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[GT Pro]

So, I kind of have to brag a little bit here and I can't think of any other thread to put this (while I'm not above bragging, I'm not the kind of guy who creates a thread purely for the purposes of doing so ...):

I'm doing a Graduate Diploma in Education, and today was the final day of my first prac, a five-day observation in a public school in the next town over. As a part of this prac placement, I had to run a twenty-minute "micro-teaching session", which is essentially where I get to teach for 15-20 minutes. Owing to the traditional screw-ups by the university, I had to do this in a subject I have never studied before - Legal Studies (I hate lawyers) - because that was the only chance I had to present it in a class with my supervisor. Fortunately, it wasn't too difficult a topic (the International Criminal Court and the prosecution of Slobodan Milosevic), and my supervisor was pretty impressed with the way I did it.

That was yesterday, and while it was cool enough on its own, I also go to try my hand with the year seven and eight English "Da Vinci" class, which is made up of the best and the brighest of the junior students. And, though some quirk of fate, their teacher was looking to do creative writing with them today, which just so happens to be my favourite part of the subject. It was only supposed to be another twenty-minute session on my part, but once I started gaining momentum, the teacher just let me run with it. In the end I was doing a full lesson. I think it's pretty safe to say I knocked it out of the park - halfway through the lesson, the teacher disappeared and came back with two of the regular English teachers to watch me in action. She later told me it was one of the best classes she'd seen or heard of, which was pretty euphoric considering it was only the first lesson I'd ever taught.

As for the actual lesson, I ran through the basics of narrative structure with the class, and then handed them out a whole heap of random pictures. The idea was that they then had to work the three parts into a story, and they came up with some really good stuff: one guy won a trip to Paris after he bough some batteries for his lawn mower, while one of the girls had an alien crash-land in her backyard which then started to eat some of her flowers because he thought they were medicine fo his injuries. The lesson was way more successful that I could have ever imagined, and even the kids who claimed they couldn't write eventually came up with something and seemed to genuinely enjoy it.

God, I hope I have't piqued too soon ...

Good on you. If there is one thing we can never have too much of it is teachers who encourage and inspire the children of the day to want to learn and learn well. Knowledge is, arguably, the single greatest asset for a cohesive and developing society (which is why I am so attracted to the ingenious society of Ancient Rome).

 

[GaryyC]

I fear Leadfoot's situation is beyond redemption. If he's already told the girl in question that he has feelings for her and she's obviously not said that she feels the same way, then it's already gone passed the usual 'friend zone' situation of not knowing her feelings either way. She knows that he likes her and he knows that she doesn't feel the same way.

i friggen hate that friend zone. i've recently told the girl that i had feelings for her and well yeahhhh she obviously didnt feel the same way. Now things arent really awkward but we've totally just stopped talking probably due to the fact that i havent been trying to socialize with her but its only with the intention of getting over her...Only fix for this is to meet new women.

Another part of my confession...ive been smoking alot more than usual. Its not that im addicted but ive been looking for excuses to smoke one...

Oh and also congrats to interludes on your success!!! Big change of mood from the usual thread environment here though haha

 

[F1GTR]

You've got to give some details about that! It's too late for me but it could really help Leadfoot53 out

I was actually in the same situation as him. I was after her, she was after him. She also knew that I had feelings for her.

I'm unsure of how I did it myself, but I think it was due to being a really good friend and then unintentionally acting close to her at one party. That made her think what it'd be like to date me and stuff, and thus I broke out of the friendzone. Nothing happened in the end, but it did make me realise that the 'friendzone' is simply a catch-all phrase that guys use to hide the fact they ****ed up at one point. The friendzone isn't Alcatraz.

Again, it's better to simply cut your losses and find something (or someone) else to do.

 

[WeinerSchnitzel]

Confession: I'm an American I'm learning how to Melbourne Shuffle. I just think it looks bad ass.

 

[ROAD_DOGG33J]

Oh dear

 

[Neal]

I was actually in the same situation as him. I was after her, she was after him. She also knew that I had feelings for her.

