Just a general observation, not directed to anyone in particular, but a lot of you guys are in your head too much. You have too much time on your hands and do too much thinking about yourselves and your situations. A long time ago an old boss of mine who became a good friend, used to say to me all the time after I would share things with him much like you guys do here, "get out of your head". What he meant of course was, "stop thinking so much and start doing". Be active, get out in the community and do things, be so busy that you just drop at the end of every day. Volunteer at a food bank or at a church, take up running, go to the gym, take a night class, knock on a your single mom neighbours' door and offer to cut her grass or plant some flowers. Sit and talk to a homeless man, go to the nearest old folks home and take a senior for a walk or play cards with them or shuffleboard, offer to take your Grandmother to lunch, play backgammon with your Grandpa. There are literally thousands of things you could do where you can get out and meet people and have a busy and fulfulling life.
If you want to relate it all back to relationships, women who are confident and attractive and have their stuff together, generally aren't interested in angst filled, over-thinkers with too much time on their hands. They are generally attracted to men that are happy, busy, active, positive, cheerful etc. You guys think and worry way too much about what women think, what they want, whether they like you or not etc. Forget that stuff, there's nothing you can do about it and worrying about it won't help. You should envision yourself as a friggin' tornado, sweeping up everything in your path. Women will want to be with you if you are busy being busy, busy being happy, busy doing good things, busy with your friends. They want you to be busy because they like that excitement of being with someone who is busy, so long as you have some quality time with them every week. They are even more attracted to busy guys than guys with all the time in the world to focus on them because they have lives too, at least the ones you want to be with do. They have friends, they have family, they have work, they have school.
Be busy, be active, volunteer your time, get a second job. The more you are out there, the more people you meet, the more active you are, the more successful you will be in relationships. Focus on building yourself, giving back to others less fortunate, work on your physique, your mental toughness, your skillset. Always be growing and developing. Because it works!
I didn't even smile or look at her with the "Ohhhh I'd tap that!"-face
We just hung out last week and everything was fine...
