It helps, but I'm not nearly as open as I am on GTP.

Speaking of which, I talked to this girl last night. She ended up falling asleep on me, but she indeed saved my number because I haven't gotten the "whos this" text in a long time :D

It went well. Short, but I think I helped boost her confidence levels about her exams a bit.
 
I recently got an Instagram account to help showcase my scale model car collection, and while I was browsing through pictures of old trucks, I saw one of my friend's comments. I took a look through their profile to help me find my friends, and I eventually came across my crush after a while. I'm going back and forth about adding her to my Following list, but I can't decide. :indiff:

Yes, that's right. I stress over the simplest of things. :guilty:
 
Johnny1996
Yes, that's right. I stress over the simplest of things. :guilty:
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You are not alone on that one bro...

Time to work, World Cup is done for today... that will keep my mind busy... and then some gym... that will keep me even busier...
 
Johnny1996
I recently got an Instagram account to help showcase my scale model car collection, and while I was browsing through pictures of old trucks, I saw one of my friend's comments. I took a look through their profile to help me find my friends, and I eventually came across my crush after a while. I'm going back and forth about adding her to my Following list, but I can't decide. :indiff:

Yes, that's right. I stress over the simplest of things. :guilty:
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Has she ever hinted anything towards you? Why didn't things work out?
 
Johnny1996
I've noticed her looking at me a few times but I was and still am way too shy and nervous to do anything in return. :(
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You don't know nervous unless you were me with my future girl.

Trust me, if I can get the courage to talk to her, then anyone can.
 
adam46
or unless I get to know someone who's exactly right for me, I'm not going to bother.
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  • You're 16. Both you and any potential significant other are going to change massively over the next few years.
  • You simply can't know if they're perfect for you until you try. It might work out, it might not. But either way is a learning experience.
 
I'm quite late on this, been busy lately...

@Slash, congrats man ! I hope you and the girl will end up together forever. I knew there will be a breakthrough 👍

@MoLiEG : you're not alone in this man. Keep yourself busy but don't try to hard as it will bite you in the butt, just let it flow, in time you will get used to it. I have a similar experience yesterday but i managed to pull it off, she easily come to my mind again with her text but she easily go out of my mind just like that. I don't know how i actually do it but lately idk why i've been spacing out a lot, and i tend to ignore things that i thought not important and in return i can easily forget about her. Oh and one more thing, when you started to forget about her, don't feel happy and instead just brush it off because sometimes she will come back to your head when you realize that you have forgotten about her.
 
GTboyz
I'm quite late on this, been busy lately...

@Slash, congrats man ! I hope you and the girl will end up together forever. I knew there will be a breakthrough 👍
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It hasn't happened yet but man is it closer than ever. And its all happening so fast too.

Massive shout out to @Ken Koios for sticking with me through this and giving me a lot if the confidence to man up and make a move. I'd never be this far along without you bro.

When it happens you guys will know because I will literally blow up GTP lol.

I hope to god we are together forever. I don't want anyone else. Ever.
 
The ex and I started talking again recently after pretty much no contact for 2 months, pretty much went from not talking at all to talking as if we were best friends straight up.

Who knows, maybe we'll rebuild what we once had but until then it's pretty much go with the flow and be glad that we at least have some contact again. She's considerably younger than me though so it's pretty much a case of she's still trying to work out what she wants.
 

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