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fortbo
So I need some help....this girl I've been dating for a while all of a sudden stopped texting me, and I don't know what I did wrong, what should I do?
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Just try to relax. Don't barrage her with texts until she responds. Best bet is to wait until the next time you see her in person, because there's the possibility of her not wanting to be bothered or simply busy.
 
People are suggesting I should ask this girl out and some of them try to link her to me I don't know why people keep saying things like this ? She has already friend zoned me and she will not have you know what with me even if she was drunk that doesn't matter anyway. I'm not going to date her anyway because I don't have a chance and I don't think it's such a good idea and she has friend zoned me I think it's better if I keep her as a friend.
 
You're implying the you haven't asked her yet, so you're not friendzoned, what's the matter if she friendzones you anyway?
 
This thread came up in my alerts at the right time. I've been speaking to a girl I knew from school and been getting on quite well. I've asked if she wanted to hang out sometime, which to my surprise she said yes, and that she's been waiting for ages for me to ask her to something. Meeting her this weekend, hoping it goes well! :)
 
AJHG1000
You're implying the you haven't asked her yet, so you're not friendzoned, what's the matter if she friendzones you anyway?
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I'm not complaining about the friend zone I'm wondering why everyone else is telling me to ask her out ?
 
Maybe because its blatantly obvious to others that you'd be a match for each other, even if you personally don't see it.
 
Latvija27
I'm not complaining about the friend zone I'm wondering why everyone else is telling me to ask her out ?
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Because they think it'll work

Or maybe they know something you don't
 
INEEDNAWZZZ
Maybe because its blatantly obvious to others that you'd be a match for each other, even if you personally don't see it.
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I don't personally see it but only in a small way. She says she wouldn't have you know what with me because she thinks she is much better than I am "She didn't say it like that" she isn't better than me.
 
WHAT WON'T SHE DO WITH YOU I'M DYING TO KNOW



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You should still ask her though. If "everyone" keeps telling you should maybe they know something you don't.
 
I really don't like it when I am flirted with.

I guess I just don't think of myself highly enough to even be flirted with. It's almost like I take all signs of flirtation with a grain of salt and through the mindset of 'Oh, well I guess they don't mean it.'

It's one thing to notice when you're being flirted with, but it's another to shy away when someone compliments you.

That said, I think I inadvertently flirt with women and I cause them to then flirt back. I don't notice that I'm flirting until a person responds back with something either witty or bold.

Jeez, I need to stop it.

(Now that I'm older, it's interesting how much more attention I get, as apposed to the highschool me. Those were interestingly bad days. Somewhat, at least.)
 
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Hey, good for you. Quite possibly I can't for hell even recognize when girls flirt with me :lol:
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...or maybe they just don't.
 
Hey guys, its been a long long time since Ive been on GTPlanet, (probably at least a year now :scared:) but I came to ask for some advice with a potential relationship.

So, Ive known this girl for probably the last 8 months or so, and have really gotten to know her over the past 6, as we both joined an engineering team together through our highschool. I worked closely with her on the team, getting to know her and get closer to her. I have picked up signs that she could like me, but wasnt/am not really sure. I also frequently walked with her to different classes throughout the day. I successfully asked for her number, and we have been texting a pretty good amount since. (although I seem to start most conversations :scared:.. She is a more shy/reserved type of person, and isnt a big fan of being around many other people) Ive been wanting to ask her out for a while, with a lot of people trying to get me to do it. I also found out that another kid on the team likes her, and he knows I do as well. (ah, drama)

We have another small meeting this next Tueday where a couple of us will meet at her house, and I was thinking of potentially asking her out then. Some have said go for it, while a couple others have said not to, but to casually ask her to go places. I don't know what to do, as I highly fear rejection. What do you guys think?
 
Madertus
Why the hell did I receive the blessing/greeting of the middle finger for basically complimenting her looks? :D I didn't even smile or look at her with the "Ohhhh I'd tap that!"-face:odd:
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Very, very late, but it needs to be said: this is not a good thought process to have. While it's entirely possible she was needlessly aggressive, it's also entirely possible what you perceived to be harmless wasn't coming off that way.

MiuraSV777
We have another small meeting this next Tueday where a couple of us will meet at her house, and I was thinking of potentially asking her out then. Some have said go for it, while a couple others have said not to, but to casually ask her to go places. I don't know what to do, as I highly fear rejection. What do you guys think?
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If you're going to ask her, ask at the end of the night: being at her place, it'd be awkward to ask earlier on if it doesn't go as you'd like. It also gives a great excuse to justify it: "had a really good night hanging with you", etc etc.
 
phillkillv2
I really don't like it when I am flirted with.

I guess I just don't think of myself highly enough to even be flirted with. It's almost like I take all signs of flirtation with a grain of salt and through the mindset of 'Oh, well I guess they don't mean it.'

