the girl i love...

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This is the fastest growing thread I have ever seen.

Back on topic. Try to take her out to the movies, take her shopping, and go outside. Trust me, girls love shopping. :)
 
hell yeah, i know she does! but thats something her and her boyfriend would do, wouldnt you think, and thats why i wanna do something for her birthday
 
Go get her an iPod if she doesn't have one already. Almost every girl I know owns a iPod. Even my Grandma is hip, she got an iPod shuffle. :D I remember her putting gum wrappers in her teeth, making it look like expensive braces...

Write her a letter and put it in a present too. That should make her feel warm inside, and in the end, that is all that matters. She will then know that she has someone to go to when she is feeling down. Give her all of your attention, or she won't pay you any attention, and right now it sounds like you don't want to let her go. Just don't be too pushy. I tought my friend how to get a girl, and slowing down was one of the tips.
 
yeah, funny story, at the begging of the school year so was accused of stealing one, which she didnt..and she has her phone

i want her to feel like she has someone to be with or talk to when she is down.
 
yeah, funny story, at the begging of the school year so was accused of stealing one, which she didnt..and she has her phone

i want her to feel like she has someone to be with or talk to when she is down.

Then just offer to pay for the contraceptives.
 
It sounds like you hang out with her heaps, which is a good start.

Are all the guys at your school after her? 'Coz if they are then you my friend are gonna have to dig really deep. If they arn't then it couldnt be any easier.

Before I started going out with my girlfriend I used to make her laugh heaps in English (Sarcasm, Jokes about the nerd in front of us). She fell in Love with me after a fair while, I asked her out, and the rest is history. I've been together with her now for 6 months :).
 
Yeah, I hate when a girl gets chased by guys, I don't like a challenge. :trouble:

If she's too popular, you have to find a time where she isn't around "Paparazzi" and talk face to face with her. Show her you got guts.

EDIT: My bro just changed the word guts into balls. :indiff:
 
tell er for one thing if you already haven't. As I already told you imcurrently in a similar situation, so If you want to PM or MSN talk on it it's fine by me ;)
 
luckly she isnt a prep either, which she basicly the same status i am, i would never wanna go out witha prep anways. and no, not all of the guys go after her
 
Go get her an iPod if she doesn't have one already.
Just playing Devil's Advocate here, but how would you feel if a guy at your school you hardly know gave your girlfriend an iPod for her birthday??? I'm not getting how you guys are not getting this...
 
Just playing Devil's Advocate here, but how would you feel if a guy at your school you hardly know gave your girlfriend an iPod for her birthday??? I'm not getting how you guys are not getting this...
He is right, to put it simply she is taken, so my advice, keep in touch but please, no romantic gestures. If you want to wait and hope they break up then I would not get to friendly, you don't want to her to see you as just a friend. That is all
 
Just playing Devil's Advocate here, but how would you feel if a guy at your school you hardly know gave your girlfriend an iPod for her birthday??? I'm not getting how you guys are not getting this...
Oow I don't think she'd like being seen as a possesion :dopey:

I'd really, really love to know where TuneRVisioN gets all his amazing ideas from.
 
So, how does she actually feel about, you know, her boyfriend? Maybe you should find out if she wants anyone else before barging in. There's a difference between her laughing with you and her letting you stick it where the sun don't shine. Though you two might be a bit young for that. Maybe.
At best, she might leave him for you, which would be a complete no no for me, because whats to say she's not gonna do the same to you down the line?
At worst, she's gonna think you're creepy and laugh at you when discussing your thoughtful gift with her boyfriend.

Summary: Asking her out when she is involved with someone else, bad.
 
Just playing Devil's Advocate here, but how would you feel if a guy at your school you hardly know gave your girlfriend an iPod for her birthday??? I'm not getting how you guys are not getting this...
This man knows his stuff. 👍
32' Lover: I think you've been given enough advice in this thread pal, it is now time for you to make up your mind and decide whether you should continue beating the dead horse or stand up and grab another fish from the tank.

