Depression and Anxiety Thread

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If someone is suffering from depression and/or anxiety, and if that person reject asking for help; try to do what you can to help that person realize help is available. If that depressed/anxious person refusing help is you, really take some time to try to gather your thoughts and try not to do something you're going to regret. We all can live life on our own, but it is best to have someone to help along the way. Always best to have someone watch over us instead of believing there is no hope whatsoever of recovery. Since May is Mental Health Awareness Month, we need to do all we can to help others in need from any sort of mental health issues. Let's do our part to keep smiles on our faces and belief in our spirits.


Don't let depression or anxiety win.
 
Things felt like they've been getting better, but then last month and this recent week have hit very hard. Losing two people, one I was acquaintances with in our local car community (last month) and another who was really quite close (this week).

The person who was close was actually my therapist who had been helping me through my trauma and anxiety for almost two years. Scary part is that she had texted me the day of our appointment last week to cancel as she said she wasn't feeling well. Next day, I got a call from the police department of her town asking me about our appointment. Turned out she hadn't been home since the day of our appointment (Wednesday) and there was a missing person's report. She was a single mother with two kids and a puppy, so I knew something was wrong as she would not abandon them. The police had found her car an hour away from her home in a coastal town and her last phone activity was on the day she disappeared. Not knowing her whereabouts and the increasing number of days with little info only got worse.

Sadly found the news yesterday that her body was found by a fisherman in the waters near the search area. No cause of death was stated, but it seems like it only could have been an accident, natural causes (which doesn't seem as likely as she was in good health), or worse.... Unfortunately I knew she was in the dating scene and doing online dating, so who knows. At least there was some closure to finding her.

Knowing that she's gone so suddenly has hit me and I'm sure several of her other patients/clients rather hard. Even worse knowing her kids and puppy didn't have another adult (as far as I know) home for them. Feels like I was in the process of writing a book with all that I've confided in her and now it's all gone. I know she would have wanted me to live my life as our time together has helped me slowly improve my anxiety and depression. Don't know of anyone I know personally that has lost their therapist in such a way. Feeling a bit lost and I'm not sure the news of her death has really hit me yet. As of right now it just feels like a boat that's slowly sinking in a way, but I know I can escape it.


Life is fragile...


Feeling like I have more to say, but my mind's still feeling clouded.
 
A few things... first of all, I'm sorry for you, MedigoFlame. Second, I offer my condolences to those lives close to you who passed away. It's great you had this person as a support system to help you with your hard times. I hope times get better for you. Stay strong.
 
JohnBM01
A few things... first of all, I'm sorry for you, MedigoFlame. Second, I offer my condolences to those lives close to you who passed away. It's great you had this person as a support system to help you with your hard times. I hope times get better for you. Stay strong.
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Finding myself struggling about a week on from the event. I attended her funeral to pay my respects, but it made me realize just how real it was. Just wish I could have given her a hug and said thank you before she left....
 
Recently, I started withdrawing more and more from social media. Either I wasn't really getting the response(s) I was truly looking for in a given platform, or I was using it too often and to much. So I deactivated/deleted my accounts for SnapChat, Reddit, FaceBook, Instagram, and Twitter, in that order. But I still plan to keep in touch with relatives and friends either through Messenger, GMail, WhatsApp, or simply calling/texting them.

That said, I think it's going to be a lot better for me to stick to specialized forums like here at GTPlanet, or Discord channels for particular games, rather than more generalized platforms like Reddit.
 
MIE1992
Recently, I started withdrawing more and more from social media. Either I wasn't really getting the response(s) I was truly looking for in a given platform, or I was using it too often and to much. So I deactivated/deleted my accounts for SnapChat, Reddit, FaceBook, Instagram, and Twitter, in that order. But I still plan to keep in touch with relatives and friends either through Messenger, GMail, WhatsApp, or simply calling/texting them.

That said, I think it's going to be a lot better for me to stick to specialized forums like here at GTPlanet, or Discord channels for particular games, rather than more generalized platforms like Reddit.
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Makes sense. I think the bigger platforms like instagram and twitter are so massive that anything you post gets lost in a sea of scantily clad women who think they can dance or celebrities with nothing interesting to say. Particular forums are a lot easier to find common ground on. Must admit I didn't miss instagram when I got rid of it
 
lbpomg95
Makes sense. I think the bigger platforms like instagram and twitter are so massive that anything you post gets lost in a sea of scantily clad women who think they can dance or celebrities with nothing interesting to say. Particular forums are a lot easier to find common ground on. Must admit I didn't miss instagram when I got rid of it
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I personally used IG to follow some pages I did find interesting, like the Museum of Modern Art, the Petersen Museum, Pininfarina, Italdesign, Zagato, the Museum of Natural History in NYC, and interesting artists like Sean Murphy. But whenever I posted anything, I felt like I never got much in the way of comments, not even from the people who were supposedly following me. Most importantly, my relatives/friends never seemed to like/comment much on my posts, not even on FaceBook where many more of my relatives are. So I left them all, as I don't think anyone will miss me from those platforms. I never really felt the "social" part of social media.