I'm unsure of how I did it myself, but I think it was due to being a really good friend and then unintentionally acting close to her at one party. That made her think what it'd be like to date me and stuff, and thus I broke out of the friendzone. Nothing happened in the end, but it did make me realise that the 'friendzone' is simply a catch-all phrase that guys use to hide the fact they ****ed up at one point. The friendzone isn't Alcatraz.

Again, it's better to simply cut your losses and find something (or someone) else to do.

I think you may have hit the nail on head there, the friendzone is just another way of saying the girl you like doesn't like you more than a friend. Although it's usually a no hoper to move forward, people do change their feelings so if you are a decent person and don't act like a stalking knob then there is hope as you've proved.

Although it's a different situation there's been a couple of times when I've been interested in a girl who's a friend but not done anything about it only to find out years later she'd been interested too therefore proving the point if you don't put your neck on the line you don't get anywhere. As it turns out they were both a bit more psycho than is acceptable so everything turned out for the best

 

[GaryyC]

Just came back home from a party. i was the designated driver so i didnt drink at all..but by the time it came time to leave i was just so tired. When backing outta the underground parking lot...i hit a post >.<

 

[Legendary]

Did it damage your car much?

 

[nk4e]

Just came back home from a party. i was the designated driver so i didnt drink at all..but by the time it came time to leave i was just so tired. When backing outta the underground parking lot...i hit a post >.<

Officer: Sir, did you have anything to drink tonight?

 

[mustangGT90210]

Ociffer, I sware to drunk I'm not *hiccup* god!

 

[Rykon Zero]

I have a bit of a light hearted confession.

I suck at GT4.

No, suck isn't the word. On the license tests, I'm able to get silvers in my sleep, but usually gold takes all the effort I can muster. In fact, on the B license, I missed five golds.

Anything I can do to help, aside from straight up practicing?

 

[Jondot]

I have a bit of a light hearted confession.

I suck at GT4.

No, suck isn't the word. On the license tests, I'm able to get silvers in my sleep, but usually gold takes all the effort I can muster. In fact, on the B license, I missed five golds.

Anything I can do to help, aside from straight up practicing?

You have nothing to worry about Stiggy. I bronzed all the licences that I bothered to finish, haven't played in about 2 years, and at the end of this month I'm off to this.

I do hope someone's thought to provide a wooden spoon.

 

[Stevisiov]

I have a bit of a light hearted confession.

I suck at GT4.

No, suck isn't the word. On the license tests, I'm able to get silvers in my sleep, but usually gold takes all the effort I can muster. In fact, on the B license, I missed five golds.

Anything I can do to help, aside from straight up practicing?

Its time dedication, and keep watching the 'demonstrations' of the AI getting gold, you can usually see where its going wrong.

 

[Rykon Zero]

Well, about half the time, I'm gritting my teeth and adjusting my line to get a better time, and the other half I'm cursing at PD's choice to give roughly 90% of the tests cars with Aids on.

At this point, I'm just going to go through aiming for silver, and later, when I get some more skills, I'll try for the gold.

 

[Barracuda]

I really don't know why but I have been really depressed off and on for the past few days. To make a long story short on Tuesday I got smashed with my friends and happened to make out (also first kiss, I'm pathetic) with the only girl I've had any real interest in since I moved down here. There's no chance of starting anything, she's a lesbian plus I'm not worth the time of day, and I completely understand that, but for some reason it's been bugging the absolute hell out of me.

It really comes down to I'm lonely I guess. In previous depressions I've wanted to kill myself but this time I don't want to die, but I don't really feel like I'm living all that much. I really just want something in life to actually care about and take care of. Hell the only that has gave my life any purpose is my damn Barracuda, and it's sitting in the parking lot rusting away.

In the past few days I've barely eaten, or had the appetite or care to eat. Out of the whole day yesterday I think I ate half of a subway sub, and even then I lost interest towards the end. Being a bigger guy I usually eat quite a lot, and my stomach is telling me i'm pretty damn hungry, but I couldn't really care to eat anything.