I tell ya what, I know you ain't scared of her boyfriend, fine, but, if he finds out about this crush that you have on her, and that you're actually trying to take her away from him, things are likely to get very ugly; know why? 'cause eventhough you don't fear him, and probably can beat him up, a confrontation between the both of you, can only end with "your girl" disliking you both and thinking you're just a pair of jerks. She'll ignore the hell outta you, and get another dude. That's what will happen. Girls usually don't like that type of drama, they rather avoid it, so trust me, you don't wanna lose her friendship over this.

I'd really, really love to know where TuneRVisioN gets all his amazing ideas from.
Don't question him!!! I heard he lives in Security Checkpointed Bronx, NY; and he's next to the Leader of the World's Worst Cassanova Ring.
 
well, the guy shes going out with doesnt go to our school....so part of your qoute isnt true..but yeah, i wont fight just to fight, i fight if i need to, or if he hurts her, as me and my friends say "his/your ass is grass" now thats a qoute that i like!
 
I thought I'd give you the benefit of some of my experience, so here is
some advice for you to take/ leave as you please.

Compliments work great, but make sure you mean it:
-If you are going to give a compliment, make sure its a sincere one (eg. don't say something just because you think she wants her to hear it)
-Pick up on something that is not obvious, that others would not compliment her on too much. If lots of people tell her she's pretty/ hot/ beautiful, it won't have much of an effect. Recognizing a talent/ interest/ something that you honestly admire in her is much more meaningful and effective.👍

This might sound weird but: be a little selfish. :odd:
(I don't mean ignore her, or show off too much) It's a fine line, so I'll try to explain:
-Focus on yourself a bit, as in, make yourself attractive to her.
This is distinct from her seeing/ thinking you are trying to attract her.

Doing stuff that is obvious to her that you are trying to 'get her', (like showing off, writing poetry, red roses) might work, but it might also backfire.

Its much better if she comes to the conclusion that she is attracted to you on her own, without thinking that you were trying to get her.:sly:

So how do you do this?
-presentation: dress appropriately/ clean/ smelling good. From the photos, she's the kind of girl that looks after herself and is concerned with her appearance.:drool:
-Be positive. A girl is not attracted to someone who is constantly bitching & moaning about whatever. :rolleyes:
-Be honest and genuine. Being fake/ lying/ acting will backfire every time.
-This is difficult, but: Don't be too readily available to her. You need to make it clear by your actions that if she wants you to be there for her, she has to be there for you. If you are there for her at the drop of a dime, there is no incentive for her to commit more to the relationship.
-Make yourself valuable. By this I mean: if you are too readily available, too willing to please, you are cheap and not as prized.
You have to remember that your time and effort is important and valuable too. She has to deserve you also, so you have to decide if she's good enough for you - if she gets the sense that you are valuable and she has to work to get you, then you have the upper hand. Hand is good. Use the hand son, use the hand while you can, cos it never lasts long enough.👍
-What I'm trying to get to is: put yourself in her shoes: you have to be the person she wants to be with. So you have to show her the "grass is greener on the other side" so you have to be the better presented, more positive, more genuine guy in her life.:sly:
-If you focus on her too much, and follow her around like a little dog, doing everything for her- this is not attractive, and will guarantee you the dreaded "friend only" status. :scared:

Gifts are great, but choose wisely:
-Make it too casual, and you might be considered 'just a friend'
-Make it too romantic, and you might scare her off/ look pathetic.
-As previously mentioned, something thoughtful that you make is more personal and meaningful. The ideal gift will have the potential to be seen as romantic by her, but also be excused for being nothing more than a friendly gesture. - The best way to do this is by giving a thoughtful gift! :sly:

