The General Relationship Thread

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MiuraSV777
It went pretty well. Turned out I was the only one who was able to show up, lol. We didnt have much to do without anyone else there, so we played wii and talked for the rest of the meeting, then I even stayed there for a while afterward, until she had to go to gymnastics, lol.

The only concerning part for me is that I did end up asking her if she wanted to hang out or go do something. Not really "asking her out," but just seeing if she wanted to do something. She said that sounded nice, but she was unable to, because she has to babysit her brother and sister over the summer. I completely understand that, but what I dont get is that her parents get home around 4-5, so she wouldn't be busy then, but still declined.

Am I overthinking this, and she really can't, or is it how I think it is, and that she's just finding a way to say no? I feel like that, if she were to even remotely like me, she would at least try to be able to. Im not sure though
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Were you both comfortable and open in your discussions, or was it awkward at times? If it was an open discussion and she was comfortable talking to you, then she's not lying, OR you've been put in the "friend zone". I'm leaning towards the former.

Also, maybe her parents are going somewhere for the summer? Yes, @W3HS is right, women respond to confidence, but she genuienly might be busy.
 
Daniel
Girlfriends are the least of your priorities right now. You've got to sort yourself out, figure out what's happening and if need be, get some help for it. How do you expect people to feel good about you if you don't feel good about yourself?
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You know, I never subscribed to the "why should I love you if you don't love yourself" argument. Lots of people don't love themselves (hi), and they still find love, deservedly so. If I don't like a movie, does that mean somebody else couldn't? Some people base their self worth off of relationships they do or don't have, relying on someone else to give them purpose. I don't agree with the statement that such a person is unworthy of love, but I agree that he/she needs to figure out how to be content on their own, because you can't depend on someone else to consistently bring you happiness. Sooner or later, you will be disappointed.

phillkillv2
One of my favorite songs touches on this.

After finding the person that you think you 'love' you put a ton of energy into them, but you just start to get burned out and stop trying after a while, and that can to apply to things outside of relationships (jobs, yada) The energy you once got from being around them has just gone away which leaves to you questioning why you're with the person in the first place. We use relationships as a means to an end basically, though as humans, we're social, but that doesn't rule that out.


May as well put the lyrics of the song:

"After sex
(Concerned mothers)
The bitter taste
Been fooled again
(Of the West)
The search continues

After sex
(Teach your sons)
The bitter taste
Been fooled again
(How to truly love)
The search continues"
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Kreuzberg is absolutely beautiful. Glad somebody quoted this when it's literally been playing in my head, on repeat, for the past six months. Driven me to tears a couple times, too.
 
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Were you both comfortable and open in your discussions, or was it awkward at times? If it was an open discussion and she was comfortable talking to you, then she's not lying, OR you've been put in the "friend zone". I'm leaning towards the former.

Also, maybe her parents are going somewhere for the summer? Yes, @W3HS is right, women respond to confidence, but she genuienly might be busy.
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Yeah, I would definitely say it was an open discussion and we were completely comfortable with each other. I was actually surprised, because of the amount I was able to get her to laugh, especially once we started playing the wii. Usually I refrain from saying things that just pop up in my head, (around anyone) because what pops up usually doesnt translate into words very intelligently, lol. But, I was able to get relaxed enough to where I was able to get her to laugh to most things. She also seemed to be happy and seemed to enjoy herself the whole time.

Yeah, looking back I realize that I could have been more confident. Suprisingly though, Im more confident around her (Not in a cocky way, though) than I usually am, and definitely around most other girls, lol.
 
Welp, my fears came true. She just started seeing someone else. Oddly enough, it doesnt bother me nearly as much as I thought. It did seem to bother her, as I got a pretty lengthy text from her. She basically said that she'd been seeing another guy on the team, (the guy Ive actually been worried that she liked) and recognized my efforts, but didn't know how to tell me. She said she wanted to remain friends, and I agreed.

Although it sucks, I did kinda see this coming. I think that made me get over her already, even though I continued trying. I've definitely learned alot by trying with her, so I think this experience will definitely help me succeed in the future.

Thanks for helping me guys. 👍
 
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I have a question, is it weird when you're using your girl's/boy's Facebook account with permission? Because I think its against their own privacy.
 