I don't know what's wrong with me or why I'm even putting this out there, but I figured telling someone about it might make me feel better. I've tried to talk about it with two of my friends, but it hasn't really helped.

 

[Sureboss]

Depression is the most difficult thing I've ever faced in life, and I will never find anything tougher to deal with. For me, I found that doing something I enjoyed helped get me back together. Do you work? Is it what you want to do?

I'm off the firm belief that everyone should do something they enjoy for a job, you can get to meet like-minded people and make friends for life.

 

[Paulie]

I get depressed quite a lot these days as well, but I wouldn't know what advice to give.

I'm of the firm belief that everyone should do something they enjoy for a job, you can get to meet like-minded people and make friends for life.

Same here, that's why despite having all the requirements to have gone to uni for pretty much any course of study I could have desired, I didn't.

 

[mustangGT90210]

It's the girl. You had an interest, it went somewhere, made you feel really good, now you're back to normal and see how much you miss that. Just work to meet some more girls, and it will turn up. It's a confidence booster, at least for me, hooking up with a girl every couple months.

 

[F1GTR]

Listen to Pink Triangle by Weezer a few times, then go out and find someone else.

 

[Boffin]

Yeah, its the girl. Pretty sure the make me bi polar sometimes .

 

[Barracuda]

I actually felt quite a lot better today.

The night I posted that was probably the worst of it, messed my knee up a bit, but at the end of the night (well, morning rather) I was able to calm myself down and really start thinking about it. I'm pretty physically and emotionally drained and I thought to myself do I really want to keep feeling like this (I could let this bug me for a long time). It's nothing I should feel that strongly about, and by letting it get to me like that, on top of screwing with my head, I'm ruining a great opportunity to become closer to that circle of friends.

That party, compared to the ones I usually go to, was the craziest and coolest party I've ever been to. I've always been a very insecure person, but there I was able to just let go and I had the best time of my life. I'm sure there are going to be plenty more parties there in the future, hell there might even be one Monday (one of my friend's 21st birthdays), but If I let that bother me like that it's just going to make me feel awkward and ruin the fun for myself.

I think why I've been feeling so strongly was how I felt at the end of the party. To make a long story short, my friends girlfriend is a bitch and she made that girl cry (on top of him get real depressed and cry as well earlier). It completely ruined the mood of the party for me and being so retardedly drunk the thought of why does she have to be such a bitch led from one thought to another and soon I absolutely broke down crying. My friend and that girl ended up talking me out of it, and the rest of the night I was perfectly fine until the next days resulting mega hangover. What I first posted wasn't the full reason I got to that point, it sure was the center, but I let every issue that I've been drinking and smoking away for the past three or so months come back and really get me down.

In the end I feel perfectly fine right now, albeit a bit tired and worn out, but getting over it I had an awesome time with my friends last night and I don't plan to let it bother me anymore. Very much looking forward to Monday

 

[mustangGT90210]

That's the way!

 

[GaryyC]

I've lost my best friend...telling her was such a bad idea...I wish i couldve handled the situation better than i did (cutting her out, ignoring her, trying to get her outta that position). It only hit me like a week ago what i've done. How far beyond the line i've passed. Now i've pushed her so far away that it's impossible to even be friends again. I downed so much alcohol on saturday night just to achieve a brief moment of solitude mentally. Puked all over the bathroom in the middle of the night. The worst part was that i did this all alone at home, and then dreaming that i was replaced in her heart. I know this will eventually happen but just thinking about it hurts. I know this may sound extreme but on my walk to school the today, i seriosuly thought about running into a car. Yeah thats how messed up i am emotionally. I seriously dont no what compelled me to do such a horrible thing. To know that i had such a strong attraction for someone but only for me to :sensor: it up so badly in the end.

i wish i wasn't such a selfish, moronic idiot. i wish i was more mature and just dealt with the fact that she didnt like me. I've learned now to never show my affection for a close friend ever again...through the hard way. To even think that she would've reciprocated my feelings for her was so so stupid. This is literally the biggest mistake of my albeit short life i've lived so far.

