The General Relationship Thread

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Cobra_GT500
Lol I mean do ask about her first see what she's up to? But I don't want to ask to many questions :p
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Just give her something you did that was fun/interesting recently and it reminded you of her/shared memory you two had. Then ask her how she has been
 
Depends. Most of the time when I'm out with people I know, friends/family, or have to leave at all (shopping or something), I look presentable. Blue jeans, tan work boots, t shirt/cutoff, sometimes a hoodie, Ford hat, small chain necklace and maybe some cologne or something. That's usually how I go about when I leave the house.

Ironically enough, it was entirely different 3-4 years ago. 2 1/2 foot long hair, hoodie up, metal blasting, baggy cargo jeans, 4-5 wallet chains hanging down and generally just being a prick. I have totally changed. It should be noted that I got more girls back then haha.

When I am home, I bum it. Sweat pants or shorts, t shirt usually.

If a girl can't accept that, then she ain'y my kind of girl.


Also. When a girl bums it in sweats and a hoodie....that's my favorite type of girl.
 
phillkillv2
Quick and serious question. Do any of you put forth effort in your appearance, lifting, styling, clothes, ECT?
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I try my best to match every day. I'm a golfer, so I wear a lot of polo shirts and bermuda shorts just from habit.
 
phillkillv2
Quick and serious question. Do any of you put forth effort in your appearance, lifting, styling, clothes, ECT?
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Depends. Sometimes I just throw on clothes because I don't feel fabulous and other times I'm picky on what to wear.
cnd01
I try my best to match every day. I'm a golfer, so I wear a lot of polo shirts and bermuda shorts just from habit.
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Golf. Do you have a German sedan? Just curious.
 
I'm texting her now.


Every time her name pops up on my screen I get a smile on my face :)
 
phillkillv2
Quick and serious question. Do any of you put forth effort in your appearance, lifting, styling, clothes, ECT?
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A few things:

  • Never underestimate how much of an impact clean/clear skin makes. Some people are lucky in this sense, but treat your skin well regardless.
  • Don't lift for looks - lift (or in a more general sense, work out and be active) because it makes you a healthier, better person.
  • Two bits of advice I was given years ago with regards to clothes: "It's better to over dress, than under dress", and "You wear 30% of your wardrobe 70% of the time". Like it or not, we are visual creatures; yes, a good connection is important, but you're not going to notice a girl from across the room because of her charming personality. It works the other way around too. As for that other bit, don't impulse buy, and post-high school, buy clothes with an idea of how well they work with the rest of your existing wardrobe.

Oh yeah, and never cheap out on shoes.
 
Can't disagree with any of that.

Shoes are a really big deal. Getting a nice pair of tennis shoes, boat shoes, sandals, (whatever you prefer to wear). is a good place to start.

Clear skin is a plus. I had acne pretty bad until I did Accutane. That stuff works. It's expensive and mildly dangerous, but it gets rid of acne and keeps it off.
 
I'm certain How I Met Your Mother (the show) was on to something. It's usually much easier to get dates in a formal shirt/pants.

Of course, as a mechanic, ummm, nope! :irked: I wish...
 
phillkillv2
Quick and serious question. Do any of you put forth effort in your appearance, lifting, styling, clothes, ECT?
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Of course. I lift a beer to my mouth. I wear clothes. I even shaved once.

Seriously. I am married. But I still care about my appearance. I do lift on occasion. I try to stay as fashionable as possible while still maintaining comfort. I keep my beard and hair trimmed and styled. Heck, I even clean my shoes on a regular basis. I bathe at least once a day and use skin cleansers. It's all more for me than anybody else. It's what makes me feel comfortable.
 
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All the appropriate points have been mentioned above. I personally wear suits most of the time. I absolutely love suits. They're comfortable and you always look good in a suit. Plus some nice all black shoes or all white or all brown, beige.... depends on the suit.

If I'm going to a car meet with that special someone, I'll wear a hoodie, dark blue baggie jeans, and some beige boots or slip ons. "Lookin' fly"

Keep that beard away, wash your face, brush your teeth, and that's about it.
 
