the girl i love...

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32' Lover
yeah..but im talking making something with a welder or something like that..but i dont know much of anything i could build outa metal...but yeah, buying something would be good.
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Why don't you weld her a portrait?

- you can bet that no one else will do that for her*



*..although she is quite cute ....i've got her picture too ...maybe i'll weld her a portrait....
 
that would be pretty different, and pretty hard. and im sure that no one else has the talent to do something like that, or for that would even think about it making a portrait
 
Loon
One thing I found out recently is don't wait too long, I did that this year with a girl I really liked, and would of loved to out with, but I get nervous and jittery and start to stutter when I even think about saying the words. But as a result of waiting to long I fell into the "Friend Zone" or whatever you want to call it, but now I'm considered the "Really good Friend". Which is better than nothing but it's NOT where you wanna be if you're serious about something like this.
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I agree, if you just remain friends for too long that's all you'r likely to ever be if neither of you ever mention your felings towards each other. What you need to do if she's taken, is not to ask her out now, but let her know you like her. Let her know however your most comfortable but without overdoing it, you don't have to spell it out, but let her know. By doing that but not making a move your not overstepping your bounds, but unlike just being regular friends with her, you've laid the foundation for more should she become available at a later date and also reduced the chances of being dragged too deep into a "just friends and always friends" situation.
 
Dave A
I agree, if you just remain friends for too long that's all you'r likely to ever be if neither of you ever mention your felings towards each other. What you need to do if she's taken, is not to ask her out now, but let her know you like her. Let her know however your most comfortable but without overdoing it, you don't have to spell it out, but let her know. By doing that but not making a move your not overstepping your bounds, but unlike just being regular friends with her, you've laid the foundation for more should she become available at a later date and also reduced the chances of being dragged too deep into a "just friends and always friends" situation.
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'32...he has a point. You don't want to wait to long, anything can happen between now and September. You should 'throw your hat in the ring' so to speak so she knows that you are interested beyond a friend level.
 
I agree with Dave A. To let her know you're "interested" in becoming beyond friend level would be a good idea - and easier to say. Then, if things were to pick up, it would be much easier to ask her out as she already knows you are interested. Trust me, I've tried before, but it wasn't meant to be, as I didn't know she already had a boyfriend. :ouch: I was a bit pre-mature... At least you're in the situation where you know her quite well and that she has a boyfriend, so things more than likely won't go wrong when the right time comes.
 
There is only 4 steps you need to follow...

Step 1: Get her drunk
Step 2: Throw it in her
Step 3: Call her a cab and tell her you will call her
Step 4: Don't call her

Not calling her will leave her wondering whats wrong with her which will bring her self esteem down. When you see it at its lowest, ask her out, she'll be so happy that someone likes her, plus, she'll never want to go back to feeling down, which means she'll do everything in her power not to lose you. The rest is history. Don't forget to tell the Grand kids about me when you tell the story of how their Grandpa landed their Grandma! :D 👍
 
Cute Chick... some of the replies are funny in here. I question how you guys have sig others with the tactics posted. :lol:
 
SRV2LOW4ME
There is only 4 steps you need to follow...

Step 1: Get her drunk
Step 2: Throw it in her
Step 3: Call her a cab and tell her you will call her
Step 4: Don't call her
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Now this is a man who knows how to treat a lady right! I follow those, almost exactly, except where the part where I call her a cab, I just point her in the direction of a phone...

As for what you should buy her, I think a tripod and a set of instructions on how to use the selftimer, so she doesn't have to keep taking crappy, down angled, myspace style pictures of herself.
 
Casio
Now this is a man who knows how to treat a lady right! I follow those, almost exactly, except where the part where I call her a cab, I just point her in the direction of a phone...
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Aren't you still virgin? :odd:
 
To be honest I think your trying to hard. You don't want someone to go out with you just because you do nice things for them. You want the person to like you as you are. Just be honest with her. I'm sure she'll appreciate that far more than anything you could make for her.
 
I would make her a little stick figure out of bent and welded rods. Make sure it has a big, cartoonish smile, and big cartoonish eyes. You can give it to her and say that you couldn't afford to buy her something nice, so you made her something. She'll totally dig the effort, and think of you as someone who's thoughtful and caring.

It's quite non-threatening as a gift. If you do succeed in going out with her, you can tell her that the figure is a representation of yourself when you're thinking of her.
 
GilesGuthrie
If you do succeed in going out with her, you can tell her that the figure is a representation of yourself when you're thinking of her.
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And if you don't suceed, keep the figure and utilize it as a voodoo doll. That'll teach her!
 
...and ask her to keep it hidden from her boyfriend, otherwise you may need to call a paramedic to remove a welded stick man from your rear-end...

