I need dating advice!

[TheCracker]

Bad news, I did'nt do it. Does anyone want me to say why!

You found out that she was born a he?

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Well, it was'nt my fault for a start. You see, I was going to ask her 2nd lesson which was maths, because afterwards I had to walk to assembly, so my plan was to ask her while we were walking down there. However, she got out of the classroom just before me, and as I tried to follow her, the teacher stopped some pupils in front of me because their uniforms were dodgey. So they were standing there, doing their ties properly, tucking their shirts in while blocking the door way. By the time they finally moved, she was long gone!

 

[VT]

Ouch. Well you can't fault yourself for trying. Tomorrow will be another day and another chance. Plus, you'll have more of our wonderful advice!

School uniforms ftl!

 

[zoxxy]

Haha, no probs man, you'll have plenty more opportunities.

 

[Matt R]

Well, it was'nt my fault for a start. You see, I was going to ask her 2nd lesson which was maths, because afterwards I had to walk to assembly, so my plan was to ask her while we were walking down there. However, she got out of the classroom just before me, and as I tried to follow her, the teacher stopped some pupils in front of me because their uniforms were dodgey. So they were standing there, doing their ties properly, tucking their shirts in while blocking the door way. By the time they finally moved, she was long gone!

You should have pushed through the crowd of pupils. What if you just lost your one and only shot? Maybe today she was having a little eye for you but tomorrow she won't remember you.

I'd make my way to her home. Introduce yourself to her folks. If you impress them, they'll make their daughter go to a movie with you.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Ouch. Well you can't fault yourself for trying. Tomorrow will be another day and another chance. Plus, you'll have more of our wonderful advice!

School uniforms ftl!

Well, the advice I have been giving so far is very helpful thankyou!

 

[Azuremen]

Sucks, but happens.

I would say don't have a super set "at this time, ask her" plan, because something will happen half the time. I just normally say to myself "some point during the day, ask girl to so and so event/place." Works out far better than getting nervous as the planned time approaches. Plus, chicks tend to like the spontaneous nature a bit more.

Its spelled wasn't not was'nt (unless the UK does that different too)

Sakiale... You've lost. Drop the guilt trip post, and the angry post, and defensive post. Please. You don't know nearly as much as you think you do and you haven't realized that yet. Come back in 8 years.

Ouch. Well you can't fault yourself for trying. Tomorrow will be another day and another chance. Plus, you'll have more of our wonderful advice!

Wonderful??? How did you find that word to describe the advice in here? Come on!

Except my advice, because it is wonderful

 

[Skid Mark 33]

You should have pushed through the crowd of pupils. What if you just lost your one and only shot? Maybe today she was having a little eye for you but tomorrow she won't remember you.

I'd make my way to her home. Introduce yourself to her folks. If you impress them, they'll make their daughter go to a movie with you.

She will know I exsist tommorow. She has know I exsisted for a year so I doubt she's gonna suddenly forget!

 

[VT]

Amnesia happens. Maybe she's got a rare case of Alzheimer's. You never know!

 

[Robin]

Just give it another shot tomorrow..

I hope shes worth it, I'm not a fan of flirty women.. bad experiences!

Robin

 

[Matt R]

Write her a note. Something like this.

Dear lovebird,

I was wondering if you'd like to catch a movie with me. I'm very interested in you.

[ ] Yes [ ] No

P.S. Check yes or no.

If she checks yes, you've got yourself a girly friend. If no, you're out of luck. Erase her name, write to another girl. It will work eventually.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

You should have pushed through the crowd of pupils. What if you just lost your one and only shot? Maybe today she was having a little eye for you but tomorrow she won't remember you.

I'd make my way to her home. Introduce yourself to her folks. If you impress them, they'll make their daughter go to a movie with you.

Right, I know her whole name, but she did not tell me, I know what town she lives in, but she did'nt tell me that either. I just listen to her conversations in class while drooling over her at the same time!

 

[Azuremen]

Write her a note. Something like this.

Dear lovebird,

I was wondering if you'd like to catch a movie with me. I'm very interested in you.

[ ] Yes [ ] No

P.S. Check yes or no.

