I need dating advice!

[Skid Mark 33]

Ok, be serious for a moment. Is this chick way out of your league? Because if she is that changes your strategy some. If she's constantly fighting off the guys then you need a different approach.

Look, I dont believe in this ''someone's to good for someonelse'' crap, OK. But yes, alot of guys are intrested in her!

 

[Keef]

*takes notes*

 

[Skid Mark 33]

*takes notes*

Sorry, it just annoys me that people believe that, but I'm not saying it's wrong. Anyway, logging off now, wish me luck!

 

[Keef]

What? No. I'm taking notes from the whole thread!

 

[zoxxy]

What? No. I'm taking notes from the whole thread!

Haha, you still haven't got laid? Wasn't that the hottest topic on GTP like a year ago?

OH, and good luck skiddy. I really hope that your nick doesn't come from where I think it came from.

 

[Blake]

Haha, you still haven't got laid? Wasn't that the hottest topic on GTP like a year ago?

It’s the one constant in this world. Every day when the sun rises there is one thing I know won’t have changed.

 

[zoxxy]

It’s the one constant in this world. Every day when the sun rises there is one thing I know won’t have changed.

That's so mean

 

[G.T]

Dude, my advice is if you don't ask you don't get. If you're rejected, it's the only way you will learn. Girls are reaaally odd people, so just follow the others' advice - it could go either way.

If the guys are after her as you say they are, then I think your chance is almost nill...

 

[ExigeEvan]

Look, I dont believe in this ''someone's to good for someonelse'' crap, OK. But yes, alot of guys are intrested in her!

It's a fact of nature, you can't fight it, so don't even try.

Sure you can go up a league or two, but the bottom division is never gonna catch a top division unless there's some variable involved, usually money.


I still say got to the cinema, but make sure you walk together for abit, worked on the first date with my last girlfriend.

 

[TopHat]

Wheres Milford Cubicle and the like when you need them?

 

[Sakiale]

Bicycle=god. I can bike to the movie theater in about 45 minutes. Also, she'll see that you're strong or whatever and will have to hold onto you.

Good luck!

 

[ExigeEvan]

Bicycle=god. I can bike to the movie theater in about 45 minutes. Also, she'll see that you're strong or whatever and will have to hold onto you.

Good luck!

And you turn up sweaty, soaking wet, covered in mud and stinking of car exhaust.

All those who propose Sakiale should be removed from said discussion say "durex".

 

[TopHat]

Durex.

 

[Sakiale]

Um, actually, only sweaty. The exhaust does not stick to you and it is usually not very muddy or wet... especially here in California.

 

[McLaren]

Bicycle=god. I can bike to the movie theater in about 45 minutes. Also, she'll see that you're strong or whatever and will have to hold onto you.

Good luck!

Girls like dudes on bikes? Wow. Wish I would have known on my dates going into Dallas so I wouldn't have wasted all that gas money.....

Um, actually, only sweaty. The exhaust does not stick to you and it is usually not very muddy or wet... especially here in California.

Your bike isn't going to be her preferred mode of transportation, you know.

 

[Philly]

Girls like dudes on bikes? Wow. Wish I would have known on my dates going into Dallas so I wouldn't have wasted all that gas money.....

I'm sure you would have few problems picking up chicks on a sweet crotch rocket.

 

[Casio]

It's my opinion, that if you go to the movie's you should play for her as well. Thoughts?

 

[Azuremen]

Um, actually, only sweaty. The exhaust does not stick to you and it is usually not very muddy or wet... especially here in California.

He is in the UK. It will rain regardless if the sun is out or not.

^ lol


I've really got to caution against all the suggestions of movies and concerts and whatnot. First dates are more like interviews and you can't communicate at loud events like that. You've said that you don't really know much about her and I don't think either of those ideas helps... you aren't having a nice night out with her as much as you're each having individual experiences with the movie/band/whatever. Plus, if she doesn't like the movie, etc, that's two hours she's spent having a bad time that shes going to associate in her memory with you.


Great first few dates are activities/places where you can talk at a normal volume without offending people around you (again, movies and concerts suck for this reason), where you can show off a little bit, and leave whenever you want to do something else that she shows interest in (this is where having your own transportation would help, but I'm sure you can work around it).

For instance, going skating is a great idea, but a few pointers:

1. you have to know how to skate reasonably well (the showing off part)
2. you probably want to know how to skate better than her (on the off chance that she grabs you to prevent herself from falling )
3. public skating is public, so she's got no reason to feel uncomfortable (on the off chance that she doesn't want to be alone with you yet)
4. you're bound to laugh at each other a little and it's an easy place to talk

Brilliant bit. I use snowboarding though for first dates when I can. At day at least, as the environment and outfits make things a bit less intimate, so more casual and first date ish. Plus, moutains are always pretty place, and girls love that crap...