I also deleted all my dating app profiles. I tried multiple apps for over a year, and never got a single date, mostly because I almost never got likes/matches, and when I did, they never responded but stayed matched. Meanwhile, I've had a lot more fun talking to people at bars.
 
MIE1992
I personally used IG to follow some pages I did find interesting, like the Museum of Modern Art, the Petersen Museum, Pininfarina, Italdesign, Zagato, the Museum of Natural History in NYC, and interesting artists like Sean Murphy. But whenever I posted anything, I felt like I never got much in the way of comments, not even from the people who were supposedly following me. Most importantly, my relatives/friends never seemed to like/comment much on my posts, not even on FaceBook where many more of my relatives are. So I left them all, as I don't think anyone will miss me from those platforms. I never really felt the "social" part of social media.

I also deleted all my dating app profiles. I tried multiple apps for over a year, and never got a single date, mostly because I almost never got likes/matches, and when I did, they never responded but stayed matched. Meanwhile, I've had a lot more fun talking to people at bars.
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Facebook just seems to be a platform on which people measure their success and popularity against each other. Nothing social about it.

Online dating was an utterly depressing experience for me. I almost never got a reply, and out of the two women that did, one stood me up and the other went on one date with me which was really nice, and then it turned out she didn't enjoy it so that was that. She was perfectly entitled to that, but that didn't make it hurt any less. I was already in a bad place that year and online dating only made it worse. Trouble is I've never been the kind of person to actually talk to someone in a bar. I got lucky with my current girlfriend. Very lucky.

In short, screw online dating!
 
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Ditching social media is the way forward*. Messenger apps are perfect for communication.

More people need to unhook and get back into the real world and socialise in person**.

*I’m aware that GTP is a form of social media.
**I’m also aware of how difficult that can be at this current time because of the plague.
 
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I don't think I can deal with this anymore. I'm just gonna keep going without trying to cure myself, I know that's toxic as hell and I'm trying to push people away from myself but some of them just don't want to and it frustrates me.
 
On the notion of leaving social media, I left Instagram earlier this year. Of the three major social media platforms (Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram), I've had the worst experiences with Instagram. I also was disappointed with the options for sharing material on Instagram. More importantly, I feel my creativity took a hit while getting rid of Instagram because it was my best outlet for sharing pictures. I had to do it, though, because I was overall not satisfied with the service. I can't stand TikTok, so don't even think to see me there in sharing (especially) videos.

I still have grown a bit sad to where I've unfollowed more Twitch channels. One I felt did me completely wrong. I was banned from one channel's Chat when I didn't even say anything bad or did any suspicious behavior. Then the moderator(s) for that channel wasn't accepting unban requests. I was so supportive of that channel, and now I've left. May even think about blocking that channel from my recommendations.

You all have to handle yourselves any way you can on online platforms. Just keep good faith and remain strong. Also...


Don't let depression or anxiety win.
 
You never know what someone may truly be going through. Those who seem okay may be hurting inside and may not want to get help from other people. In these cases, you have to try to brighten someone's day who may not be having a good day.

Fall/Autumn is coming up later in September (or Spring in the Southern Hemisphere). Cooler weather sometimes is linked to having greater levels of depression, since there isn't as much light around. It is also why people take part in light therapy to treat seasonal affective disorder (SAD). So if you suffer from this, be sure to get the needed help and take different health measures to maintain your good health.


Don't let depression or anxiety win.
 
GTboyz
I don't think I can deal with this anymore. I'm just gonna keep going without trying to cure myself, I know that's toxic as hell and I'm trying to push people away from myself but some of them just don't want to and it frustrates me.
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Just saw this.

Has it got better in the weeks since you posted?
 
HenrySwanson
Just saw this.

Has it got better in the weeks since you posted?
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Hey pal, thanks for replying.

Things has changed since I posted this, but I can't really say whether it's for good or bad since it feels like some went good and some went bad. I'd probably lean towards getting worse though, but I'm just living it.
 
GTboyz
I don't think I can deal with this anymore. I'm just gonna keep going without trying to cure myself, I know that's toxic as hell and I'm trying to push people away from myself but some of them just don't want to and it frustrates me.
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Hey, man. From personal experience I can say there isn't a "cure" for depression or anxiety. Only proper management and coping skills to live a quality life.

Personally I am clinically ocd which has lead to a Major depressive disorder, panic disorder, and agoraphobia. I've been on every med available to no avail due to sensitivity and side effect issues.

I've done therapy, been in hospitals, and residential programs. It's all the same. It's up to us to want to live the best we can. Over the years I've come to realize I'm going to just be ok and never great. I know when I'm getting bad and take steps to head it off before I slide further and I know my limits.

Having things to do is my biggest help. Focusing energy on something to shift my thoughts and understand the voices aren't real. It's all just in my head and like every other time the bad period passes and I'm left to heal. But, it never truly all goes away.
 
FA_Hayes
Hey, man. From personal experience I can say there isn't a "cure" for depression or anxiety. Only proper management and coping skills to live a quality life.