It's one thing to notice when you're being flirted with, but it's another to shy away when someone compliments you.

That said, I think I inadvertently flirt with women and I cause them to then flirt back. I don't notice that I'm flirting until a person responds back with something either witty or bold.

Jeez, I need to stop it.

(Now that I'm older, it's interesting how much more attention I get, as apposed to the highschool me. Those were interestingly bad days. Somewhat, at least.)
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At least you know when it's happening. I'm like

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I thought Shooter McGavin played golf? :confused:
 
MiuraSV777
What do you guys think?
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You said that she's quiet, and that she has already given you her number. I think you'd be fine asking her out, I also think that she'd kind of expect it. Do as Slip said.

Once you know that she doesn't mind texting you often, I think that it's a good sign that they're willing to communicate with you.

The fact that you've known her for up to eight months should help, as apposed to asking a girl out that you don't even know.

Don't hesitate. Do as Slip said, also.

You should be perfectly fine.
 
SlipZtrEm
If you're going to ask her, ask at the end of the night
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phillkillv2
Don't hesitate. Do as Slip said, also.
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Thanks for your help, guys. Just one more question: should I ask her if she wants to go somewhere casually, or should I just go straight to immediately asking her out? I have people saying both ways, and am not sure which is the better approach.
 
MiuraSV777
Thanks for your help, guys. Just one more question: should I ask her if she wants to go somewhere casually, or should I just go straight to immediately asking her out? I have people saying both ways, and am not sure which is the better approach.
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I'm not too sure what you mean.

You can keep it casual but put your true intentions out there. Let her know that you're interested in spending time with her. I mean, you two have known each-other for a good time, so I don't think that you'd have any problems just asking her word for word "Would you like to spend some time together?"

There is a gray area that I'm working around. Have you expressed any interests beyond just being friends, or is does she not have a clue? If she has an idea that you like her, word it like I've said, but if not, I'd just ask her if she's interested in doing something (Food-Hanging yada, yada).

You can get her out and about with you, but letting her know that you're interested her while with her could go from 0 to awkward very, very fast. Best bet is to just ask her if she'd interested in a relationship. I wouldn't fear the initial rejection, if I were you. You have to work with her, and the fact that you've mentioned that she's reserved and shy may make it hard for her to communicate her feelings if you do get to rejected.

After saying all of that. Like Slip has said, it's best to wait until the dust settles after the group meeting, but make your intentions kind of clear before everyone starts leaving. Just before everything is about to wrap up, ask her if she's busy and if she's interested in hanging out or whatever you want to do.

If she says she's busy or wanting to be alone, accept that, but ask her if she'd be up to doing something later on. That'll make it pretty clear that you're interested in her because of you being somewhat head-strong.

Good luck, dude.
 
phillkillv2
Good luck, dude.
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Thanks man. Your reply is actually very good advice that Ive honestly been desperately looking for, and then some. Thanks for your and Slip's help, as its been very helpful! 👍

EDIT: And yes, I feel that she could at least have an idea I like her, as I have definitely shown intersts in her, without being extremely obvious. Almost everyone around me at least suspects I like her, some thinking we are already dating at times, lol.
I feel she is definitely smart enough to figure it out, too. She also has seemed to give clues and hints that she could back, but again, she can very easily hide her emotions if she feels she needs to. I have learned the way she works alot, and can see her real emotions alot, but those types of emotions she can still seem to keep away. However, she has seemed to have lightly "tested the waters" a bit, by sometimes giving small possible hints.
 
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All I want is a girl who just listens to me and smiles she doesn't have to say anything.
 
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@MiuraSV777 how'd it go?
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It went pretty well. Turned out I was the only one who was able to show up, lol. We didnt have much to do without anyone else there, so we played wii and talked for the rest of the meeting, then I even stayed there for a while afterward, until she had to go to gymnastics, lol.

The only concerning part for me is that I did end up asking her if she wanted to hang out or go do something. Not really "asking her out," but just seeing if she wanted to do something. She said that sounded nice, but she was unable to, because she has to babysit her brother and sister over the summer. I completely understand that, but what I dont get is that her parents get home around 4-5, so she wouldn't be busy then, but still declined.

Am I overthinking this, and she really can't, or is it how I think it is, and that she's just finding a way to say no? I feel like that, if she were to even remotely like me, she would at least try to be able to. Im not sure though
 
You need to stop asking and be more dominant. In place of "Do you wanna..." or maybe "would you..." try going with a more confident approach like "Hey, let's..." or "You know what would be fun?...". Women like confidence and men who can be decisive and leaderful (< I just made that word up but you get my drift).

Also, I have a massive longing to get drunk with Shia LeBeouf. I think I'm having a man-crush.
 
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