The General Relationship Thread

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Anyway, switching gears. Just like out of a movie, I saw my ex with a new guy the other day. She hadn't crossed my thoughts in ages, yet at that single point, jealousy, longing, anger, hate, and bitterness all washed over me lol. Why does that happen? One minute I was completely fine with never talking to her again, then literally another minute later I simultaneously missed her, liked her, hated her, and would have done anything to win her back.
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That's nothing to worry about, its basic human emotion. You cared for her at one point, so you subconsciously get irritated/upset when you see her acting like you didn't exist (not to make that sound harsh). It was the same thing with me; I mentioned pages and pages ago that I liked a girl who treated me like complete 🤬 for no other reason other than the fact that I liked her. Even though I was saying to friends and others that I didn't care or whatever, I actually did, and just got all wound up and upset seeing her talking to other guys. Mines slightly different admittedly, but hey, it still makes sense.

TL;DR - Basic human emotions. Eventually those thoughts will disappear. 👍
 
cnd01
Good.
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Going to concur here. I don't think anyone wants to read a paragraph about some girl's unfortunate past and how all of it will ultimately lead you being her knight in shining armor. How about posting how the actual relationship is going instead of treating this thread like Facebook.

"OMG, Becky & I held a conversation. She the one forev3r".
 
Fair enough. I'm sorry about all those posts, I've just had feelings for her for a long time and any activity with her makes me really happy. With everythig in my life right now its the only thing I look forward too these days.


She came over for the first time since we started seriously talking last night. Randomly showed up, or so I thought. So we hung out and chatted for a while, figuring out plans for the rest of the summer and getting her to come over more. I guess she is planning on getting a full sleeve on her arm to cover some of the scars her ex left on her.

It was a great night finally seeing her for real for the first time in a long time. When she showed up I was rather speechless, I had no warning or anything since we haven't talked in a couple days. The kicker here was my sister kind of arranged it without me knowing. I guess she wanted to hang out with this girl, but the girl asked if I specifically was home and told my sister we have been talking a lot lately and that she wanted to see me. That was news to my sister as she has kind of been in the dark lately. She told her yes, I was indeed home, and the girl showed up immediately. My sister tried to make plans to hang out with her at the local park which this girl totally trashed in order to see me longer when she got there. The only reason she left after 2 1/2 hours was because her mom needed her to help clean out their bird cages. Otherwise she would have stayed a lot longer.

She also did want to see my mom a but after she just had surgery. She picked a bunch of wildflowers and brought them over in a glass vase. But last night was about me.

That's where things stand at the moment. She's coming to me now. :)
 
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@SlipZtrEm, I have a feeling you'll enjoy me posting the age of the girl I hung out with so you'll inevitably stop bringing up the past.


So, my evening with car girl 22 year old was awesome. If things go well with her, I can actually buy a manual and the girlfriend (to be, in this case) will be able to drive it. Awesome.


And holy crap, not only is she also a vegetarian, car girl, and redhead, but she's also an apprentice and flirty.


Things could turn out here.
 
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TB
Until she becomes iron deficient because of not eating tasty tasty farm animals and eats your spleen instead. :scared:

:p
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It is Canada :lol:
 
I dont know why but i became sick of trying to find a girlfriend. I feel like right now, i don't want to think about finding a girl at all but at the same time, i wanted to feel what its like to have a fun relationship without thinking about marriage before having a serious one.
 
GTboyz
I dont know why but i became sick of trying to find a girlfriend. I feel like right now, i don't want to think about finding a girl at all but at the same time, i wanted to feel what its like to have a fun relationship without thinking about marriage before having a serious one.
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Go meet general girls, without specifically wanting a girlfriend.

Once you find someone who likes you the same way, that's when it will work out.
 