Wish i could take everything back...

i need a time machine.

 

[Bram Turismo]

Hang on, what the hell are you on about? Are we still talking about the situation where you told her you had feelings for her?

I once told one of best friends I had feelings for her and she started to ignore me. I can't be less bothered by those kind of people, turning their backs on you when you talk to them about issues of this kind. I did not waste any time on straighten the situation, because clearly she wanted nothing from me anymore.

 

[Dan_]

I've lost my best friend...telling her was such a bad idea...I wish i couldve handled the situation better than i did (cutting her out, ignoring her, trying to get her outta that position). It only hit me like a week ago what i've done. How far beyond the line i've passed. Now i've pushed her so far away that it's impossible to even be friends again. I downed so much alcohol on saturday night just to achieve a brief moment of solitude mentally. Puked all over the bathroom in the middle of the night. The worst part was that i did this all alone at home, and then dreaming that i was replaced in her heart. I know this will eventually happen but just thinking about it hurts. I know this may sound extreme but on my walk to school the today, i seriosuly thought about running into a car. Yeah thats how messed up i am emotionally. I seriously dont no what compelled me to do such a horrible thing. To know that i had such a strong attraction for someone but only for me to :sensor: it up so badly in the end.

Wish i could take everything back...

i need a time machine.

Man, sincerely I don't know you, and I'm not trying to be pedantic or invasive. But I want to give you some advice, because something similar happened to me exactly a week ago:

I already graduated in the college and she still having the classes, since she's 19 and I'm 22. We had such a troublesome relationship since the beginning, we're friends at first and decided to give a chance to each other, we broke up and started again twice, but then, she realized we're friends and not lovers, frankly I didn't understand at first, I thought that there something else happenning between us, rather than just friendship.

After we broke up, we met several times, mostly because we share some friends, and every time we looked in each other's eyes, we started again, just to break up some weeks later. Frankly, I used to think that she had some problems to keep a normal relationship, maybe a psychological disease or something similar.

In the last week, she started dating another guy, but this time it was serious, she claims she's in love and happy. But I know, that deep down, she is still thinking about me, the way she looks me and the rude manner we treat each other, that just show how much we still like each other and feel guilty and mad, but we can't start all over again, not for the millionth time, our prides will never let us be together.

So here I am, I'm single and free, and now I can say to you: It's shocking when someone you likes drops you, but it's rewarding at the same time. Go find some funny things to do, take care of yourself and the people around. Girls appear suddenly from nowhere, and sudden loves are gone fast, just like they arrived. But friendships, are valuable.

Don't be surprised if she appears with other guy, she must live her life too, it will hurt and makes you feel sad and without any appreciation for your life ( like you mentioned, running into a car ), seriously, I can't eat anything when it happens to me, I mean anything. But life will provide you with many other girls, and many other opportunities to love someone mutually.

Also, after some months, try to resume friendship with her. You'll feel better.

Happened to me once, and I went through it, happened again and I'm still trying to go over it, and I can say: It will work, two more weeks and I'm ready to rock again.

Sincerely, I hope you go through this. I'm cheering for you. Your write up just shows what a nice guy you are dude. 👍

 

[Alex.]

Ok guys it goes like this.

We had a party with some close friends on saturday, 2 of my best friends got entirely screwed over by girls they like, (not in the good way). Friend A has been in a relationship for 19 months with said girl A, friend B has had an interest in girl B and they got together at the start of the party.

At some point during the night girl C arrives, and drunk girls being drunk girls, they ended up kissing each other (A, B and C) properly and not just as a mess about. Friend A is entirely destroyed by this and is now very depressed and isn't sure what to do, friend B is also depressed. It is worth noting that girl B has previously expressed an interest in friend B. The two girls literally have no idea what problems they have caused by being plain stupid

On top of that a girl I've been perusing also stated she's not interested in me When people say 'the worst she can say is no' they almost always fail to understand that 'no' can be pretty bonecrushing no matter how soft the delivery. The thing I can take from it is I had a team of at least 10 including her friends and sister telling me it was her loss and she was stupid not to see the guy I am

But still, overall situation with friends and women: I've been talking to friends A and B as much as I can, they really need me right now, I guess I can deal with my own current melancholy when I'm not needed to sort out other's.