Conversations: shut up and listen, take the boyfriend's side in arguments!
(another one to explain)
-Girls like to talk. This will haunt you the rest of your life. You will eventually learn to tune them out. :banghead:
But for now:
-Don't bother trying to memorize something. It will just make you nervous.:nervous:
-Don't worry about what to say beyond the 'ice-breaker' which needs to be an open-ended question, that she can start to talk about. 💡
-Listen to what she is saying, follow up and ask questions on whatever she is talking about. Don't just sit there thinking about what you want to say.
-If you ever find yourself listening to her complain about her boyfriend- side with the boyfriend. This might seem like a stupid thing to do, but its actually quite brilliant. If she's complaining about him, and you agree with her/ say he's a jerk or whatever, she will feel bad about talking about him like that/ end up making excuses for him. On the other hand, if you take his side and say something like "maybe he was having a hard day" or whatever, this just opens the floodgates, giving her the opportunity to complain about him more, and reveal/ re-enforce her negative feelings for him.:yuck:

Sorry this got a little long. I hope it helps rather than confuse you more!👍
 
I think this is all kind of funny, as we keep speculating about something that will never happen.

Get over her, or just do something already. She probably won't be your type anyway.
 
I would stop posting in this thread, The geezer has enough information he to deal with on these last 7 pages. Its his decision on which advise he should or should not follow, there can't be many more reasonable options than what is posted here already.
 
I keep forgeting she's not single. :ouch: Sorry. I think Exige has something against me. :scared:

If they do break up, try to give a LITTLE time, so she can feel a little better, and talk about how you are not going to ever leave her heart.

Stevis, we are only trying to help... The more help, the better. 💡
 
plus i still need as many ideas is i can get for making something for her birthday....plus were all just sharing things that happend in our lives, and sharing our experiences with each other, and for that just talking, i dont see anything wrong with any of this...
 
Unless you're very close friends I think it's a bad idea to plan out months in advance what you will be giving her for her birthday.

Just find another girl.
 
He obviously dooesn't want any other girl. He wants HER. I can understand how he feels about her, since that is basically how I feel about 90% of girls my age. :indiff: One of them called me a Man Whore.

You should take her out somewhere, nothing too fancy, since you don't want to upset her BF obviously. Ask about how things are going in her life, etc. Nothing pushy, more friendly, a girl always love when someone is always there for 'em. :cool:
 
plus i still need as many ideas is i can get for making something for her birthday....plus were all just sharing things that happend in our lives, and sharing our experiences with each other, and for that just talking, i dont see anything wrong with any of this...

Nothing is really wrong with it. I'm just saying that this is all just amusing and, in a way, pathetic. If you can't be creative with what you've been given, do you really deserve her? The whole idea of doing something to woo someone is to do what you think would be best. In other words, your actions and ideas should be wholly representative of you. What you're doing is giving her GTPlanet, not you.

Wooing like this didn't work for Roderigo; it won't work for you. Just go for it armed with only yourself when the time is right. If she doesn't dig you, then let that be her problem and get on with your life.
 
He obviously dooesn't want any other girl. He wants HER. I can understand how he feels about her, since that is basically how I feel about 90% of girls my age. :indiff: One of them called me a Man Whore.

You should take her out somewhere, nothing too fancy, since you don't want to upset her BF obviously. Ask about how things are going in her life, etc. Nothing pushy, more friendly, a girl always love when someone is always there for 'em. :cool:


yep, your exactly right, i dont want any other girl, and im not the type of person just to give up, especially on her.and why would you give up on something that you really want, no body would get anywhere in this world if they gave up...

but yeah, nothing too fancy, being there for her is always a good thing...:cool:👍
 
He obviously dooesn't want any other girl. He wants HER. I can understand how he feels about her, since that is basically how I feel about 90% of girls my age.

Too bad she's TAKEN.

why would you give up on something that you really want, no body would get anywhere in this world if they gave up...

Because you are in high school and it sounds like your whole life depends on the girl breaking up with her boyfriend.
 
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