Personally, I don't see the harm in getting to know her better so long as your intentions are innocent i.e. that you want to get to know her better as a friend - but you've already said that you want to go out with her, despite knowing full well that she is currently in a relationship, although you are hesitant (with good reason) to make a move while this is the case. In my opinion, making it apparent to her that you want to be more than just a friend while she is in a relationship can only end in tears. For one thing, it would demonstrate to her that you have little respect for the fact that she has a boyfriend already.... also, it implies that you think she is the sort of girl who would drop her b/f in favour of a better offer - indeed, if that is the case, then you're backing a loser to begin with. Also, it leaves you in limbo, waiting on an event that might never happen (i.e. her breaking up) or worse still, it may put you in a situation where you actively attempt to precipitate that break-up yourself, by getting involved in their relationship in one way or another. That's never a good idea...

As harsh as it may sound, being infatuated by someone else's girlfriend is not a healthy position to be in, and my advice (which you can take or leave) is to try put her out of your mind for the time being, or atleast to abandon the idea of trying to impress the hell out of her. Planning to make her a birthday present more than 4 months in advance is not the best way to do this, in my view. Giving her a present as a friend is perfectly fine, but as a gesture of love for another guy's woman, it becomes a different matter...
 
You can let a girl know you like them without making a move or implying that they should ditch their current boy friend for you. I've been there, and on a slight twist, I've had a girl do that to me while I was seeing someone else. If I was single at the time I'd have taken her as well. If we we're both single now I would, but I wouldn't chose her over who I'm currently with. What she said didn't make me think she was asking me to chose her over the girl I was already seeing, she was just letting me know she liked me. It can be nice to know someone likes you, even if there is no chance of something happening between you both.

I would agree with your last comment though, it's not healthy to become infatuated with someone you can't or rather, shouldn't have. Imo I'd let her know, but I wouldn't get infatuated with her, I'd keep her at a freidnly distance and if she became available before you meet someone else then you can take things further but don't count on that if too much. Also following on from TM's comment again, I most certainly would not get involved in what's going on with her and her b/f.

At the end of the day 32' Lover, you know her better than any of us, so while we're all posting what we say we'd do your the one who knows her best. Read the different pieces of advise, use your judgment to what you feel is right on both your part and more importantly, hers.
 
TheCracker
I like the way you think Nigel 👍 - a babies for life, not just for Birthdays.
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and Women tend to love them!!

I would say still make her something nice and personal and keep your options open, whilst trying to expand to getting to know other girls so your not hung up on this one (as lovely as she is).
 
Dave A
You can let a girl know you like them without making a move or implying that they should ditch their current boy friend for you. I've been there, and on a slight twist, I've had a girl do that to me while I was seeing someone else. If I was single at the time I'd have taken her as well. If we we're both single now I would, but I wouldn't chose her over who I'm currently with. What she said didn't make me think she was asking me to chose her over the girl I was already seeing, she was just letting me know she liked me. It can be nice to know someone likes you, even if there is no chance of something happening between you both.

I would agree with your last comment though, it's not healthy to become infatuated with someone you can't or rather, shouldn't have. Imo I'd let her know, but I wouldn't get infatuated with her, I'd keep her at a freidnly distance and if she became available before you meet someone else then you can take things further but don't count on that if too much. Also following on from TM's comment again, I most certainly would not get involved in what's going on with her and her b/f.

At the end of the day 32' Lover, you know her better than any of us, so while we're all posting what we say we'd do your the one who knows her best. Read the different pieces of advise, use your judgment to what you feel is right on both your part and more importantly, hers.
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i know, i always think of whats right on her part when ever things happen that involve her, for instance my friend nocking over her temp. gauge...
 
Touring Mars
As harsh as it may sound, being infatuated by someone else's girlfriend is not a healthy position to be in, and my advice (which you can take or leave) is to try put her out of your mind for the time being, or atleast to abandon the idea of trying to impress the hell out of her. Planning to make her a birthday present more than 4 months in advance is not the best way to do this, in my view. Giving her a present as a friend is perfectly fine, but as a gesture of love for another guy's woman, it becomes a different matter...
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Best advice so far besides danoff's. I wouldn't get too into her if she already has a boyfriend, but if you do want to land her, I would suggest just hanging out with her like normal but not making too big of a deal about it, and definitely not worrying about presents, wait until you're actually her boyfriend to worry about that.

Oh yeah, make sure her boyfriend can't kick your ass, either. I'd probably want to pound some other guy if he was making this big of a deal about my girlfriend's birthday.
 
ah... I remember when i was in your situation.....






















oh wait I still am :lol:
 
32' Lover
isnt it so much fun!:lol:
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depends if you tel her, then she sys she likes you back, then the next day it's like nothing happened.

then it just elevated from there. Trust me it can get pretty tough.

unless your pako, nothing is tough for him.👍
 

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