God, living in the UK must suck. No wonder people riot after soccer games and drink so much

 

[Sakiale]

Yes, you should always pay for her.

 

[socomplayer2]

Just say want to chill sometime or want to go to the mall. Personally I just do that first before I jump to the big "ask out".

 

[Loon]

Bicycle=god. I can bike to the movie theater in about 45 minutes. Also, she'll see that you're strong or whatever and will have to hold onto you.

Good luck!

Yeah, I doubt the girl is going to want to stand on the back pegs of your bike for 45 mins.

And you turn up sweaty, soaking wet, covered in mud and stinking of car exhaust.

All those who propose Sakiale should be removed from said discussion say "durex".

DUREX!

 

[Azuremen]

Just say want to chill sometime or want to go to the mall. Personally I just do that first before I jump to the big "ask out".

The big ask out...

SO HIGH SCHOOL MENTALITY.

Anyhow, what I do when I can't snowboard is something along the lines of asking her to coffee after class/work. Its casual, gives them a simple out if they want, and gives you time to talk.

Even a youngster without a car should be able to manage getting to a coffee shop. And paying for the drinks. Yes, always pay for the first date, and many after that.

 

[Loon]

Yeah, paying for it is infinitely better than asking the girl if she wants to go "dutch", or however the expression goes.

 

[Sakiale]

They can sit on the rack... thingy.. that holds stuff. You can put a cushion on it.


ALSO you could always do it the Asian kid with no confidence way... spend a lot of time with her, then when you two know that you like each other, then it'll happen naturally. That's how one of my friends and me did it. My other friend though is a playa, so his girlfriend is actually hot, and he's had more than one.

Also, be really nice to her.

 

[Azuremen]

They can sit on the rack... thingy.. that holds stuff. You can put a cushion on it.


ALSO you could always do it the Asian kid with no confidence way... spend a lot of time with her, then when you two know that you like each other, then it'll happen naturally. That's how one of my friends and me did it. My other friend though is a playa, so his girlfriend is actually hot, and he's had more than one.

Also, be really nice to her.

At the age of 13, I don't see how much "playing" can be going on.

Ignore this advice, 90% of the time it will get you put in the "good friend" penalty box for life. From which there is no return basically.

 

[Loon]

They can sit on the rack... thingy.. that holds stuff. You can put a cushion on it.


ALSO you could always do it the Asian kid with no confidence way... spend a lot of time with her, then when you two know that you like each other, then it'll happen naturally. That's how one of my friends and me did it. My other friend though is a playa, so his girlfriend is actually hot, and he's had more than one.

Also, be really nice to her.

Hmm, while the rack is a little better than standing on the pegs, I still doubt 45 mins of that will leave her happy with you. Plus if you do it that way then your whole thing about her holding you and seeing how strong you are goes right out the window.

EDIT: Azuremen is right about waiting too, this is a now or never kinda thing. And once you enter the friend zone there's no coming out. You'll either get the comment that she doesn't want to ruin the friendship, or she'll say you're more like a brother too her than boyfriend material. I got both. So don't wait too long.

 

[Sakiale]

Not if you're really supposed to like each other instead of just wanting to get laid like non-asian people. And his playerness involves playing cards for money (I can borrow like infinite money from him and never have to pay it back, partly cause I'm his best friend and partly cause it'll be hustled back the next day), being popular, getting suspended twice, being good at skating instead of just looking like a poser, and being a good fighter.

Or she can sit on the seat while you stand in front cause you're too short.

And she'd still have to hold you.

 

[ceiling_fan]

If you ever get a chance to drive her somewhere, do this:

1. Abruptly stop at a crosswalk. (make it seem like it was unintentional)
2. Hold your arm out in front of her, because she will move forward.
3a. She thinks you're protecting her.
3b. You think you're touching her boobies. (because you are)

 

[G.T]

Also, be really nice to her.

Some sound advice right there!

 

[Azuremen]

Not if you're really supposed to like each other instead of just wanting to get laid like non-asian people. And his playerness involves playing cards for money (I can borrow like infinite money from him and never have to pay it back, partly cause I'm his best friend and partly cause it'll be hustled back the next day), being popular, getting suspended twice, being good at skating instead of just looking like a poser, and being a good fighter.

Which in the long run is all meaningless.

Maybe my laughing is because honestly, high school social life is 99% pointless. And I am a cynical bastard.

Either way, you aren't helping your case... and thus.

Durex.