The General Relationship Thread

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Ryanswannell
I just don't get it, she must have known I was going to find out at some point that she wasn't interested:confused:.

If she had said no at first, then yes I would have been a bit upset, but it's not like I wasn't expecting it. Saying yes, getting hopes up, and then flip-flopping after a few days just makes me a mixture of 🤬 off and upset.
It also makes me look like a dick, because I told my mates that I asked a gorgeous girl out and she replied positively, only for it to have been bull 🤬.

Her loss, I suppose :sly:.
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i know how you feel my friend.
 
I was up for half the night last night, and as I was here on GTP helping out a friend, I noticed an Instagram notification. I checked it, and it was my crush liking one of my photos. At 2 o'clock in the morning. :odd:

She said she's "a very mysterious girl" so there's that. I guess. :cool:
 
Well, I am currently not interested into anyone I know and I do not know somebody who is interested into me, but I really want to get into a relationship.
So I have been thinking about asking someone out, but I fear that I will not develop any interest into her and I do not want to be a douche/player. So should I rather wait for the right one or gain some experience? Or could I be missing out on something?

Also good luck Slash, you should get to know the reason for her doing it if possible. Good luck.
 
Thanks man.


Although I've been kinda irritated all day because she ignored me :/
 
ABP
So I have been thinking about asking someone out, but I fear that I will not develop any interest into her and I do not want to be a douche/player. So should I rather wait for the right one or gain some experience? Or could I be missing out on something?.
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Only one way to find out, go for it.
 
I'm glad i finally found someone with an actual interest in stuff I do. She likes that I do autocross and wants to come along, she likes that I have prop armors for cons and stuff. She invites me to play games. She actually wants to go on dates and doesn't just say she does like the last girl I had. I actually feel like I matter to her, and she matters to me. Not like we are just two people who happen to be dating.

@Slash We're all here for ya!
 
I met the most wonderful girl in the world yesterday.

She looks absolutely stunning. To give you an idea, the pictures she posted of herself on Twitter led some people to confuse her with Lana Del Rey. She's also incredibly intelligent, studying to become a lawyer.

The great thing is that we have a lot in common. We both have similar tastes in music, she actually likes video games (:lol:), we both love travelling and learning about other people and culture, we both attended the same program (Anthropology) in University.

The terrible thing, is that we live in different cities, 200 miles apart. Her father is basically a good friend of my father, and our families visit each other, at most 2-3 times a year. I'll be lucky if I see her again this year. And when I do, I fear I will once again lock up, unable to properly socialize with her, like I did yesterday.

Don't know what to do.
 
CarManiac 425
I met the most wonderful girl in the world yesterday.

She looks absolutely stunning. To give you an idea, the pictures she posted of herself on Twitter led some people to confuse her with Lana Del Rey. She's also incredibly intelligent, studying to become a lawyer.
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Maaan, nothing is sexier than intelligence pouring out of the other person :D
GTboyz
Well her father and your father are good friends, that's obviously a good sign right ? Make things easier :)
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Right, but the distance definitely isn't a small obstacle here. It's like living in the center of Poland, from where you're basically 320 km away from all its border areas.

That girl who likes my voice lives 80 km away from Warsaw (in a straight line, mind you), and I look at even that as quite an obstacle, really.
 
Distance isnt really an obstacle when we have technologies now. Cellphones, emails and stuff that you can use for comunication, but it is quite an obstacle when you want to meet up.
 
In order to start texting/calling someone though, you need to get to a certain point in your relationship for it to not be awkward. I haven't gotten there yet so I didn't even bother asking for her number when I saw her.

And its not like I can ask my father to ask her father to set us up, I'm 21 years old after all. The best I could do is somehow suggest to my dad that we should see them more often, and I've got no idea how to do that without it being extremely awkward.

I think the only thing I can really do is just try to get in touch with her through social media, though I'm so shy, I'm extremely scared to just send her a friend request on Facebook.:ouch: Besides, I don't even know how she feels about me. I know people tend to exaggerate when they're in love, but she's genuinely the type of girl that's probably got a pack of guys constantly following her everywhere. So what chances do I, a socially inept and geeky guy have...
 
If you didn't notice. People don't take Facebook friends seriously. You can friend anyone on Facebook without them thinking you have a crush on them. Same with a lot of social media.
 
ProjectWHaT
If you didn't notice. People don't take Facebook friends seriously. You can friend anyone on Facebook without them thinking you have a crush on them. Same with a lot of social media.
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It may not be the best way to let someone know that you like them, but social networking sites can be pretty helpful in other ways. For example, you may want to know if a girl that you like is single. If she isn't, then the chances are that there will be some indication of that (photos, statuses etc.). You can also find out what their interests are, and other things like that 👍

Anyway, now a few days have passed I feel much better about what happened between me and this girl :). For a few days last week, I was really down and kind of mad at the same time, and other people around me knew it. To be honest, I still can't wrap my head around why she did what she did*, but now I feel fine again 👍 I believe she is in work again later so I'll probably talk to her a bit anyway.