If she checks yes, you've got yourself a girly friend. If no, you're out of luck. Erase her name, write to another girl. It will work eventually.

Remember to also erase the check in the "no" box. Or it will never work

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Remember to also erase the check in the "no" box. Or it will never work

I would rather ask her face to face to be honest. I'm gonna try tommorow, I just need to come up with a plan, um, help!

 

[VT]

Just ask her if she wants to go do something this weekend.

 

[Azuremen]

I would rather ask her face to face to be honest. I'm gonna try tommorow, I just need to come up with a plan, um, help!

Both jJacks and I were being rather sarcastic.

Well, I hope he was being sarcastic.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Just ask her if she wants to go do something this weekend.

Well I know that. It's just I want to be alone with her when I ask, and with this chick it's at the very least unlikely that she will be alone, simply because she has so many freinds. I did infact have antoher chance today, because for some reason she was not in assembly, but I walked past her on my way out of assembly. I did'nt ask her because she was with 2 boys, and thats 2 to many for my liking!

Edit: I'm gonna edit the title. I might get more responses that way!

 

[Skid Mark 33]

I am still worried about one thing. I know that I am going to ask her to go to the cinema with me during the weekend, I just dont know what to say to her. I've benn thinking about this all day but I'm still in a huge kerfuffle over this!

 

[VT]

Ask her if she's available Friday or Saturday night. If she's available one of the two then ask about the movie? Just make sure to come off as confident and not nervous but make sure not to overdo the confidence thing.

 

[Danoff]

Well I know that. It's just I want to be alone with her when I ask, and with this chick it's at the very least unlikely that she will be alone, simply because she has so many freinds. I did infact have antoher chance today, because for some reason she was not in assembly, but I walked past her on my way out of assembly. I did'nt ask her because she was with 2 boys, and thats 2 to many for my liking!

...both of which were in the process of asking her out for this weekend.

Right, I know her whole name, but she did not tell me, I know what town she lives in, but she did'nt tell me that either. I just listen to her conversations in class while drooling over her at the same time!

Ok seriously, quit that. I can't think of a bigger turnoff for girls than a guy who obsesses about them but doesn't have the guts to do anything about it.

Unless you were going after one of your teachers - in which case I'd say that technique is golden. Your method so far is perfect for landing a 40 year old woman who's been divorced twice and has grown children. It's the exact opposite of what you need to do to impress a high school girl.

So that's my advice to you. Whatever you'd normally do, do the opposite.

- Obsess over her? Do the opposite, focus on what you don't like about her.
- Droll over her? No, think about all of the other girls who are hotter than she is
- Fear that she'll reject you? No, hope that she rejects you because it'll save you time and wasted money.
- Get to scared to ask her out? No, ask her out like you do it every day

You need to not care, and I mean that. That starts by mentally tearing her down. Whatever you don't already know from your stalker adventures peering in her window, assume it's bad. Don't know what her father is like? Assume he's a drunken ex-con. Don't know what her favorite music is? Assume it's rap. Reducing your expectations will do two things.

1) You won't pee your pants when you ask her
2) You won't be so crushed when she says no

 

[Boundary Layer]

lol, what a bunch of pessimists

2) You won't be so crushed when she says no

At least word it 'if she says no'. Give the guy some slack.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

...both of which were in the process of asking her out for this weekend.



Ok seriously, quit that. I can't think of a bigger turnoff for girls than a guy who obsesses about them but doesn't have the guts to do anything about it.

Unless you were going after one of your teachers - in which case I'd say that technique is golden. Your method so far is perfect for landing a 40 year old woman who's been divorced twice and has grown children. It's the exact opposite of what you need to do to impress a high school girl.

So that's my advice to you. Whatever you'd normally do, do the opposite.

- Obsess over her? Do the opposite, focus on what you don't like about her.
- Droll over her? No, think about all of the other girls who are hotter than she is
- Fear that she'll reject you? No, hope that she rejects you because it'll save you time and wasted money.
- Get to scared to ask her out? No, ask her out like you do it every day

You need to not care, and I mean that. That starts by mentally tearing her down. Whatever you don't already know from your stalker adventures peering in her window, assume it's bad. Don't know what her father is like? Assume he's a drunken ex-con. Don't know what her favorite music is? Assume it's rap. Reducing your expectations will do two things.

