The General Relationship Thread

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I gave an update as to my situation here a few days ago. I've since got her number and we've been texting, but I just found out that she likes a guy in her home state (not PA where we live now). This girl is really cool though, so I'd be just as happy only being friends with her. And considering the facts that she's moving, and that I'll be turning 18 soon when I don't know how old she is, what could've been a big blow is really no big deal. I've liked her longer and more than any other girl in my life, but again, not a big blow. :)
 
Move on... She'll never go for a guy outside of her home state. She's holding on to the dream of moving back and being with that guy
 
ITCC_Andrew
Move on... She'll never go for a guy outside of her home state. She's holding on to the dream of moving back and being with that guy
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I do think that I'll have her as a friend, especially since we seem to have a lot in common, but I will be moving on. Honestly, I'm not surprised she's holding on. The state and all the memories she's made in that state are her calling. I really can't blame her.
 
Let me guess, though; she probably thinks it's a case of "grass is greener." This is also something I've dealt with. Kinda.

Relevant side note: no matter how funny/adorable/pétite she is, don't fall for the French girl from Toulouse/Normandie. Elle va y retourner.


Edit: same thing has happened to me with girls from Austria, Baden-Württemburg, Korea (okay, Romanian Korean)... I need to stop falling for international girls.
 
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I just told the girl how I felt. It hurt that I couldn't tell her in person but I didn't really have a choice. :indiff:
 
Pain? If she's causing you pain, something's wrong. The right person will make your heart flutter... The wrong one will put you in ER with stab wounds or something similar.


If she causes you pain at all, something's wrong
 
ITCC_Andrew
Pain? If she's causing you pain, something's wrong. The right person will make your heart flutter... The wrong one will put you in ER with stab wounds or something similar.


If she causes you pain at all, something's wrong
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Emotional pain of not telling her how I felt and have strong feelings for her. She has made my heart flutter, very much actually, but the fact that she's going away when it felt like she was at my fingertips made me depressed.
 
Johnny1996
Emotional pain of not telling her how I felt and have strong feelings for her. She has made my heart flutter, very much actually, but the fact that she's going away when it felt like she was at my fingertips made me depressed.
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Emotional pain over a girl? Bless your poor soul, the real world hasn't yet happened for you.

I don't mean to be a jerk, but please do understand that self-pity/loathing/second-guessing is unattractive.


The next time you find the right girl, go and be brave. You are meant to enjoy being around the person and love them, not resent them for being "difficult."


If you find her difficult, she's not the right one... You should feel natural with them. They should feel like the person you've known for your entire life... The one who's always seemed to be there but never actually was
 
Unless you're dating the girl, and you genuinely miss her (to the point of sobbing), you will not impress a girl by feeling sorry for yourself.



I remember one time, though, when a girl (the one I gave my virginity to, by the way) was hitting me with her high-heeled shoes. I laughed it off, she was impressed. I covered the bruises the next day. About six days later, we were dating; the flirting was successful.


If I hadn't been fun, it wouldn't have worked... If I had been hurt - or showed that it hurt - it wouldn't have worked.



Women want a tough (strong!) guy who's nice on the inside.
 
My pain is being single and not have the courage to get a girl :p. But you need to learn to move on talk to other women hang out with friends and forget about her. Hopefully one day ill be in a relationship hopefully girls like guys who've never dated in there life before like me.
 
Cobra_GT500
My pain is being single and not have the courage to get a girl :p. But you need to learn to move on talk to other women hang out with friends and forget about her. Hopefully one day ill be in a relationship hopefully girls like guys who've never dated in there life before like me.
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if not today, why not tomorrow. Just talk when your voice needed to be heard. Though some girls like random guys.
 
About to leave for my best friends wedding (They're both 20).
Rewind 1.5 years, and my best friend invited me to go camping. I said I'd go, but also asked if the girl could come as well. He said it was fine, knowing I had a thing for her.
A month later it was clear he really liked her, so I did the right thing and said "Nah man, go for it"; fully expecting that he would screw it up and I'd have my chance back.
NOPE. Now they're getting married.

Meanwhile, my most recent love interest decided to stop talking to me for no reason. A month later, and she's the background on my current best friend's phone.

What the hell is wrong with me? I cannot catch a break. I'm now gonna have to go sit at this wedding (by myself, they told me last minute that I couldn't bring a +1) and think about all this garbage.

It would almost be easier to just marry my best female friend. Like then I wouldn't have to worry about stuff like this, we'd live together and just have a good life, ya know?
 
If your in good terms with both, stop being selfish and be happy for your good friends. I setup my friend with my coworker, they did the rest and they are happy. I couldn't ask for more.
 