*I like this girl I work with and I asked her out face to face after a month of trying to find the courage. She said yes, and I also got her phone number. A few days later I asked her by text message if she wanted to hang out on Thursday once she finished college, and she declined. I set her a message a few days after that, asking how her day had been etc. She completely ignored it. I felt really down.
 
My big mouth bit me in the ass. She confronted me about me saying that we were talking. So I told her straight up how I felt about her. And then she confirmed a lot of things about her past etc. I'll keep you all updated.
 
After a few weeks of being able to not thinking about her at all, my brain decided it's a good idea to put her in the majority of my dream last night. I hope i don't start to think about her again after this because tbh, it was a bit of a good dream :ouch:
 
@CarManiac 425 Let me just say this, you can look back on the previous ten pages for proof if you want.

I was the socially inept guy too. Seriously, I couldn't even say hi when she was around during school. There were rare moments in which I got a spout of courage and did some small talk with her.

Constantly would I look for help trying to figure out how to talk to her. Constantly would I get the reply "just talk to her, just get her number" and constantly would I shrug it off saying "but you don't understand how HARD that is for someone like me"

So I didn't. I didn't man up and go talk to her and get her number. Instead I just joined in with mutual friends until it was the last day of school. The last day I would likely talk to her until next school year, and I didn't get her number because I was too squared on the "social anxiety".

But I got lucky, and got invited to a pool party that she was attending. She talked to me, she was the one who got my number from me, she liked me since the first time I talked to her and I didn't even suspect it because I was too "socially inept" to talk to her. Through some astronomically wild luck I am now dating a girl whom I like more in a week, than the girl I dated for the past two years.

It's hard to believe someone when they say "just go talk to her" because in your mind you think, "yeah, that worked for you, but not for me". I thought that, and I can tell you think that too, but it's wrong. I got lucky, I could have missed out on that pool party and not gotten the chance to date someone amazing. But I did. So go on, talk to her, get her number, do something to get you that one step higher.
 
First part of my conversation with her earlier today. Literally right off the bat...part of the first reply from her after a "hey what's up" text. Her answer, and then this:


"Heard you were saying stuff on Facebook about us talking or something?"

Um...few things guys.

1. She doesn't have a Facebook.
2. I haven't posted anything on Facebook about us or her, except small talk with a few close friends in private messages. They don't rat.
3. She doesn't talk to any of the people I hang out with.
4. She couldn't give me a straight answer of who told her when asked. She beat around the bush.
5. She said it might have been my ex GF, but I feel like that was an excuse. Couple issues with that. She does not talk to or even associate with my ex GF anymore. She wants nothing to do with her (they were once best friends and my ex screwed her over as with everyone else royally). I don't talk to my ex either. And she is blocked from my page and from seeing anything I post.




Could this be her way of breaking the ice with me? I certainly have not posted anything and those of you that are friends with me on FB can see this is true.
 
Slash
First part of my conversation with her earlier today. Literally right off the bat...part of the first reply from her after a "hey what's up" text. Her answer, and then this:


"Heard you were saying stuff on Facebook about us talking or something?"

Um...few things guys.

1. She doesn't have a Facebook.
2. I haven't posted anything on Facebook about us or her, except small talk with a few close friends in private messages. They don't rat.
3. She doesn't talk to any of the people I hang out with.
4. She couldn't give me a straight answer of who told her when asked. She beat around the bush.
5. She said it might have been my ex GF, but I feel like that was an excuse. Couple issues with that. She does not talk to or even associate with my ex GF anymore. She wants nothing to do with her (they were once best friends and my ex screwed her over as with everyone else royally). I don't talk to my ex either. And she is blocked from my page and from seeing anything I post.

Could this be her way of breaking the ice with me? I certainly have not posted anything and those of you that are friends with me on FB can see this is true.
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It sounds more like you're in trouble. If you were talking on Facebook and it bothers here, you're in trouble. If you weren't, but someone says you were, you still could be in (undeserved) trouble. If she is a member of GTP, you're in (big) trouble.
 
Speedy Samurai
It sounds more like you're in trouble. If you were talking on Facebook and it bothers here, you're in trouble. If you weren't, but someone says you were, you still could be in (undeserved) trouble. If she is a member of GTP, you're in (big) trouble.
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Here's the thing.
Al isn't on GTPlanet. She probably doesn't even know what it is. I have Slash added on Facebook and he doesn't a lot, if ever, about Al. It's probably more of the undeserved trouble, except... he isn't anymore.
 

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