1) You won't pee your pants when you ask her
2) You won't be so crushed when she says no

I dont understand how this will work!

- Droll over her? No, think about all of the other girls who are hotter than she is

Ok, there is'nt. She's drop dead gorgeous, on the outside and the inside!

Edit: Hold on, I think I am getting what you are saying now, but I will read it once more just to check!
Edit: I think to much of this girl dont I?

 

[Philly]

Well, it was'nt my fault for a start. You see, I was going to ask her 2nd lesson which was maths, because afterwards I had to walk to assembly, so my plan was to ask her while we were walking down there. However, she got out of the classroom just before me, and as I tried to follow her, the teacher stopped some pupils in front of me because their uniforms were dodgey. So they were standing there, doing their ties properly, tucking their shirts in while blocking the door way. By the time they finally moved, she was long gone!

Called it. Not to be pessimistic, but unless you act early, you will very quickly lose the will to do it.

I would say don't have a super set "at this time, ask her" plan, because something will happen half the time. I just normally say to myself "some point during the day, ask girl to so and so event/place." Works out far better than getting nervous as the planned time approaches. Plus, chicks tend to like the spontaneous nature a bit more.

More great advice. Create a plan. But if you see any opportunity, even if the time you thought of hasn't come yet, take it. You need to capitalize on any opportunity you get. You may think a better one will come up. It probably won't. You will know exactly what I'm saying when you see that you have missed a chance. You also have to be on the lookout for them. You may not realize one came up until it has passed.

Wonderful??? How did you find that word to describe the advice in here? Come on!

Except my advice, because it is wonderful

Now that we are back on topic, I'm sure we will come up with some tactics before tomorrow for him.

EDIT:

I dont understand how this will work!

You will think about how you won't be burdened by whatever negative stuff she will bring to a relationship.

I know that's where my mind went immediately after both of my "no"s, and I got over the girl in a few days.

Ok, there is'nt. She's drop dead gorgeous, on the outside and the inside!

Hopefully this will help, but generally the hotter the girl, the more balls it takes to ask her out. Chances are you won't end up having that much competition.

EDIT II:

Get some of your friends to help. We can only give you advice. Get a friend to set you up. Get a friend to push you into it right before you do.

 

[VT]

Probably a little too much yes. Dan is right though, if you build someone up to such a high pedestal that you can't talk to her without being incredibly nervous you probably won't get anywhere with her.

You have to convince yourself that she's just another girl. Granted she may be beautiful but she's just another girl. Thinking about or trying to find flaws with her is a way to keep you from building her up to that pedestal. It will make it easier for you to talk to her, just dear god don't mention any flaws you can come up with to her face - that will not end well.

Hopefully this will help, but generally the hotter the girl, the more balls it takes to ask her out. Chances are you won't end up having that much competition.

Pretty much the truth right there. A lot of times guys don't reach for the top because they're afraid of rejection - at least at your age.

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Just incase this helps (which it probably won't) my first two lessons tommorow are ICT, then I have to go to assembly afterwards!

 

[VT]

Is she in ICT with you?

 

[Skid Mark 33]

Is she in ICT with you?

Yeah, she is!

 

[Philly]

Just incase this helps (which it probably won't) my first two lessons tommorow are ICT, then I have to go to assembly afterwards!

Any time you see her, think about how you could ask her out then.

Less can go wrong if you need less to go right. And if you just kinda do it as a spur of the moment, the only thing I can see going wrong is between you and her.

How about a speech? Think about what you might want to say in general to her. She might like it if you are all flustered, but be prepared enough to not pull a "Hi..uuuuhhhhhh. We......uuuhhhhh..... You want to ummmmm..... date?"

 

[Danoff]

At least word it 'if she says no'. Give the guy some slack.

It's all part of helping him reduce nerves and reduce his expectations. If he thinks he has nothing to lose, he's getting closer to where he needs to be.

 

[Philly]

It's all part of helping him reduce nerves and reduce his expectations. If he thinks he has nothing to lose, he's getting closer to where he needs to be.

Leave it to Danoff and his debating skills to try to get into little kids heads byt twisting the words around.