Things are going well I suppose. Not really getting anywhere serious, but enough to keep the ball rolling. Don't really want to get into much detail though. Just figured I'd offer an update. The emotions I get swing wildly from fluttering heart to deep sadness. Interesting for sure. I've never had that happen before. I really care for her. Unfortunately, my dream has yet to become reality.
 
nk4e
if not today, why not tomorrow. Just talk when your voice needed to be heard. Though some girls like random guys.
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I'm unemployed now so it's either find a girl now or wait till I work. I've been planning my whole life without a gf but I want to change that and hopefully one day I could even get married :p. So I have to find the right girl. I'm not going through 10 different relationships I just want one.
 
Cobra_GT500
I'm unemployed now so it's either find a girl now or wait till I work. I've been planning my whole life without a gf but I want to change that and hopefully one day I could even get married :p. So I have to find the right girl. I'm not going through 10 different relationships I just want one.
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Do you even know what you want from a girl, though?


Many times, you'll start a relationship, then realize she's not your type...


Making the first relationship work is like making waist size 22 jeans work. Sure, you could try to make it work, but you're likely to be strangled. The better option is the 30 size jeans beside the other jeans, where you're going to have what you need...
 
Johnny1996
This is just like me.
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No, Slash is telling the truth and you're exaggerating. I've been in Slash's shoes, in a way... Not in the situation itself, but I've had the same moodiness...

When I was battling with suicidal clinical depression, I nearly passed on several times. Feeling upset over a single girl liking a different guy.... :lol: that's cute. I remember when I was your age, I would ask maybe 10 girls a night to dance at the high school dances... Get turned down by 6, but keep trying to find someone.

Johnny1996
Yeah, I guess, now that I think of it a bit. Although what I will say to add on to this, I'll mention it elsewhere. ;)
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Where?



My advice to you; live your life happily. Girls - like guys - want to be happy. Do you want to be around someone mopping and sobbing "woe is me! I have emotions. This must mean I'm clinically depressed and suicidal!"


No, no you don't. You feel guilt-tripped if you don't, until you find out that they're faking it for attention and then drop them on their lying faces.


But, the happy ones... The "silver lining" people... Everyone likes them.


Be the silver lining guy for two weeks. Try it. Since I've began to be this guy, I'm happier. I'm more successful. I don't even mind being single as much, because I can be as picky/choosy as I want. I've got the job I want, I've got a wonderful relationship with my parents and I'm generally getting closer to achieving my dreams.


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Last night, a friend of mine was being the melodramatic "playing it up for attention type." I asked what was wrong, suspecting she was. Anyways, despite the fact that she was, she quickly played it off.. we got to talking... I mentioned my ex-gf (first love/only true love) to see if that was why we had stopped talking. While it wasn't, I got to thinking about her again. I haven't seen her in three years, but I still love her.



This is probably why I can't find anyone worth dating... None of them are good looking enough.. None kiss as passionately. None talk to me in the same sweet, soft tone.


Well, just the one... The one who treats me terribly and has a boyfriend.





I'm probably screwed; might not be able to move on for a long time
 
ITCC_Andrew
Do you even know what you want from a girl, though?


Many times, you'll start a relationship, then realize she's not your type...


Making the first relationship work is like making waist size 22 jeans work. Sure, you could try to make it work, but you're likely to be strangled. The better option is the 30 size jeans beside the other jeans, where you're going to have what you need...
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Well I want someone who can understand I have a mild disability but it doesn't affect me in any way I can still go about my day and do normal things. I want someone who I can trust. If I can get someone to like me im going to try my verry best to keep her. If I tell a girl I have a disability it could be generic and my kids might get it but could be more severe then what i have. If she walk away then I know she's not the right one but if she doesn't she's a keeper. So no girl I meet will have more floors than me. But I don't want to be single for the rest of my life.
 
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ITCC_Andrew
My advice to you; live your life happily. Girls - like guys - want to be happy. Do you want to be around someone mopping and sobbing "woe is me! I have emotions. This must mean I'm clinically depressed and suicidal!"


No, no you don't. You feel guilt-tripped if you don't, until you find out that they're faking it for attention and then drop them on their lying faces.


But, the happy ones... The "silver lining" people... Everyone likes them.
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I almost never show that side of me when I'm around her or talking to her. I ran it by her one time and she made me feel better about it all. She wasn't amused, but she cared enough to help. That meant a lot to me. Why don't I show it around her? Well for a few reasons...she's really kind of like I am, as far as being down about everything and all that and I try to show her the light. Plus, she generally just makes me really happy, so there's no reason to be upset.
 
Small piece of advice for all of you here: whether she's only a friend or if she's more than a friend, if you and her are texting, proofread your damn texts before you send them. Make sure you don't make yourself look stupid. I just did that. Don't be a Johnny1996.
 

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