Usually I'd just Like this and move on but as I want to bring more attention to it:
phillkillv2
If some of you guys would stop treating getting a girlfriend like big game hunting you'd probably be more successful. If you act like that you don't think about how you are possibly coming off as desperate.
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phillkillv2
If some of you guys would stop treating getting a girlfriend like big game hunting you'd probably be more successful. If you act like that you don't think about how you are possibly coming off as desperate.
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It's advice like this that needs to be really taken to heart.

Staaahhhp putting one girl on the pedestal, and you'll have a much better shot.

Remember, girls take dumps too that smell
 
ITCC_Andrew
Go meet general girls, without specifically wanting a girlfriend.

Once you find someone who likes you the same way, that's when it will work out.
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I am surprised that this got over looked. If girls want to be treated on the same level, why not. I try to do the same and I still cannot find a girlfriend. Yes, some nights do suck but I need to step up my life game.
 
phillkillv2
If some of you guys would stop treating getting a girlfriend like big game hunting you'd probably be more successful. If you act like that you don't think about how you are possibly coming off as desperate.
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Unless, of course, you dig cougars, then it's big game hunting all the way.
 
Joey D
Unless, of course, you dig cougars, then it's big game hunting all the way.
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Let the Hunt begin! :dopey:
 
I'm a bit worried about my relationship, I'm going to be going to college soon and my BF is going to be a senior in HS. Going to be 4hrs apart and will only be able to see each other on weekends, and because of this some of my friends think I should just end the relationship, but I love the kid and I just want everything to work out
 
Things will always work out if both people want it to.

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I'm guessing, it would be a mistake to message my friend/maybe girlfriend to be, a day after hanging out the first time; 3 day rule?
 
_Rin_
I'm a bit worried about my relationship, I'm going to be going to college soon and my BF is going to be a senior in HS. Going to be 4hrs apart and will only be able to see each other on weekends, and because of this some of my friends think I should just end the relationship, but I love the kid and I just want everything to work out
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Do you trust him?

If you both want it to work, it will work.
 
I do wish some people had a hard drive, instead of a brain; they'd stop bringing up old, irrelevant, unnecessary and tacky points in an effort to look cool and scapegoat someone else.

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She messaged me this afternoon... :) things going well.
 
McLaren
No, they don't. Sometimes, unfortunate things happen that cause relationships to fail regardless of how much both people want it to work out.

Distance is one of those things.
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That's a lot of the reason why I am afraid to leave for college. It's a long ways away and I'm not ready to make that move. Granted, I need to be around for my mother in case something happens to though, so there's that.
 
Slash
That's a lot of the reason why I am afraid to leave for college. It's a long ways away and I'm not ready to make that move. Granted, I need to be around for my mother in case something happens to though, so there's that.
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College isn't something you have to go far away for, first off. If you're concerned for your mother, then pick a college close to home.

If you're concerned for a girlfriend, then you need to highly weigh your options; if you haven't been in the relationship very long, it may not be in your best interest to place it above an education (& that applies to settling for a close-by college instead of where you want to go). If it's a long-term, consider the work that will need to be put in to maintain it & your school life. There's a big reason this is where most high school relationships automatically fail; it's the first test of actual pressure on the relationship to work, pressure that doesn't exist in high school. It makes the difference as to whether you tell someone you love them or you can actually show it.
 
Choosing a relationship over college could be the dumbest thing anyone can do. College is one thing that forces you to go out and meet new people. Slash, like McLaren said, college doesn't have to be far, even a good 2 or 3 hours drive is a good change of scenery. That's like me going to college in Chicago when i live in STL. Completely different places in a shorter than than usual distance.
 
phillkillv2
Choosing a relationship over college could be the dumbest thing anyone can do. College is one thing that forces you to go out and meet new people. Slash, like McLaren said, college doesn't have to be far, even a good 2 or 3 hours drive is a good change of scenery. That's like me going to college in Chicago when i live in STL. Completely different places in a shorter than than usual distance.
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And the girls you meet in college will be wonderful.


The college classmate I like might be into me, maybe; I wish there was a simple way to find out without risking my friendship. Ideas?
 
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