Pro tip guys and gals. Please do not go after someone very aggressively, especially if they're a coworker. A guy at my work keeps hitting on me hard, trying to hold my hand, sending shirtless snaps, saying that I must be "nice". This is nicht gut, and not how you get someone to like you back (although there isn't a chance to begin with anyone, unfortunate for him). Just try not to make the other person feel uncomfortable.

Speaking of coworkers there's a pretty cool girl that works where I work as well. A mechanical engineering student at a local college. Honestly the age difference is a little off putting. Immature senior in high school like me, with a sophomore in college? Nah. :lol: Good thing relationships also mean friendship at times! 👍
 
I had one date a week ago, lasted all of 2 hours which made at lease something to break the ice.
Yesterday had more of a sit down date which was around 1230 pm, and she spent the night (which I was not expecting) and left about like 910 am this morning. Also to make things better she said I love you to me, and we actually slept together. (Don't worry nothing happened but a bit of kissing)
 
You've got it, now you have to wait for the perfect occasion to ask her to be your girlfriend.
 
TJ13
We are together.
Now committed. :) Something I have been dreaming of has happened.
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Downloaded Tinder: Holy 🤬, 18 Y/Os on here look like minors. Doesn't matter to me, really, I'm only just about to turn 20, and I can't stand 18 y/o women or 19. So snotty.
 
TJ13
I had one date a week ago, lasted all of 2 hours which made at lease something to break the ice.
Yesterday had more of a sit down date which was around 1230 pm, and she spent the night (which I was not expecting) and left about like 910 am this morning. Also to make things better she said I love you to me, and we actually slept together. (Don't worry nothing happened but a bit of kissing)
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Dating has changed a lot, from what I remember.
 
One girl at my school really likes me... She thinks that my face is cute. Most girls are nice to me though, which is a good thing and yes, I can talk to them.
 
CLowndes888
One girl at my school really likes me... She thinks that my face is cute. Most girls are nice to me though, which is a good thing and yes, I can talk to them.
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Then why are you on here talking to us? :crazy:
 
I haven't seen her in a more than a few years and I'm think about sending her a friend request on Facebook, I follow her on Twitter but she hasn't acknowledged my existent on Twitter. I don't think she could forget me but maybe I'm worth more to her in real life than on social media. Unfortunately I can't be in the same place and time she is in, What if she doesn't respond to my friend request and takes no action on it ? could that mean she still likes me but its more complicated for her ?
 
It could mean that, however it could mean she just doesn't miss you.

I'm not trying to be mean, but I've ignored all my ex's friend requests for that reason.
 
Cale
It could mean that, however it could mean she just doesn't miss you.

I'm not trying to be mean, but I've ignored all my ex's friend requests for that reason.
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I moved to Warsaw 10 years ago from a town that I grew up in; 14 years. Made some good friends there.

...turns out that the guy I knew the best in the whole world, while never messaging once for literally the past decade, has been regularly writing to my sister.

Come on...:indiff:
 
I think this is when you tell him you've been writing to his mom the whole time too.
 
Maybe I should send a friend request on Facebook because if I don't ask I'm not going to know.
 
Are you going to obsess over it? Are you prepared for her to not accept, or to possibly see things you may not like?
 
Cale
Are you going to obsess over it? Are you prepared for her to not accept, or to possibly see things you may not like?
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She has been the only girl I have liked for a few years so hopefully asking will stop me from obsessing over it. I'm preparded for her not to accept. What if she does nothing ?
 
Cale
My suggestion would be to just un-follow her on any/all social media.
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OK.

(I have just sent the friend request)

(Still waiting)
 
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Latvija27
She still has not made her mind up, Why would she do nothing ?
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A few years ago, Facebook changed how friend requests work. You'll notice when you get an incoming one, it either offers "Accept" or "Not Right Now" (or something like that). If someone hits the latter choice, the person doing the request doesn't get a notification of a denial. It's just that... it's pushed off to the side.

This all ignores the point that if you're putting any stock in social media as a barometer for relationships, you're already doing it wrong.
 
SlipZtrEm
A few years ago, Facebook changed how friend requests work. You'll notice when you get an incoming one, it either offers "Accept" or "Not Right Now" (or something like that). If someone hits the latter choice, the person doing the request doesn't get a notification of a denial. It's just that... it's pushed off to the side.

This all ignores the point that if you're putting any stock in social media as a barometer for relationships, you're already doing it wrong.
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If nothing happens by the end of the week I will assume she has canceld it.
 
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