How as in what to talk about or how to spark up a conversation in general? I had met a girl in 8th grade that at the time I didn't know but would eventually fall maddly in love with. From then on up to graduation we always had a class together and we always sat by each other.
At around my sophmore year, I had had enough of feelings twards here because of her relationship paterns. She had previously gone out with a friend of mine and had hear heart broken when she found out that their relation ship was actually a bet he made with his friends.
After, she went out with a guy very similar in personality to the one before that romanced her into a relationship. Flowers, chocolates, typical caring gestures in a reltionship. She got into this relationship a few DAYS after I was already deciding to tell her how I felt. Watched her go out with him, have problems as I figured they would, and brake up. This all unfolded Junior year.
During our senior year, I had started thinking about her more. I knew I still loved her but our life paths seemed to be going in totally different directions. Me being a drug using, low gpa, barely graduate student not set out for much but to get by in life without becoming a broke mess. Her setting her sites on going to a University right after High School. I knew that if I were to tell her about my feelings she either wouldn't feel the same way and I would be heart broken, she would like me but reject me thinking future, or I would pull her down with me which I knew she would not tollerate.
I knew my self it wouldn't be good at all for her to try to advance my status with her. I kept in the friend zone. All I've ever wanted for her is to succeed in life, find someone that will love her with every ounce of their heart as I did, and make her feel like the most important women in the world. I talked to her about any little thing I can think of because I just loved being around her, making her laugh, making her happy.
I feel I have accomplished what I wanted to in the short time I was able to be around her. Always making her smile with a joke here and there. Someone to talk to when she felt like s**t and things weren't going well in here life. Someone to talk her through the pain when things went bad.
To this day I still message her from time to time to check up on her. I don't have the same feelings and butterflies as I did before but there still is one small butterly the hits me everytime I see her. Her happiness is what was my main goal. Just talking to her on daily baisis in a friendly mannor to ease her mind is how I showed my love for her.
Maybe this may help you in your situation, or maybe this is just me ranting about a lost love. All I'm saying is if it makes her happy, it should make you pleased no matter how tough it is not being with her. Small talk may be cheesy, but it works. Many small conversations can take you a long way if you play them out right. Don't be shy, act like she is one of your friends and talk to her about something simple. Ok I'm going to stop typing before I talk about more my life that doesn't matter haha.
All read and duly noted by the way.
We're complete opposites, but it somehow works out smoothly and amazingly, as it has for a year already. Love her to bits. I'll tell ya how it goes
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