Just needed to get that off my chest.

 

[boiltheocean]

I've hit this awkward point with a very close female friend. I've liked her for a good while now and others have noticed how well we get along. Lately I've been getting really strong urges to tell her how I feel but I never do, I always feel that if we get into a relationship I'll end up messing it up at some point by being a complete dick, then I'll loose the friendship too, which is something I really don't want to happen.

I have no idea what I'm going to do about this.

I don't really want any more from her than I have now, more time with her would be great and that's all I expect. The main issue is telling her I really like spending time with her, I might just have to grow some balls and do it.

Thanks for the responses everyone.

Bringing back this old dilemma. I was getting really annoyed with myself over this and I planned on telling her that week, however she got into a relationship with an old friend the day before I was going to say, needless to say I was devastated for the rest of the week. Now however I feel fine about it, I still really like her but I don't get stressed out any more, bottling up my feelings was really affecting me but now I'm sure of where we stand currently I can be myself again.

I'm in exactly the same position, so I'm interested to see what you do.

What ever did you do?

 

[Stevisiov]

Ok guys it goes like this.

We had a party with some close friends on saturday, 2 of my best friends got entirely screwed over by girls they like, (not in the good way). Friend A has been in a relationship for 19 months with said girl A, friend B has had an interest in girl B and they got together at the start of the party.

At some point during the night girl C arrives, and drunk girls being drunk girls, they ended up kissing each other (A, B and C) properly and not just as a mess about. Friend A is entirely destroyed by this and is now very depressed and isn't sure what to do, friend B is also depressed. It is worth noting that girl B has previously expressed an interest in friend B. The two girls literally have no idea what problems they have caused by being plain stupid

On top of that a girl I've been perusing also stated she's not interested in me When people say 'the worst she can say is no' they almost always fail to understand that 'no' can be pretty bonecrushing no matter how soft the delivery. The thing I can take from it is I had a team of at least 10 including her friends and sister telling me it was her loss and she was stupid not to see the guy I am

But still, overall situation with friends and women: I've been talking to friends A and B as much as I can, they really need me right now, I guess I can deal with my own current melancholy when I'm not needed to sort out other's.

Just needed to get that off my chest.

Could you not have told Friends A and B to try and join in?

In seriousness, the only real problem is for friend A, I'm not entirely sure why Friend B is so concerned. I would personally tell friend B to man up.

 

[Christian_C]

hmm, I feel a bit weird posting this on here but well, here goes.

Right,

I suck at relationships I mean really, really awful at them.

This is for a number of reasons really, the most prominent being: 1. I really can't tell if someone likes me either as a friend or a relationship way, 2. I can never bring myself to tell them for fear of either rejection or that they will never talk to me again and 3. I have major self confidence issues (I hate almost everything about how I look, how I act, how I talk). Now I've only ever had really 1 actual relationship and that didn't last long (due to some stupidity on my behalf really) and well I think I've got the best chance in ages of possibly getting together with someone and well there's a few problems with that too.

These are: 1. She's become a great friend to me recently and we talk so much I don't want to ruin that as I wouldn't swap it for anything, 2. She does have a boyfriend although it doesn't sound like its going to last much longer (she rips him all the time and feels as though she's going to be stuck with him forever) and 3. she's about 2-3" taller than me and I don't care what people say, girls don't like being taller than guys.

I know its a bit of an odd thing to say in here but I see other people talking about it and well, you all seem to give decent advice just please if anyone who knows me in RL sees this don't repeat it outside of here, I'm begging you.

EDIT: I second the above about 'no' being totally bone crushing, I've had many times like this and I'd like this not to be one of them .

 

[Joey D]

Most of the girls I've dated have been taller then me, it's never been a problem.