Team THRT Drift
Keep that beard away.............
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Blasphemy. As GTP's self appointed beard guru, woman are loving a beard more and more. Granted it has to be maintained and presentable. But beards are so the "it" thing right now.

Just for information's sake. I have had a beard for most of my adult life, in one manner or other. I didn't jump on the wagon. I started pulling it.
 
Team THRT Drift
Shouldn't have made a statement such as that....

Forgive me, oh great and powerful Geni - err... Guru :bowdown::bowdown:
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You are forgiven. :lol:

From my experience, I've gotten at least twice as many looks then I did clean shaven. Obviously I'm not alone in that belief. Woman control men's looks for the most part. And more and more bearded men are out there. Coincidence. I think not.
 
SlipZtrEm
Married man. Opinion invalid.

;)
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:lol: Should have known that was coming.

I honestly though, I do cover the bare minimum to appease her in doors; make sure I don't smell bad, keep my hair maintained, wear not-too-trampy clothing (smart for work, in fact) and use moisturiser to keep my skin from flaking off (have been doing so since I can remember thanks to skin like the Sahara's sand).

On the other hand I don't go out of my way to impress; I smoke a lot, drink a fair amount, swear and curse like a sailor and offer to violently attack anyone who pisses of my dearest.

What I mean to say is that I'm quite openly still 'me' with my woman and not a false person. I've been this way since the day we met so I didn't have to change at all. I try to look half decent if only for the sake of my own confidence and she's happy as long a I don't look homeless...like I did for most of the last year (because I was).
 
So about two weeks ago I wrote this:
Ryanswannell
I really, really want to ask this girl who works in the same store as me if she wants to hang out some time, maybe to see a movie or something like that, but the only time I get to see her is at work, with about 30 other people working in the same building.

I worked alongside her for a few hours on Sunday, and although an exchange of words was rare, whenever I said something in a jokey way she always giggled, and whenever I helped her out, she said "thank you", constantly. I'm pretty sure she was staring at me several times as well when I looked out of the corner of my eye.

However, this wouldn't be the first time I have misread some signals, which is partly what is stopping me from asking her out.

The other reason is that I have never asked a girl out before, so I'm not exactly sure what to say.
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And today, I got talking to her a little bit again, and she still laughed at my god awful jokes.

But I missed a great opportunity to ask her out :ouch: But she is in work tomorrow and I AM going to ask her out 👍 (unless I bottle it again).
 
Ryanswannell
So about two weeks ago I wrote this:

And today, I got talking to her a little bit again, and she still laughed at my god awful jokes.

But I missed a great opportunity to ask her out :ouch: But she is in work tomorrow and I AM going to ask her out 👍 (unless I bottle it again).
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I wish you luck. Don't be afraid to ask her out. You'll only go through life regretting for not trying. However, keep in mind that there can be negative consequences like making things awkward at work or internal struggles.
 
About how women like bearded men, i dont think all of them like it. From where i live, having a beard means you are untidy, a bit of stereotyping though. Maybe thats why i never get a girl, because i have beard lol
 
GTboyz
About how women like bearded men, i dont think all of them like it. From where i live, having a beard means you are untidy, a bit of stereotyping though. Maybe thats why i never get a girl, because i have beard lol
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By the sounds of it, it's more of a regional/cultural thing.
 
I am absolutely eating up the fact that I can hold a conversation with her these days. A year ago, a "Whats up" text would go ignored. Sometimes I'd even get hate back (only once, and it wasn't trying to be mean...I had a girl, I was an idiot).

Ever since she got out of that shoddy and abusive relationship shes returned to her real self. Although, my mother and I agree that she has a lot of emotional issues do to her family arrangement...her dad split when they were young, never pays child support and shes got it rough otherwise. Add in the abusive relationship...possibly even, dare I say it...rape...(please lets not be the case), and well you had a reciepe for distaster.

Making her laugh makes my world. She actually answers me in depth more and more.

Everything talks wise is going well but its still very early.I cheaped out today and didn't get ahold of her...felt it was too early.

I'll get ahold of her this week. Please...please...PLEASE work....I'm begging on my knees over here please work....
 
If you can make her laugh, i think its kinda safe to say that you are starting to become more and more important to her. I can only hope its getting better in the future for your relationship.
 

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