Personally I am clinically ocd which has lead to a Major depressive disorder, panic disorder, and agoraphobia. I've been on every med available to no avail due to sensitivity and side effect issues.

I've done therapy, been in hospitals, and residential programs. It's all the same. It's up to us to want to live the best we can. Over the years I've come to realize I'm going to just be ok and never great. I know when I'm getting bad and take steps to head it off before I slide further and I know my limits.

Having things to do is my biggest help. Focusing energy on something to shift my thoughts and understand the voices aren't real. It's all just in my head and like every other time the bad period passes and I'm left to heal. But, it never truly all goes away.
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Thanks, I'll try.

I'm having medication now but the pills just makes me feel numb for some reason.
 
GTboyz
Thanks, I'll try.

I'm having medication now but the pills just makes me feel numb for some reason.
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Medicine for mental health issues can have that effect I'm afraid.

Do you have a diagnosis from a healthcare provider? (You don't have to share what it is of course)
 
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I've been down lately, and I thought a bit about taking a break from social media. I do still need social media to promote my content online, but it's just more of needing some time off. Some people completely remove their social media accounts entirely, like I did with Instagram earlier this year. Social media can sometimes contribute to depression or anxiety. So if you need time off, do so to help recover.


Don't let depression or anxiety win.
 
It's been about 3 months since my therapist had passed suddenly and I feel like things have only gotten worse. Of course not having an outlet to talk to hurts, but I still think about her and wish she was still around to live her life. Sometimes I ask myself why it had to be her and not me who left this world. She had a puppy and kids to be with, which just feels cruel to know that she's gone at 55 years old. I still feel myself haunted by the fact that she disappeared and possibly died the day we were supposed to meet for a session. Blaming myself for not doing something like even checking on her or anything to prevent this, but I really should know it was nothing anyone could have predicted. There is still no public word on what happened to her and I don't want to pry.


Not having her around has only made me notice more negatives in the world. I can't help but feel frustrated with how things are going in society and focus on the "smallest" bad things that happen. I feel angry with myself for not crying since her passing, but it finally happened today whilst I was talking with my doctor who had recommended my therapist.

With all the bad things I find myself noticing more and more, I just want to hide from the world.

Sorry if I sound like I'm rambling as I still feel like a jumbled mess.
 
I've been feeling great lately. Not to brag, but a woman around my age bought me a glass of chianti last night.
 
Some things are just out of your control. You can't adjust those things. I'm still sorry for your loss. I do hope you can find someone willing to work with you and help you when you're down, @MedigoFlame . Even if you are your support system, remain hopeful.
 
You know, lately I have been into a different kind of creativity to enrich my mind. Of late, I have been trying to perfect making some dips. I felt today I've made better progress towards what I wanted one of my sauces to be. I been trying to perfect a butter-cheese dip. It has occupied my mind creatively and given me something to practice. So I mentioned before, try something new and fun to occupy your mind to feel better.


Don't let depression or anxiety win.
 
JohnBM01
Some things are just out of your control. You can't adjust those things. I'm still sorry for your loss. I do hope you can find someone willing to work with you and help you when you're down, @MedigoFlame . Even if you are your support system, remain hopeful.
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Appreciate it @JohnBM01, I'm sure she would want me to keep working on myself. I've heard from others that their first therapist didn't work out, but she was my first and was amazing. I suppose it helps thinking of all the good she's done for me and likely many others in the years she's worked.

I still visit her grave site when I can. Kind of wish I knew what I could offer to the site as I've read that Jewish cemeteries prefer you not leave flowers. (Her family is Jewish, but she wasn't as into it)

Something about losing her just makes the world feel so much more cruel...
 
The more I think about it, the more I'm glad I deactivated all my social media accounts. I've even straight-up deleted my Reddit account.
 
MIE1992
The more I think about it, the more I'm glad I deactivated all my social media accounts. I've even straight-up deleted my Reddit account.
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Instagram was the biggest time-sink for me. I erred for weeks about deleting it from my phone, and once I did, I barely even noticed. Had more free time, though! At least youtube has educational and meaningful content, everything I've seen on Insta is drowned out by talentless, scantily clad teenagers who think they can dance, and funny cat/dog videos.
 
lbpomg95
Instagram was the biggest time-sink for me. I erred for weeks about deleting it from my phone, and once I did, I barely even noticed. Had more free time, though! At least youtube has educational and meaningful content, everything I've seen on Insta is drowned out by talentless, scantily clad teenagers who think they can dance, and funny cat/dog videos.
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Funny enough, I followed some pretty nice pages, like those for Pininfarina, the US Fish and Wildlife Service, and the Museum of Modern Art. And yet, I still didn't necessarily feel happy. Instead, I wanted something else - something that made me feel oh-so alive, haha!
 
I am sorry if this isn't the place for venting, but to be totally honest I have no one to talk to. My dad passed away today while on a bike ride, completely sudden and unexpected at 65 years old. He was very active and had no known health issues, so I am having trouble processing this. He hiked the entire Appalachian Trail not long ago, rides his bike frequently for 40 years, hell he is more active than I am. How can this be? I'm crushed.
 

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