I thought I'd give you the benefit of some of my experience, so here is
some advice for you to take/ leave as you please.
Compliments work great, but make sure you mean it:
-If you are going to give a compliment, make sure its a sincere one (eg. don't say something just because you think she wants her to hear it)
-Pick up on something that is not obvious, that others would not compliment her on too much. If lots of people tell her she's pretty/ hot/ beautiful, it won't have much of an effect. Recognizing a talent/ interest/ something that you honestly admire in her is much more meaningful and effective.👍
This might sound weird but: be a little selfish.
(I don't mean ignore her, or show off too much) It's a fine line, so I'll try to explain:
-Focus on yourself a bit, as in, make yourself attractive to her.
This is distinct from her seeing/ thinking you are trying to attract her.
Doing stuff that is obvious to her that you are trying to 'get her', (like showing off, writing poetry, red roses) might work, but it might also backfire.
Its much better if she comes to the conclusion that she is attracted to you on her own, without thinking that you were trying to get her.
So how do you do this?
-presentation: dress appropriately/ clean/ smelling good. From the photos, she's the kind of girl that looks after herself and is concerned with her appearance.
-Be positive. A girl is not attracted to someone who is constantly bitching & moaning about whatever.
-Be honest and genuine. Being fake/ lying/ acting will backfire every time.
-This is difficult, but: Don't be too readily available to her. You need to make it clear by your actions that if she wants you to be there for her, she has to be there for you. If you are there for her at the drop of a dime, there is no incentive for her to commit more to the relationship.
-Make yourself valuable. By this I mean: if you are too readily available, too willing to please, you are cheap and not as prized.
You have to remember that your time and effort is important and valuable too. She has to deserve you also, so you have to decide if she's good enough for you - if she gets the sense that you are valuable and she has to work to get you, then you have the upper hand. Hand is good. Use the hand son, use the hand while you can, cos it never lasts long enough.👍
-What I'm trying to get to is: put yourself in her shoes: you have to be the person she wants to be with. So you have to show her the "grass is greener on the other side" so you have to be the better presented, more positive, more genuine guy in her life.
-If you focus on her too much, and follow her around like a little dog, doing everything for her- this is not attractive, and will guarantee you the dreaded "friend only" status.
Gifts are great, but choose wisely:
-Make it too casual, and you might be considered 'just a friend'
-Make it too romantic, and you might scare her off/ look pathetic.
-As previously mentioned, something thoughtful that you make is more personal and meaningful. The ideal gift will have the potential to be seen as romantic by her, but also be excused for being nothing more than a friendly gesture. - The best way to do this is by giving a thoughtful gift!
Conversations: shut up and listen, take the boyfriend's side in arguments!
(another one to explain)
-Girls like to talk. This will haunt you the rest of your life. You will eventually learn to tune them out.
But for now:
-Don't bother trying to memorize something. It will just make you nervous.
-Don't worry about what to say beyond the 'ice-breaker' which needs to be an open-ended question, that she can start to talk about. 💡
-Listen to what she is saying, follow up and ask questions on whatever she is talking about. Don't just sit there thinking about what you want to say.
-If you ever find yourself listening to her complain about her boyfriend- side with the boyfriend. This might seem like a stupid thing to do, but its actually quite brilliant. If she's complaining about him, and you agree with her/ say he's a jerk or whatever, she will feel bad about talking about him like that/ end up making excuses for him. On the other hand, if you take his side and say something like "maybe he was having a hard day" or whatever, this just opens the floodgates, giving her the opportunity to complain about him more, and reveal/ re-enforce her negative feelings for him.
Sorry this got a little long. I hope it helps rather than confuse you more!👍